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May be just us being overlly careful after encountering many time wasters over the years but if we see a profile with a high percentage of their verifications not published it rings alarm bells. We have never thought of giving someone a bad verification but wondered if some do and thats why they don't want to show them. Could just be a privacy thing and we are just overyhinking it lol |
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Some are unpublished because they wrote my name in it. Others because they disappear when the user leaves the site. Some don't publish (all) because of drama others stir.
Hard to know without asking the person. |
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I don’t publish all of mine. Not that I have many. But then I don’t show my summary either.
I think once you’ve been verified as genuine you don’t need to list evidence of every encounter you’ve had. A few well written veris to give an idea of what someone might expect is enough I think. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"May be just us being overlly careful after encountering many time wasters over the years but if we see a profile with a high percentage of their verifications not published it rings alarm bells. We have never thought of giving someone a bad verification but wondered if some do and thats why they don't want to show them. Could just be a privacy thing and we are just overyhinking it lol"
We don't publish any as it's nobody's business who we've met and what kind of meet it was.
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We don't publish ours anymore since we got messages from people who thought because we'd met certain members we should meet them too or asking personal questions about them.
The best and in our opinion only way to verify that someone is genuine is to meet them for a quick drink. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Here's why I don't show all of mine...
A few were a little too graphic for my liking.
A few have since left the site & their veris disappeared along with their profile.
I have 2 from people that I have never actually met or spoken to. When I asked admin to remove them, I didn't get a response. (This is also why I don't show my summary.)
It's none of anyones business who I have met.
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
Hillside desolate |
I don't show mine anymore because people would contact them to try and get round my filters
I'm a hypocrite though because I do wonder when men with hidden veris contact me if they have a dodgy reason for hiding them |
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By *odkajemWoman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"May be just us being overlly careful after encountering many time wasters over the years but if we see a profile with a high percentage of their verifications not published it rings alarm bells. We have never thought of giving someone a bad verification but wondered if some do and thats why they don't want to show them. Could just be a privacy thing and we are just overyhinking it lol"
Well for me personally without choosing, I can singularly only show half of mine because the others have left the site. Nobody would bother to leave a negative review because they know no one would see it and it would appear positive when hidden.
So I'd say yeah you're over thinking, but it's never a bad thing to be cautious or trust your intuition, you're just pinning those unsettled feelings on that perhaps? Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I haven't got one bad veri! I just chose not to display them because it's my business who I have met and what I have been upto. Plus I don't want guys getting expectations of what I am like on meets. It can be a surprise there is so little mystery on fab. |
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I hide all of mine because women can be extremely judgemental of a man, based upon his choice of women, or sensitive about how they compare with other women who he's met up with.
Actually, just a few weeks ago, I was getting on incredibly well with a certain, ridiculously really beautiful woman. We chatted for a few weeks, a d then said to me, "You've fucked Lisa haven't you?"... "Yes"... "Ok, you know nothing can happen now.".. Why? "I'm not having her seconds!".... "Hmm, ok then! Was really great to get to know you anyway!"...
Just the way they are. I'm sure there is a reason why women hide their verifications too. |
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By *odkajemWoman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"I hide all of mine because women can be extremely judgemental of a man, based upon his choice of women, or sensitive about how they compare with other women who he's met up with.
Actually, just a few weeks ago, I was getting on incredibly well with a certain, ridiculously really beautiful woman. We chatted for a few weeks, a d then said to me, "You've fucked Lisa haven't you?"... "Yes"... "Ok, you know nothing can happen now.".. Why? "I'm not having her seconds!".... "Hmm, ok then! Was really great to get to know you anyway!"...
Just the way they are. I'm sure there is a reason why women hide their verifications too."
Why even meet you knowing that  people are rather weird  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hide all of mine because women can be extremely judgemental of a man, based upon his choice of women, or sensitive about how they compare with other women who he's met up with.
Actually, just a few weeks ago, I was getting on incredibly well with a certain, ridiculously really beautiful woman. We chatted for a few weeks, a d then said to me, "You've fucked Lisa haven't you?"... "Yes"... "Ok, you know nothing can happen now.".. Why? "I'm not having her seconds!".... "Hmm, ok then! Was really great to get to know you anyway!"...
Just the way they are. I'm sure there is a reason why women hide their verifications too."
Yeah men can be the same though! Tbf though I look at veris to see if I'm someone's usual type and if they go for typically slim women all the time, I will deem myself out of the running and won't meet... I'm judgemental like that lol xxx |
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I don’t publish mine, bar one as proof of being genuine, as I had a situation where I was playing with a couple regularly over a 12 month period and every time I had a new veri I would within 24 hours get an email from the male asking me how I’ve been and what I’ve been up to. It really put me off the whole veri system as I felt I was being watched and was way too possessive for my liking, even though him and his partner were meeting others . I don’t meet often so it took me a while to click to the pattern. Once I realised I stopped playing with them and stopped publishing my veri’s. Not everyone who doesn’t publish veri’s has ulterior motives, but as with everything there is good and bad I guess. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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well as a couple who's been on fab pretty much since the start we never publish all our veri's especially on my (mrs) singles account as it lead to people playing silly games ..ive had bitchy women sending my meets nasty message's as well as jealous guys telling other's to back off and then there's are those who think they can plan things behind your back ...nah I carry on keeping some of my 100% real meets hidden thank you very much your sincerely fake/timewasters lol |
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"I hide all of mine because women can be extremely judgemental of a man, based upon his choice of women, or sensitive about how they compare with other women who he's met up with.
Actually, just a few weeks ago, I was getting on incredibly well with a certain, ridiculously really beautiful woman. We chatted for a few weeks, a d then said to me, "You've fucked Lisa haven't you?"... "Yes"... "Ok, you know nothing can happen now.".. Why? "I'm not having her seconds!".... "Hmm, ok then! Was really great to get to know you anyway!"...
Just the way they are. I'm sure there is a reason why women hide their verifications too.
Yeah men can be the same though! Tbf though I look at veris to see if I'm someone's usual type and if they go for typically slim women all the time, I will deem myself out of the running and won't meet... I'm judgemental like that lol xxx "
Stop that, your beautiful and they would be lucky guys if you chose to spend your time with them. |
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I hide mine to protect and maintain the confidentiality of those who've met me.
I think it's wrong to leave someone a bad verification because it might benefit that profile instead. Just report them.
As for potential timewasters, I trust those with many rather than 1 unpublished verification. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a situation where I had a veri off a guy and another guy messaged him asking if I was good in bed and had big boobs.
I have also had a guy message, after I had turned down a meet with him saying oh you met (another guy) but you didn't want to meet me?
Causes issues sometimes xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't publish all mine on my single profile because I have had problems with men contacting the person who has verified me. A man i did an mmf with with Charlie was trying to set up an mmf with himself, other men and myself also using the verification he had left on my single profile which I wasn't up for.
Also had problems with a man messaging new meets i have had, making comments like "I have had her"
Some meets I have blocked for being a nuisance later, pestering for more meets, so thiers don't show. I only leave a couple on now. It's not worth the hassle to leave them all up.
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I've never received a bad veri. I have, however, had a few bad experiences over the years from displaying veris - jealousy and stropping, "you're not meeting, why meet them?" etc, bitching. That's why I tend to not display them.
I don't mind good friends messaging if one pops up. Esp not when they tell me what they think. 
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I've had ones who we've only spoken on here so I can't see the point. I had one guy I had never even spoken to who decided to call me a stuck up whore on a veri so obviously he got blocked. Some go into way too much detail which I find a bit cringy so don't display those either |
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"I hide all of mine because women can be extremely judgemental of a man, based upon his choice of women, or sensitive about how they compare with other women who he's met up with.
Actually, just a few weeks ago, I was getting on incredibly well with a certain, ridiculously really beautiful woman. We chatted for a few weeks, a d then said to me, "You've fucked Lisa haven't you?"... "Yes"... "Ok, you know nothing can happen now.".. Why? "I'm not having her seconds!".... "Hmm, ok then! Was really great to get to know you anyway!"...
Just the way they are. I'm sure there is a reason why women hide their verifications too.
Yeah men can be the same though! Tbf though I look at veris to see if I'm someone's usual type and if they go for typically slim women all the time, I will deem myself out of the running and won't meet... I'm judgemental like that lol xxx "
I've had that before, but you (they) don't understand! Exact size genuinely isn't the determining factor which makes a woman hot or not. As for yourself, I've just looked, you're pretty.
For me, I don't really look at veris, but if I saw "BBC" or "all night sex" in a woman's profile, I'd also rule myself out. |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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We don't show them anymore as we never felt comfortable putting our antics up for all to see. If we are arranging a meet and asked to see them we're happy to for a short while. Another reason is we used to get messaged asking what so and so was really like, also you met my friend so and so and I'm like him, and even you've met them so it's a no, found all of that an unnecessary drama which we're glad not to have. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Old profile had a lot of veris and we would only show the veris from the last month. The veris were simply to prove we are real and active. There are so many other ways of verifying if someone you are interested in is a genuine profile with real people behind it. That's all the genuine verifications show anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t show mine as no one but me needs to know who’s I’ve meet.
But I think having the verification summary great! As it shows you’ve meet people but not who. |
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"Some are unpublished because they wrote my name in it. Others because they disappear when the user leaves the site. Some don't publish (all) because of drama others stir.
Hard to know without asking the person. "
This. I've got a few hidden as they have been bedding a few that if it shows we met I'll get drama.. if people leave they disappear but still show on the summary. |
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"May be just us being overlly careful after encountering many time wasters over the years but if we see a profile with a high percentage of their verifications not published it rings alarm bells. We have never thought of giving someone a bad verification but wondered if some do and thats why they don't want to show them. Could just be a privacy thing and we are just overyhinking it lol"
Just so you know, verifications mean nothing, absolutely nothing. |
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I've been on the site 3 years now; I don't publish all my verifications for various reasons including many that other people of listed above.
The type of people I first met after I joined I possibly wouldn't meet again because I've changed what it is I'm looking for over time, so the veri is hidden.
Some give a step by step narrative of what's occurred in our meets so the veris is hidden (each meet is different and I don't want others to have false expectations) some are hidden by the site because the user is no longer here anymore.
Generally I meet at parties/clubs, I'm actively involved in the scene and so if I published every veri for every meet (because some people veri everytime even if only a passing hello) I'd have a never ending profile (and mines long enough as it is with all I have to say).
As standard I tend to keep mine up to date within a 6 - 12 month time frame just like I do my pictures (I personally dislike seeing verifications that are two years old or more purely because it appears to show they're not as active as I am in the social side; which for me is important)
I tend to also display one veri per person/couple I've seen (the most recent being the chosen one to display) otherwise it's just multiple verifications from the same people which sometimes can be tedious and often unnecessary. |
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