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Verifications matter yes or no?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Set up a profile a while ago but I’ve only just started using it again seriously.. does it put people off by having no verifications? / what can I do to help..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Set up a profile a while ago but I’ve only just started using it again seriously.. does it put people off by having no verifications? / what can I do to help..
cheers"
Are you asking for a review or just what you can do to get verified ?
For the latter a club is the easiest way to get verified to show your genuine... You never know, you might like the club also |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was indifferent to them when first joined and thought proving yourself on camera should be enough. But I do agree now they can be beneficial, more to see if decent company to meet rather than just being attractive alone. Lots of fake ones on here though, quite obvious at times.... |
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Too many verifications knock me sick
Too many explicit ones knock me sick
None makes me dubious
Ones where the verifier states “you should meet them you won’t regret it” or “if they ask you too meet then you should” make me suspicious as to why they’re being pimped out.
It’s all pretty tasteless tbf    |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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After been let down by single males and keyboard fantasists we now only meet people who are both photo verified and have verifications from other people.
We also agree 5 mins of checking and you can sus out the fake verifications a mile off.
As others have said get yourself to a local club people who meet you will usually be happy to verify you and who knows you may have more luck there.
As a couple 90% of the play we have had to date has been in clubs the single guys who go to them do very well.
J & K x |
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It will matter to some, who may block unverified users from contacting them or those who aren't interested if they hear from you.
If you'd like to be verified, then you don't need to have a sexual meet, as any social or other meet is perfectly fine - it's largely to confirm that you are who say you are and have some reliability.
Look out for friendly people or local advertised fab socials |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like veris. They give me a flavour of who someone is. If they are perfunctory and full of stick phrases, then that person prob isn’t for me. Lots of glowing comments about how fun their company is piques my interest. Given that I’m meeting fewer and fewer new people, I would need a lot of convincing to meet an unverified person instead of a verified person. |
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Yes very important, even if they aren't displayed. It's a sign someone genuinely wants to meet. Someone without any will always flag me as someone who may just be on for chatting. If it's someone new I'll keep that in mind but I'm much more likely to step up chatting with someone who has them. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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Suspect it is the type of verifications.
Think the ones that give a little physical/fun information are great.
Things like her mother must have been a mark one Dyson and it’s genetic, leave me a tad cold. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Suspect it is the type of verifications.
Think the ones that give a little physical/fun information are great.
Things like her mother must have been a mark one Dyson and it’s genetic, leave me a tad cold."
I agree, seen some horrendous verifications, made me cringe personally |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria |
We like to see verifications just to show the person/people actually turn up had a few guys bottle out of meeting so don’t take a chance anymore if not verified or showing verifications |
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Not massively. Not everyone on here verifies everytime, me included. Plus every one starts of without them anyway. Granted some use them as a way to filter but not everyone looks negatively on them. There not that reliable anyway, can be faked or not truly reflective. The important thing to focus on far more than varifications is the quality of your profile and how you conduct your self. |
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Initially we thought we'd be open to both verified & unverified profiles but having come across a few that we've sussed aren't genuine "female" ones we've duly reported them.
Self photo verification should be mandatory. Why not allow say 72hrs to photo verify your new profile, failing which it's deleted. Simple!
Clearly some people get a kick out of tricking people but it only spoils it for the genuine ones & changes the vibe of the site, making us more suspicious when we should be focusing on the fun not fake! |
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I’ve been chatting with a single female over the last couple of days, and she made an interesting point about my veris, which made me wonder how many others thought the same? She said my veris make me sound good, and genuine, but they’re mostly all from social meets, and she thought it might make me appear that the people didn’t want to actually fuck me after meeting me?  This has never occurred to me before, but I did point out I prefer to meet for a friendly social first, with no expectations on either side, that way, if we don’t ‘click’, we can just walk away, and neither party has lost an evening 
I also only ever ‘verify genuine’, as what happens on a meet, stays on a meet. Who I’ve actually played with, is between myself and they.......
Do other people not ‘rate’ social veris? |
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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago
Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire |
"Set up a profile a while ago but I’ve only just started using it again seriously.. does it put people off by having no verifications? / what can I do to help..
cheers"
Depends on how the person communicates with me.
We all had to start somewhere.
I wouldn't make a commitment like booking a hotel without veris |
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To me (at least) the verification summary is important, so i can make my own impression if he potentially genuine or just a timewaster trying to pull the pig.
Gorgeous guy with no verification asking me for a meet  ....? |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria |
"I’ve been chatting with a single female over the last couple of days, and she made an interesting point about my veris, which made me wonder how many others thought the same? She said my veris make me sound good, and genuine, but they’re mostly all from social meets, and she thought it might make me appear that the people didn’t want to actually fuck me after meeting me? This has never occurred to me before, but I did point out I prefer to meet for a friendly social first, with no expectations on either side, that way, if we don’t ‘click’, we can just walk away, and neither party has lost an evening
I also only ever ‘verify genuine’, as what happens on a meet, stays on a meet. Who I’ve actually played with, is between myself and they.......
Do other people not ‘rate’ social veris?"
We don’t rate social veris if that’s all you have, ok if you have a mix but if just social we see it as either of two things, either others don’t want to play that you meet or your a player and not really actually here to have sex, see this a lot with couples, appear they like the scene environment and perhaps the attention they get from people but what’s the point of lots of veris if all they say is chatted to this couple/person in a club etc. May as well get the postman to write you one lol. Understand if it’s early days but not a year in. Most veris we get if we just chatted we don’t display. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve been chatting with a single female over the last couple of days, and she made an interesting point about my veris, which made me wonder how many others thought the same? She said my veris make me sound good, and genuine, but they’re mostly all from social meets, and she thought it might make me appear that the people didn’t want to actually fuck me after meeting me? This has never occurred to me before, but I did point out I prefer to meet for a friendly social first, with no expectations on either side, that way, if we don’t ‘click’, we can just walk away, and neither party has lost an evening
I also only ever ‘verify genuine’, as what happens on a meet, stays on a meet. Who I’ve actually played with, is between myself and they.......
Do other people not ‘rate’ social veris?
We don’t rate social veris if that’s all you have, ok if you have a mix but if just social we see it as either of two things, either others don’t want to play that you meet or your a player and not really actually here to have sex, see this a lot with couples, appear they like the scene environment and perhaps the attention they get from people but what’s the point of lots of veris if all they say is chatted to this couple/person in a club etc. May as well get the postman to write you one lol. Understand if it’s early days but not a year in. Most veris we get if we just chatted we don’t display. "
We have come across a few profiles
singles and couples that are packed full of veris from only social meets and zero veries from any actual play encounters yet they have been signed up a year plus, this for the reasons stated above has put us off.
We want to actual play when we meet, socials have a place but when you lead busy lives time is precious x ??
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I have to agree,there are a lot of social butterflies on fab that collect verifications sitting chatting with a drink in their hand .Its not a true reflection on who the person is or acts in a proper meet invironment .I also don’t accept cams as a real verification it’s a lazy way to connect .No effort required .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Set up a profile a while ago but I’ve only just started using it again seriously.. does it put people off by having no verifications? / what can I do to help..
cheers"
It doesn’t put me off |
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"Too many verifications knock me sick
Too many explicit ones knock me sick
None makes me dubious
Ones where the verifier states “you should meet them you won’t regret it” or “if they ask you too meet then you should” make me suspicious as to why they’re being pimped out.
It’s all pretty tasteless tbf "
We don’t like leaving an encyclopaedia of who’s fucking who |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it matters. I have noticed lots of profiles from women who are asking for only verified men to message them.
This is abit annoying considering it is almost impossible for me to get messaged, nevermind meet up with someone for a coffee or sex! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I think verifications are needed because there is so many guys on here pretending to be couples and if you see verifications then you know they are genuine, but you do get couples that are first timers so they want have verifications until they feel confident enough to meet someone . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Go to a club, quickest and easiest way to get verified.
Not for a single guy it isn't, the quickest and easiest way to get verified is to go on cam in the chatrooms here "
I dont believe anyone takes cam verifications seriously, I certainly don’t. |
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We like to see veris as it gives us a good indication of the type you like to play with and what sort of fun you might be looking for.
Equally if you hide all your veris we'll look eleswhere. Defeats he point of the system. |
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A face pic verification matters to us for sure...a meet verification does give you a little hope that that person will turn up...agree with some of the others though, really graphic verifications are a little off putting |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A face pic verification matters to us for sure...a meet verification does give you a little hope that that person will turn up...agree with some of the others though, really graphic verifications are a little off putting "
^ agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A face pic verification matters to us for sure...a meet verification does give you a little hope that that person will turn up...agree with some of the others though, really graphic verifications are a little off putting "
You don't have to show your face to photo very. It can be either face or full nude without the face.
Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We like to see veris as it gives us a good indication of the type you like to play with and what sort of fun you might be looking for.
Equally if you hide all your veris we'll look eleswhere. Defeats he point of the system."
The point of the system is - verified means you are who you say you are. You get a green tick and that's it. Summary will show if it was camera or meet verification if that's important. What difference does the text of the veri really makes especially if the ones who verifies gets carried away and you end up reading a sex novel.
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For sure helps to put alot of questions at ease...not a murderer at least yet,will show,is really who they portray and the overall experience from meeting other people for the first time I find since I've been verified people take alot more interest because they know it's a real person and not a fake profile or time waster on the other side....though it still happens it definitely cuts the numbers down |
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