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Too many verifications

By *zzy69 OP Woman over a year ago

The Lake District

There seems to be a sort of snobbery about single men and women with lots of verifications.

Seems a bit mad to me- if someone is genuinely single and mostly has sex in clubs or via this site then they will accumulate lots of verifications

Couples seem to forget that they have sex as a couple and Fab is an extra

For us singles our verifications may be all the sex we are having!

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By *etro1940sCouple over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

"There seems to be a sort of snobbery about single men and women with lots of verifications.

Seems a bit mad to me- if someone is genuinely single and mostly has sex in clubs or via this site then they will accumulate lots of verifications

Couples seem to forget that they have sex as a couple and Fab is an extra

For us singles our verifications may be all the sex we are having! "
such a sensible and seriously intelligent point made ... we see verifications as part of the overall due diligence process ... it makes sense and it is welcomed

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By *innie The MinxWoman over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Yes, it's a Fab minefield!

You can have too many veries or not enough, or the wrong sort from the wrong people or the right sort from the wrong people or the wrong sort from the right people at the wrong time.

You can be damned for showing them, and damned for not showing them...

Dont worry about it. It's all a load of bollocks at the end of the day.

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By *m3232Man over a year ago

maidenhead

To me it means you actually meet people rather than just a picture hunter or fantasist.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

There definately is as far as couples are concerned. One couple I knew really looked down on single people with loads of veris whilst having well over 100 themselves lol. Pot, kettle and black.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I see reaction to my veris as a bit of a filter. If you have a problem, then we don't need to meet.

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By *uxomBloomsWoman over a year ago

Near Tunbridge Wells

I only ask for veris every now and then, just to prove I am who I say I am. I don't feel the need to collect one from every man I meet. I don't publish them, I feel that would be showing off a bit. Ironic really as I like to read men's veris before meeting them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Verifications mean Jack shit in here !! We been let down 16 times in total and most had veris ,I'll say it again the day fab admin starts charging for this service it will a when lot better ,we'll be there first paying customer ,

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By *uckslut and MCouple over a year ago

Poole

We have people saying we have too many. So only show a handful of recents. I've been swinging 11 years. Spread our veris over that time it's around 1 or 2 a year. If we had all our veris in a week, would people see it any differant?

The swinging sceane is a very alturnitive lifestyle. Although swingers can be very judgemental.

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By *luebell888Woman over a year ago

Glasgowish

"There seems to be a sort of snobbery about single men and women with lots of verifications.

Seems a bit mad to me- if someone is genuinely single and mostly has sex in clubs or via this site then they will accumulate lots of verifications

Couples seem to forget that they have sex as a couple and Fab is an extra

For us singles our verifications may be all the sex we are having! "

Well said.x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I only ever show a few, don't wish to broadcast how many I've met.

Veris are just an indication of a real person, people still get messed around by verified profiles

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By *kblokenorthMan over a year ago

Any

"There seems to be a sort of snobbery about single men and women with lots of verifications.

Seems a bit mad to me- if someone is genuinely single and mostly has sex in clubs or via this site then they will accumulate lots of verifications

Couples seem to forget that they have sex as a couple and Fab is an extra

For us singles our verifications may be all the sex we are having! "

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Totally agree!

Plus the veri’s are often accumulated over many years.

It’s an imperfect system. Often as a male you’re best meets never get a veri, or they go off the site and the veri disappears!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They just don't want to meet people who fuck around with lots of people. That's their preference.

I won't meet people with more than 4 sex veris showing on their profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

However few or many verifications matters not one bit, those that have an issue with you having too many really are not worth worrying about because why would you want to meet judgemental snobs?

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By *zzy69 OP Woman over a year ago

The Lake District

"I only ask for veris every now and then, just to prove I am who I say I am. I don't feel the need to collect one from every man I meet. I don't publish them, I feel that would be showing off a bit. Ironic really as I like to read men's veris before meeting them. "

“Problem” is you cannot refuse or reject a verification ( I think there are rules if it’s fake but how do you prove that?!!! )

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I only ever show a few, don't wish to broadcast how many I've met.

Veris are just an indication of a real person, people still get messed around by verified profiles"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Veris actually serve a few purposes for us

A. They show we are up for fun with no drama

B. People can gauge what we are like

C. The dreamers, messers, snobs avoid us (win, win)

D. We give veris as a thank you note

E. That we actually play not just talk about it

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By *uxomBloomsWoman over a year ago

Near Tunbridge Wells

“Problem” is you cannot refuse or reject a verification ( I think there are rules if it’s fake but how do you prove that?!!! )

Very true. I usually just say, no need to veri.

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

When I meet someone I tend to ask them if it’s ok for me to leave them a verification as I know not everyone wants one.I have no

problem doing a verification for someone I have met and if I get one back great and if I don’t So what it’s not the end of the world.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I used to display veris but I had unpleasant messages coming from men who read them or even bit of jealousy from those I met before and they commented on veris from someone else. So I don't show them now but happy to reveal if anyone asks just to prove I'm real.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I used to display veris but I had unpleasant messages coming from men who read them or even bit of jealousy from those I met before and they commented on veris from someone else. So I don't show them now but happy to reveal if anyone asks just to prove I'm real."

I use those unpleasant messages to pad my block list, because they're not people I want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When I meet someone I tend to ask them if it’s ok for me to leave them a verification as I know not everyone wants one.I have no

problem doing a verification for someone I have met and if I get one back great and if I don’t So what it’s not the end of the world."

Why wouldn't they want one?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I use those unpleasant messages to pad my block list, because they're not people I want to meet. "

of course I block them. But it's tiring to block all day for different reasons so at least this way I prevent it from happening again.

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By *agise3Man over a year ago

wigan

You must have no problem izzy with sex your gorgeous think it's hard to get yourself across as a man on here unless your a good looking man but a older man knows what women like at treat them better

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I use those unpleasant messages to pad my block list, because they're not people I want to meet.

of course I block them. But it's tiring to block all day for different reasons so at least this way I prevent it from happening again."

Fair! Different ways of dealing with it.

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By *uxomBloomsWoman over a year ago

Near Tunbridge Wells

"When I meet someone I tend to ask them if it’s ok for me to leave them a verification as I know not everyone wants one.I have no

problem doing a verification for someone I have met and if I get one back great and if I don’t So what it’s not the end of the world.

Why wouldn't they want one? "

Because I only need people to know I'm real and 1 or 2 recent veris is enough for that. Anything else feels like bed post notching!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I use those unpleasant messages to pad my block list, because they're not people I want to meet.

of course I block them. But it's tiring to block all day for different reasons so at least this way I prevent it from happening again.

Fair! Different ways of dealing with it. "

Yup indeed. I wish there will be one day when I don't block anyone. I think it can only happen when I don't log into fab for 24 hours

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman over a year ago

Pontefract

"Verifications mean Jack shit in here !! We been let down 16 times in total and most had veris ,I'll say it again the day fab admin starts charging for this service it will a when lot better ,we'll be there first paying customer , "

Why dont you just arrange meets with verified and site supporter ? Might help with the let downs ? Just a suggestion xx

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

"When I meet someone I tend to ask them if it’s ok for me to leave them a verification as I know not everyone wants one.I have no

problem doing a verification for someone I have met and if I get one back great and if I don’t So what it’s not the end of the world.

Why wouldn't they want one? "
. Not sure why someone wouldn’t want one a couple I met for a social said they didn’t want one which I thought a little strange but I respected there decision and a couple of single ladies I met said the same thing again I respected their decision.After all you don’t have to display for all to see and like I said earlier if you want to give me a verification back great if not so what it’s not the end of the world.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not always the couples...we as a couple have had single women say we have too many verifications. If you read them...most of them are just social verifications from people we've met at club. Being we primarily meet at clubs..we meet a lot of people

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

The verification minefield......

I've had 2 social meets cancel and block me because I'd had a social meet with someone they don't like.

If I'd fucked her I'd kind of understand it, although I'd still do the rolls eyes thing.

But over a social? Get the fuck over yourselves.

Someone said I have too many social verifications. Her profile insisted on a social meet first. And she had more than me.

Someone the other day was whining that hidden verifications was an alarm bell. Same thread someone else said hiding veris was a good idea.

You just can't win.

If my verifications, the number of them, that they're hidden or not hidden, my summary is visible or hidden puts you off meeting me, super.

I only want to meet open minded non judgemental people.

Job done.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

^ what he said. Here are my verifications. Don't like it? Don't contact me/ be prepared for me to not give a rat's arse then block you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yep, what they said! ^^^

If we don't display our veri's people presume they are play veri's and are put off or the wrong ones attracted, though I have wondered if a lot of social veri's put people off from playing? Either way, makes no diffrence to us!

Peach x

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"^ what he said. Here are my verifications. Don't like it? Don't contact me/ be prepared for me to not give a rat's arse then block you. "

The longer I'm here the less fucks I give.

Which is ironic really.

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"The verification minefield......

I've had 2 social meets cancel and block me because I'd had a social meet with someone they don't like.

If I'd fucked her I'd kind of understand it, although I'd still do the rolls eyes thing.

But over a social? Get the fuck over yourselves.

Someone said I have too many social verifications. Her profile insisted on a social meet first. And she had more than me.

Someone the other day was whining that hidden verifications was an alarm bell. Same thread someone else said hiding veris was a good idea.

You just can't win.

If my verifications, the number of them, that they're hidden or not hidden, my summary is visible or hidden puts you off meeting me, super.

I only want to meet open minded non judgemental people.

Job done."

In a nutshell this - if someone doesn't want to meet me because of my veris then it's no problem at all for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You’re absolutely right OP. I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t care about other’s judgement anymore. If they’d rather not meet me because of how many people I’ve met, or who I’ve met, for that matter, that is entirely their prerogative! It’s not my job to change their mind. XD

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple over a year ago

Broadstairs

Verifications for us show people are for real and will actually meet , thou you have to start somewhere on this site so if people with no verifications seem to be genuine we will meet them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The verification minefield......

I've had 2 social meets cancel and block me because I'd had a social meet with someone they don't like.

If I'd fucked her I'd kind of understand it, although I'd still do the rolls eyes thing.

But over a social? Get the fuck over yourselves.

Job done."

How strange that they hadn’t looked at your verifications before arranging a social meet! Jeez, the world takes all sorts.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've never seen the point of them. I sometimes think people seem to use them as a sort of boasting. I mean do you really need 100s of verifications of meeting at clubs and socials? Surely one is enough to prove that you're genuine. And all the sex details are they for real!

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"^ what he said. Here are my verifications. Don't like it? Don't contact me/ be prepared for me to not give a rat's arse then block you.

The longer I'm here the less fucks I give.

Which is ironic really.

For me it started very early, when a guy laid into me for meeting one of the first people I met. Said I was tainted by association blah blah. The guy I met is one of the most lovely, trustworthy people I've come across on Fab. Figured out it was their drama not my problem.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We would have missed out on some great nights if we'd passed people by because of the number of veris they did or didnt have.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"^ what he said. Here are my verifications. Don't like it? Don't contact me/ be prepared for me to not give a rat's arse then block you.

The longer I'm here the less fucks I give.

Which is ironic really.

I'm oft reminded of an olde saying: "Not my monkey, not my circus"

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Have you not heard of site supporter? £5 silver or gold. Try it. They will charge you lol.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"^ what he said. Here are my verifications. Don't like it? Don't contact me/ be prepared for me to not give a rat's arse then block you.

The longer I'm here the less fucks I give.

Which is ironic really.

I'm oft reminded of an olde saying: "Not my monkey, not my circus"

Oh for sure. But in some cases it seems like, bullet dodged!

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Have you not heard of site supporter? £5 silver or gold. Try it. They will charge you lol. "

And the fee thing has been done to death. Idiots still site support. Making the fee higher and/or compulsory will drive away those with less money, which isn't just idiots.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"^ what he said. Here are my verifications. Don't like it? Don't contact me/ be prepared for me to not give a rat's arse then block you.

The longer I'm here the less fucks I give.

Which is ironic really.

I'm oft reminded of an olde saying: "Not my monkey, not my circus"

Oh for sure. But in some cases it seems like, bullet dodged! "

True story......

I often see one of my blockers on the forums pontificating about the stupid reasons people have for blocking and telling people to grow up.

Must admit I find it hard to stop myself doing a little wee.....

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"^ what he said. Here are my verifications. Don't like it? Don't contact me/ be prepared for me to not give a rat's arse then block you.

The longer I'm here the less fucks I give.

Which is ironic really.

I'm oft reminded of an olde saying: "Not my monkey, not my circus"

Oh for sure. But in some cases it seems like, bullet dodged!

True story......

I often see one of my blockers on the forums pontificating about the stupid reasons people have for blocking and telling people to grow up.

Must admit I find it hard to stop myself doing a little wee....."

Haha. I block for any and all reasons and make no apology for it.

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman over a year ago

Pontefract

"^ what he said. Here are my verifications. Don't like it? Don't contact me/ be prepared for me to not give a rat's arse then block you.

The longer I'm here the less fucks I give.

Which is ironic really.

Exactly this

I'm here for NSA uncomplicated sex not dragged into drama x if I wanted that I would get a bf lol x

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Have you not heard of site supporter? £5 silver or gold. Try it. They will charge you lol.

And the fee thing has been done to death. Idiots still site support. Making the fee higher and/or compulsory will drive away those with less money, which isn't just idiots. "

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Have you not heard of site supporter? £5 silver or gold. Try it. They will charge you lol.

And the fee thing has been done to death. Idiots still site support. Making the fee higher and/or compulsory will drive away those with less money, which isn't just idiots. "

It's also been stated that many of the higher fee charging sites have just as many idiots - which I guess just goes to prove the truth behind the "a fool and his money are easily parted" phrase

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" Exactly this

I'm here for NSA uncomplicated sex not dragged into drama x if I wanted that I would get a bf lol x "

Here, here!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like to see varifications on a profile .It gives some indication as to what they are like . I like to read their varifications and can see how many are a play or just social. I have plenty myself as I have co hosted swinging social events and love to visit different clubs. That's not to say I've slept with all my varifications.

If it puts people off me then I probably wouldn't want to meet them in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We read verifications but only to get an idea of what they are like. People who visit clubs and parties tend to get lots of verifications but that doesn’t mean they screwed them all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The verification minefield......

I've had 2 social meets cancel and block me because I'd had a social meet with someone they don't like.

If I'd fucked her I'd kind of understand it, although I'd still do the rolls eyes thing.

But over a social? Get the fuck over yourselves.

Someone said I have too many social verifications. Her profile insisted on a social meet first. And she had more than me.

Someone the other day was whining that hidden verifications was an alarm bell. Same thread someone else said hiding veris was a good idea.

You just can't win.

If my verifications, the number of them, that they're hidden or not hidden, my summary is visible or hidden puts you off meeting me, super.

I only want to meet open minded non judgemental people.

Job done."

Absolutely this

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

It's not the amount of veries that can be off putting,but the content sometimes.

I read veries,but don't need to know every detail of every meet .

Miss

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By *he Cheeky GirlsCouple (FF) over a year ago

Dover and Benidorm

This site is full hypocrisy as we meet lots of couples, single girls and guys that can't verify us as we're transgender and their friends or future dates might not like it.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"It's not the amount of veries that can be off putting,but the content sometimes.

I read veries,but don't need to know every detail of every meet .

Miss"

I used to worry about the contents of the veris on my page, but I've let it go. I can't control much about what others say about me. (I don't give graphic veris myself) I realised I judged the giver not the displayer on graphic content. (others may feel differently of course)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I had too many verifications for some of the local women that wanted to meet guys that had left me one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The verification minefield......

I've had 2 social meets cancel and block me because I'd had a social meet with someone they don't like.

If I'd fucked her I'd kind of understand it, although I'd still do the rolls eyes thing.

But over a social? Get the fuck over yourselves.

Someone said I have too many social verifications. Her profile insisted on a social meet first. And she had more than me.

Someone the other day was whining that hidden verifications was an alarm bell. Same thread someone else said hiding veris was a good idea.

You just can't win.

If my verifications, the number of them, that they're hidden or not hidden, my summary is visible or hidden puts you off meeting me, super.

I only want to meet open minded non judgemental people.

Job done."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I always think its a bit odd on a so called swingers site where the point is to meet others and have the freedom to do what you like that some would judge others on how many veris they have or who they have met. Some people may hide them all and the summary and have hundreds but you'd not know.

Its a good system but seems to cause a lot of grief for some. I see updates with some saying if they've met a certain person then they won't meet them. I'm sure they don't really care tbh! I've known people to get funny whith others when they haven't verified them but did verify "her" lol, bit sad really.

I don't take any notice of what a stranger has written about another stranger, I'll make my own mind up about a person and hope others do the same.

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman over a year ago

Pontefract

"I always think its a bit odd on a so called swingers site where the point is to meet others and have the freedom to do what you like that some would judge others on how many veris they have or who they have met. Some people may hide them all and the summary and have hundreds but you'd not know.

I don't take any notice of what a stranger has written about another stranger, I'll make my own mind up about a person and hope others do the same. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It doesn't bother us. Just add it to the spiders web of tightropes that need to be walked on fab.

The hilarious thing is that casual sex in vanilla settings is actually far more "free love" than swinging these days when all these factors are taken into account.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

I really don't mind the amount of veris - I rarely display any play meets so for all anyone could know, I could be out fucking every night. And you don't get veris from every sexual partner/encounter you have so I think it can be a bit daft getting too hung up on it. I want people I meet to be having great sex (as long as I feature somewhere in there!) and the amount doesn't bother me. The content can sometimes.

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By *eah BabyCouple over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Doesn’t bother us how many verifications anybody as just as long as they have some that we can see, we have quite a lot ourselves but spread over time and not all are play veris, that we can only wish haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it puts people off me then I probably wouldn't want to meet them in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Doesn’t bother me one bit the number of veris, I meet and play in clubs so only see if they’ve been veri’d if they’d given me their name (and I remembered it).

Think it’s a bit hypocritical on a swinging site to judge people on the number of veris people have, I’ve a fair few but I don’t ask for veris nor do I chase them I’d have a lot more if I did and actually told people my fab name!

If I get them I return the favour though.

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By *orny PTMan over a year ago

Peterborough

"There seems to be a sort of snobbery about single men and women with lots of verifications.

Seems a bit mad to me- if someone is genuinely single and mostly has sex in clubs or via this site then they will accumulate lots of verifications

Couples seem to forget that they have sex as a couple and Fab is an extra

For us singles our verifications may be all the sex we are having! "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I couldn't care less about the number of veries or who gave them. Given that I've only got 6 most social ones and Ive been on the scene 7 years.... Well let's just say that I've done more than just socialise in the past 7 years.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman over a year ago

all loved up

"I see reaction to my veris as a bit of a filter. If you have a problem, then we don't need to meet. "
that's my attitude

.I wouldn't mind but it's not anywhere near an indication of actually how many people I've had sex with.

For instance a group session a few weeks back that was over 20 guys.. 4 verified me.

I also do meet the odd person off fab... so there are those too.

It makes me giggle if someone says I have to many... I normally say you would have kittens if you knew the real number then

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I see reaction to my veris as a bit of a filter. If you have a problem, then we don't need to meet. that's my attitude

.I wouldn't mind but it's not anywhere near an indication of actually how many people I've had sex with.

For instance a group session a few weeks back that was over 20 guys.. 4 verified me.

I also do meet the odd person off fab... so there are those too.

It makes me giggle if someone says I have to many... I normally say you would have kittens if you knew the real number then "

Yeah, there's that too

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By *plpxp2Couple over a year ago

Middlesbrough

It is like most issues on Fab, it will be an issue for some and not for others. Personally the number is meaningless other then indicating that they may be getting good at it if my mums "practice makes perfect" is true. Still testing out that theory

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if you have been on here for over 10 years and only had a few meets a year , in can add up to several veris...maybe the site should show how long you have been a member in order to give some perspective.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I like to see varifications on a profile .It gives some indication as to what they are like . I like to read their varifications and can see how many are a play or just social. I have plenty myself as I have co hosted swinging social events and love to visit different clubs. That's not to say I've slept with all my varifications.

If it puts people off me then I probably wouldn't want to meet them in the first place. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Who actually gives a fuck about someone else exploits?

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By *andy_tomMan over a year ago

wolverhampton

Been round the track more times thsn a grayhoud keep running , pass me by ,

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By *ollycouple71Couple over a year ago

manchester

"Veris actually serve a few purposes for us

A. They show we are up for fun with no drama

B. People can gauge what we are like

C. The dreamers, messers, snobs avoid us (win, win)

D. We give veris as a thank you note

E. That we actually play not just talk about it"

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By *ollycouple71Couple over a year ago

manchester

"^ what he said. Here are my verifications. Don't like it? Don't contact me/ be prepared for me to not give a rat's arse then block you. "

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan over a year ago

Coventry

Not from me. To be fair varifications have little to do with the picture I form of someone. I like to make my own judgments.

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By *zzy69 OP Woman over a year ago

The Lake District

"if you have been on here for over 10 years and only had a few meets a year , in can add up to several veris...maybe the site should show how long you have been a member in order to give some perspective."

The verifications are dated- if you show them- maybe people just look at the numbers but don’t read them?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"The verification minefield......

I've had 2 social meets cancel and block me because I'd had a social meet with someone they don't like.

If I'd fucked her I'd kind of understand it, although I'd still do the rolls eyes thing.

But over a social? Get the fuck over yourselves.

Someone said I have too many social verifications. Her profile insisted on a social meet first. And she had more than me.

Someone the other day was whining that hidden verifications was an alarm bell. Same thread someone else said hiding veris was a good idea.

You just can't win.

If my verifications, the number of them, that they're hidden or not hidden, my summary is visible or hidden puts you off meeting me, super.

I only want to meet open minded non judgemental people.

Job done.

Absolutely this

Nailed it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Spot on I agree with all of this !

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By *ollycouple71Couple over a year ago

manchester

"The verification minefield......

I've had 2 social meets cancel and block me because I'd had a social meet with someone they don't like.

If I'd fucked her I'd kind of understand it, although I'd still do the rolls eyes thing.

But over a social? Get the fuck over yourselves.

Someone said I have too many social verifications. Her profile insisted on a social meet first. And she had more than me.

Someone the other day was whining that hidden verifications was an alarm bell. Same thread someone else said hiding veris was a good idea.

You just can't win.

If my verifications, the number of them, that they're hidden or not hidden, my summary is visible or hidden puts you off meeting me, super.

I only want to meet open minded non judgemental people.

Job done.

Absolutely this

Nailed it.

"
yep

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just want to meet discreet people. I couldn't give a crap how many people they've fucked.

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By *r and Mrs A HornyCouple over a year ago

coventry

Some make a good read we show all. If someone doesn’t like boo hoo.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As long as they have regular sexual health check ups,many do not.

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

I've only got a few verifications on my single profile but on my couples one I have 200. The number of verifications on a profile is not always an accurate representation of how many meets someone has had.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its so true its like if your single your like a freak ha there loss

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By *ollydoesWoman over a year ago

Shangri-La

Charging wont change a thing. I've been on a couple other sites for about 10 years now. You get your time wasters on all them.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

Charging wont change a thing. I've been on a couple other sites for about 10 years now. You get your time wasters on all them. "

I used to pay £30 a month on another site.

No forums. No verification system. Limited text count. No filters or blocks. No more than 10 pictures.

What it did have was hundreds of site generated profiles and hundreds of fake single female profiles.

I often see people saying "I'd pay xyz for blah blah blah" Don't think I've ever seen anyone actually go off and do it.

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By *iss SinWoman over a year ago

portchester

I used to be on a paid one and it was worse as site made up loads profiles they got taken to court for it

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By *heHookyMonsterMan over a year ago

Liverpool

A lifestyle like ours should be one where people are non judgmental, with a 'Live and let live' attitude, but so many appear to be more so than in the real world. Think what some have said on here hits the nail on the head in questioning whether those who look down on others would be people you'd actually want to get to know. I'd much rather be in the company of Nice people who make each other feel valued.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I try and be as open minded as possible - but if I see someone has met with multiple people that I wouldn’t meet, then it is off putting. It makes me question their standards, and that in turn leads me to question their sexual health (which might be an unreasonable train of thought) and after that I’m instantly turned off.

And in reverse, if they have amazing verifications off tons of hotties and sensible people then it’ll make me even more eager to meet them.

I’m sure people probably go through the same process when viewing my profile and make decisions based on whatever their view is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I try and be as open minded as possible - but if I see someone has met with multiple people that I wouldn’t meet, then it is off putting. It makes me question their standards, and that in turn leads me to question their sexual health (which might be an unreasonable train of thought) and after that I’m instantly turned off.

And in reverse, if they have amazing verifications off tons of hotties and sensible people then it’ll make me even more eager to meet them.

I’m sure people probably go through the same process when viewing my profile and make decisions based on whatever their view is."

Contradicted yourself in your first paragraph, do not sound open minded at all....

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman over a year ago

all loved up

And in reverse, if they have amazing verifications off tons of hotties and sensible people then it’ll make me even more eager to meet them.

I’m sure people probably go through the same process when viewing my profile and make decisions based on whatever their view is."
that makes no sense.. and how do you know they are veries from sensible people

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple over a year ago

Broadstairs

We think verifications do out the fakes ,timewasters,fantasy people ,it’s a good thing to meet people with verification in our view unless you don’t actually want to meet anyone and just like the talk

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And in reverse, if they have amazing verifications off tons of hotties and sensible people then it’ll make me even more eager to meet them.

I’m sure people probably go through the same process when viewing my profile and make decisions based on whatever their view is. that makes no sense.. and how do you know they are veries from sensible people "

What ARE sensible people? Where can I find some?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And in reverse, if they have amazing verifications off tons of hotties and sensible people then it’ll make me even more eager to meet them.

I’m sure people probably go through the same process when viewing my profile and make decisions based on whatever their view is.

Contradicted yourself in your first paragraph, do not sound open minded at all...."

That’s why I used the words “I try” and “but”

I am well aware that I’m far too fussy. It’s something I’m working on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And in reverse, if they have amazing verifications off tons of hotties and sensible people then it’ll make me even more eager to meet them.

I’m sure people probably go through the same process when viewing my profile and make decisions based on whatever their view is.

Contradicted yourself in your first paragraph, do not sound open minded at all....

That’s why I used the words “I try” and “but”

I am well aware that I’m far too fussy. It’s something I’m working on."

Was just overwhelmed by your irony that was all....

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

And in reverse, if they have amazing verifications off tons of hotties and sensible people then it’ll make me even more eager to meet them.

I’m sure people probably go through the same process when viewing my profile and make decisions based on whatever their view is.

Contradicted yourself in your first paragraph, do not sound open minded at all...."

I love it when people make a statement then prove it wrong in their next fews words.

Always makes me chuckle.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

And in reverse, if they have amazing verifications off tons of hotties and sensible people then it’ll make me even more eager to meet them.

What ARE sensible people? Where can I find some?"

I was going to say "over here".

Then I remembered I've read my posts and wrote my profile.

Sorry, as you were......

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By *entakuruMan over a year ago

Exeter

Have you not heard of site supporter? £5 silver or gold. Try it. They will charge you lol.

And the fee thing has been done to death. Idiots still site support. Making the fee higher and/or compulsory will drive away those with less money, which isn't just idiots. "

I'm a site supporter, which is ironic because if a subscription was mandatory I wouldn't use the site at all. I appreciate the availability of a'premium' option and to some extent I feel like it might mark me out as less of a potential time waster considering I'm a single guy, unverified and all that good stuff.

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By *entakuruMan over a year ago

Exeter

"I used to be on a paid one and it was worse as site made up loads profiles they got taken to court for it "

Oh the pay sites are awful. £30 or more a month to sign up and an inbox that is full of messages if you're on a free account, that mysteriously stop arriving as soon as you go 'premium'. Fake profiles that are meant to be a 'local hottie in your area (Devon) ' who just happens to obviously live in California and probably be a member of a Venezuelan street gang.

It kinda disgusts me how cynically others seek to make unfair profits from our desire to meet people for honest, uncomplicated relationships/physical relations.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman over a year ago

London

The verifications are dated- if you show them- maybe people just look at the numbers but don’t read them?"

Precisely! I had that - "Oh, you have all those verifications! And from women as well!" :D

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have quite a few but perhaps only a third have i actually done anything with

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By *itillatingtigerMan over a year ago

London

I had 11 veris before I left and returned but lost them all.

Its an interesting dichotomy as this is a sex/ sensuality based site and whilst many here hate the rhetoric that comes with being labelled promiscuous, many seem far too quick to judge others.

I remember saying to a lover that I would prefer if she had 400 lovers than be a virgin ( but not all in the same night) when she was concerned about her 'count'. (I was attempting to ease her concerns)

And now I cannot get a veri nor do people reply to my messages.

For me this site smacks of judgement concerning labels IE; sexual status and age.

Footnote is that I appreciate others wish to know a bit about me for their safety. But i have yet to be asked to meet on cam , talk on the phone or indeed 'meet in a public place'.

Must be the crypto aftershave...

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By *itillatingtigerMan over a year ago

London

And surely ladies and couples, that if you only meet verified men you are slowly choking the monkey (

) so to speak.

Where will future partners come from as variety will soon be limited and the world will come to an end ( we are doomed i tell yer )

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I had 11 veris before I left and returned but lost them all.

Its an interesting dichotomy as this is a sex/ sensuality based site and whilst many here hate the rhetoric that comes with being labelled promiscuous, many seem far too quick to judge others.

And now I cannot get a veri nor do people reply to my messages.

For me this site smacks of judgement concerning labels IE; sexual status and age.

Footnote is that I appreciate others wish to know a bit about me for their safety. But i have yet to be asked to meet on cam , talk on the phone or indeed 'meet in a public place'.

Must be the crypto aftershave... "

How is it judgement if they don't want to meet you?

What are acceptable reasons for people not wanting to meet?

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"And surely ladies and couples, that if you only meet verified men you are slowly choking the monkey (

) so to speak.

Where will future partners come from as variety will soon be limited and the world will come to an end ( we are doomed i tell yer )"

Men who go to clubs and socials or are verified by those willing to take more chances. Repeat meets.

I meet or don't meet for any reason I want to.

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By *rtraymondo76Man over a year ago

Cheltenham

"I used to be on a paid one and it was worse as site made up loads profiles they got taken to court for it

It kinda disgusts me how cynically others seek to make unfair profits from our desire to meet people for honest, uncomplicated relationships/physical relations. "

Exactly this.

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

And now I cannot get a veri nor do people reply to my messages.

Your profile says you are a member of 2 clubs. Why can't a member of staff verify you ?

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By *itillatingtigerMan over a year ago

London

For club feedback, I have to be on here for a month, which I think I now am since I rejoined.

But others feel that I am 'not right for them' due to having attended various clubs.

Of course we all have preferences, but getting back on topic, feedback has been focused more around quantity.

The earlier post concerning sexual health may be a contributing factor.

I am screened every couple of months and follow all safe sex practices, but again others could view this as dangerous, which again seems an oxymoron for this site.

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By *itillatingtigerMan over a year ago

London

My previous post for OP4fun was dated 11/02/19 by jason j, thats me btw

and then i left the site, so yes another club verification is necessary as i have played there since.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Use it as just another natural filter. If they don't like you because you've too many or too little, then so be it. Be happy, you probably would not have like them at the coffee stage when chatting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I had 11 veris before I left and returned but lost them all.

Its an interesting dichotomy as this is a sex/ sensuality based site and whilst many here hate the rhetoric that comes with being labelled promiscuous, many seem far too quick to judge others.

And now I cannot get a veri nor do people reply to my messages.

For me this site smacks of judgement concerning labels IE; sexual status and age.

Footnote is that I appreciate others wish to know a bit about me for their safety. But i have yet to be asked to meet on cam , talk on the phone or indeed 'meet in a public place'.

Must be the crypto aftershave...

How is it judgement if they don't want to meet you?

What are acceptable reasons for people not wanting to meet? "

What's acceptable reasons on fab seem to be the reason a particular viewer has. This will change with the next viewer, what's acceptable or not.

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By *zzy69 OP Woman over a year ago

The Lake District

"As long as they have regular sexual health check ups,many do not."

Very good point

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

What are acceptable reasons for people not wanting to meet? "

Any reason whatsoever is acceptable. No one on here is compelled to meet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What are acceptable reasons for people not wanting to meet?

Any reason whatsoever is acceptable. No one on here is compelled to meet."

no one should feel they have to give a reason either.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Charging wont change a thing. I've been on a couple other sites for about 10 years now. You get your time wasters on all them.

I used to pay £30 a month on another site.

No forums. No verification system. Limited text count. No filters or blocks. No more than 10 pictures.

What it did have was hundreds of site generated profiles and hundreds of fake single female profiles.

I often see people saying "I'd pay xyz for blah blah blah" Don't think I've ever seen anyone actually go off and do it."

This is all very true.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

And in reverse, if they have amazing verifications off tons of hotties and sensible people then it’ll make me even more eager to meet them.

I’m sure people probably go through the same process when viewing my profile and make decisions based on whatever their view is."

Do you actually read the veris or just assume they are all one night stands for sex? You see, that's the problem with a lot of judgemental people on here, they can't see past the numbers and just make incorrect assumptions a lot of the time. Attending repeat meets, parties, clubs and organised socials can very quick rack up a large number of veris. Also, fab only states over a year, the person could have been on here 3, 5 or 10 years and have that amount. I choose not to display my summary as narrow minded people will judge without reading and assume they have all been within a year, when in fact I've been here 4 years. Your post leads me to believe that you do make assumptions.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And in reverse, if they have amazing verifications off tons of hotties and sensible people then it’ll make me even more eager to meet them.

I’m sure people probably go through the same process when viewing my profile and make decisions based on whatever their view is.

Why is it narrow minded though? I won't meet people with more than 4 sex veris showing and I have my reasons for that.

People will be attracted to things they like. So the ones who like to see lots of veris will want to meet the person with lots showing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And in reverse, if they have amazing verifications off tons of hotties and sensible people then it’ll make me even more eager to meet them.

I’m sure people probably go through the same process when viewing my profile and make decisions based on whatever their view is.

You're also quite judgemental in how you have just assumed that it's just the numbers imo. For some it's maybe the way the numbers are accrued. One example could be that as you say those who go to clubs accrue loads. One can look at that and think, clubs=less selective (based upon see, fancy, fuck in the moment). Could be gangbangs=less scrupulous to get the numbers, (many never have been met prior to the event and most likely never meet again). Party again similar to clubs approach with group plays.

I'm just giving examples that may not be purely about the numbers but more the type of fabber and the way they acquire the numbers.

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By *zzy69 OP Woman over a year ago

The Lake District

After all this I don’t see the point in showing any !

I am now hiding all mine and the summary.

My profile still shows as verified - if that isn’t enough- tough !!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lots of people on Fab are Silly billies if you ask me!!

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By *aven RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"I have quite a few but perhaps only a third have i actually done anything with"

Same for me. Plus I go to big, organised socials too x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And in reverse, if they have amazing verifications off tons of hotties and sensible people then it’ll make me even more eager to meet them.

I’m sure people probably go through the same process when viewing my profile and make decisions based on whatever their view is.

Eh? Nothing to do with numbers. I see my post got people heated for some reason. I clearly stated that it’s MY issue and that I recognise it’s unreasonable.

But to reiterate - if a persons veri’s are from a people that a) have visibly poor health b) have photos showing themselves doing bareback c) have met anonymous gloryhole profiles that have in turn met dozens of anonymous people

Then I won’t meet them. It’s my choice for my health. Of course it’s not fool proof but it’s a filter of sorts.

Nothing to do with numbers at all. We all make choices based on something (at least I hope everyone else does). Is that unreasonable?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And in reverse, if they have amazing verifications off tons of hotties and sensible people then it’ll make me even more eager to meet them.

I’m sure people probably go through the same process when viewing my profile and make decisions based on whatever their view is.

Eh? Nothing to do with numbers. I see my post got people heated for some reason. I clearly stated that it’s MY issue and that I recognise it’s unreasonable.

Then I won’t meet them. It’s my choice for my health. Of course it’s not fool proof but it’s a filter of sorts.

Nothing to do with numbers at all. We all make choices based on something (at least I hope everyone else does). Is that unreasonable?"

Not unreasonable at all.

It wasn't that long ago that I posted about asking someone if I could view their summary and veries, (Won't meet anyone who hides them, what else are they hiding), I got told I was being rediculous...lol.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

And in reverse, if they have amazing verifications off tons of hotties and sensible people then it’ll make me even more eager to meet them.

I’m sure people probably go through the same process when viewing my profile and make decisions based on whatever their view is.

Eh? Nothing to do with numbers. I see my post got people heated for some reason. I clearly stated that it’s MY issue and that I recognise it’s unreasonable.

Then I won’t meet them. It’s my choice for my health. Of course it’s not fool proof but it’s a filter of sorts.

Nothing to do with numbers at all. We all make choices based on something (at least I hope everyone else does). Is that unreasonable?

Not unreasonable at all.

I remember that thread. You did come across a bit judgemental.

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By *trangeleftyMan over a year ago

London

Takes.me a year to get one... it's a double edged sword I thin

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And in reverse, if they have amazing verifications off tons of hotties and sensible people then it’ll make me even more eager to meet them.

I’m sure people probably go through the same process when viewing my profile and make decisions based on whatever their view is.

Eh? Nothing to do with numbers. I see my post got people heated for some reason. I clearly stated that it’s MY issue and that I recognise it’s unreasonable.

Then I won’t meet them. It’s my choice for my health. Of course it’s not fool proof but it’s a filter of sorts.

Nothing to do with numbers at all. We all make choices based on something (at least I hope everyone else does). Is that unreasonable?

Not unreasonable at all.

I remember that thread. You did come across a bit judgemental."

In what way was it judgemental? That I use it as a filter much like others use age and not meeting someone them to see if they look or act a particular age? I think those who thought thought felt it unfair that someone is filtered because of verifications imo.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"After all this I don’t see the point in showing any !

I am now hiding all mine and the summary.

My profile still shows as verified - if that isn’t enough- tough !! "

What kind of people do you want to meet? Why did you decide to hide them all?

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By *rx1Couple over a year ago

North of Okehampton, South of Bideford

it just shows we met others before we meet them..nothing more...It is their lazy fault for not getting in the queue in time

Yes that was a joke before the Holier than thou start on us (they are Swingers too)

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple over a year ago

Chester

We've lots but such a mix and loads are social. Some veris on profiles are too graphic and off putting

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By *alcon43Woman over a year ago

Paisley

Not all my veris are from playing. I organise a quiz team of Fabbers, I’ve hosted socials and visited clubs. I rarely show or give a veri that’s from a play meet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So far on fab I’ve learned that it’s ok for people to say things “no Blacks or Asians” because “it’s preference”.

But it’s bad and “judgemental” for people to have a preference based on verifications? (Which is something totally in your control).

Oooookay then

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Odd most of ours are social, the play/repeat ones we don’t verify.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So far on fab I’ve learned that it’s ok for people to say things “no Blacks or Asians” because “it’s preference”.

But it’s bad and “judgemental” for people to have a preference based on verifications? (Which is something totally in your control).

Oooookay then "

You've noticed that too. My take is that it excludes them, no one likes to be excluded, irrespective of whether they wanted to meet or not. By taking away that choice they feel grieved.

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By *zzy69 OP Woman over a year ago

The Lake District

"After all this I don’t see the point in showing any !

I am now hiding all mine and the summary.

My profile still shows as verified - if that isn’t enough- tough !!

What kind of people do you want to meet? Why did you decide to hide them all?"

I don't really expect to find what I am currently looking for on here - and what that is I am not telling.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So far on fab I’ve learned that it’s ok for people to say things “no Blacks or Asians” because “it’s preference”.

But it’s bad and “judgemental” for people to have a preference based on verifications? (Which is something totally in your control).

Oooookay then

You've noticed that too. My take is that it excludes them, no one likes to be excluded, irrespective of whether they wanted to meet or not. By taking away that choice they feel grieved."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"After all this I don’t see the point in showing any !

I am now hiding all mine and the summary.

My profile still shows as verified - if that isn’t enough- tough !!

What kind of people do you want to meet? Why did you decide to hide them all?

I don't really expect to find what I am currently looking for on here - and what that is I am not telling. "

Hope you do find what you're looking for. You never know where you might find it.

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

I can think of two women in here, who turned me down with "Sorry, you're too active for me"

But I have also received a few "Wow, great profile, and awesome verifications! When can you meet?"

Each to their own

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