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I had a partner, and she felt really bothered by that even though I was pleased and satisfied by all the fun, and because she was sort of disappointed and bothered about it, it sort of spoiled fantastic evening for me, maybe I'm bit to sensitive and should not think about her feelings? |
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"I used to, took it so personally. Then I met Fox and learned there's so much more and there's not always an ejaculation but still hot steamy fun. Xx"
in a relationship then no it doesn't matter .. but as the highlight for me of play via here is a facial finish... it would be a bit pointless  |
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"I used to, took it so personally. Then I met Fox and learned there's so much more and there's not always an ejaculation but still hot steamy fun. Xx in a relationship then no it doesn't matter .. but as the highlight for me of play via here is a facial finish... it would be a bit pointless "
I understand that, if it's facial finish then Defoe need cum. Lol
But if u don't need to finish would it bother U? X |
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"I used to, took it so personally. Then I met Fox and learned there's so much more and there's not always an ejaculation but still hot steamy fun. Xx in a relationship then no it doesn't matter .. but as the highlight for me of play via here is a facial finish... it would be a bit pointless
I understand that, if it's facial finish then Defoe need cum. Lol
But if u don't need to finish would it bother U? X"
I don't really have sex that doesn't end like that... so can't really say |
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Once upon a time, yes I'd have been very disappointed. Probably assumed 'it was me'
But, I now realise there's lots of reasons why a man can't always cum.
As long as I knew in advance it may not happen, and he was still enjoying everything else, then it wouldn't be an issue now. |
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I can say from experience some take it very personally. Cost me a relationship in my early years as I didn't manage to ejaculate through anything but masturbation until I was quite a few years down the line.
Definitely something to bring up before play IMO |
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"As long as he stayed hard and was fun then no 
Agree, don't like pull-outs anyway and if the man is using a condom then sperm isn't really required. Just as long as he's having a good time too!"
Agree with that. Everythings wrapped up so tight and totally desensitised in a condom that even i cant feel whether ive come or not in one. Basically if all parties feel good then who cares if ive shot my load into a latex recepticle.  |
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"I had a partner, and she felt really bothered by that even though I was pleased and satisfied by all the fun, and because she was sort of disappointed and bothered about it, it sort of spoiled fantastic evening for me, maybe I'm bit to sensitive and should not think about her feelings? "
It's good to be sensitive to your partner's needs, as well as feelings, as your post here demonstrates that you are. As long as you communicate in advance that you may not cum, then there'd no chance of surprises. I love a guy to cum but it's the overall experience together that counts, not just a few seconds of it.
It'll be good once you have fully moved on from any negativity hanging around from the past, as you deserve to be relaxed and fully enjoying yourself now. |
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"I had a partner, and she felt really bothered by that even though I was pleased and satisfied by all the fun, and because she was sort of disappointed and bothered about it, it sort of spoiled fantastic evening for me, maybe I'm bit to sensitive and should not think about her feelings?
It's good to be sensitive to your partner's needs, as well as feelings, as your post here demonstrates that you are. As long as you communicate in advance that you may not cum, then there'd no chance of surprises. I love a guy to cum but it's the overall experience together that counts, not just a few seconds of it.
It'll be good once you have fully moved on from any negativity hanging around from the past, as you deserve to be relaxed and fully enjoying yourself now."
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I almost feel a bit sad if they don't, I used to think it was something about me or something I had done wrong but over the years, as others have said there can be many reasons why somebody wouldn't cum. Still though, I give it my best  |
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Knowing the guy has cum is pretty important as I would feel that I hadn't been good enough, sexy enough for him to be able to orgasm.
I am pretty willing for the guy to do anything if thats what it takes for him to cum.
Sx
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I very rarely cum with anyone new, as I have to be very relaxed so would be double standards if I wasn't accepting of a guy who couldn't cum.
I haven't had the experience of a guy not cumming but as long as he has had fun, I don't see the problem.
I always mention before hand that I rarely cum so the guy knows it's not him, it's me!
Xx Katie xX |
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Cum is a bit of a pleasure of mine and its hard to know how to end things sometimes if it doesnt end in cumming. But, if I knew beforehand that you were happy enough without, no problem.
Out of interest, how would you like it to finish in a natural, as presumably no one wants to keep going indefinitly. A countdown is quite impersonal. |
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By *exylilzWoman
over a year ago
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It doesnt need to happen every time sex is still fun without it. A guy I used to be with after he cum he had to wait at least 20 mins before he went again so I kinda wished he didnt cum as quick as he did |
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"Cum is a bit of a pleasure of mine and its hard to know how to end things sometimes if it doesnt end in cumming. But, if I knew beforehand that you were happy enough without, no problem.
Out of interest, how would you like it to finish in a natural, as presumably no one wants to keep going indefinitly. A countdown is quite impersonal. "
You can tell when man have orgasm so no its not indefinitely, all though I know some of you lady's would want that |
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"Cum is a bit of a pleasure of mine and its hard to know how to end things sometimes if it doesnt end in cumming. But, if I knew beforehand that you were happy enough without, no problem.
Out of interest, how would you like it to finish in a natural, as presumably no one wants to keep going indefinitly. A countdown is quite impersonal.
You can tell when man have orgasm so no its not indefinitely, all though I know some of you lady's would want that "
Ah you can still cum, I understand now.  |
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"Yes. I have to say it would almost be a pointless exercise for me without it but in full double standard mode.. I rarely worry about if I do"
ibam with you, what makes the finale is a lovely stream of cum. However i am at the stage in my life it is not always going to happen when performing
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"I do. I would be disappointed and feel like a failure if he didn't."
What about if its an post operation, for argument sake say he was having prostate cancer, and after he developed that condition, will that still be no no for you? |
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(M) if I control my orgasm for a prolonged period (normally over an hour) then I get into a numb state and can't cum on demand. Most girls enjoy the extra few hours of sex rather than a quick finish, in my experience |
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I think one issue is sometimes a partner, and especially a new one, has no frame of reference on how sensitive you are, how much pressure to use, what will make you cum really quickly etc etc. You know they want you to stay hard and satisfy them but at the same time they are going at you in a way that you find so pleasurable that you will nut in seconds if you don't do that clenching thing with the leg muscles and think of Theresa May eating a whole herring etc etc. Then if you do manage to see off the urge to immediately orgasm then later on when you're getting tired and actually do want to, it becomes really difficult. |
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Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't.
Meds affect it, so does stress and tiredness. I'm open about it after one of my first FAB meets was offended by the fact I haven't.
Its a nice to happen, certainly not a must happen. I have had some amazing sex without it. |
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