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By *issyEM OP Woman
over a year ago
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I am in new relationship and we both have had some experience in swinging.
Seems to be problem when we trying agreed what we allowed to do with others.
I am not into oral and kissing others@safe sex. He love giving oral, but for me would be to much see him with other woman 
We agreed for safe sex but I got feeling he isn't happy.
Any advice? Shall we step back from swinging till our relationship gonna be stronger? |
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
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I think “rules” change over time. Start where you’re comfortable (if you want to) and then just keep checking your decisions. As long as both are honest and clear in their communication you’ll work it out.
I met my ex through fab. At first we were adamant we’d only meet others together but over time we found different things we’d like to do.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would never in a million years be happy with my husband and another woman, he knows this as well. Its a massive no no for us personally but everyone works differently. His thing is watching me with another man, he kept on suggesting it for months and months and I thought he was taking the piss haha!! Turns out he meant it and we have had a few encounters on here, but I know that I would never ever let anywhere near another woman. If you're not comfortable let him know. Everyone seems to think this is strictly for swapping partners I've had absolute dick heads on here telling me what I should and shouldn't be doing "if you're not swapping couples you shouldn't be on here" eerrr fuck off love  it's what you make of it. Hope I helped, sometimes it's good to hear other people's experiences as well x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I couldn't bare the thought of mine kissing or going down on other women, they would both be booted out without a second thought. He needs to respect what you're happy and unhappy with. As someone mentioned above you could change your minds in the future, best of luck to you  . I personally couldn't do it ever haha |
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"He is into watch and want me having guys. He keep saying if he gonna kiss or having oral with others it will be only "fun" not the same like we got."
It sounds to me like he’s trying to convince you that it’ll be ok, and you are far from certain. You have to do what is right for you, and not what your partner wants. These things can ultimately only be decided between you, and threads like this can only really advise from other’s perspectives. Whatever you choose, I hope it works out for you both. |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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"He is into watch and want me having guys. He keep saying if he gonna kiss or having oral with others it will be only "fun" not the same like we got."
I understand that totally, and intimate situations with other people is nothing like things between two people sharing each the other and growing your relationship together.
The only thing is that feelings can flash over you in the heat of the moment, just be sure that everything is discussed and clear for you both and have a signal that you have agreed if you decide to go ahead so if one of you needs to, they can let the other know what they want the scene to stop. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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its what works for YOU two nobody else sit down and chat again until the lines are set right and dont play until both your rules are set ... the only main rule in swinging is No the rest is self set and personal to each and everyone.
talk talk talk and never stop talking the rules you both make today will change as your going along ..for us it was very easy because we never stopped talking it alway took both of us to move forward never one of us and the beauty of talking is the build up of trust thats unbreakable.
trust your gut feeling and sit down and sort it or resentment will destroy what you have in the end seen it happen so many times with other couples .
you can not swing by other's rule you can only swing by yours and yours alone xxxx |
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"He is into watch and want me having guys. He keep saying if he gonna kiss or having oral with others it will be only "fun" not the same like we got."
That's his opinion but you don't think the same way.
I would say step back until you can agree on mutual boundaries.
It sounds like you're discussing the situation anyway, keep doing that and you'll eventually come to a resolution. Don't be pressured into doing something you don't want to. |
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"its what works for YOU two nobody else sit down and chat again until the lines are set right and dont play until both your rules are set ... the only main rule in swinging is No the rest is self set and personal to each and everyone.
talk talk talk and never stop talking the rules you both make today will change as your going along ..for us it was very easy because we never stopped talking it alway took both of us to move forward never one of us and the beauty of talking is the build up of trust thats unbreakable.
trust your gut feeling and sit down and sort it or resentment will destroy what you have in the end seen it happen so many times with other couples .
you can not swing by other's rule you can only swing by yours and yours alone xxxx "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe step back and enjoy one another, why force it if the relationship is new. Just my opinion, takes alot for both to be comfortable. Myself and my missus are a full swap couple, I don't do couples perosnally but one on one only where as she is different. Once your both comfortable then thats when you feel the real buzz of swinging otherwise your secretly taking one for the team and that isn't cool |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"its what works for YOU two nobody else sit down and chat again until the lines are set right and dont play until both your rules are set ... the only main rule in swinging is No the rest is self set and personal to each and everyone.
talk talk talk and never stop talking the rules you both make today will change as your going along ..for us it was very easy because we never stopped talking it alway took both of us to move forward never one of us and the beauty of talking is the build up of trust thats unbreakable.
trust your gut feeling and sit down and sort it or resentment will destroy what you have in the end seen it happen so many times with other couples .
you can not swing by other's rule you can only swing by yours and yours alone xxxx "
Couldn’t have put it any better. This is really well balanced advice for anyone on Fab x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's really quite simple, you need to hammer out your starting ruleset long before you come within a sniff of a meet.
I say starting ruleset as they do evolve over time, but that should be as a process of constant evaluation. Communication is key, start out with what you know you are both comfortable with, debrief fully after each meet, decide what you liked, what you didn't, what you might like to try next. Stop when you reach the limits of the most reserved partner. |
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"I am in new relationship and we both have had some experience in swinging.
Seems to be problem when we trying agreed what we allowed to do with others.
I am not into oral and kissing others@safe sex. He love giving oral, but for me would be to much see him with other woman
We agreed for safe sex but I got feeling he isn't happy.
Any advice? Shall we step back from swinging till our relationship gonna be stronger? "
Well me and My Girl met on here. But it doesn't make the basics of a relationship much different. Openness, communication and a williness to accept each other for who you are is important. All I would say is take things slow. If a the relationship to you both is number then treat it as such. Swinging in a relationship should be almost an added Brucie Bonus that you both enjoy, not the driver of your relationship. Even though we met on here we took baby steps and still doing. Simply move the boundries when both of you are ready. If there are some you cant agree on then that is one of them. If you see a future together there is no need to rush but it is important from the start that both parties are clear about what they want out of it. |
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"I would never in a million years be happy with my husband and another woman, he knows this as well. Its a massive no no for us personally but everyone works differently. His thing is watching me with another man, he kept on suggesting it for months and months and I thought he was taking the piss haha!! Turns out he meant it and we have had a few encounters on here, but I know that I would never ever let anywhere near another woman. If you're not comfortable let him know. Everyone seems to think this is strictly for swapping partners I've had absolute dick heads on here telling me what I should and shouldn't be doing "if you're not swapping couples you shouldn't be on here" eerrr fuck off love it's what you make of it. Hope I helped, sometimes it's good to hear other people's experiences as well x"
I think, it is a little bit selfish. He might agree, but do you know what he really wants ?
We started from soft swap, now we are full swap and we are happy. We have some limits, which we break sometimes. It is a sex, it is a moment.
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