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New to accommodating

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I was just after a consensus on how people kick off the fun when accommodating at home. We're quite new so having lots of first time experiences and need some tips on best was to initiate the fun at home.?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

With single guys wife normally answers the door in something that causes her boobs to practically spill out and smiles sweetly at them. Not very subtle I grant you and not everyones idea of seduction but hey, it works!

Not sure with couples as haven't done that at home.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Make some rude type questions in a bag and people take on answer the question and put it back.

The type of questions would be based on the people (First time meet and new to swinging, or regular swingers but first meet with you).

The questions could be two part, two bags, questions, what made you start swinging, what did you like about your first MMF, MFF, MFMF etc etc

Bag two, actions = who would you kiss here first, tweak your left nipple, soon gets things going.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We tend to have a few drinks (not necessarily alcoholic) and a natter for a bit then when everyone's relaxed, one of us will say-fancy going upstairs?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"... will say-fancy going upstairs? "

Lounge much better if there are 3 or more, of course unless there are family watching TV

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By *otswbabeCouple over a year ago

north cornwall

Well there is only one guy we allow in our home and tbh hubby brings him straight to the bedroom now where I lounge on the bed semi clad in a very wantonly manner... Hello

. Seems all that's necessary.

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By *mf4BxJCouple over a year ago

edinburgh

I think I'd be cringing if someone brought out a game to play!

We just sit and chill, chat and have a drink then after a bit things happen as they should! Sometimes start in lounge and go up to bed, other times stay in lounge. It all depends!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think I'd be cringing if someone brought out a game to play!

We just sit and chill, chat and have a drink then after a bit things happen as they should! Sometimes start in lounge and go up to bed, other times stay in lounge. It all depends!"

But you didn't specify how the first sexual orientated move was made. That's what the OP wants to know, how do you get form chilling and chatting to naked and sweaty.

Maybe you could use your last meet as an example.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

It's couples we'd be having over so it's tips on making the move and getting things started !

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By *mf4BxJCouple over a year ago

edinburgh

"I think I'd be cringing if someone brought out a game to play!

We just sit and chill, chat and have a drink then after a bit things happen as they should! Sometimes start in lounge and go up to bed, other times stay in lounge. It all depends!

But you didn't specify how the first sexual orientated move was made. That's what the OP wants to know, how do you get form chilling and chatting to naked and sweaty.

Maybe you could use your last meet as an example."

It just happens. Do you pull out the cards every time you want to have sex?

Things just progress, hands start to wander. It's all pretty natural, or at least it should be! You all know what you're there for afterall!

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By *umbriaman1962Man over a year ago

outside of penrith

when i was with ex and we invited couples round normaly put porn vid on in back ground noise turned down as we had drinks and chatted then sometimes played strip poker or some other fun game like that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well it does depend on whether its a party of just couple. You should provide some nibbles and drink, though suggest people bring what they would like, when they arrive open the door

introduce yourselves, offer to take their coats, show them around after a bit of small talk. Have some music playing in the background.

Once you are all relaxed, perhaps suggest retiring upstairs, if that's where the fun is going to be

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We are normally really nervous! We start with spin the bottle or truth or dare! lol It's soooo childish but it seems to work. :D

We have also started it off by kissing each other and inviting the other couple or single to join in.

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By *ibrosMan over a year ago

harrow

I think the most common error is for everyone to be too polite. It has been said before, you all know why you are there. Be a little forward, nobody is going to object.

In a MMF situation, if I am the single guy, I assume it is my role to make the first move. I suspect with two couples you need to work out who is the dominant male or female. He/she is the one who will get the party started.

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By *plpxp2Couple over a year ago

Middlesbrough

As others have said everyone knows why they are there, so after chatting and feeling relaxed its a natural question to ask if folks want to play. Agree it feels strange to start with, but its honest and gets things going well.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We sometimes find card games a laugh and a way to gently get to know the more nervous couples, inevitably it is always left to me, Peachy, to make the suggestion to move somehwere more comfortable, never seems to take me long lol

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By *oulmates YorkshireCouple over a year ago

Leeds

"Make some rude type questions in a bag and people take on answer the question and put it back.

The type of questions would be based on the people (First time meet and new to swinging, or regular swingers but first meet with you).

The questions could be two part, two bags, questions, what made you start swinging, what did you like about your first MMF, MFF, MFMF etc etc

Bag two, actions = who would you kiss here first, tweak your left nipple, soon gets things going."

love that idea x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

try putting your hand down there pants

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We only meet couples, so we'll have a drink or two and a chat down stairs.

For the most part we accommodate over night, so Trace will probably offer to show the other woman our guest/play room, while the guy and myself continue chatting.

Needless to say after a while the girls have failed to reappear so I suggest we go and find them.............etc!

XXXX

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

We have also started it off by kissing each other and inviting the other couple or single to join in."

That would be my choice. Have to say if someone suggested party games Id be a bit

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By *urreyfun2008Man over a year ago

East Grinstead

So it seems pointing out where the condoms, lube and toys are just after welcoming them is not a popular move

Worst times are when I have to shout loudly from the dungeon as last visitor left me tied up down there.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"We tend to have a few drinks (not necessarily alcoholic) and a natter for a bit then when everyone's relaxed, one of us will say-fancy going upstairs? "

i do tend to be dressed sexily too

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"Hi

We are normally really nervous! We start with spin the bottle or truth or dare! lol It's soooo childish but it seems to work. :D

We have also started it off by kissing each other and inviting the other couple or single to join in."

You see neither of these would work for us...but thats not a criticism , just that you need to find what works for you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There we go a nice selection of ideas, some work for some people other ideas for others.

Hope you have fun trying them all to find which works for you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

from the outset try and sit with the cpls split whilst chatting,,removes that awkward moment of when to make a move,,,the more awkward moment is after 2 hours of chatting one of you decides you dont want to play with one of the others..lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks guys x suggestions gratefully received x think I'd skip the games and go the more upfront anyone want to play xx

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By *ollie_JCouple over a year ago

London

We chat about normal things, the a few swinging type questions a few jokes

Then we will nod or shake our heads towards each other, naturally in a secretish way, and if we both nod then we ask the couple if they are interested in playing..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

the worst scenario is every being too polite to make the first move with an awkward silence....

so, we always try to be bit upfront and suggestive, afterall you only invite a cpl to your house because you a fancy a play

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By *mf4BxJCouple over a year ago

edinburgh

"the worst scenario is every being too polite to make the first move with an awkward silence....

so, we always try to be bit upfront and suggestive, afterall you only invite a cpl to your house because you a fancy a play"

There's been times we've been getting on that well chatting and having a laugh that we've almost forgot what we're there for!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We prefer to meet in a pub near us for a drink and chat.... then if we go back to ours means we all want to play!

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By *umbriaman1962Man over a year ago

outside of penrith

when i was with ex we aways had private code that if wife was happy she sat with stocking on show as she often had a wrap round skirt she liked to wear as she could sit lady like or let the side come open more happy she was to play more leg and stocking would be on show lol. we also had code that if she was very unhappy time of month would start early,

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By *unloversCouple over a year ago

rotherham

We meet couples regular at home and always offer them a drink first

We have a chat and have a bit of music on and maybe a porn....the girls usually get giddy and compliment each other outfits and it goes from there

We never have any problem unless you can see someone is uncomfotable with the situation then we dont push anything

Just go with the flow as they could be just as nervous as you

xxx

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