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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Im looking for some help & advice for my profile & just general ways in how to talk to women in general i am socially awkward & struggle to talk to women & im not great looking but im quite body concious as i have a big scar from an old operation that is quite visable ive all ready changed my profile alot from a thread on here a few days ago but as yet im 50-1 & the 1 that replied has not replied back since any advice will help greatly |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
You mention fun in your profile three times .....perhaps add some other qualities you have and a bit more about what you are looking for and why people should choose to chat with you, rather than other people who have messaged them.
My other suggestion is to let people get to know you a little before asking for a face photo. They may work in a particular field and be a little reluctant to exchange face pics initially. However, I guess it rules out men pretending to be ladies. It's up to you. It's your profile, so develop it how you want.
It's not a bad profile, just try to make it a bit more interesting.
Be patient. Send out personalised messages, so that people know you are interested in them, not writing to the 50 nearest females . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don't put yourself down you look fine to me just keep trying hun its meant to be fun and good luck xxxxxx"
Thank you & i am treating it as fun but i guess my idea of fun is different to other peoples |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You mention fun in your profile three times .....perhaps add some other qualities you have and a bit more about what you are looking for and why people should choose to chat with you, rather than other people who have messaged them.
My other suggestion is to let people get to know you a little before asking for a face photo. They may work in a particular field and be a little reluctant to exchange face pics initially. However, I guess it rules out men pretending to be ladies. It's up to you. It's your profile, so develop it how you want.
It's not a bad profile, just try to make it a bit more interesting.
Be patient. Send out personalised messages, so that people know you are interested in them, not writing to the 50 nearest females . "
Thank you i would put more about me but im boring & got told long winded profiles are a no no ( by someone on.a previous thread) & i ask for a face pic as ive been coonned once all ready on here so i dont want to be conned again once bitten twice shy & i tailor my messages to suit but i end up getting no relplies then after 24hrs blocking them as i dont see the point in trying to talk to someone who clearly is not interested & will never be interested |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
"You mention fun in your profile three times .....perhaps add some other qualities you have and a bit more about what you are looking for and why people should choose to chat with you, rather than other people who have messaged them.
My other suggestion is to let people get to know you a little before asking for a face photo. They may work in a particular field and be a little reluctant to exchange face pics initially. However, I guess it rules out men pretending to be ladies. It's up to you. It's your profile, so develop it how you want.
It's not a bad profile, just try to make it a bit more interesting.
Be patient. Send out personalised messages, so that people know you are interested in them, not writing to the 50 nearest females .
Thank you i would put more about me but im boring & got told long winded profiles are a no no ( by someone on.a previous thread) & i ask for a face pic as ive been coonned once all ready on here so i dont want to be conned again once bitten twice shy & i tailor my messages to suit but i end up getting no relplies then after 24hrs blocking them as i dont see the point in trying to talk to someone who clearly is not interested & will never be interested"
24 hours deserves a block? Just delete your sent message. Perhaps the person on the receiving end was, you know, busy with life!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You need to expand your bio and add a few more pics imo. Don't worry about your scar, it's part of your journey."
i dont have any pics of myself they all contain my daughter & im not putting her face on here & thanks but it is something that i hide as when i look at other mens profiles with there adonis bodies & all the veris they have makes me feel rather insignificant & i know that because of my scar i cant get a body like that but thats just the way i see it & expand by bio how as i did that & i got less respones & was told on a previous thread my profile before was boring
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You mention fun in your profile three times .....perhaps add some other qualities you have and a bit more about what you are looking for and why people should choose to chat with you, rather than other people who have messaged them.
My other suggestion is to let people get to know you a little before asking for a face photo. They may work in a particular field and be a little reluctant to exchange face pics initially. However, I guess it rules out men pretending to be ladies. It's up to you. It's your profile, so develop it how you want.
It's not a bad profile, just try to make it a bit more interesting.
Be patient. Send out personalised messages, so that people know you are interested in them, not writing to the 50 nearest females .
Thank you i would put more about me but im boring & got told long winded profiles are a no no ( by someone on.a previous thread) & i ask for a face pic as ive been coonned once all ready on here so i dont want to be conned again once bitten twice shy & i tailor my messages to suit but i end up getting no relplies then after 24hrs blocking them as i dont see the point in trying to talk to someone who clearly is not interested & will never be interested
24 hours deserves a block? Just delete your sent message. Perhaps the person on the receiving end was, you know, busy with life!!"
yes i get that but i dont see the point in people who hacent replied even after a week still popping up on my search feed who are never going to be interested so its best just to block them |
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"Im looking for some help & advice for my profile & just general ways in how to talk to women in general i am socially awkward & struggle to talk to women & im not great looking but im quite body concious as i have a big scar from an old operation that is quite visable ive all ready changed my profile alot from a thread on here a few days ago but as yet im 50-1 & the 1 that replied has not replied back since any advice will help greatly"
You seem like a nice guy
And then.... we saw.....
You’ve been on an epic rant in the “it’s harder for women” thread last week. Argumentative, moaning, negative, apparently messaging people who disagree with you.
Ok, you, like a lot of guys on here, are frustrated, but man, we’re all given a bag of hammers in life.
Project a positive attitude even if you don’t feel it. Laugh even if you don’t feel like laughing. It’s about attitude. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Im looking for some help & advice for my profile & just general ways in how to talk to women in general i am socially awkward & struggle to talk to women & im not great looking but im quite body concious as i have a big scar from an old operation that is quite visable ive all ready changed my profile alot from a thread on here a few days ago but as yet im 50-1 & the 1 that replied has not replied back since any advice will help greatly
You seem like a nice guy
And then.... we saw.....
You’ve been on an epic rant in the “it’s harder for women” thread last week. Argumentative, moaning, negative, apparently messaging people who disagree with you.
Ok, you, like a lot of guys on here, are frustrated, but man, we’re all given a bag of hammers in life.
Project a positive attitude even if you don’t feel it. Laugh even if you don’t feel like laughing. It’s about attitude. "
again thank you & i get that but i was always told that if you are poaitive it can come accross as arrogant & people dont like arrogance so i keep a lid on my positivity & look to prove people wrong & i messaged someone i disagreed with i am not bothered if people disagree with me we all have opionions right & wrong so hey ho |
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"Im looking for some help & advice for my profile & just general ways in how to talk to women in general i am socially awkward & struggle to talk to women & im not great looking but im quite body concious as i have a big scar from an old operation that is quite visable ive all ready changed my profile alot from a thread on here a few days ago but as yet im 50-1 & the 1 that replied has not replied back since any advice will help greatly
You seem like a nice guy
And then.... we saw.....
You’ve been on an epic rant in the “it’s harder for women” thread last week. Argumentative, moaning, negative, apparently messaging people who disagree with you.
Ok, you, like a lot of guys on here, are frustrated, but man, we’re all given a bag of hammers in life.
Project a positive attitude even if you don’t feel it. Laugh even if you don’t feel like laughing. It’s about attitude. again thank you & i get that but i was always told that if you are poaitive it can come accross as arrogant & people dont like arrogance so i keep a lid on my positivity & look to prove people wrong & i messaged someone i disagreed with i am not bothered if people disagree with me we all have opionions right & wrong so hey ho"
Being Positive is Not Arrogance. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Im looking for some help & advice for my profile & just general ways in how to talk to women in general i am socially awkward & struggle to talk to women & im not great looking but im quite body concious as i have a big scar from an old operation that is quite visable ive all ready changed my profile alot from a thread on here a few days ago but as yet im 50-1 & the 1 that replied has not replied back since any advice will help greatly
You seem like a nice guy
And then.... we saw.....
You’ve been on an epic rant in the “it’s harder for women” thread last week. Argumentative, moaning, negative, apparently messaging people who disagree with you.
Ok, you, like a lot of guys on here, are frustrated, but man, we’re all given a bag of hammers in life.
Project a positive attitude even if you don’t feel it. Laugh even if you don’t feel like laughing. It’s about attitude. again thank you & i get that but i was always told that if you are poaitive it can come accross as arrogant & people dont like arrogance so i keep a lid on my positivity & look to prove people wrong & i messaged someone i disagreed with i am not bothered if people disagree with me we all have opionions right & wrong so hey ho
Being Positive is Not Arrogance. "
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
"You need to expand your bio and add a few more pics imo. Don't worry about your scar, it's part of your journey. i dont have any pics of myself they all contain my daughter & im not putting her face on here & thanks but it is something that i hide as when i look at other mens profiles with there adonis bodies & all the veris they have makes me feel rather insignificant & i know that because of my scar i cant get a body like that but thats just the way i see it & expand by bio how as i did that & i got less respones & was told on a previous thread my profile before was boring"
Obviously you wouldn't put pics of anyone other than yourself on here! Have you got a mobile that takes pics?!!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You need to expand your bio and add a few more pics imo. Don't worry about your scar, it's part of your journey. i dont have any pics of myself they all contain my daughter & im not putting her face on here & thanks but it is something that i hide as when i look at other mens profiles with there adonis bodies & all the veris they have makes me feel rather insignificant & i know that because of my scar i cant get a body like that but thats just the way i see it & expand by bio how as i did that & i got less respones & was told on a previous thread my profile before was boring
Obviously you wouldn't put pics of anyone other than yourself on here! Have you got a mobile that takes pics?!!
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Yes i have but i am not very photogenic & lets behonest now shall we quasimodo is better looking than me lol |
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"You need to expand your bio and add a few more pics imo. Don't worry about your scar, it's part of your journey. i dont have any pics of myself they all contain my daughter & im not putting her face on here & thanks but it is something that i hide as when i look at other mens profiles with there adonis bodies & all the veris they have makes me feel rather insignificant & i know that because of my scar i cant get a body like that but thats just the way i see it & expand by bio how as i did that & i got less respones & was told on a previous thread my profile before was boring
Obviously you wouldn't put pics of anyone other than yourself on here! Have you got a mobile that takes pics?!!
Yes i have but i am not very photogenic & lets behonest now shall we quasimodo is better looking than me lol "
Ok you’re going for the sympathy shag |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You need to expand your bio and add a few more pics imo. Don't worry about your scar, it's part of your journey. i dont have any pics of myself they all contain my daughter & im not putting her face on here & thanks but it is something that i hide as when i look at other mens profiles with there adonis bodies & all the veris they have makes me feel rather insignificant & i know that because of my scar i cant get a body like that but thats just the way i see it & expand by bio how as i did that & i got less respones & was told on a previous thread my profile before was boring
Obviously you wouldn't put pics of anyone other than yourself on here! Have you got a mobile that takes pics?!!
Yes i have but i am not very photogenic & lets behonest now shall we quasimodo is better looking than me lol
Ok you’re going for the sympathy shag "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No point in a sympathy shag, you'd feel shit.
Arrogance is assuming you know what is right/the case.
E.G. Assuming someone dosent like you because they haven't replied. You don't know the reason, so it's arrogance. I suffer from arrogance a lot, my advice is have a cup of tea and think of something above the wasteline for 10 minutes.
Positivity is more about not being negative, don't worry about 49 rejections, be positive about the 1 reply. Enjoy the rain as well, it washes my car. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No point in a sympathy shag, you'd feel shit.
Arrogance is assuming you know what is right/the case.
E.G. Assuming someone dosent like you because they haven't replied. You don't know the reason, so it's arrogance. I suffer from arrogance a lot, my advice is have a cup of tea and think of something above the wasteline for 10 minutes.
Positivity is more about not being negative, don't worry about 49 rejections, be positive about the 1 reply. Enjoy the rain as well, it washes my car. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Need advice on why I don’t get no messages iv always got to do the messaging is there anything wrong with my profile? Thanks "
Hey. Firstly you need to make your own thread as this is someone else's
And yeah you have been on 2 weeks which is no time at all on here. You could be on months without even a reply.
Take a look at your profile and ask yourself if there is anything on there to entice women in.
Your a tiny fish in a huge sea of male profiles that have loads of photos and a bio that get women's minds tingling.
Your status will put people off and you have no text to read.
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Your original post told us more about you than your profile text. I suggest you use your profile to tell more about you as a person. Leave out the bit about being socially awkward, but you have more to say about yourself.
If you lack confidence then you can always think of it as putting on a front. Become a character who is confident. Go to a club. In my experience, if you go to a club, chat to people, don't try to come onto them, be friendly, polite and respectful, and you'll be amazed what you can achieve. You can be confident without being arsey. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Your original post told us more about you than your profile text. I suggest you use your profile to tell more about you as a person. Leave out the bit about being socially awkward, but you have more to say about yourself.
If you lack confidence then you can always think of it as putting on a front. Become a character who is confident. Go to a club. In my experience, if you go to a club, chat to people, don't try to come onto them, be friendly, polite and respectful, and you'll be amazed what you can achieve. You can be confident without being arsey. "
thanks for your input as for the clubs i went along to ine didnt enjoy it & left after a few hours as no one wanted to talk to me plus the staff were very rude towards me aswell i think it was because i was a single man but hey ho im getting more replies now so im happy |
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