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over a year ago
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Fro the last couple of years maybe abit long I can not orgasms through oral I can cum alot but only with one guy and I've only had two guys in 6 years who I've actully it enjoy it with and it's seem to be ever since I had epidural if any ladies have any tips that will help my nerve ending down there that would be great cause I miss the feeling of it so bad |
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"Fro the last couple of years maybe abit long I can not orgasms through oral I can cum alot but only with one guy and I've only had two guys in 6 years who I've actully it enjoy it with and it's seem to be ever since I had epidural if any ladies have any tips that will help my nerve ending down there that would be great cause I miss the feeling of it so bad "
I very rarely orgasm through oral but have no problems through penetration or finger stimulation. Only a few men have ever made me cum through oral. I came to the conclusion that the majority of men are just really crap at giving oral 
I've no medical issues and have never had an epidural so can't comment on that but if you didn't have problems beforehand it might be worth discussing it with your doctor. |
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"Fro the last couple of years maybe abit long I can not orgasms through oral I can cum alot but only with one guy and I've only had two guys in 6 years who I've actully it enjoy it with and it's seem to be ever since I had epidural if any ladies have any tips that will help my nerve ending down there that would be great cause I miss the feeling of it so bad
I very rarely orgasm through oral but have no problems through penetration or finger stimulation. Only a few men have ever made me cum through oral. I came to the conclusion that the majority of men are just really crap at giving oral
I've no medical issues and have never had an epidural so can't comment on that but if you didn't have problems beforehand it might be worth discussing it with your doctor."
Yeah I'm the same with sex and fingering but oral nope just can't and never had the problem before so I think your right may take a trip to the doctors to see why I can't ever since my epidural so thanks for the advice |
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By *isty286Couple
over a year ago
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Im sure you are both going to get 1000s of messages now offering to demonstrate jedi level oral skills ... lol
Our tip is positional, lay your licker back and kneel over their mouth, you control pressure and target area, they do speed and vibration (motorboating) just remember to allow them to breathe occasionally, if it works for you remember to post a pic so we can all benefit.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Im sure you are both going to get 1000s of messages now offering to demonstrate jedi level oral skills ... lol
Our tip is positional, lay your licker back and kneel over their mouth, you control pressure and target area, they do speed and vibration (motorboating) just remember to allow them to breathe occasionally, if it works for you remember to post a pic so we can all benefit. "
Trust me tired it all sorts of way the only guy who actully makes me cum is my fwb and well I know if I was fucking him before 6 years ago he would of defo made me orgasm within 5 mins easy but now I don't and it's pissed me off tried minty gum tried all sorts but nothing works but never thought I should go to the doctors about it I can make my self orgasm but even that takes a good half hour so maybe a trip to see the doctor would be best |
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I had a hysterectomy 3 1/2 years ago and they told me there was a risk of nerve damage as they were slicing through nerves in my abdomen and I was terrified that I would have a numb clit! lol
Anyway, I went from being super sensitive to being numb after surgery and it took a while to get sensation back. Even now, it's still not quite what it was but it's loads better and I've just had to adjust what I do with people to achieve orgasm. I'll give you an example...have you ever used a Hitachi wand? The top setting on that is crazy and I could never handle it before. Now I need that setting to tip me over. With oral, it just takes a bit of time and adjustment! lol Sounds mad, but I found that the more I had sex/oral, the quicker the sensation came back and now I'm not far off what I was before. I'm sure there is some science behind it
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am exactly the same. It's driving me crazy. Husband has had no problems over the years making me climax through oral.. but last 2 years I just can't do it. No matter who tries. I have to use a toy which is ok but still not the desired ending I wanted  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I only cum with oral with someone I'm emotionally close to x"
That makes sense as I'm good mates with my fwb I don't have feelings for him but I would say we get along very well and defo on the same page so |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I had a hysterectomy 3 1/2 years ago and they told me there was a risk of nerve damage as they were slicing through nerves in my abdomen and I was terrified that I would have a numb clit! lol
Anyway, I went from being super sensitive to being numb after surgery and it took a while to get sensation back. Even now, it's still not quite what it was but it's loads better and I've just had to adjust what I do with people to achieve orgasm. I'll give you an example...have you ever used a Hitachi wand? The top setting on that is crazy and I could never handle it before. Now I need that setting to tip me over. With oral, it just takes a bit of time and adjustment! lol Sounds mad, but I found that the more I had sex/oral, the quicker the sensation came back and now I'm not far off what I was before. I'm sure there is some science behind it
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So I just need to have more sex and get my pussy licked more best advice I can take lol sure I have no problem with having more sex lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I am exactly the same. It's driving me crazy. Husband has had no problems over the years making me climax through oral.. but last 2 years I just can't do it. No matter who tries. I have to use a toy which is ok but still not the desired ending I wanted "
Its not nice isit cause you just wanna orgasm through oral cause it's different orgasms compared what I have with sex |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Cue some men telling you that they can change that for you! 
Funny enough I havnt lol maybe scare them off as I'm prob to hard work lol
Haha me either but I would just delete anyway "
If they was my type I would reply but if they ain't I won't |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am exactly the same. It's driving me crazy. Husband has had no problems over the years making me climax through oral.. but last 2 years I just can't do it. No matter who tries. I have to use a toy which is ok but still not the desired ending I wanted
Its not nice isit cause you just wanna orgasm through oral cause it's different orgasms compared what I have with sex "
To be honest its getting to me a bit. I felt like I was the only one lol.
I've got no real health issues.. no major stress.. no operations so every answer Google has come up with i don't fit the catagorys lol. |
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Feel for you but we met a couple ladys now which have said they lost sensitivity there after having a baby but didn't mention epidural so maybe that has something to do with it..
Maybe you need to ask someone medically trained in that area to see if it's nerve related or something but if it is it's probably going to be unfixable.
When you say through oral. Can you still orgasm with say rabbit ears or a bullet on that area x |
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Then again maybe it's just a mental and feelings thing. Sometimes people orgasm a lot quicker when there super excited and connected. What can sometimes take 25 to 30 minutes can happen in 5 and again a couple minutes later... But still someone medically trained is probably better to ask x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is an interesting thread.
I wish I had the ability to make a woman cum through only giving her oral. The last lady who I did it for, used a vibrator at the same time.. So I guess I'm not good at it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only ever had orgasms, like proper mind blowing orgasm, from oral alone with one guy.
I still enjoy receiving but I don't orgasm properly. Get tingles but that's it. I'm not bothered by it though.
I'll orgasm if I'm being fingered at the same time as oral though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I am exactly the same. It's driving me crazy. Husband has had no problems over the years making me climax through oral.. but last 2 years I just can't do it. No matter who tries. I have to use a toy which is ok but still not the desired ending I wanted
Its not nice isit cause you just wanna orgasm through oral cause it's different orgasms compared what I have with sex
To be honest its getting to me a bit. I felt like I was the only one lol.
I've got no real health issues.. no major stress.. no operations so every answer Google has come up with i don't fit the catagorys lol."
Inbox me hun if you wanna talk about it cause im the same I've booked a doctors appointment I have |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I can only come through oral when riding his face haha think it’s because I control the pressure "
I can't even orgasm then and my fwb is hands down the best oral skills I've ever had |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sounds like it's all down to tounge strength to me!"
No it's not at all my fwb has the best oral skills I've had and I said if it was 6 years earlier he would of made orgasm within 5 mins stop trying to make silly comments about the guys I fuck I'm just hard to please |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've never cum from oral period. So at least take from it that you've had that experience!! "
Oh wow I feel for you and yeah I use too but since giving birth it hasn't been the same at all |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Only ever had orgasms, like proper mind blowing orgasm, from oral alone with one guy.
I still enjoy receiving but I don't orgasm properly. Get tingles but that's it. I'm not bothered by it though.
I'll orgasm if I'm being fingered at the same time as oral though. "
On my 2 guys max had made me cum since giving birth and I've always hated being fingered while being licked out so was thinking of getting my clit done as I've heard it can improve the feeling by the they fuck up it can stop it all together so don't know if it's worth the risk |
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"Fro the last couple of years maybe abit long I can not orgasms through oral I can cum alot but only with one guy and I've only had two guys in 6 years who I've actully it enjoy it with and it's seem to be ever since I had epidural if any ladies have any tips that will help my nerve ending down there that would be great cause I miss the feeling of it so bad "
I have found that I enjoy oral a whole lot more if it’s a bit rough and with fingering too
Don’t give me that gentle little cat lick tonguing lol |
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Only 2 guys have ever made me cum that way. Not even my ex husband did. Not that he really did in anyway. Funny, I never really enjoyed sex at all until I got divorced. Had sort of "sexual awakening " so to speak lol |
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It may be a mental block stopping you from having an orgasm?
I may be wrong, but I believe women get it as well as men.
When you get it in your head it's never going to happen, it won't!
Try to relax, enjoy it and have positive orgasmic thoughts |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It may be a mental block stopping you from having an orgasm?
I may be wrong, but I believe women get it as well as men.
When you get it in your head it's never going to happen, it won't!
Try to relax, enjoy it and have positive orgasmic thoughts "
Hhhmmm maybe good point didn't think of this thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cue some men telling you that they can change that for you! "
Only ever had two ladies able to make me cum orally too that I can remember. Many have sad they're amazing..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ive only had one girl ever make me cum during oral, she could and did everytime but non others have ever managed."
None have ever done it for me and I don't think it's possible for some men to cum with only oral.
I guess it's the same for women but we love to try lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am exactly the same. It's driving me crazy. Husband has had no problems over the years making me climax through oral.. but last 2 years I just can't do it. No matter who tries. I have to use a toy which is ok but still not the desired ending I wanted
Its not nice isit cause you just wanna orgasm through oral cause it's different orgasms compared what I have with sex
To be honest its getting to me a bit. I felt like I was the only one lol.
I've got no real health issues.. no major stress.. no operations so every answer Google has come up with i don't fit the catagorys lol."
I lost my ability to orgasm after childbirth. It sometimes happens, but rarely and it takes time and intimacy, which obviously is not always the case with fab meets. |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
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One of my ex's thought he was an oral god and he was ok, but when he got me from above he was SO much better.....
Meaning me lay on my back and him licking top to bottom (as in licking towards my ass) - maybe worth a try?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am exactly the same. It's driving me crazy. Husband has had no problems over the years making me climax through oral.. but last 2 years I just can't do it. No matter who tries. I have to use a toy which is ok but still not the desired ending I wanted
Its not nice isit cause you just wanna orgasm through oral cause it's different orgasms compared what I have with sex
To be honest its getting to me a bit. I felt like I was the only one lol.
I've got no real health issues.. no major stress.. no operations so every answer Google has come up with i don't fit the catagorys lol.
Inbox me hun if you wanna talk about it cause im the same I've booked a doctors appointment I have "
Hey tried to pm but outside your range xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Aside from any physical issues someone has clit-wise, the majority of straight men are plain awful at oral. So bad I usually told them not to bother after a whike or made them attend elsewhere.
I was a dyke for about 23 years and it's not even slightly comparable. I've had a lot of men since and only one was good. I do try and give advice to all now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Try adjusting your breathing technique, plenty of videos online. If you stop the diaphragm from tensing by taking slow deep breaths and resist the urge to bear down to force the orgasm then all should be good, but it can take a little practice as both sexes tend to hold our breaths as we are on the edge of orgasm. |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
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Hmmmm maybe your over thinking it to much, the minds a powerful tool, perhaps try and use it by playing out something in your mind that really arouses you while you are receiving oral stimulation and not think too much about it, just let it come naturally while your thinking naughty thoughts. Agree not all people have the ability to give a clit orgasm but I’m sure if it was something you did in the past it is there to happen again, good luck |
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By *ubo1980Couple
over a year ago
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The mind plays a huge part, I’ve had 3 kids and always felt embarrassed and awkward when my husband tried to give oral, as I’d had a tear and it no longer looked the same, so much that I preferred he didn’t and definitely couldn’t orgasim with it. Now I’ve embraced my slightly different looking labia and am back enjoying oral and do come on most occasions. I also agree about having an emotional connection to the person as well. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ive only had one girl ever make me cum during oral, she could and did everytime but non others have ever managed.
None have ever done it for me and I don't think it's possible for some men to cum with only oral.
I guess it's the same for women but we love to try lol"
Deep throating is a major turn off for me most girls ive had give pornstar spec bjs including my o/h, unfortunately it does nothing for me.
The girl that made me cum everytime did it with head play... kissing it breathing on it light licks, absolutely blew everytime.
I love giving oral but Ive found every girl different in respect to technique.... its not one technique fits all by any means. When i watch porn it always amuses me how terrible pornstar blokes are at giving oral, woman pornstars however do have a realistic technique... most of the time |
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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago
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I never did til I met my husband. I can't cum any other way though, I have on a very rare occasion. But it hasn't happened since. But I can cum in my sleep with no touching atall. I'm a strange one haha |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
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"I posted similar to this and have it on my profile but the only responses I had were scathing, insinuating I was just a chancer wanting a BJ. "
Missed your post sorry or I’m sure I would have said something nice and positive |
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"I posted similar to this and have it on my profile but the only responses I had were scathing, insinuating I was just a chancer wanting a BJ.
Missed your post sorry or I’m sure I would have said something nice and positive "
Thank you for your reply this time anyway  |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
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"I posted similar to this and have it on my profile but the only responses I had were scathing, insinuating I was just a chancer wanting a BJ.
Missed your post sorry or I’m sure I would have said something nice and positive
Thank you for your reply this time anyway "
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"Only 2 guys have ever made me cum that way. Not even my ex husband did. Not that he really did in anyway. Funny, I never really enjoyed sex at all until I got divorced. Had sort of "sexual awakening " so to speak lol"
Me too, me an my ex husband were celebate for 10 years. He left me and i found i actually enjoy sex. Oh and i have never had an orgasm through oral either. I actually find it quite boring whilst they try!  |
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You will no doubt get a lot of messages from men, all offering to help... if I can offer my experiences when I have made women cum through oral, not all but most, it’s been about the build up, tension, exploration and touching and kissing other parts of the body. It reminds me of the monty python meaning of life sketch... a lot to be learned there. Obviously I’m going to throw my hat in the ring and say very happy to help. I love giving |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You will no doubt get a lot of messages from men, all offering to help... if I can offer my experiences when I have made women cum through oral, not all but most, it’s been about the build up, tension, exploration and touching and kissing other parts of the body. It reminds me of the monty python meaning of life sketch... a lot to be learned there. Obviously I’m going to throw my hat in the ring and say very happy to help. I love giving "
No thanks your not the age I'm looking for |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Only 2 guys have ever made me cum that way. Not even my ex husband did. Not that he really did in anyway. Funny, I never really enjoyed sex at all until I got divorced. Had sort of "sexual awakening " so to speak lol
Me too, me an my ex husband were celebate for 10 years. He left me and i found i actually enjoy sex. Oh and i have never had an orgasm through oral either. I actually find it quite boring whilst they try! "
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
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"With the popularity of wands being so high, they over time can also desensitize. A friend had to forgo using hers for a while before real sensation returned and she enjoyed oral as much as before."
Heard this also, I only tried the wand once, it was far to intense for me much prefer the good old tongue and fingers to work their magic |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not just ladies that have this issue. I love oral but I can count on both hands the number of times I have cum through oral. It doesn't send me over the edge but boy do I like it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Amen! I have never ever cum from oral in my life! Dont get me wrong, I love having a blow job as much as the next man but I have never cum from one
Sparxy "
But that tends to be more common with men ? Alot easier for women to cum through oral meaning women can cum multiple times in a row |
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