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One of my FB’s has agreed to let me peg him - a first for us both.
I have no idea where to get a strap on, what I’m looking for?
Also, any tips on the act itself would be great, he’s a bit nervous.
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Hi, I've tried a few, but happy now with a leather harness for play. Any that have elastic etc, you need something that is responsive to your moves, and not the delayed reaction you'd get with elastic.
Get a harness with a cock ring that will take various sizes of strap on dildo.
Tried many, but still prefer my Tantus anal dildo. Possibly a bit more expensive but lovely feel. Might want to practice with BF for him to gently feel it and get used to it.
Lube - Super Silk off Amazon. Good lube and also tastes ok. |
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I was pegged for the first time the other day, the strapon we have has a leather harness and 3 sizes of dildo. We have only used the smallest one for now, but it felt great. |
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"Hi, I've tried a few, but happy now with a leather harness for play. Any that have elastic etc, you need something that is responsive to your moves, and not the delayed reaction you'd get with elastic.
Get a harness with a cock ring that will take various sizes of strap on dildo.
Tried many, but still prefer my Tantus anal dildo. Possibly a bit more expensive but lovely feel. Might want to practice with BF for him to gently feel it and get used to it.
Lube - Super Silk off Amazon. Good lube and also tastes ok."
Excellent! Thankyou so much  |
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"I was pegged for the first time the other day, the strapon we have has a leather harness and 3 sizes of dildo. We have only used the smallest one for now, but it felt great."
Any advice for my FB? He’s a nervous one |
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"Take your time.
My first pegging experience was a hard plastic dildo strapon, she’s wasn’t kind and it kinda ruined it for me.
The softer rubber ones are more forgiving. "
I’m thinking quite small and rubber |
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"I was pegged for the first time the other day, the strapon we have has a leather harness and 3 sizes of dildo. We have only used the smallest one for now, but it felt great.
Any advice for my FB? He’s a nervous one "
Plenty of lube and get him on all fours, get him to slide back and fourth to control the pace |
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"I was pegged for the first time the other day, the strapon we have has a leather harness and 3 sizes of dildo. We have only used the smallest one for now, but it felt great.
Any advice for my FB? He’s a nervous one
Plenty of lube and get him on all fours, get him to slide back and fourth to control the pace"
Great, thanks |
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Trust me, once he gets used to it. You won’t be fucking him, he’ll be fucking you. Pushing back, getting it deep and making sure he gets a good pounding. It is an amazing feeling.
I’m quite envious.
Shall have to reacquaint myself with one of my male friends or friends plural. |
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"This is one thing I never think ill do/have the chance for. I dont really want to do it but at the same time if it feels as good as everyone says you gotta have a go lol "
Got to try everything twice  |
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"This is one thing I never think ill do/have the chance for. I dont really want to do it but at the same time if it feels as good as everyone says you gotta have a go lol
Got to try everything twice "
If its with you id try it alot more that that! |
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"This is one thing I never think ill do/have the chance for. I dont really want to do it but at the same time if it feels as good as everyone says you gotta have a go lol
Got to try everything twice
If its with you id try it alot more that that!"
Haha thanks |
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"lube, lube, lube and take it slow
It must be tempting to hammer it. I’ll need some restraint here I think "
Just don’t. Go slow, real slow until you both get the hang of it. It’s the most dirty, sexy, filthy fun thing to do when done correct. Don’t rush or you’ll ruin it for both of you |
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My wife and I use a Doc Johnson with different attachments.. its trial and error.. with size and positions but hey thats half the fun hihi.. take it slow and easy.. |
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I’ve a dozen cocks and years of experience I’d recommend going to a sex shop and get fitted for a harness and go for a small soft dildo about 4-5 inches for first timers and also a medium 5-6 inches to up a size if it goes well
Loads of anal play, plugs plus fingers and I like to use an inflatable dildo and inflatable plug a load of lube of course, I use pjur back door lube, you don’t need to keep re applying it as much as others as it doesn’t dry out
Start to get the feeling by just humping him without the strapon till he is begging for it then attach and enjoy, let him hold your hips so he can stop you if it feels sore but if you do loads of play before it will not hurt if it’s small then you can go up a size, just find your own style and enjoy |
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"I’ve a dozen cocks and years of experience I’d recommend going to a sex shop and get fitted for a harness and go for a small soft dildo about 4-5 inches for first timers and also a medium 5-6 inches to up a size if it goes well
Loads of anal play, plugs plus fingers and I like to use an inflatable dildo and inflatable plug a load of lube of course, I use pjur back door lube, you don’t need to keep re applying it as much as others as it doesn’t dry out
Start to get the feeling by just humping him without the strapon till he is begging for it then attach and enjoy, let him hold your hips so he can stop you if it feels sore but if you do loads of play before it will not hurt if it’s small then you can go up a size, just find your own style and enjoy "
Wow, thanks. Great advice |
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"My wife and I use a Doc Johnson with different attachments.. its trial and error.. with size and positions but hey thats half the fun hihi.. take it slow and easy.. "
I’ll have a look at that, thanks |
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"lube, lube, lube and take it slow
It must be tempting to hammer it. I’ll need some restraint here I think
Just don’t. Go slow, real slow until you both get the hang of it. It’s the most dirty, sexy, filthy fun thing to do when done correct. Don’t rush or you’ll ruin it for both of you "
I’ll be gentle  |
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Most lubed are water based so dry out quickly so keep replenishing, start with fingers it’s surprising how many slip in once you’re getting into it then slip on the harness, name calling is always good at this stage |
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I adore pegging and have plenty of experience of giving. So.... apart from all the other excellent advice given already, I would suggest that for the first time they straddle you. This allows them to lower themselves into your well lubed dildo at there own pace. Also a huge turn on as you can look at each other.
You’ll be surprised and delighted as to how soon they will be riding you wildly.
Very, very hot scenario!
Miss V x |
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We have tried this and we probably both need a bit more practice but we had such a laugh together trying something new. If it doesn't go to plan it really doesn't matter as there's always next time. Just include fun in the play.
Hope you both enjoy
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Some prefer to be on all fours, others on their backs.
If you use a G-spot dildo or prostate massager shaped variant then on his back is best.
That way you can be hitting his prostate & give him mind blowing prostate orgasms. |
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Cleanliness is the most important thing by far but something a lot of people don't talk about or just skirt over. There are some good guides out there on how to clean yourself with a douche make sure he is squeeky clean!
As for the act itself it can take a while for him to get used to it so make sure you're slow and gentle at first and you can build on it from there. Doggy will be the easiest position for you but i think missionary is more comfortable to be on the receiving end of |
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Go very very gently in! Use a small size strap on and LOTS of lube on both the bottom and the toy itself. Just think of how you'd like it yourself and go from there. I live watching my boy's face when I do it OMG he loves it!! I rub some lube on my boobs and I let him rub his cock on them whilst I work on him...naughty but niiice x
Best of luck x |
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"Guys who have been pegged. Is it as good as they say? Im gettin curious now haha"
Yep! Any kind of anal play for men is good. Prostate play is insane if you get it right |
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"Guys who have been pegged. Is it as good as they say? Im gettin curious now haha
Yep! Any kind of anal play for men is good. Prostate play is insane if you get it right "
See ive tried it myself with a finger but just felt uncomfortable and not good at all lol must just not be able to reach |
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"Go very very gently in! Use a small size strap on and LOTS of lube on both the bottom and the toy itself. Just think of how you'd like it yourself and go from there. I live watching my boy's face when I do it OMG he loves it!! I rub some lube on my boobs and I let him rub his cock on them whilst I work on him...naughty but niiice x
Best of luck x"
Mmmm lovely when I use a flexible one and the guys got a big cock I like to suck and fuck simultaneously |
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"Go very very gently in! Use a small size strap on and LOTS of lube on both the bottom and the toy itself. Just think of how you'd like it yourself and go from there. I live watching my boy's face when I do it OMG he loves it!! I rub some lube on my boobs and I let him rub his cock on them whilst I work on him...naughty but niiice x
Best of luck x
Mmmm lovely when I use a flexible one and the guys got a big cock I like to suck and fuck simultaneously "
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"Guys who have been pegged. Is it as good as they say? Im gettin curious now haha
Yep! Any kind of anal play for men is good. Prostate play is insane if you get it right
See ive tried it myself with a finger but just felt uncomfortable and not good at all lol must just not be able to reach "
Why don’t you get a suction bottomed dido and stick it to the tiles over your shower or bath? Lube it up and away you go! 
Miss V x |
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over a year ago
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If I was giving someone their first strap-on fuck, I would like them to lay on the sofa, legs akimbo whilst I fucked them kneeling in front of them. I would be able to read their face to see what i needed to do. It is really important for him to be totally relaxed and that is sometimes hard in doggy but may be easier lying on his back.
Plugs beforehand can be useful. Loads of lube. Go slow.
I have a leather harness, purchased in Amsterdam and agree with the lady who said that elastic ones are not responsive enough - it is impossible to get a good thrusting action with elastic. Having a ring to attach the dildos allows you to have lots of sizes. |
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The main concern in his mind is will it hurt and will there be any mess.
Discomfort maybe, but shouldn't hurt, mess, I always advise, no junk food 12-24 hours beforehand. Had Weetabix or bran for breakfast. Go to the loo approximately an hour before your session and wash thoroughly. No real reason to douche.
As for the 'act', go slow. Try just to insert the toy, let him lie on his side and let him insert. Hold it, but no need to push it in, deep, steady breathing and let the muscles relax and contract, and the muscles will take it in. |
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Firstly, he should douche beforehand. A bulb douche will do the job if he washes 5 or so times.
Then, start with fingering, get him used to the feeling of you moving in and out of him.
In terms of strapons, we use a harness and different size dildos, which works great.
Start with him on all fours and use lots of lube, position the dildo right and let him back onto you. There will be a point where it is stretching him which might hurt. Let him hold steady there for as long as he can, then if it's too much pull out and let him curl up and recover (poor thing ).
Don't see this as failure! Early on this was necessary for us every time. It took a lot of tries before we didn't need to do this. When he's back up for a second shot you'll find it suddenly much easier because he is now stretched and relaxed.
Once you're all the way in, pound him til he can't breathe  |
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"Go very very gently in! Use a small size strap on and LOTS of lube on both the bottom and the toy itself. Just think of how you'd like it yourself and go from there. I live watching my boy's face when I do it OMG he loves it!! I rub some lube on my boobs and I let him rub his cock on them whilst I work on him...naughty but niiice x
Best of luck x
Mmmm lovely when I use a flexible one and the guys got a big cock I like to suck and fuck simultaneously "
Oh you're my kind of girl! Love it mmm x |
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"Is pegging when you stick pegs on someone? Is this a dumb question?"
Your profile states you’re into anal. Can you seriously not get the gist of what pegging is from the conversation thread on here?
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"Firstly, he should douche beforehand. A bulb douche will do the job if he washes 5 or so times.
Then, start with fingering, get him used to the feeling of you moving in and out of him.
In terms of strapons, we use a harness and different size dildos, which works great.
Start with him on all fours and use lots of lube, position the dildo right and let him back onto you. There will be a point where it is stretching him which might hurt. Let him hold steady there for as long as he can, then if it's too much pull out and let him curl up and recover (poor thing ).
Don't see this as failure! Early on this was necessary for us every time. It took a lot of tries before we didn't need to do this. When he's back up for a second shot you'll find it suddenly much easier because he is now stretched and relaxed.
Once you're all the way in, pound him til he can't breathe "
Exactly this |
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"Firstly, he should douche beforehand. A bulb douche will do the job if he washes 5 or so times.
Then, start with fingering, get him used to the feeling of you moving in and out of him.
In terms of strapons, we use a harness and different size dildos, which works great.
Start with him on all fours and use lots of lube, position the dildo right and let him back onto you. There will be a point where it is stretching him which might hurt. Let him hold steady there for as long as he can, then if it's too much pull out and let him curl up and recover (poor thing ).
Don't see this as failure! Early on this was necessary for us every time. It took a lot of tries before we didn't need to do this. When he's back up for a second shot you'll find it suddenly much easier because he is now stretched and relaxed.
Once you're all the way in, pound him til he can't breathe "
I can’t wait to pound him!!! |
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"Is pegging when you stick pegs on someone? Is this a dumb question?
Your profile states you’re into anal. Can you seriously not get the gist of what pegging is from the conversation thread on here?
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Only glanced through the thread - ended up just googling it. Thanks for the (unhelpful) response  |
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"One of my FB’s has agreed to let me peg him - a first for us both.
I have no idea where to get a strap on, what I’m looking for?
Also, any tips on the act itself would be great, he’s a bit nervous.
Thanks "
We got a couple of kits off lovehoney. They even vibrate to help please us both.
Start small work up, lube we found best way start with a toy in bum and blowjob helps relax him as you lube him. Then missionary is easy first couple times also you always hit the p spot on him and it should rub your clit with the vibration. Xx good luck we both love it. |
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"One of my FB’s has agreed to let me peg him - a first for us both.
I have no idea where to get a strap on, what I’m looking for?
Also, any tips on the act itself would be great, he’s a bit nervous.
Thanks "
I hope he remembers to douche first  |
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"One of my FB’s has agreed to let me peg him - a first for us both.
I have no idea where to get a strap on, what I’m looking for?
Also, any tips on the act itself would be great, he’s a bit nervous.
Thanks "
Fucking he’ll what a lucky guy getting fuck with a strap on and then super bonus by you sexy minx lol |
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communication between you during
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as a guy who has had this done this a few times now.
small toys and work up, we specificlly bought 3 different size plugs to work upto, then we had a strap on pants with cock ring (all of these can be bought from lovehoney + there is 15% discount off the using the referral at bottom of site)
take it slow use lots of lube and keep checking comfort level / more lube required... once he's comfy he would probably ask you to speed up,
keep an eye out for blood this could be through a small tear in the anus, it can be easily done
after have a warm bath and unscented body wash to clean and relax muscles, and if you cause some hemoroids a good cream is analsol its pretty good for helping the disconfort / healing process |
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Pegging is amazing!
Don't get plastic though we got ours from love hunny and it was awful the straps are shit! Buy a good leather one! I started small now we use big ones and it is great!
Big poop before play plenty lube and let him ease it in! Tell him to play alone first to get used to it!
DO NOT GET A STRAPLESS ONE ITS SHIT!!!!!
I'm not gay in anyway but do now play with shemales for the real feel!
you will both love it my girl cums whilst doing it x |
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"One of my FB’s has agreed to let me peg him - a first for us both.
I have no idea where to get a strap on, what I’m looking for?
Also, any tips on the act itself would be great, he’s a bit nervous.
Thanks "
Loads and loads of lube...when you think there's too much..put some more on and IN his man pussy.
He's a very lucky boy! |
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Mmmm lovely when I use a flexible one and the guys got a big cock I like to suck and fuck simultaneously "
That sounds mind blowing...I much need this doing to me now!! |
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"I adore pegging and have plenty of experience of giving. So.... apart from all the other excellent advice given already, I would suggest that for the first time they straddle you. This allows them to lower themselves into your well lubed dildo at there own pace. Also a huge turn on as you can look at each other.
You’ll be surprised and delighted as to how soon they will be riding you wildly.
Very, very hot scenario!
Miss V x"
That sounds amazing miss v |
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I don't know how guys can do this!
After a couple of attempts Daisy was able to have her finger in my ass, it was horrible going in + took ages with playing + sucking. Coming out after had horrible too I felt like I was taking a crap. Yes mind blowing orgasm when she hit my prostate though.
Tried again I just couldn't do it. We then bought the thinnest prostate massager we could find + tried about 4 times but I couldn't take it more than about an inch or so!
Yes plenty of lube + play around the area, lots of rimming (which I love) but I just couldn't take it at all |
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"I don't know how guys can do this!
After a couple of attempts Daisy was able to have her finger in my ass, it was horrible going in + took ages with playing + sucking. Coming out after had horrible too I felt like I was taking a crap. Yes mind blowing orgasm when she hit my prostate though.
Tried again I just couldn't do it. We then bought the thinnest prostate massager we could find + tried about 4 times but I couldn't take it more than about an inch or so!
Yes plenty of lube + play around the area, lots of rimming (which I love) but I just couldn't take it at all "
Sorry that is with just a finger or thin prostate massager. No type of strap on or anything hardcore like that!
I don't know how guys can do it  |
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