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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
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I know a number of subs that have swapped to being dommes. It is all about finding out about yourself.
In the same way that there are many different ways of being a dom, there are different ways of being a domme. It is a question of what you want a sub to bring to the table.
There are a number of good dommes on Fab, and subs, I am sure they will add their advice.
Don't be put off by people who say you have to be born a dominant.
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I know a number of subs that have swapped to being dommes. It is all about finding out about yourself.
In the same way that there are many different ways of being a dom, there are different ways of being a domme. It is a question of what you want a sub to bring to the table.
There are a number of good dommes on Fab, and subs, I am sure they will add their advice.
Don't be put off by people who say you have to be born a dominant.
Good luck"
I would say I'm a dominant person in life but not the bedroom so I guess it finding the right guy will let me do it |
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"I've always been a sub but would like to try being a domme , so any advice would be great "
Try small, find a sub, do a social, ask what they like pick from it what you like the sound of. Sensory play is a nice gentle start. It's so much fun btw 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've always been a sub but would like to try being a domme , so any advice would be great
Try small, find a sub, do a social, ask what they like pick from it what you like the sound of. Sensory play is a nice gentle start. It's so much fun btw
Happy to answers q's "
I love sensory play so yeah that be a great way to start I think I could find my voice very quickly it's just finding the right guy guess |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I can be domme and a very good one but the point is I don't get the excitement and pleasure as being submissive. So maybe see how it works for you "
Well I've kinda told a few guys what to do and it felt amazing but very different telling someone what to do than being a domme |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
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Do watchout for subs that try to top you from the bottom. Although, it is a matter (in my view) of mutual pleasure, there are some that are purely thinking of what they want and do try to control scenes or the relationship. Remember they are being interviewed by you as much as you are being interviewed by them.
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By (user no longer on site)
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As most have said its just about finding someone you're comfortable with and they know to take it slow and not 'control'.
Willing volunteer if you struggle to find one |
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"As most have said its just about finding someone you're comfortable with and they know to take it slow and not 'control'.
Willing volunteer if you struggle to find one "
Thanks for the offer but not my type |
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Advice i can give from experience i had with an ex, who was new to being dominant but wanted to try.
We compared interests, came up with a scene (as the sub i was primarily leading at this point, but focused on what she wanted to try). We created a scene for each of the early meets.
The first meet, she was very nervous, but we stuck to the scene, and tried each thing. She said, her confidence exploded when we got to pegging (but each will be different) and after that she naturally started to take charge.
Move on a few scenes, shes deciding what they will be, how things will go and i'm putty in her hands as her little sub. Now very much her leading.
i guess the moral of the story, try what you want to try, not just the sub's interests. Build your confidence with someone you can trust. Then set your inner domme free and have great fun doing what you enjoy doing with a sub who wants to play with you.
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