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Couples with family quandary...
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I’m wondering “out loud” in a kind of rambly way...
Those couples out there with younger families or limited / no baby sitters (or both!)...
What do you do when it comes to thinking about your swinging life?
Do you ever consider *having* to swing apart to allow your swinger itches to be scratched?
Or do you sit on your hands, and merely live for the moment when you can swing as a couple, resolutely playing only together?
And if it’s swinging apart, how do you address the inevitable imbalance of the fact that a woman would get 1000 messages to a normal guys single message?
Just, curious... as indeed, a swinging itch isn’t getting scratched, but wondering, is playing apart inevitable, but what does one do about both the imbalance and the jealousy / fomo aspect of things...
J |
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over a year ago
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Speaking for ourselves, swinging doesn’t define us, it’s not something we have to do, nor does it consume us.
It’s something we enjoy doing as and when opportunity arises, like going to the cinema, a dinner date etc, which, with a young family is rare, but that’s fine. |
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We mostly swing together, and both prefer it.
We're pretty lucky in both grandparents will help out with babysitting so childcare arrangements can be done fairly easily.
We also have a couple we're very good friends with who we see pretty regularly, so our swinging 'itch' is pretty much taken care of.
When I meet solo I only do so when stacks already has plans of his own, so he's not winding himself up thinking about what I'm doing. He doesn't get jealous as such from the guys I'm meeting, more that he's not involved. But every now and then, as much as I enjoy group play, I want one on one time where I have no distractions.
He gets this and I don't take the piss. I haven't done a solo meet since last September and after the one I have planned probably won't do another one for a long time again.
He also has complete permission to play solo should the opportunity come up and he has done so plenty to times in clubs.
Swinging for us is our adult time and something we do for fun together when we're fortunate enough to be child free for an evening. Some people go to pubs, clubs etc we have sex recreationaly. |
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We have a young family and don't have any other people to look after our child other than us, we just have to adapt our meet times accordingly and make the most when an opportunity arrives. We never let "The lifestyle" hamper our family time. We never play solo as sex is alway something we enjoy together, even more so with another person or two. x |
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"I’m wondering “out loud” in a kind of rambly way...
Those couples out there with younger families or limited / no baby sitters (or both!)...
What do you do when it comes to thinking about your swinging life?
Do you ever consider *having* to swing apart to allow your swinger itches to be scratched?
Or do you sit on your hands, and merely live for the moment when you can swing as a couple, resolutely playing only together?
And if it’s swinging apart, how do you address the inevitable imbalance of the fact that a woman would get 1000 messages to a normal guys single message?
Just, curious... as indeed, a swinging itch isn’t getting scratched, but wondering, is playing apart inevitable, but what does one do about both the imbalance and the jealousy / fomo aspect of things...
J"
We don't swing separately, always together only. We do it during the day when kids are at school. Works well for us.
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We are a family first and foremost. We have lost touch with couples due to our schedules not matching up and we have missed some great nights out. But in the words of the venerable David Attenborough "who gives a f*ck" apparently he was talking about sea turtles at the time but i believe the quote fits.. |
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"I’m wondering “out loud” in a kind of rambly way...
Those couples out there with younger families or limited / no baby sitters (or both!)...
What do you do when it comes to thinking about your swinging life?
Do you ever consider *having* to swing apart to allow your swinger itches to be scratched?
Or do you sit on your hands, and merely live for the moment when you can swing as a couple, resolutely playing only together?
And if it’s swinging apart, how do you address the inevitable imbalance of the fact that a woman would get 1000 messages to a normal guys single message?
Just, curious... as indeed, a swinging itch isn’t getting scratched, but wondering, is playing apart inevitable, but what does one do about both the imbalance and the jealousy / fomo aspect of things...
J"
We don't have family issues, more issues around busy schedules but always swing together. However, don't let the perceived imbalance fool you as Paul has been on the scene for many years and could easily play with his many "friends" every day of the week if he chose to. |
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Me and my partner are single working parents and have seperate households. Between us we have a lot of kids. Mine are in nursery and primary school so require more supervision, hers are older. It is massively difficult to get any free time alone together, never mind swing. With work and that Im only kid free 2 weekends a month (which I'm often working anyway) and sometimes in the school holidays. We either have to arrange things long in advance or be take advantage of last minute oppertunities. Luckily I have family who are great and do help with my kids. But we do what we can. We make it work and have some adventures. |
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"I’m wondering “out loud” in a kind of rambly way...
Those couples out there with younger families or limited / no baby sitters (or both!)...
What do you do when it comes to thinking about your swinging life?
Do you ever consider *having* to swing apart to allow your swinger itches to be scratched?
Or do you sit on your hands, and merely live for the moment when you can swing as a couple, resolutely playing only together?
And if it’s swinging apart, how do you address the inevitable imbalance of the fact that a woman would get 1000 messages to a normal guys single message?
Just, curious... as indeed, a swinging itch isn’t getting scratched, but wondering, is playing apart inevitable, but what does one do about both the imbalance and the jealousy / fomo aspect of things...
J"
Being a single dad I know all to well what you mean , I just basically suffer with out adult fun because I have no choice lol |
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Bloody difficult for us to meet at the weekend as we have kids ever weekend (my kids one weekend and his the next) plus we both work every weekend (we live and work together) so that balance is sorted but doing any kind of meet at the weekend takes lots of planning and weekday meets are hard as we work 16 hour days most of the week apart from two, so that’s our window so trying to find someone to fit in with that is hard. As we both manage where we work if someone can’t cover we have to do those too  |
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We are quite lucky as my daughter goes to her mums every other weekend And wednesdays she has a sleep over at my mums. So although we have to be organised we are available sometimes. |
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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago
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For us, swinging is just the cherry on top. It doesn't define us. It's just fun. I don't think we will ever swing apart because thats just not what we are into. We are lucky that we can get pretty regular sitters to accommodate what we do. But if we didn't, we would just wait until we could. Swinging separately just isn't an option or that important |
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"For us, swinging is just the cherry on top. It doesn't define us. It's just fun. I don't think we will ever swing apart because thats just not what we are into. We are lucky that we can get pretty regular sitters to accommodate what we do. But if we didn't, we would just wait until we could. Swinging separately just isn't an option or that important "
100%  we only swing together although em gets lots of offers. She would never meet someone without me and i wouldnt dare me someone without her |
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"Speaking for ourselves, swinging doesn’t define us, it’s not something we have to do, nor does it consume us.
It’s something we enjoy doing as and when opportunity arises, like going to the cinema, a dinner date etc, which, with a young family is rare, but that’s fine. "
The perfect answer. |
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Family is most important, our kink is swinging as a couple and meeting and playing with others. We have missed out on so many party nights, but enjoyed many more Saturday’s with our children, and we know in the end which we will look back on with most fondness.
If we are really keen on a couple... book a day off work for filthy day time meets |
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It doesn’t just have to be those with younger families, we have a couple of late teens at home and getting time to visit a club or go on meets is very limited especially if we don’t want 101 questions,, lol
And like others have said swinging is not the be all and end all for us, if we get the chance to get out and play we take it but only as a couple never separately, |
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We find it hard having 4 kids to find the time to fit swinging in but we also like the camming side so that scratches an itch we do have a bloke local to us who we meet now and again when we have time and we would never do it alone we came into this together so if we cant do it together then we just dont do it |
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