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Friend with Benefits part II

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By *hubaysi OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

As the last one got so big, starting part II.

I’m still needing advice etc on this.

How hard was it to find one?

How did you find one?

Are you exclusive?

Bhubaysi x

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By *ngelfireWoman over a year ago

Birmingham

I found mine through here, another site for people with alternative interests , Tinder, Bumble.

Not hard to find if you’re upfront about what you both want. Harder to find someone who ticks all the friend boxes as well as the benefits. Personality, intellect, interests, passion for life, and things we enjoy talking about.

I can’t be exclusive with a fwb , if I did I would end up feeling jealousy I think and developing feelings, the bonding hormones you get from amazing sex can be powerful stuff!

I’m a hopeless romantic at heart though, if I ever meet the one I wouldn’t want anyone else and wouldn’t see Fwb any more .

Good luck! X

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By *viatrixWoman over a year ago

Redhill

I have found 2 who fit the bill somewhat. We get on exceptionally well and the sex is amazing.

What drives me absolutely bonkers from both of them is that their keeping in touch between meets (which are quite sporadic, once a month with one and the other one a little more often than that but still not enough for me) is minimal- a message every week or so just to say hello and two or three messages exchanged until they go quiet again. Until they want to meet. Then we meet, spend an amazing morning talking, giggling and doing other things

but I’d really like to be in touch more often. So for this reason I can’t say that they are FWB and I am not willing to go exclusive with either of them.

I would happily be exclusive with a fwb if they kept in touch frequently and if we met once a week or so.

So my search hasn’t ended.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I ended up having a few fwb’s, one from here and A few from dating sites. I didn’t look for that but we had dates and realised that a future wouldn’t be possible as they wanted kids and I don’t. We still enjoyed each other’s company and the friendship we had. We also liked the sex. I would say the friendship side was more important as I’m still friends with a couple but no longer have sex. I don’t think it’s easy to look for as that’s more of a fb thing. A fwb usually just happens for whatever reason.

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By *aven RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

Still looking. Not found one yet. Everytime I think I have it turns out we're not on the same page. One of us wants more than the other x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm always wanted to find the right women for fun times.if any woman interested please get in touch.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I met my fwb of 6 months on this site. Took a few months to find him but it was worth the wait. Weirdly, we dont have much in common and i imagine we would look odd to others as I'm short and curvy and he's tall and athletic. But the sexual chemistry is amazing. We message each other everyday and meet up once or twice a week. We both know it won't last forever so we're enjoying it while we can.

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By *llNatural36FWoman over a year ago

Denbighshire

I've been meeting my fwb for about 3-4 years and it's great. We met on here and have a good laugh so it's nice we get on so well. I wasn't looking for a fwb but I'm happy keeping him on demand

we have a very good understanding

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By *ertsguy2000Man over a year ago

hertford

Still not found one, but have everything crossed that miracles really can happen....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Observing

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By *lan157Man over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

"Still looking. Not found one yet. Everytime I think I have it turns out we're not on the same page. One of us wants more than the other x"

There is am inevitability about that so to make it work the one wanting less has to " manage the expectations " of the other. It's not easy to do or to be on the receiving end but once you have a rhythm for meeting and the mix of social/play that works for you both it is rewarding.

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By *lknhungMan over a year ago

Luton

I’m looking for one in north London if you’re out there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Still looking for one in the Bucks area...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As the last one got so big, starting part II.

I’m still needing advice etc on this.

How hard was it to find one?

How did you find one?

Are you exclusive?

Bhubaysi x"

Personally took me 4 years to find the right one and he’s pretty perfect

We meet here just over a year ago, and not meet 121 but also meet couples and regularly go to daytime club events.

I’d like us to be exclusive for 121 meets but also I love sharing him with other people if I’m present.

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By *ertsguy2000Man over a year ago

hertford

It seems that the south east, surprisingly including london, is very vanilla. I look through the people who post in the forums and apart from the West Country all the action seems to be from Northampton northwards, which despite my willingness to travel for the right person, is very frustrating.

Either that or I’m just too old, too far, and too fugly....which of course I know is more the case. D

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Still not looking.

I've more chance of finding a golden unicorn at the end of the rainbow that farts gold dust....

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By *illing to please46Man over a year ago

Nottingham

I’m after one in Nottingham

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By *hatsthisMan over a year ago

Newcastle

A fwb who happened to be Dominant would be just perfect ..in my dreams

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m after a fwb in and around Rochdale

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've stopped looking....do you hear me universe? I've STOPPED LOOKING!

Goes outside to wait for fwbs to fall from the sky.

That's how this works isn't it?

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By *ertsguy2000Man over a year ago

hertford

"I've stopped looking....do you hear me universe? I've STOPPED LOOKING!

Goes outside to wait for fwbs to fall from the sky.

That's how this works isn't it?

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman over a year ago

Victoria, London

Anyone who says they are high maintenance is an immediate red flag, in terms of money I'd have to splash out and potential drama.

Not looking to shag myself around the site, but 5 veris this year already? really?! as a bloke I'd be confused.com

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By *hewifeandiCouple over a year ago

Bristol

"I've stopped looking....do you hear me universe? I've STOPPED LOOKING!

Goes outside to wait for fwbs to fall from the sky.

That's how this works isn't it?

I like that

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By *hatsthisMan over a year ago

Newcastle

"I've stopped looking....do you hear me universe? I've STOPPED LOOKING!

Goes outside to wait for fwbs to fall from the sky.

That's how this works isn't it?

If you cant find one , what chance rest of us Miss

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hi op, was going to say put what you want on your profile, you have done that. The one thing in terms of constructive feedback, is you say you are very high maintenance in the first line of your profile.

Meeting socially, helps. Most men would prefer a regular fuck buddy, so I am sure you will find some one, good luck op

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've stopped looking....do you hear me universe? I've STOPPED LOOKING!

Goes outside to wait for fwbs to fall from the sky.

That's how this works isn't it?

If it was that simple, I'd be a lot slimmer and able to teleport to Yorkshire.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I actually stumbled across my ex fwb on a well known social network. She poked me, I poked her back, she sent a FR, chatted, we hit it off and it went from there for 5 years. It seems to happen when you least expect it. I wasn't even looking for one at the time.

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By *inkysexpotMan over a year ago

leeds

Not found one as of yet but as and when I do find one if exclusive comes up and we both agree I can't see it being an issue

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not found one as of yet but as and when I do find one if exclusive comes up and we both agree I can't see it being an issue"

Nice ink you got there fella.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Seems to be an impossible wish here I’m afraid! not much choice and lots of competition but still hopeful in Dorset

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For some us, the luxury of a regular FWB likes to play very elusive, may we all prosper and find our sexual match

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By *herrySnickersWoman over a year ago

Somewhere

I found one here... I wasn’t even looking... wasn’t even sure what I was looking for...he’s dominant and bloody perfect. I have another half....who loves my/our situation.... and we are exclusive in the fact we don’t see any others... I wasn’t so sure about being exclusive however it’s working...maybe we will open things up and play together with others now we have built some trust...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My wife has a fwb that she goes to stay with every month or so. Didn’t find each other on Fab, it was a disagreement with Marmite that started it on another forum, nothing to do with swinging or meeting for sex

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't know about finding one, but poor Charlie would like to know how to get rid of one. Every time he tries to leave, I fling myself at his feet and cling to his ankles...until he relents and stays xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd been looking for one for a while with no luck on here so gave up on the idea until I found a fab Kik group which I joined just for banter. Got on really well with a nice young lady and we met for a coffee....2 days later we met again to play...best sex ever

we just click on every level the rest is history. We talk everyday and meet regularly socially as well as sexually.

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By *usty_MinxWoman over a year ago

Stockport

I’m also struggling to find someone OP. I’m very particular over time I’ve become even more so. Plus I’ve moved around a lot, Manchester has been by far the hardest place to find one.

I’ve had them in the past bit very few have lasted even as friends. I find things always get complicated. I also feel like men often struggle more to keep the emotions separate or at a minimum become protective/jealous. I’ve had many message saying ‘sorry I just like you too much’

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By *andy_tomMan over a year ago

wolverhampton

We are waiting to be found , somebody find me I'm waiting, fwb please ,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends if you mean a fab fwb or a life fwb ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We are here waiting to be called up on....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm living in hope that I find the right person. Are you on here?

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By *rs Butterfly.Woman over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I don't think you go looking for a FWB it just happens.

You meet a few times and hit it off and then it becomes a regular thing.

If you go out looking for one it won't happen.

We have FWB and it works for us and they are free to see others just keep us in the loop.

I like honesty with our FWB and they respect and understand that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We tried to find one for Scooby, who wanted just an occasional monthly fun meet on her own, but after a year we have finally given up. Finding someone who ticks all the boxes was near impossible. Not in a current relationship, not bi or connecting with bi meets, could string a sentence together, was attractive to her and had a personality. Not too much to ask was it. Male

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Still looking for a fwb here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Id love to find one...not many up here.x

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By *orbidden eastMan over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

On the look out. But not much as the spec so far

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"As the last one got so big, starting part II.

I’m still needing advice etc on this.

How hard was it to find one?

How did you find one?

Are you exclusive?

Bhubaysi x"

I met both of my fwb’s on a marital affairs website. The first I have been seeing for 3 years now, the second only 4 months.

Was it difficult? Not really, we knew what we were looking for, and met in the place to find it

We’re all married, so free to see others lol .......

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By *p230Man over a year ago

Warwickshire

I'm in the Midlands & would love to find a FWB , emphasis on the friend bit first , it would be amazing just to have a friend with a similar outlook on life & not have to be careful of your sexual views without being labelled

XXX

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Still trying to find mine must be someone in cheshire n wales or merseyside

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There seems to be a lack of Fwb talent in the Yorkshire area it would seem x

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By *reelanderMan over a year ago

rotherham

Yorkshire lad here,don't have a problem sorting meets and finding women for one offs,but finding one that wants to pair up and swing together long term is differcult,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've found one on here, we get on really well. It can get a little confusing sometimes because when the sex is great, you get on well the natural progression is you end up as a couple. I've never had a FWB that hasn't ended up with one or both of us developing stronger feelings.

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By *hewifeandiCouple over a year ago

Bristol

Yep still looking

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By *ribsaMan over a year ago

A box at end of your bed

I am always looking for new friends and if they come with benefits all the better but a new friend is always welcome.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would like to find one, never been that lucky.

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By *ertsguy2000Man over a year ago

hertford

Coming to the conclusion they just don’t exist on here .....

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By *herrySnickersWoman over a year ago

Somewhere

"Coming to the conclusion they just don’t exist on here .....

HG"

Don’t give up!

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By *ust chilled out meMan over a year ago

Peterborough

I'd love one but they can be hard to find but iff you dont try you dont no do you

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By *ertsguy2000Man over a year ago

hertford

"Coming to the conclusion they just don’t exist on here .....

Don’t give up!

Trying not to, but it’s hard work

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have found 2 who fit the bill somewhat. We get on exceptionally well and the sex is amazing.

but I’d really like to be in touch more often. So for this reason I can’t say that they are FWB and I am not willing to go exclusive with either of them.

I would happily be exclusive with a fwb if they kept in touch frequently and if we met once a week or so.

So my search hasn’t ended.

That sounds more like a fuxk buddy than a fwb

I’ve always had 2/3 on the go at the one time when I’m in the fwb mindset because it can be easy to develop feelings for someone you spend a lot of time with as poster at beginning has said, I’m also a hopeless romantic

if I’m seeing someone then I’m very much monogamous. Fuxk buddies can be convenient to fill a gap as a last minute option but fwb means if you wanna do things socially and aren’t in mood for sex or not feeling well etc you can still enjoy their company

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I found mine through here, another site for people with alternative interests , Tinder, Bumble.

I can’t be exclusive with a fwb , if I did I would end up feeling jealousy I think and developing feelings, the bonding hormones you get from amazing sex can be powerful stuff!

I’m a hopeless romantic at heart though, if I ever meet the one I wouldn’t want anyone else and wouldn’t see Fwb any more .

Good luck! X"

I completely agree with all of the above! Maybe with the addition of a shared sense of humour too. The ability to laugh at the same things is essential. And as I've often said in the past "get one another"? Sex is incredibly important but if you're going to spend any amount of time together the ability to communicate is as well as you can't spend ALL your time in bed? Any thoughts on this very welcome. PM me?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you make things exclusive is that not a relationship and a commitment not a friend with benefits?

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By *hewifeandiCouple over a year ago

Bristol

We wouldn't want anything exclusive as yes that would be more of a relationship in our view

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We wouldn't want anything exclusive as yes that would be more of a relationship in our view "

Its how I see it too

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By *hewifeandiCouple over a year ago

Bristol

"We wouldn't want anything exclusive as yes that would be more of a relationship in our view

Its how I see it too "

Go play with who you want just keep an eye on us lol

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By *uck-RogersMan over a year ago

Tarka trail

I have always wanted to meet a younger couple, well I am 65 but I and fit.

I would like to teach a younger couple to dance. Salsa Jive or rock n roll.

As dancing in close proximity is very erotic.

Going to a dance class once a week, makes learning to dance a very slow process.

Personal tuition a couple of days a week, is a better way to learn.

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By *hubaysi OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"I have always wanted to meet a younger couple, well I am 65 but I and fit.

I would like to teach a younger couple to dance. Salsa Jive or rock n roll.

As dancing in close proximity is very erotic.

Going to a dance class once a week, makes learning to dance a very slow process.

Personal tuition a couple of days a week, is a better way to learn."

Was that meant for this thread?

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By *uck-RogersMan over a year ago

Tarka trail

"I have always wanted to meet a younger couple, well I am 65 but I and fit.

I would like to teach a younger couple to dance. Salsa Jive or rock n roll.

As dancing in close proximity is very erotic.

Going to a dance class once a week, makes learning to dance a very slow process.

Personal tuition a couple of days a week, is a better way to learn.

Was that meant for this thread? "
Yes. Friends with benefits. A couple would benefit from me, Having private dance lessons, in their house or mine. They would also benefit by being a friend, as I am also a plumber and carpenter. I may be old, but I have my uses

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By *ailandoCouple over a year ago

manchester

We’d love to have a sexy female FWB. She’d be treated like royalty.

More chance however of having tea with the Queen.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I could be persuaded for a friends with benefits.. until then Bangor is all good

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By *hewifeandiCouple over a year ago

Bristol

"I have always wanted to meet a younger couple, well I am 65 but I and fit.

I would like to teach a younger couple to dance. Salsa Jive or rock n roll.

As dancing in close proximity is very erotic.

Going to a dance class once a week, makes learning to dance a very slow process.

Personal tuition a couple of days a week, is a better way to learn.

Was that meant for this thread? Yes. Friends with benefits. A couple would benefit from me, Having private dance lessons, in their house or mine. They would also benefit by being a friend, as I am also a plumber and carpenter. I may be old, but I have my uses

Hahaha fair play to you sir that's one way to sell yourself hats off to you

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By *ily WhiteWoman over a year ago

I'm struggling to even find an fb, never mind a FWB. Men in the age range that i'm looking for tend to have kids that they have at weekends...which is generally the only time that i'm available

I've met some lovely people and had some amazing sex, but we struggle to co-ordinate diaries to meet regularly.

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By *entleman JayMan over a year ago

Wakefield

They are out there. I love the combination of nice and naughty time. You have to get the % right to have a true FWB. If not it’s just a FB.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS over a year ago

Stockport

I've made some real friends through fab and the swinging scene. But although I've had a few lovely moments, I'm still waiting to find someone to share both friendship and benefits.

Not terribly easy for a bi-gendered trans lesbian lol, but i live in hope...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Met my FWB on here a couple of months ago. We get on really well, keep in touch every day, meet up regularly & have THE most amazing sex. I am exclusive with him & he is with me (i think). I will admit to getting butterflies & feeling excited when we're due to meet. I know it won't last but while it does we're enjoying the ride

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Still looking, just sat her on the sidelines hoping to picked. Like a geek at a prom

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Found one of mine on tinder and the other is an ex xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Any advice on how to get more friends?

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By *erts86Man over a year ago

Welwyn Garden City

I'd love to meet a female friend with benefits.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Still searching for one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Searching...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Found mine in here, and she lives in the next road too! Don’t see her that often but we are in touch all the time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I thought I'd found him,thought we were exclusive...how wrong was I

Won't be making that mistake again x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd rather like one, if there are any ladies in or around the South Essex area who might like a regular arrangement.

I can only usually meet weekday daytimes but may be able to do an occasional evening providing I can sort childcare.

Preferably bi and submissive, but these are really just the icing on the cake

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m still looking for my Fwb! feel free to slide into my DMs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve never actually met someone for sex more than once so I’ve ever had a FWB, but I’m open to the idea should I find someone who likes me enough to consider the idea. The likelihood after 9 years in the site is very low, as is even getting to meet someone at all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No luck so far but we live in hope.

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By *oxychicWoman over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

Lol think its hard to find fb very easy to find but someone to do club scene etc isnt so

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By *onabardMan over a year ago

Warks - Worcs - Gloucs

Anyone local to Midlands would love to find fb/ fwb

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Local to chester anyone

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find it hard to find one who I like.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Still looking for my fwb x

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

I met a lady about a year ago on OkCupid dating site which developed into a FWB.In the end we ended it as she was moving away from London.I am still on the look out for a FWB from this site as it would be nice to have someone to attend events with thought I found someone but it didn’t work out but I will keep on trying.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"As the last one got so big, starting part II.

I’m still needing advice etc on this.

How hard was it to find one?

How did you find one?

Are you exclusive?

Bhubaysi x"

It wasn't hard

I wasn't looking

We got chatting, we met up, the rest just happened

I have more than 1, they're all aware of each other.

So definitely not exclusive.

My advice for anyone looking.

Stop looking.

Go out, socialise, meet people, have amazing adventures, and who knows...one of those adventures may just lead to more xx

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By *aldyman500Man over a year ago

Enfield

I’m up for a daytime play mate if anyone fancies it x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My Wife has a fwb that lives in Manchester and goes to stay for a couple of days every 4/6 weeks. They didn’t meet on here, rather a completely innocent site. They argued about Marmite and hit it off. So you can find them away from here

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By *ettyboop61Woman over a year ago

St Neots

I'm still looking......feel free to send your cv's

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By *iffler 2019Woman over a year ago

Saltash aka Fraggle Rock

I have a fwb on here but don't see him very often so on look out for a regular fwb but I won't hold my breath lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Id love one, lots chat laughs fun together, north west area

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By *iss pleasuringWoman over a year ago

Somewhere near

There hope for me yet .. to find the right fwb

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By *entleman JayMan over a year ago

Wakefield

I had to laugh the other day. Chatting to a lady on here. She said she used to have a FWB. Seeing him for 18 months. Saw him twice a week and all weekend every weekend. That’s not a FWB that’s a relationship lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I a fwb on fab a year ago we met everyday for five days and are together a year now as a couple

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The one I found told me on day one he wasn't looking for a fwb. I respected that however 6months later we are in a happy little bubble. We are not exclusive I don't expect that from him. I'm just happy i get to spend so much time with him

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Looking for a fwb did have one briefly but didnt work out so back on the search

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By *he Secret Tea PartyCouple over a year ago

London

Found one on here, turned into a relationship. I finished with him after 18 months. Not found one since

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By *p230Man over a year ago

Warwickshire

Still looking, one day my princess will come

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Had 2 in the past, worked brilliantly.

Still looking for someone x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I only do fwb and like it to be exclusive. im not interested in having a fwb thats also meeting others, so with that in mind i like to get to know the fwb well before we jump into bed with her, even if we have 100 socials before hand.. i want to know shes not gona loose interest.

As for ease of meeting.. my experience on here is words are cheap, alot of women from my experience will feed you the spew to get a notch on the bedpost. I find it easy to attract and although i can hold a conversation and stimulate the mind.. many woman in the past just cant.

But lets face it its a 'swing' site its basically for casual sex.. probably not the place for me tbh.

Ive been lucky enough to find a fwb of which we met for over 2 years. And just recently upon returning ive met a fabulous fwb which things are going so well with.... so it can be done.

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By *DreamOfGenieWoman over a year ago

London

"I only do fwb and like it to be exclusive. im not interested in having a fwb thats also meeting others, so with that in mind i like to get to know the fwb well before we jump into bed with her, even if we have 100 socials before hand.. i want to know shes not gona loose interest.

But lets face it its a 'swing' site its basically for casual sex.. probably not the place for me tbh.

Ive been lucky enough to find a fwb of which we met for over 2 years. And just recently upon returning ive met a fabulous fwb which things are going so well with.... so it can be done.

If you don't mind me asking, what is it that differentiates this from a relationship, to class it as FWB? Not bashing it at all, just curious as I've been in similar relationships and found it difficult to define.

Lovely to hear you've met someone though, good on ya both

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By *OXO2018Couple over a year ago

Norfolk

4 years I nearly gave up then found him. I’m very grateful for him changing my life and outlook on swinging. It’s not all been plain sailing but it’s worth working things out.

We only meet as a couple but I love to watch I guess like a reverse cock hold.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But lets face it its a 'swing' site its basically for casual sex.. probably not the place for me tbh.

Ive been lucky enough to find a fwb of which we met for over 2 years. And just recently upon returning ive met a fabulous fwb which things are going so well with.... so it can be done.

Lovely to hear you've met someone though, good on ya both

Good question.. i suppose we dont have the complications of a relationship as such...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

dont think theres a formula for finding one it's just a case of meeting someone who thinks the same way likes the same things and is driven by friendship not sex

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Still looking for a fwb but slowly losing hope x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Losing the will with it now..almost had it and it slipped away...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am looking for one also

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Still forever hopeful in the search for one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have some each of us

But happily take another one

In the kidderminster area

Agree with post before nice to get a hi here n there

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By *azpiz1Man over a year ago

Camberley

I'd like a regular fwb..

Anyone interested?

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By *ikerdude2017Man over a year ago

Rotherham

Would like to find a new fwb easy going guy looking for company and fun times.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Always hoping but never expecting Mr

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As the last one got so big, starting part II.

I’m still needing advice etc on this.

How hard was it to find one?

How did you find one?

Are you exclusive?

Bhubaysi x"

I've had proper fwb (as opposed to fab's bwf lol) for 26 years! The longest was for 14 years and another for 8.5 years. Works for me as I'm terrible at relationships

I have fab fwbs now though as my life is changing am open to a proper fwb again! They are great tbh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Looking for a fwb....obviously female

Looking to go for drinks and dinner etc to build a connection....let me penetrate your mind, before I penetrate your pussy

Must enjoy foreplay and oral receiving

Looking to go clubs and also do full swap meets with other couples (so open minded would be good)

Drop me a message if you would like more info ladies

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By *J GeminiTV/TS over a year ago

Northumberland

I would love to find a lady or a bi couple but I think it's unlikely,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Still looking myself.

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By *onabardMan over a year ago

Warks - Worcs - Gloucs

Looking and available

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Still looking myself, The struggle is real lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A question to everyone who is looking ... how do you personally go about 'looking' for a fwb? Also are you all single or more looking for a bwf or a fb? Are you meeting others whilst you look or is a fwb the goal?

Seriously no annoyance intended just genuinely interested!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A question to everyone who is looking ... how do you personally go about 'looking' for a fwb? Also are you all single or more looking for a bwf or a fb? Are you meeting others whilst you look or is a fwb the goal?

Seriously no annoyance intended just genuinely interested! "

I me personally I tell the lady exactly what I want so there’s no confusion and the feeling is Mutual .

Yes I’m single, Yes fwb is the goal but from previous experience one person will catch feelings eventually..

Hence Why I’m looking again lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think I was lucky when I met my previous fwb, we met online, not fab (although I think he is on fab) and we just wanted the same, so from the outset we said it wasn’t going to be exclusive etc although I don’t think either of saw anyone else in the 2 years, he lived very far away which wasn’t ideal, doesn’t seem so easy this time

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By *herrySnickersWoman over a year ago

Somewhere

But lets face it its a 'swing' site its basically for casual sex.. probably not the place for me tbh.

Ive been lucky enough to find a fwb of which we met for over 2 years. And just recently upon returning ive met a fabulous fwb which things are going so well with.... so it can be done.

Lovely to hear you've met someone though, good on ya both

Good question.. i suppose we dont have the complications of a relationship as such..."

I love these posts as I have found a similar scenario. A fantastic FWB with whom I have met exclusively for over a year now (we are both happily married to others). I think it is different to a FWB scenario as we are exclusive in the fact we don’t meet others at this point - (our spouses don’t meet others) I like to call him my boyfriend... our relationship is simple, uncomplicated, fun and we have much respect for each other however we remain in love with our spouses and as such they remain our priority.

We obviously have amazing connection, chemistry and energy between us. We meet once a month (and communicate daily) which maintains excitement... although we would like to meet more often I actually think the distance between us is a good thing...we often say it would be dangerous if we lived closer!

Good luck everyone. Life is so much fun isn’t it? And I like to think we can have love for many in our lives.

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By *hezuMan over a year ago

London

My first fwb was in school we ended up dating and it went downhill from there cause she started getting too clingy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But lets face it its a 'swing' site its basically for casual sex.. probably not the place for me tbh.

Ive been lucky enough to find a fwb of which we met for over 2 years. And just recently upon returning ive met a fabulous fwb which things are going so well with.... so it can be done.

Lovely to hear you've met someone though, good on ya both

Good question.. i suppose we dont have the complications of a relationship as such...

Good luck everyone. Life is so much fun isn’t it? And I like to think we can have love for many in our lives. "

This is excatly it. Things are uncomplicated and fun. We have respect for eachother and he doesn't owe me anything and if things change they change. Real life comes first and what we have is a treat. All we ask from eachother is honesty and it works.

The distance thing is a bugger but as you've said it would be dangerous and we could end up taking eachother for granted. It's exciting and I love the build up to when we are meeting. The anticipation on the way, knowing he's feeling the same.

There's no expectations, it's an escape from real life, its simple and fun. And the connection, this was hard enough to explain

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By *roticaCouple over a year ago

Gloucestershire

My boyfriend on Fab is a friend with benefits. We are a couple on here and have been together over 3 years and are in love. Sex and our chemistry are amazing and we meet 2 to 3 times a week and go on holidays together etc. We have so much fun and also enjoy MMF and clubs. We are best friends it is more than just sex... Yet he needs to see other women... so we have an agreeent where he can have 1 meet a month and we discuss them. He would also love to do a couples meet and FFM with me. My problem is I find it very difficult to cope with him kissing and having sex with other women. Especially when sometimes they are not FAB meets. These meets are ladies to whome he is messaging all the time and meeting every say 3 months. They usually want more but he does not want that and they often turn pysco despite him telling them this from the start. It is making me very upset and stressed. It is breaking my heart. Yes we have talked lots but I need help coping. Any advice.

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By *aked_magicMan over a year ago

the gutter looking at the stars (S.Australia)

Id love to find an FWB i have days where i lose hope though sometimes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My boyfriend on Fab is a friend with benefits. We are a couple on here and have been together over 3 years and are in love. Sex and our chemistry are amazing and we meet 2 to 3 times a week and go on holidays together etc. We have so much fun and also enjoy MMF and clubs. We are best friends it is more than just sex... Yet he needs to see other women... so we have an agreeent where he can have 1 meet a month and we discuss them. He would also love to do a couples meet and FFM with me. My problem is I find it very difficult to cope with him kissing and having sex with other women. Especially when sometimes they are not FAB meets. These meets are ladies to whome he is messaging all the time and meeting every say 3 months. They usually want more but he does not want that and they often turn pysco despite him telling them this from the start. It is making me very upset and stressed. It is breaking my heart. Yes we have talked lots but I need help coping. Any advice. "

Còunselling as a couple you clearly are both not seeing these extras the same way. Jealousy has no part to play in a fab connection it will just breed resentment. Mr

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This really doesn’t sound like fwb, if you’re struggling to cope with your feelings I don’t think this arrangement is for yo7 , you’re never going to be happy xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hi. Any advice how to find a match. I'm not sure but it's seems I can't see why? Thanks for looking.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well I'm fiding it very hard to find a fwb

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ive had a few oved time it just sort of happened each time,unfortunately things change hoping another one will come along soon...but not worried as having fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had nothing but longterm non-fab fwbs for 26 years but never looked for them, just kind of happened and all of them I met in the normal non online way

not adverse to meeting another now that life is changing again so best get myself out there again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Shame you far!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Shame you far

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By *arl17Man over a year ago

Central Portugal

"Well I'm fiding it very hard to find a fwb

Lots want but it’s hard when one side doesn’t fully get what a fwb is... harder i guess when women expect one thing but the bloke goes off on a tangent which from reading the posts some have...

We are all adults so best live, learn and move forward xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well I'm fiding it very hard to find a fwb

Lots want but it’s hard when one side doesn’t fully get what a fwb is... harder i guess when women expect one thing but the bloke goes off on a tangent which from reading the posts some have...

We are all adults so best live, learn and move forward xx

Yes that's Exactally it xx

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By *litterbabeWoman over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I am open to finding one special friends with benefits and a couple of other playmates, obviously none of those being exclusive to each other. I find it a very difficult position to fill but you never know.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Looking for a Lady or a Couple, I live in Essex near to the Dartford Crossing.

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By *andy_tomMan over a year ago

wolverhampton

Still l@@king

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Almost impossible, I did have one who was amazing, we weren’t exclusive but always very open with each other, I think he found me though, distance was our only issue meets were a bit far between. We are still good friends though. Would love to find the same a bit closer.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As the last one got so big, starting part II.

I’m still needing advice etc on this.

How hard was it to find one?

How did you find one?

Are you exclusive?

Bhubaysi x"

I found mine at a visit to a club with a friend and she brought him along. We played that night and have been seeing each other fairly regularly for just over a year. We are not exclusive, we go to the club together as singles, play together and with others.

So it was quite by chance that we met but I'm very glad we did.

I wish you luck in your search but I feel these things just happen without trying, it will just happen, you'll have a meet and you'll click.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

trouble is everyone views the meaning of fwb differently to many get too serious with it and then its ruined ..we have a fwb guy who weas a couple have known for 3 or 4 years now he totally gets it and it works

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"trouble is everyone views the meaning of fwb differently to many get too serious with it and then its ruined ..we have a fwb guy who weas a couple have known for 3 or 4 years now he totally gets it and it works"

Yup ... I don't do fab fwb mine are more real life friends that have benefits lol had one for 14 years and another for 8.5 years

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well I'm fiding it very hard to find a fwb

Come south little lady you'll get a warm sensuous greeting. Mr xx

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By *apiomanMan over a year ago

Shipley

I have had a number, two started as friends, and the attraction built. One we met on here and became friends. Another we met on OkC where we were both clear about being non-monogamous/ poly. With all of them we discussed what we wanted and expected, which is really crucial. All of them have been theoretically non exclusive, but one of them was in reality. The friend bit is as important as the benefits, which is why meeting socially first is good. Very glad that the two where we are now platonic we are still friends. Good luck. X

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By *apiomanMan over a year ago

Shipley

"I have found 2 who fit the bill somewhat. We get on exceptionally well and the sex is amazing.

but I’d really like to be in touch more often. So for this reason I can’t say that they are FWB and I am not willing to go exclusive with either of them.

I would happily be exclusive with a fwb if they kept in touch frequently and if we met once a week or so.

So my search hasn’t ended.

That sounds more like a fuxk buddy than a fwb

Definitely, with a FWB there are fully clothed social times too. And I think it is poor form to drop them as friends if/ when the sex stops for whatever reason.

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By *apiomanMan over a year ago

Shipley

"We’d love to have a sexy female FWB. She’d be treated like royalty.

More chance however of having tea with the Queen.

I’m sure Her Maj would love to be your unicorn! I’m sure I saw someone who said they were the queen!

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By *100Man over a year ago

Essex

My wife used to have a fuck buddy from work who travelled from London a few times a week to fuck totally nsa I wish I had a couple just for fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just one would be nice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Found mine on here and she's very local too which is a great bonus. And she verified me too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would like one in the edinburgh/livingstone area.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As the last one got so big, starting part II.

I’m still needing advice etc on this.

How hard was it to find one?

How did you find one?

Are you exclusive?

Bhubaysi x"

Couples dam near impossible these days

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By *orkmalewithPAMan over a year ago

York

I have been looking for a new FWB for way over a year now as my last friend was offered a massive promotion but meant she had to move to Cornwall

We still talk but we have only seen each other once since she moved...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’d love to find a proper fwb...a great friend with a connection and chemistry in and out of bedroom. Never found one and still hoping!

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By *hubaysi OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"I’d love to find a proper fwb...a great friend with a connection and chemistry in and out of bedroom. Never found one and still hoping! "

Keep searching.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’d love to find a proper fwb...a great friend with a connection and chemistry in and out of bedroom. Never found one and still hoping! "

Found one,8 years ago,other relationships have interrupted the dynamic,but always found our way back together.

Others have moved on permanently, but we still remain friends

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’d love to find a proper fwb...a great friend with a connection and chemistry in and out of bedroom. Never found one and still hoping!

Keep searching....."

We are

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By *andy_tomMan over a year ago

wolverhampton

I think most of us would like a regular friend with benefits, they are out there problem is finding one or being found , still waiting,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As the saying goes

Am Still looking

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Searching for one as well.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im still looking...defo a lack of men up here.x

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By *entleman55Man over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r

It’s so difficult as the sands of time tick by

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By *erts86Man over a year ago

Welwyn Garden City

I'd like a female friend with benefits 20 or 30 something

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By *arl17Man over a year ago

Central Portugal

"Searching for one as well. "

Me to

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Looking for FWB Cumbria area, anyone?

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Same here.

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