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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi,
We’ve been talking about the possibility of meeting other couples recently as I am thinking more and more that I would like to have sex with other men, as it stands at the moment I get highly turned on by doughnut with other women, either with me present or he goes off on meets on his own, we both get horny as fuck and both get something out of it, however I want to explore swinging further but because Doughnut doesn’t get at all turned on by the thought of me with another man (but is open to the idea of me being with someone else) it kinda feels one sided and swinging for us is about mutual turn ons.
But we’ve been thinking about meeting couples and while not swapping partners, seeing how it felt etc, has any other couples experienced this?
Thanks in advance from any advice. |
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"Hi,
We’ve been talking about the possibility of meeting other couples recently as I am thinking more and more that I would like to have sex with other men, as it stands at the moment I get highly turned on by doughnut with other women, either with me present or he goes off on meets on his own, we both get horny as fuck and both get something out of it, however I want to explore swinging further but because Doughnut doesn’t get at all turned on by the thought of me with another man (but is open to the idea of me being with someone else) it kinda feels one sided and swinging for us is about mutual turn ons.
But we’ve been thinking about meeting couples and while not swapping partners, seeing how it felt etc, has any other couples experienced this?
Thanks in advance from any advice."
For me personally, the concept of watching Anita with others isn't in its self a turn-on. On the other hand, seeing her with others whilst I'm also enjoying my own pleasure with others is a whole other ball game.
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"Hi,
We’ve been talking about the possibility of meeting other couples recently as I am thinking more and more that I would like to have sex with other men, as it stands at the moment I get highly turned on by doughnut with other women, either with me present or he goes off on meets on his own, we both get horny as fuck and both get something out of it, however I want to explore swinging further but because Doughnut doesn’t get at all turned on by the thought of me with another man (but is open to the idea of me being with someone else) it kinda feels one sided and swinging for us is about mutual turn ons.
But we’ve been thinking about meeting couples and while not swapping partners, seeing how it felt etc, has any other couples experienced this?
Thanks in advance from any advice.
For me personally, the concept of watching Anita with others isn't in its self a turn-on. On the other hand, seeing her with others whilst I'm also enjoying my own pleasure with others is a whole other ball game.
Cal"
So you don’t find it a turn on if she is alone but in a ‘group’ situation while you get to play with someone else that’s a turn on for you? Xx |
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I think that while there will be fewer people who will be interested, there will be some - there's someone for everyone on here, it's just finding them that's the challenge. Perhaps search for softswap as an option...?
Another option might be a club. We often go to clubs but don't always play with anyone else - just being around the sexiness is a turn on. Perhaps one with a couples only space so you can watch/be watched...?
But you've hit upon the main thing - talk and agree what you do and don't like. And be aware that may well change over time. |
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We find playing together with others a club a huge turn on and lots of fun. Pretty logical really, we're having fun together, sharing a hot experiance, playing with others and getting to watch each other and everyone else. Group fun be it with just another couple or many more really works for us (especially when everything just flows). |
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We started out aiming for single females only and have branched out a long way. In terms of experience I can say this.
1: Don't let an early meet be indicative of the practice as a whole. Our first 2 couples meets were a disaster, but because we were both on the right page and communicated appropriately we both knew it was a disaster, called it a day and moved on.
2: Don't necessarily assume that it's going to go a particular way, we started playing with couples with a bit of a pre-concieved idea how how it would play out, it ended up being completely inaccurate. Try it and see how the dynamics seem to work for you and then decide if that is what you want. For us it ended up being something that L really likes, M not so much. We still do it with particular couples but it's not played out quite how we expected.
3: Communicate, communicate, communicate. Your post seems to imply that your M isn't overly pleased about the idea of seeing you with another guy, be very careful of letting that boil over. For us M isn't physically jealous so long as the match is right, but even with that it's a very delicate process. If he has any issues there at the outset those are likely to enlarge when he actually sees it so keep communication ongoing throughout and monitor the situation closely. |
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A club might be a good way forward for you OP.
You could limit it to just playing with each other to begin with & go from there ... whether you watch other couples play, or play in a couples play area where other couples are playing too before you build up to actually playing with a couple. Maybe even sticking to soft swap only to begin with & see how you feel about full swap.
There’s no pressure in a club & you can Nog at your own pace! |
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