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Is this for us or not?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

We are in need of some advice and who better to ask than the people whom we could possibly meet.

Right i (mr) set this account up 9 months ago interested to see what it was like, I messed up a bit because I didn’t tell the mrs for a say or two. Anyway a few pics later and a few messages and chats and she seems to be enjoying it. Talk of trying out dogging and just looking at local spots. We even meet a couple was having a great time a little touching then as he touched mrs that was it. I like the idea of it all but a little nervous this will happen again. Your thoughts please. We still wanna go out and experiment outdoors and even like the idea of going to a club too. Confused.

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

Im confused what you are confused about.

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By *eardsandboobsCouple over a year ago

north of lincoln

"We are in need of some advice and who better to ask than the people whom we could possibly meet.

Think you missed out the bit you didn’t like . Are you saying when the other guy touched your Mrs you didn’t like it so left ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I’m not sure if when she gets touched again I will not like it. Also she’s not as into it as she was before.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"We are in need of some advice and who better to ask than the people whom we could possibly meet.

Think you missed out the bit you didn’t like . Are you saying when the other guy touched your Mrs you didn’t like it so left ? "

Yeah sorry, as soon as that happened it was over unfortunately because I liked the idea of it.

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

So what did your wife say when you told the man to stop touching her ?

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"I’m not sure if when she gets touched again I will not like it. Also she’s not as into it as she was before. "

So you are saying she doesnt like it and neither do you. Why are you still here? Surely it's best to talk to each other and leave if you both dont like it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I said to her I couldn’t do it and she respected my decision. We did meet again after but only as a social. We both just wasn’t interested.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m not sure if when she gets touched again I will not like it. Also she’s not as into it as she was before.

So you are saying she doesnt like it and neither do you. Why are you still here? Surely it's best to talk to each other and leave if you both dont like it."

Yeah but she likes the idea of another women so I think maybe a profile change and see how it goes.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"I’m not sure if when she gets touched again I will not like it. Also she’s not as into it as she was before.

So you are saying she doesnt like it and neither do you. Why are you still here? Surely it's best to talk to each other and leave if you both dont like it.

Yeah but she likes the idea of another women so I think maybe a profile change and see how it goes. "

You need to do alot of talking before you involve someone else. Experienced women can sense when all is not well with a couple, it's a major turn off. Not fair to involve anyone else in your drama.

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By *eardsandboobsCouple over a year ago

north of lincoln

"I’m not sure if when she gets touched again I will not like it. Also she’s not as into it as she was before.

So you are saying she doesnt like it and neither do you. Why are you still here? Surely it's best to talk to each other and leave if you both dont like it.

Yeah but she likes the idea of another women so I think maybe a profile change and see how it goes. "

So seeing another woman touch her is fine but a man touching her is a no no? What difference does gender make to you ? And would this other woman be touching you ? Or would your wife prefer to see only another man touch you ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m not sure if when she gets touched again I will not like it. Also she’s not as into it as she was before.

So you are saying she doesnt like it and neither do you. Why are you still here? Surely it's best to talk to each other and leave if you both dont like it.

Yeah but she likes the idea of another women so I think maybe a profile change and see how it goes.

You need to do alot of talking before you involve someone else. Experienced women can sense when all is not well with a couple, it's a major turn off. Not fair to involve anyone else in your drama."

We will do that thank you.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

Sit down, talk to each other about exactly what you want then write a profile that reflects exactly that. If you enjoy the thought of a club go and don't play with anyone else. If you like the idea of dogging go and don't play with anyone else. If your partner just wants to play with a woman put that on your profile. There's no point in either of you attempting to do stuff you don't want to do. It's not fair on you or the people you meet.

I might be wrong if so I'm sorry but I think you need to talk to each other a bit more.

good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m not sure if when she gets touched again I will not like it. Also she’s not as into it as she was before.

So you are saying she doesnt like it and neither do you. Why are you still here? Surely it's best to talk to each other and leave if you both dont like it.

Yeah but she likes the idea of another women so I think maybe a profile change and see how it goes.

Yeah I was ok with another woman. The other woman would probably not be touching me. With regards another man this is something we haven’t discussed

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Sit down, talk to each other about exactly what you want then write a profile that reflects exactly that. If you enjoy the thought of a club go and don't play with anyone else. If you like the idea of dogging go and don't play with anyone else. If your partner just wants to play with a woman put that on your profile. There's no point in either of you attempting to do stuff you don't want to do. It's not fair on you or the people you meet.

I might be wrong if so I'm sorry but I think you need to talk to each other a bit more.

good luck! "

I totally agree with what you are saying. Thank you

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By *revaunanceCouple over a year ago

Exeter

"she’s not as into it as she was before. "

This is one of the most revealing things you have said. If either of you aren't into it then there is no point carrying on, it simply won't work.

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By *oelDorianMan over a year ago

vanaheim

"I’m not sure if when she gets touched again I will not like it. Also she’s not as into it as she was before.

So you are saying she doesnt like it and neither do you. Why are you still here? Surely it's best to talk to each other and leave if you both dont like it.

Yeah but she likes the idea of another women so I think maybe a profile change and see how it goes.

Yeah I was ok with another woman. The other woman would probably not be touching me. With regards another man this is something we haven’t discussed "

Yeah that makes no sense whatsoever yeah I would get jealous if it was my partner but I wouldn’t stop her doing it so like for you to say oh she can only be touched by another woman is a bit selfish and I think you and her need to have a long talk before going further on here

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