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So hard to find a women willing???
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Why is it so hard to find A genuine women near me or anywhere in the country to have some fun over the camera or in person everyone's seems to chicken out when it comes to it!!!... |
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what steps are you taking to meet people or to engage them in conversation?
It can be very difficult for younger guys on fab however it usually takes a while for men of any age to get established.
What were your expectations of the site when you joined? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes but they seem so keen at first asking me to meet, and there is literally no one around my area willing to "
What were you hoping for when you joined fab? |
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"Yes but they seem so keen at first asking me to meet, and there is literally no one around my area willing to "
You've been on less than 2 months. That isn't very long. Unfortunately, many people on here will consider you too young, as the largest majority are likely to have children your age.
Keep positive and make sure your profile is positive too.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah coming to think of I think there all most likely catfishing me and I'm worried to meet them as they won't face cam first "
I probably won’t face cam before meeting and I’m not a catfish
Also if you click reply+quote we’ll know who you’re replying too   |
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"Yeah coming to think of I think there all most likely catfishing me and I'm worried to meet them as they won't face cam first
I probably won’t face cam before meeting and I’m not a catfish
Also if you click reply+quote we’ll know who you’re replying too "
snap lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah coming to think of I think there all most likely catfishing me and I'm worried to meet them as they won't face cam first
I probably won’t face cam before meeting and I’m not a catfish
Also if you click reply+quote we’ll know who you’re replying too
snap lol"
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
Hillside desolate |
"Yeah coming to think of I think there all most likely catfishing me and I'm worried to meet them as they won't face cam first "
Lots of women won't "face cam".
You come off a bit like you'll have sex with anyone who's "willing" which will put a lot of people off. |
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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago
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"Why is it so hard to find A genuine women near me or anywhere in the country to have some fun over the camera or in person everyone's seems to chicken out when it comes to it!!!..."
Why would anyone wanna cam imo? Plenty porn to watch if that's your thing. Rather have real sex than flick my bean over a screen
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"Yeah coming to think of I think there all most likely catfishing me and I'm worried to meet them as they won't face cam first "
Is it only a face cam that would convince you they are real? If not why not see if they would at least have a phone call first I know some people arent confident to go on a camera from experience. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah coming to think of I think there all most likely catfishing me and I'm worried to meet them as they won't face cam first "
The penny has dropped...
Most likely all the ladies you have been chatting to are men..
Most of the ladies on Fab have a inbox larger than the english channel and are less likely to respond unless you are really really interesting to them.
And well sorry your another average sort of male who is really young.
Makes it nigh impossible to get any sort of meet directly.
I would suggest heading to local socials and clubs to be apart of the lifestyle.
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21....jeesh! Get urself to a nightclub!u have zero life experience and many folk on here have kids ur age! ...and the " willing" to have sex! Ur words show ur age! I hate seeing someone so young on here! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I see what this is now i do not mean any disrespect here dude but this is the typical young newbie thats thought this place would be a sure thing went rushing into messaging every lass that took his fancy annnnd none have replied dont worry about it mate its how it works chill out participate in the forums get yourself known and make connections attend meets socially try clubs work on ya profile don't upload tons of toilet dick pics and in time with effort you will be rewarded |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"21....jeesh! Get urself to a nightclub!u have zero life experience and many folk on here have kids ur age! ...and the " willing" to have sex! Ur words show ur age! I hate seeing someone so young on here!"
I’ve been on here since I was 20 and nobody told me that. Probably because I’m female.
He’s more than welcome to be a part of fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"21....jeesh! Get urself to a nightclub!u have zero life experience and many folk on here have kids ur age! ...and the " willing" to have sex! Ur words show ur age! I hate seeing someone so young on here!
I’ve been on here since I was 20 and nobody told me that. Probably because I’m female.
He’s more than welcome to be a part of fab. "
Of course he’s welcome on fabs but unlike you he doesn’t have a vagina so will find it hard, hence his post.
Like the other poster said, age wise will be a hinderence and I agree with her POV. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"21....jeesh! Get urself to a nightclub!u have zero life experience and many folk on here have kids ur age! ...and the " willing" to have sex! Ur words show ur age! I hate seeing someone so young on here!
I’ve been on here since I was 20 and nobody told me that. Probably because I’m female.
He’s more than welcome to be a part of fab. "
I suspect you never posted a nobody wants me whinge.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You're very young, come across mildly homophobic (block caps, really?), and have that ridiculous disclaimer in your profile. Plus grammar.
It's probably the age tho in all honesty. Don't sweat it, this place will still be here in a few years time.
I probably sound like a total bitch  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is it so hard to find A genuine women near me or anywhere in the country to have some fun over the camera or in person everyone's seems to chicken out when it comes to it!!!..."
Camera fun isn't everyone's idea of fun (it isn't mine I'd rather actually meet people) and for me you'd be too young to meet as I have kids older than you sorry! |
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"Why is it so hard to find A genuine women near me or anywhere in the country to have some fun over the camera or in person everyone's seems to chicken out when it comes to it!!!..."
It’s probably your age in the first instance, making you less attractive to the majority of people in here, but also your profile could do with a makeover; spelling mistakes and bad grammar never appeal, and if someone is interested in you, they will message you, you don’t need to say “message me”. Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"all ages of 18 and above are welcome on fab.
I think its patronising to tell young men to go out and meet people when they have as much right to be here as the rest of us. "
Exactly
Nobody ever told me it, yet it’s alright to tell all the young single men it apparently 
There’s loads of successful young men on fab. You just need to go about it in a different way maybe |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Give the lad a break.
He’s young and inexperienced. We were all there at some time.
Like others have said. Go to a club, be polite, don’t expect anything and you’ll be fine.
As for the catfish oh god yes. There are male and female catfish out there. Stay away from cams and maybe try Studland when the weather gets warmer.
You have a great naturist beach on your doorstep.
Good luck mate. Be positive. You have a whole life of fun ahead. There’s no big rush! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"all ages of 18 and above are welcome on fab.
I think its patronising to tell young men to go out and meet people when they have as much right to be here as the rest of us. "
I don’t think it’s patronising, it’s pretty good advice which has been dolled out to many a young lad seeking and failing to find meets over the years.
There are exceptions but generally 18-21 year old men will struggle if they think relying just on Fabs is the answer. |
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Sweet mother of God
You live in Poole right next to Bournemouth which has an amazing night life and social scene. Apart from the local ladies there are the uni girls and hen parties who come down at the weekend.
You're 21 - go and be 21 instead of moping round here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sweet mother of God
You live in Poole right next to Bournemouth which has an amazing night life and social scene. Apart from the local ladies there are the uni girls and hen parties who come down at the weekend.
You're 21 - go and be 21 instead of moping round here."
Yes!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The facts are simple, a safe guess is that there is at least 20 single males to every single female. Also you said you live in dorset which isnt a highly populated area compared to london or manchester. Then your age cuts the pool of people down even more.
We have been here as a couple for 3 years and had 3 meets. And the couple dynamic is alot differant but still its hard to get what you want here unless you are a single female |
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"Sweet mother of God
You live in Poole right next to Bournemouth which has an amazing night life and social scene. Apart from the local ladies there are the uni girls and hen parties who come down at the weekend.
You're 21 - go and be 21 instead of moping round here."
This exactly
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By *iyuWoman
over a year ago
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"21....jeesh! Get urself to a nightclub!u have zero life experience and many folk on here have kids ur age! ...and the " willing" to have sex! Ur words show ur age! I hate seeing someone so young on here!
I’ve been on here since I was 20 and nobody told me that. Probably because I’m female.
He’s more than welcome to be a part of fab. "
Absolutely agree, I joined when I was 18! I didn't want to have one night stands as they are boring af. Wanted to have something more with people who were established and at different points in their life. Young people are welcome on this site.
OP it's a shame you're a little too far away aha |
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"all ages of 18 and above are welcome on fab.
I think its patronising to tell young men to go out and meet people when they have as much right to be here as the rest of us.
I don’t think it’s patronising, it’s pretty good advice which has been dolled out to many a young lad seeking and failing to find meets over the years.
There are exceptions but generally 18-21 year old men will struggle if they think relying just on Fabs is the answer."
Actually to some it can be patronising as it makes whoever said it feel like this site is for people of a certain age when it’s not as various other people on here have said. I’ve had it said to me a few time but I don’t expect anything on here. Also op as others have said try clubs or socials to get established in the scene after that you might get more meets and definitely rework your profile as it does show your age. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"all ages of 18 and above are welcome on fab.
I think its patronising to tell young men to go out and meet people when they have as much right to be here as the rest of us.
I don’t think it’s patronising, it’s pretty good advice which has been dolled out to many a young lad seeking and failing to find meets over the years.
There are exceptions but generally 18-21 year old men will struggle if they think relying just on Fabs is the answer.
Actually to some it can be patronising as it makes whoever said it feel like this site is for people of a certain age when it’s not as various other people on here have said. I’ve had it said to me a few time but I don’t expect anything on here. Also op as others have said try clubs or socials to get established in the scene after that you might get more meets and definitely rework your profile as it does show your age. "
^my favourite young guy, ever so successful! |
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"Sweet mother of God
You live in Poole right next to Bournemouth which has an amazing night life and social scene. Apart from the local ladies there are the uni girls and hen parties who come down at the weekend.
You're 21 - go and be 21 instead of moping round here."
Completely this  |
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"all ages of 18 and above are welcome on fab.
I think its patronising to tell young men to go out and meet people when they have as much right to be here as the rest of us.
I don’t think it’s patronising, it’s pretty good advice which has been dolled out to many a young lad seeking and failing to find meets over the years.
There are exceptions but generally 18-21 year old men will struggle if they think relying just on Fabs is the answer.
Actually to some it can be patronising as it makes whoever said it feel like this site is for people of a certain age when it’s not as various other people on here have said. I’ve had it said to me a few time but I don’t expect anything on here. Also op as others have said try clubs or socials to get established in the scene after that you might get more meets and definitely rework your profile as it does show your age.
^my favourite young guy, ever so successful!"
Thank you your majesty how have you been |
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"21....jeesh! Get urself to a nightclub!u have zero life experience and many folk on here have kids ur age! ...and the " willing" to have sex! Ur words show ur age! I hate seeing someone so young on here!
I’ve been on here since I was 20 and nobody told me that. Probably because I’m female.
He’s more than welcome to be a part of fab.
Absolutely agree, I joined when I was 18! I didn't want to have one night stands as they are boring af. Wanted to have something more with people who were established and at different points in their life. Young people are welcome on this site.
OP it's a shame you're a little too far away aha "
Op get on your mini moto and head to Cheltenham it sounds like this young lady is willing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"all ages of 18 and above are welcome on fab.
I think its patronising to tell young men to go out and meet people when they have as much right to be here as the rest of us.
I don’t think it’s patronising, it’s pretty good advice which has been dolled out to many a young lad seeking and failing to find meets over the years.
There are exceptions but generally 18-21 year old men will struggle if they think relying just on Fabs is the answer.
Actually to some it can be patronising as it makes whoever said it feel like this site is for people of a certain age when it’s not as various other people on here have said. I’ve had it said to me a few time but I don’t expect anything on here. Also op as others have said try clubs or socials to get established in the scene after that you might get more meets and definitely rework your profile as it does show your age. "
We’ll have to beg to differ, as I don’t think it came across patronising.
As I said way up there ^^ everyone is welcome on Fabs however if you are starting a thread asking why you can get meets, and you are a man age CAN be a factor on both sides of the scale. |
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"all ages of 18 and above are welcome on fab.
I think its patronising to tell young men to go out and meet people when they have as much right to be here as the rest of us.
I don’t think it’s patronising, it’s pretty good advice which has been dolled out to many a young lad seeking and failing to find meets over the years.
There are exceptions but generally 18-21 year old men will struggle if they think relying just on Fabs is the answer.
Actually to some it can be patronising as it makes whoever said it feel like this site is for people of a certain age when it’s not as various other people on here have said. I’ve had it said to me a few time but I don’t expect anything on here. Also op as others have said try clubs or socials to get established in the scene after that you might get more meets and definitely rework your profile as it does show your age.
We’ll have to beg to differ, as I don’t think it came across patronising.
As I said way up there ^^ everyone is welcome on Fabs however if you are starting a thread asking why you can get meets, and you are a man age CAN be a factor on both sides of the scale."
Indeed.
Bloke asks why he can't get meet. It's highly likely that his age is a factor. Should we not tell him that because it sounds "patronising"? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op it's how you sell yourself that gets you meets so concentrate on the whole package ie pics ,profile blurb ,and when you message someone show you actually read their profile not just flicked through the pics |
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By *c-ukMan
over a year ago
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"all ages of 18 and above are welcome on fab.
I think its patronising to tell young men to go out and meet people when they have as much right to be here as the rest of us. "
Totally agree with that, they have as much right to have there messages deleted unread as the rest of us |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"The facts are simple, a safe guess is that there is at least 20 single males to every single female. Also you said you live in dorset which isnt a highly populated area compared to london or manchester. Then your age cuts the pool of people down even more.
We have been here as a couple for 3 years and had 3 meets. And the couple dynamic is alot differant but still its hard to get what you want here unless you are a single female"
Really? I'm a single female and it certainly isn't easy lol. |
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Some areas have lower population levels than others, which can make it tougher. If you define the area you will meet in, it may simplify it for others.
Success is tough for all single men here, so focus on improving your odds, as far as you can.
People engage in conversation until they are clearer on whether they are meeting you. Some will have limited time and also have family, jobs and other priorities - plus alternative options for sex and love. If you were here I'd meet you but don't get south west too often |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why is it so hard to find A genuine women near me or anywhere in the country to have some fun over the camera or in person everyone's seems to chicken out when it comes to it!!!..."
it’s like gold dust trying to find a lady that will return a message never mind have a good chat or even getting anywhere near a chance of even a social meet |
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