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hi all,
i have been invited to a meet.
Basically the scenario is the guy has told me its a role play. He wants me to pretend to be a mate of his who is a handyman. He wont be there when I go round to fix something at his house.
His partner thinks I am a mate of his and not off this site. He wants me to flirt with her and see what happens.
I am a little concerned that she is not fully aware I am on this site and thinking I am a friend of his.
Should I be concerned or just go for it?
Any advise would be great.
Thanks
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Entirely up to you really. She could know and that's part of the game for them. Or it might be as he says. Or he could be trying to catch her out which could end with you in the middle of something awkward. Or he could be tricking her into something she's said she doesn't want to do in getting involved in the scene. You need to think how comfortable you are with these and other possibilities. Or you might feel that it's their relationship, their problem!
Not sure I would be fully comfortable with it but it really is up to you. Maybe talk to him more about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope defo dont go there. If youre concerned enough to put it in here then obviously alarm bells are ringing already and quite rightly so. Id stay well away from this !! Could be getting yourself into all sorts of trouble !!  |
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seriously you need to ask...it isnt role play if she hasnt consented...
You might like to read this...
http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/features/4083795/Net-stalker-sending-men-to-my-house-for-sick-sex-games-was-my-ex.html |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You need to chat to both fem and the man on the phone ..... even have a pass word you all have as a safe word .Thing like this have to be done right as have been told of all sorts of things and end up the woman knowing nothing about it ... some people can be weird and get off on strange things . And you need to know your safe too . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And this man could be seeing if ........ sex and a horny mans on offer would his wife so for it ? and see it not just as fun but a ticket to do as he likes and get away with it knowing he had somthing on her .? you never know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Avoid...
Comes over like he is trying to frame her for Adultery so that he can leave or divorce her.
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That your being set up to either get revenge on her or something worse.
If I were you I would avoid and look for someone else on this site, whilst trying to work out why this guy wants to set you up and drop you in it.
Mark of Mark and Jayne |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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ask to speak to the woman, if she wont speak and you cant even message her then whats the odds she will fuck !
if it sounds too good to be true and your not in contact with any females then to be fair its probs too good to be true! |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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Avoid...
Comes over like he is trying to frame her for Adultery so that he can leave or divorce her.
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That your being set up to either get revenge on her or something worse.
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Have to say that was my first thought when I read it... call me cynical |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Avoid...
Comes over like he is trying to frame her for Adultery so that he can leave or divorce her.
OR
That your being set up to either get revenge on her or something worse.
Have to say that was my first thought when I read it... call me cynical"
me too ... i read that thinking the same . I also think if worried should never meet a person. |
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Yeah you NEED to chat to the both of them, putting yourself in that position is crazy mate.
It might be you are being set up, or he is testing is woman, thats if she even exists. I'd advise caution. Always ask to meet in a public place until you get to know someone.
It could be totally genuine but is it worth the risk to yourself ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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pure and simple leave wel alone u already have doubts about the situation as uve posted on here my moto is if it dont feel rite it isnt yeh i know wat ure thinking MMMMMMM COULD BE SEXY and mind blowing but ide leave it and move on |
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"pure and simple leave wel alone u already have doubts about the situation as uve posted on here my moto is if it dont feel rite it isnt yeh i know wat ure thinking MMMMMMM COULD BE SEXY and mind blowing but ide leave it and move on "
Could not agree more !!!!  Great advice ! |
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"its 99% chance of bs if the lass aint speaking to you "
Agreed and well said, been in a similar position myself and did not touch it with a barge pole, was always some excuse why she couldn't come to the phone etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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just to add to my earlyer two penny worh . have u ever thought the guy in question could hold a lil grudge on u for watever reason maybe not of this site but any were and basicly wants to get up close and personal wiv u . believe me it hapens as we wel know doue to mr twins employment just walk away from it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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just to add to my earlyer two penny worh . have u ever thought the guy in question could hold a lil grudge on u for watever reason maybe not of this site but any were and basicly wants to get up close and personal wiv u . believe me it hapens as we wel know doue to mr twins employment just walk away from it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a couple we play similar games, though obviously both of us are involved and its entirely consensual, but I can understand concerns and if you feel uneasy then don't do it.
My OH arranged to take me to an unknown place, blindfold from the house so I had no idea where I was being driven to. He took me into this guys factory whereby my partner and this single guy played with me orally over various machinery. I kept the blindfold on the whole time, the guy was instructed not to speak to me and I have no idea to this day who the guy was. Took the blindfold off when we got home, don't even know where we went.
However it took a lot of planning. I was unaware and it would have spoilt the scenario had I spoken to the guy beforehand, where would the element of surprise and the unknown be? But my OH met him, had coffee and a chat, inspected the factory, passed over his phone details, talked in depth about the scenario etc. The guy was also off our friends list, though I have no idea who and I never want to know. No doubt he must have spoken to me via message on there.
Also my OH never left my side as I was vulnerable (part of the scenario) in that I was blindfold the whole time and I was only wearing a corset under my coat. But the single guy would have known by my body language that I was ok, I was safe as held onto my OHs hand the whole time and there was a lot of correspondence between the two men before the meet, and they chat on my OHs msn now, though I don't know who it is.
It could be genuine but just not quite thought out well enough, everyone does not play in a meeting for drinks, texting/calling beforehand and then meeting in their home, some people like the thrill of variety, but if you are uneasy then don't do it. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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To be honest Iconic, if I was male playing alone I would still need the consent of the female, especially after the true story about the female who's ex set her up to have roleplay with a few men. She didn't know anything about it so the men who carried out the roleplay where being duped.
I don't think there is anything wrong with people playing their own way, ie without socials beforehand or how you played with the whole blindfold thing, (in fact it sounds really horny and could be added to the list , ta for that ) but I think people need to protect themselves.
I am sure you would feel safe being with your hubby but it is the man coming in for the play that could end up in the mire so I think I would have to speak to the female to make sure she is up for a roleplay situation. |
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"To be honest Iconic, if I was male playing alone I would still need the consent of the female, especially after the true story about the female who's ex set her up to have roleplay with a few men. She didn't know anything about it so the men who carried out the roleplay where being duped.
I don't think there is anything wrong with people playing their own way, ie without socials beforehand or how you played with the whole blindfold thing, (in fact it sounds really horny and could be added to the list , ta for that ) but I think people need to protect themselves.
I am sure you would feel safe being with your hubby but it is the man coming in for the play that could end up in the mire so I think I would have to speak to the female to make sure she is up for a roleplay situation."
Yes I agree. It does have to be very carefully planned and thought out and it is certainly a risk for a single guy. In the situation I described of course the guy was on our friends list and if blindfolds were used and if people wanted to ensure safety and compliance, could choose someone they'd already played with so would know the couple concerned.
Without being completely sure, and the OP doesn't sound like he is as he's asking our opinion, then I wouldn't go for it,
We've also done a similar caught in the woods scenario and again it took ages to organise. Its certainly easy for me to sit here and feel safe cos I wasn't on my own but considerably more scary for the single person in that scenario
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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sounds like he is trying to catch her cheating more than a bit of swinging fun... i wouldnt touch that scenario with a barge pole,, had a couples profile which turned out she didnt know she was on the site etc and he didnt want her to know so we werent supposed to talk about it,, we just said no thanks and walked away from the situation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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if you are good round the house, you can bob round to mine whilst i'm at work
the bathroom could do with a bit of a spruce, there's a spotlight in the kitchen that needs replacing and the handle on the bedroom door is loose
there's no other half for you to attempt to seduce, but i will leave coffee, tea, milk and a stash of porn out for you
it might not be as much fun as your other offer, but by christ is it a much safer option !
as others have said, stay away  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"hi all,
i have been invited to a meet.
Basically the scenario is the guy has told me its a role play. He wants me to pretend to be a mate of his who is a handyman. He wont be there when I go round to fix something at his house.
His partner thinks I am a mate of his and not off this site. He wants me to flirt with her and see what happens.
I am a little concerned that she is not fully aware I am on this site and thinking I am a friend of his.
Should I be concerned or just go for it?
Any advise would be great.
Thanks
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dont do it as it sounds like a bad idea to me, he could be trying to get her to cheat xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As a couple we play similar games, though obviously both of us are involved and its entirely consensual, but I can understand concerns and if you feel uneasy then don't do it.
My OH arranged to take me to an unknown place, blindfold from the house so I had no idea where I was being driven to. He took me into this guys factory whereby my partner and this single guy played with me orally over various machinery. I kept the blindfold on the whole time, the guy was instructed not to speak to me and I have no idea to this day who the guy was. Took the blindfold off when we got home, don't even know where we went.
However it took a lot of planning. I was unaware and it would have spoilt the scenario had I spoken to the guy beforehand, where would the element of surprise and the unknown be? But my OH met him, had coffee and a chat, inspected the factory, passed over his phone details, talked in depth about the scenario etc. The guy was also off our friends list, though I have no idea who and I never want to know. No doubt he must have spoken to me via message on there.
Also my OH never left my side as I was vulnerable (part of the scenario) in that I was blindfold the whole time and I was only wearing a corset under my coat. But the single guy would have known by my body language that I was ok, I was safe as held onto my OHs hand the whole time and there was a lot of correspondence between the two men before the meet, and they chat on my OHs msn now, though I don't know who it is.
It could be genuine but just not quite thought out well enough, everyone does not play in a meeting for drinks, texting/calling beforehand and then meeting in their home, some people like the thrill of variety, but if you are uneasy then don't do it. "
thats different though, im sure the lads turning up at someones house pretending to be a service which the lady requires then he has to try it on with her.
its alot different some blindfold fun, coz even if the single man hadnt spoken to you (which is to be expected) he's still turning up where you are there blindfolded ready and willing for this to happen.
i mean soon as he gets there he knows its the real deal. its a bit different the guy being there and anothe guy brings a girl over blindfolded and obviousily up for it
where this guy has to trust who ever he's messaged that its all legit without being able to confirm it. and then have to make moves on a stranger who could be up for it or might be offended in the worst way! |
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Not a chance in hell unless you have spoken to her as it sounds to me that he thinks she is cheating or doesn't trust her and is using you to find out. And I suspect you will get it in the neck if she succumbs to your charms but that's only my opinion as it could be as he has said, don't take the risk, block him safer that way |
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"it could be your wife lol  "
where does it say he is married?? or are you using your bestest crystal ball to make stuff up???
OP, i would ask more questions if i were you. It could be a trap as others have said or it could be legit.
at the end of the day you need to go with your gut feeling. If you dont feel comfortable with the scenario dont do it - a shag is not worth the risk really |
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