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"I am not against bareback. But is it right to advertise bareback sex meet openly like this when we are all aware what's the risk involved. Worst is when being asked...Will you cum inside me or bb me?? Lol... you need safe sex class "if you're not against it are you suggesting that people keep it under the radar? | |||
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"I am not against bareback. But is it right to advertise bareback sex meet openly like this when we are all aware what's the risk involved. Worst is when being asked...Will you cum inside me or bb me?? Lol... you need safe sex class "Better than finding out when you get there, and you're already tied to the chair and gagged . | |||
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"Been done many times but think some cant believe that people still want unprotected sex with total strangers they know next to nothing about it amazes us especially now with sti's slowly becoming resistant to antibiotics not to mention HIV " This world is a funny place.... isn’t it. | |||
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"Rubber up kids for you safety" If everyone rubbered up , how will children ever be born? | |||
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"I am not against bareback. But is it right to advertise bareback sex meet openly like this when we are all aware what's the risk involved. Worst is when being asked...Will you cum inside me or bb me?? Lol... you need safe sex class "Simple if you're not into bareback ever..always wear a Condon, then if somebody has lied at least you will be covered in more ways then one.. | |||
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"If you’re that bothered about STIs then why on earth are you on a swinging site? Condoms reduce the risk but they don’t eliminate it, the only safe sex is no sex Pretending you aren’t taking a risk by being on here and having sex with multiple partners but using a condom, is just a psychological pretence - it has no basis in statistics or medicine " Risk is relative. You could be asleep in bed and the roof could fall in, killing you. Ban beds! | |||
"If you’re that bothered about STIs then why on earth are you on a swinging site? Condoms reduce the risk but they don’t eliminate it, the only safe sex is no sex Pretending you aren’t taking a risk by being on here and having sex with multiple partners but using a condom, is just a psychological pretence - it has no basis in statistics or medicine Risk is relative. You could be asleep in bed and the roof could fall in, killing you. Ban beds! " Exactly risk is relative - which is why it’s mad seeing people get massively upset about the risk of death from a STI for example vs smoking, drinking or various diets - which statistically are way more likely to kill you Now of course it’s all individual choice and someone wants to smoke or bareback the world etc that’s up to them But getting lectures on here from people who choose to take risk A bit chastise people who choose to take risk B is a bit rich | |||
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"It’s not the ones that are up front about it that I worry about, you can make your own decisions about them. It’s the ones who say they completely play safe and then start slipping it in as a suggestion trying to be all sly like, they’re the ones who you can’t trust and worry me " This - happens a LOT! | |||
"It’s not the ones that are up front about it that I worry about, you can make your own decisions about them. It’s the ones who say they completely play safe and then start slipping it in as a suggestion trying to be all sly like, they’re the ones who you can’t trust and worry me " This very nearly happened to us. A long time ago we met a single male and he joined us for MMF fun, I (female) was blindfolded and I could hear my boyfriend stop the guy and tell him to play safe. I was so glad that he was observant. C and P | |||
"It’s not the ones that are up front about it that I worry about, you can make your own decisions about them. It’s the ones who say they completely play safe and then start slipping it in as a suggestion trying to be all sly like, they’re the ones who you can’t trust and worry me This very nearly happened to us. A long time ago we met a single male and he joined us for MMF fun, I (female) was blindfolded and I could hear my boyfriend stop the guy and tell him to play safe. I was so glad that he was observant. C and P " Yup. People try it on a lot. | |||
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"It’s not the ones that are up front about it that I worry about, you can make your own decisions about them. It’s the ones who say they completely play safe and then start slipping it in as a suggestion trying to be all sly like, they’re the ones who you can’t trust and worry me " So true. Sneaky fuckers. | |||
"We are adults and capable of taking objective, rational decisions about our lives. More people have died this year from pollution but there's limited discussion on risky sex, if you are meeting in an area with pollution levels above the legal limit. But it's probably shortened your life and could have killed you. Determine your own interests and risk analysis of the many risks involved in meeting. And specify if you have been tested for all STIs - most people have not. Welcome to adult life " What a pity people choose not to take care of themselves. It's so simple to get checked, just order a test online and do it at home. No excuse!  | |||
"As previously mentioned, its a personal choice, just seems some people want to bring it up over & over to get a reaction ? " Perhaps it's because it's such an important issue. It affects us all. How about that case that hit the news about the man who was sent to prison for purposely infecting men with HIV? People can be selfish and stupid. We all need to bear it in mind, if we are sleeping with lots of people we don't know! | |||
"If you're having oral sex, the only thing a condom will protection you against is pregnancy, and possibly aids. Everything else you will catch if they have it...." A sobering thought. No matter how sexy someone looks, f their profile has photos of BB sex images and lots of verifications over a short space of time, I ignore. Although I know that it only takes one time for something to happen, and it could be someone who hasn't slept with anybody for ages. It's always a risk, every time. | |||
"It’s not the ones that are up front about it that I worry about, you can make your own decisions about them. It’s the ones who say they completely play safe and then start slipping it in as a suggestion trying to be all sly like, they’re the ones who you can’t trust and worry me This very nearly happened to us. A long time ago we met a single male and he joined us for MMF fun, I (female) was blindfolded and I could hear my boyfriend stop the guy and tell him to play safe. I was so glad that he was observant. C and P " Wow. How rude! Very worrying, to just assume it was ok. | |||
"Nah, not for me. I was badgered into it once (its a sex site, we might as well, etc, etc) and ended up with Pelvic Inflammatory Disorder and put on antibiotics. I swore I would never do it again and would only consider it with a long term monogamous play partner. That's part of the reason I just don't drop em for anyone anymore. Stay healthy folks." I feel your pain. That must've been horrible. I try to be very selective; I check out their verifications and I do ask men if they've been tested recently. Trouble is, people lie. How do you vet the people you choose? It's proving difficult to find the elusive 'long term monogamous play partner', I think lots of us are after that! (I am, anyway)  | |||
"Surely it's better they tell you so you can make your own mind up" I would go with that its be3tter to know who plays without protection and then decide if to meet or not. | |||
"You know what gets me with threads like this? How patronising most of the replies are. If you folk think it's such a pointless thread, why bother commenting on it?" Because many see it as a license to go bareback and increase the risk to all of us. | |||
"You know what gets me with threads like this? How patronising most of the replies are. If you folk think it's such a pointless thread, why bother commenting on it? Because many see it as a license to go bareback and increase the risk to all of us." Do you have unprotected oral sex? If so, you may as well not wear a condom because you are slurping up all of whatever they are carrying...it's not rocket science.... | |||
"You know what gets me with threads like this? How patronising most of the replies are. If you folk think it's such a pointless thread, why bother commenting on it? Because many see it as a license to go bareback and increase the risk to all of us. Do you have unprotected oral sex? If so, you may as well not wear a condom because you are slurping up all of whatever they are carrying...it's not rocket science...." Risks aren't the same | |||
"You know what gets me with threads like this? How patronising most of the replies are. If you folk think it's such a pointless thread, why bother commenting on it? Because many see it as a license to go bareback and increase the risk to all of us. Do you have unprotected oral sex? If so, you may as well not wear a condom because you are slurping up all of whatever they are carrying...it's not rocket science.... Risks aren't the same " Aside from pregnancy, they really are...research.. | |||
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Love these threads, quite interesting seeing who’s on the moral high ground but has messaged us in the past asking for bb.
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"We are adults and capable of taking objective, rational decisions about our lives. More people have died this year from pollution but there's limited discussion on risky sex, if you are meeting in an area with pollution levels above the legal limit. But it's probably shortened your life and could have killed you. Determine your own interests and risk analysis of the many risks involved in meeting. And specify if you have been tested for all STIs - most people have not. Welcome to adult life "  | |||
"It really doesn’t matter nor is it anyone’s business what others choose to do, there choices will only affect you if you if your planning on going bareback with them yourself
Love these threads, quite interesting seeing who’s on the moral high ground but has messaged us in the past asking for bb.
"The hypocrisy on here is rife..... | |||
"https://www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/sexual-health/what-infections-can-i-catch-through-oral-sex/" It literally says in your link that apart from three sti's they are all less commonly caught through oral. The three that are caught more commonly through oral are still actually quite low in incidence in straight people but more common in men who fuck men . | |||
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"If you're having oral sex, the only thing a condom will protection you against is pregnancy, and possibly aids. Everything else you will catch if they have it...." Not true , you can sleep with someone who is infected and not get infected yourself , somebody with an sti does not pass that on every time they have sex, there are many factors involved . | |||
"https://www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/sexual-health/what-infections-can-i-catch-through-oral-sex/ It literally says in your link that apart from three sti's they are all less commonly caught through oral. The three that are caught more commonly through oral are still actually quite low in incidence in straight people but more common in men who fuck men ." Apart from hiv is increasing in hetro communities and reducing in gay communities as more gay / bi people are using prep and testing more frequently Data pulled from uk /Europe’s biggest sexual health clinic I visit every 21 days for last 10 years . It’s very interesting when you speak to the health advisors and ask for actual statistics on the new cases / current cases /growth and declines ratios. Also different parts of uk are biases to some directions too . Example Leeds has some of the highest ghonerea / syphilis ratios compared to other areas I was told multiple times over last 15 months . Equally London and Mancs have higher overall rates due to higher populations but London has the fastest declining hiv infections in the lgbt community in country to date as prep is so widespread within the community and impact trials or affordable monthly pills bought directly . Two fastest growing groups for hiv are under 25 and over 50s swingers in the uk and USA . Interesting how stats move around over time and geographic based | |||
"https://www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/sexual-health/what-infections-can-i-catch-through-oral-sex/ It literally says in your link that apart from three sti's they are all less commonly caught through oral. The three that are caught more commonly through oral are still actually quite low in incidence in straight people but more common in men who fuck men . Apart from hiv is increasing in hetro communities and reducing in gay communities as more gay / bi people are using prep and testing more frequently Data pulled from uk /Europe’s biggest sexual health clinic I visit every 21 days for last 10 years . It’s very interesting when you speak to the health advisors and ask for actual statistics on the new cases / current cases /growth and declines ratios. Also different parts of uk are biases to some directions too . Example Leeds has some of the highest ghonerea / syphilis ratios compared to other areas I was told multiple times over last 15 months . Equally London and Mancs have higher overall rates due to higher populations but London has the fastest declining hiv infections in the lgbt community in country to date as prep is so widespread within the community and impact trials or affordable monthly pills bought directly . Two fastest growing groups for hiv are under 25 and over 50s swingers in the uk and USA . Interesting how stats move around over time and geographic based " Its crazy though when you look at the actual number of cases compared to population , people act like its russian roulette (1 in 6 chance of dying) when in actual fact you are doing things every day as a matter of course that are far more likely to kill you . The most important thing is early detection and people think because they use condoms they dont really need to be tested regularly, testing is the most important part ! | |||
"It’s a casual sex site. Adults are responsible for their own health. What next do we not allow fisting / heavy bdsm other kinks that may harm a person too if done incorrectly. In a time where censorship is growing online do we really need more choices removed " Easy tiger. Nobody is taking your choices away. It's information, that's all. Why? Because I've heard thus too many times... "No you can't catch anything because it's with your mouth". 8 get tested regularly, even when I'm in a relationship, be ause you can never trust anyone. It's just a "heads-up", honey, that's all. Xx | |||
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"I am not against bareback. But is it right to advertise bareback sex meet openly like this when we are all aware what's the risk involved. Worst is when being asked...Will you cum inside me or bb me?? Lol... you need safe sex class "Ultimately you are responsible for your sexual health. So precautions and testing should be standard. If in the heat of the moment, you are offered bareback, politely decline and get the condom on. If she insists, thank her for her time and get out of there. | |||
"https://www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/sexual-health/what-infections-can-i-catch-through-oral-sex/ It literally says in your link that apart from three sti's they are all less commonly caught through oral. The three that are caught more commonly through oral are still actually quite low in incidence in straight people but more common in men who fuck men ." It's certainly true that the Syphilis rates are higher amongst men who fuck men, mainly because they have anal sex, which carries more risks (but also they're a group of people more likely to have casual sex??) Incubation periods are a problem. There's no opportunity to sit back and observe any changes, or symptoms, then act upon them. And what if you can't contact previous sexual partners? False name, no name, no number etc etc. At the end of the day, when you're having sex with multiple partners, even if you do use condoms, there is always risk. The Clap and Chlamydia are treated with antibiotics and it's easy to get rid of, but women might not even know they have it. And do all people get checked when they have symptoms?? I use a home testing kit when I haven't got time to get to a clinic. It's free, and the NHS offers the service in most areas of the UK as far as I'm aware. | |||
"It’s a casual sex site. Adults are responsible for their own health. What next do we not allow fisting / heavy bdsm other kinks that may harm a person too if done incorrectly. In a time where censorship is growing online do we really need more choices removed Easy tiger. Nobody is taking your choices away. It's information, that's all. Why? Because I've heard thus too many times... "No you can't catch anything because it's with your mouth". 8 get tested regularly, even when I'm in a relationship, be ause you can never trust anyone. It's just a "heads-up", honey, that's all. Xx" It is very true, you can't trust anybody else, only yourself.  | |||
"https://www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/sexual-health/what-infections-can-i-catch-through-oral-sex/ It literally says in your link that apart from three sti's they are all less commonly caught through oral. The three that are caught more commonly through oral are still actually quite low in incidence in straight people but more common in men who fuck men . Apart from hiv is increasing in hetro communities and reducing in gay communities as more gay / bi people are using prep and testing more frequently Data pulled from uk /Europe’s biggest sexual health clinic I visit every 21 days for last 10 years . It’s very interesting when you speak to the health advisors and ask for actual statistics on the new cases / current cases /growth and declines ratios. Also different parts of uk are biases to some directions too . Example Leeds has some of the highest ghonerea / syphilis ratios compared to other areas I was told multiple times over last 15 months . Equally London and Mancs have higher overall rates due to higher populations but London has the fastest declining hiv infections in the lgbt community in country to date as prep is so widespread within the community and impact trials or affordable monthly pills bought directly . Two fastest growing groups for hiv are under 25 and over 50s swingers in the uk and USA . Interesting how stats move around over time and geographic based " I read an article about the over 50's and swinging; that many in this age group are often unwilling to use condoms, (perhaps they didn't need them in their marriage, then got divorced, and are now free to fuck whoever they want and make up for years of minimum sex) and have an "I'm invincible" attitude to sex. Young people definitely have the 'nothing can hurt me' attitude, and seem fearless in everything they do! | |||
"It’s a casual sex site. Adults are responsible for their own health. What next do we not allow fisting / heavy bdsm other kinks that may harm a person too if done incorrectly. In a time where censorship is growing online do we really need more choices removed Easy tiger. Nobody is taking your choices away. It's information, that's all. Why? Because I've heard thus too many times... "No you can't catch anything because it's with your mouth". 8 get tested regularly, even when I'm in a relationship, be ause you can never trust anyone. It's just a "heads-up", honey, that's all. Xx" You missed my point entirely love
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"https://www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/sexual-health/what-infections-can-i-catch-through-oral-sex/ It literally says in your link that apart from three sti's they are all less commonly caught through oral. The three that are caught more commonly through oral are still actually quite low in incidence in straight people but more common in men who fuck men . Apart from hiv is increasing in hetro communities and reducing in gay communities as more gay / bi people are using prep and testing more frequently Data pulled from uk /Europe’s biggest sexual health clinic I visit every 21 days for last 10 years . It’s very interesting when you speak to the health advisors and ask for actual statistics on the new cases / current cases /growth and declines ratios. Also different parts of uk are biases to some directions too . Example Leeds has some of the highest ghonerea / syphilis ratios compared to other areas I was told multiple times over last 15 months . Equally London and Mancs have higher overall rates due to higher populations but London has the fastest declining hiv infections in the lgbt community in country to date as prep is so widespread within the community and impact trials or affordable monthly pills bought directly . Two fastest growing groups for hiv are under 25 and over 50s swingers in the uk and USA . Interesting how stats move around over time and geographic based I read an article about the over 50's and swinging; that many in this age group are often unwilling to use condoms, (perhaps they didn't need them in their marriage, then got divorced, and are now free to fuck whoever they want and make up for years of minimum sex) and have an "I'm invincible" attitude to sex. Young people definitely have the 'nothing can hurt me' attitude, and seem fearless in everything they do!" We find younger are I'm on the pill don't need condom - wtf | |||
"We have been surprised by how many messages we get asking if we will play BB, yet when we look at their profile before replying they have safe sex listed?" We have found that too in a lot of cases. You have to be careful. Assume any single male is playing bareback with others. Make sure protection is on the table and ready to go! | |||
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