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Does anyone else have this problem. I get messages from "couples". All the compliments, a few messages backwards and forwards and then "btw this is just the male part of the couple, wife says its ok that we meet".
I really dont care what agreement they have, what I dont want is to be mislead into thinking I am meeting a couple. Obviously they think they will have greater success as a couple instead of the hundreds and hundreds of single males.
Its just dishonest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep it’s rife on here, it’s also rife that single lady profiles are just bait and are actually a couple the line “my other half will always be present and may join in if you want” is a real tell, but others are far more subtle.
It’s the nature of the beast unfortunately x |
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I rule out anyone who uses the wrong profile type (I suppose except trans people, that's a whole other issue. Sorry). If you're a guy, I'll be prepared to meet you... if you don't pretend to be a couple. Etc. |
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"Yep it’s rife on here, it’s also rife that single lady profiles are just bait and are actually a couple the line “my other half will always be present and may join in if you want” is a real tell, but others are far more subtle.
It’s the nature of the beast unfortunately x"
wow, didnt know it worked that way as well |
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"I rule out anyone who uses the wrong profile type (I suppose except trans people, that's a whole other issue. Sorry). If you're a guy, I'll be prepared to meet you... if you don't pretend to be a couple. Etc. "
Dishonest once, and I wont meet them either x |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I suspect a lot of the time that "couple" will actually just be a single guy with no other half at all (or not one that's aware he's on here) - it's quite a common tactic to attract interest they won't otherwise get with a single male profile.
Sadly there's no way to tell from the off short of asking if it's both of them early on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hmmm, I am on here as a single, but am really a couple, cos I don't meet without her.
But I do state that on my profile, so that's ok'ish... right?"
You're a couple. Change it. People like you ruin this website for others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hmmm, I am on here as a single, but am really a couple, cos I don't meet without her.
But I do state that on my profile, so that's ok'ish... right?
You're a couple. Change it. People like you ruin this website for others."
How? Neither of us meets from this profile, so how do we ruin anything for anyone? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have this problem but also as somebody else has already said with single female profiles.
Probably 7 out of 10 that contact me will be along the lines of "I have a boyfriend and he would love to watch or join in".
Often no mention of a male on the profile or if there is it says I only meet with my partner! so as far as I'm concerned that isn't a single profile.
Also I do understand that some couples meet together but also separately but then I feel if they're wanting to meet separately they should also both have same profiles, because it just saves a lot of confusion and time-wasting.
I also think not only do single males use couples profiles to try to stand out as "another single male" but also I think it is used to get round filters. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m a female. I play alone. But my partner likes to be on the phone. Or have videos etc. So am I false advertising? I don’t believe so "
Not at all, that's a different scenario altogether x |
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"Does anyone else have this problem. I get messages from "couples". All the compliments, a few messages backwards and forwards and then "btw this is just the male part of the couple, wife says its ok that we meet".
I really dont care what agreement they have, what I dont want is to be mislead into thinking I am meeting a couple. Obviously they think they will have greater success as a couple instead of the hundreds and hundreds of single males.
Its just dishonest. "
If they lay it out in the first message to you then no if they hide it beyond message 2 then yes its dishonest. |
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I occasionally meet with my FWB. But it's occasionally, not most of our meets (we mostly meet separately). If it is a possibility, it's offered as an option from the start. We don't lead anyone on. |
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"It's really a male.
We have a couples profile and if he's messaging he will say and then get me to message back if they want to chat to us both. "
Sorry but in my book thats wrong, if you wish to meet alone, you should have a single profile and mention in the profile that you have a swinging partner.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I (Miss V) have a solo profile as well as this joint one. I use it only to meet females. It is now hidden and I will probably delete. It’s just not worth the hassle. So few genuine females but lots of fake profiles and as others have stated, females suddenly mentioning male partners who will be present. It’s been a real eye opener, unfortunately not in a positive way  |
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We enjoy meeting couples and single guys, if we want to meet a single guy we will look for one when the need arises, but couples profiles that say "only male meeting" more often than not is a single guys profile, so the dishonesty factor for us is a no |
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I am a single guy. I do not pretend to be anything else. Reading your comments helps explain a lot of the negativity that goes with single men and rightly so. I know there is a lot of us on here and some try to get noticed above the others by putting up false profiles. Could also explain the number of no shows when meeting has been organised.
We are not all knobheads but the huge amount that are make it difficult for the rest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hmmm, I am on here as a single, but am really a couple, cos I don't meet without her.
But I do state that on my profile, so that's ok'ish... right?
You're a couple. Change it. People like you ruin this website for others.
How? Neither of us meets from this profile, so how do we ruin anything for anyone?"
You said you don't meet without her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hmmm, I am on here as a single, but am really a couple, cos I don't meet without her.
But I do state that on my profile, so that's ok'ish... right?
You're a couple. Change it. People like you ruin this website for others.
How? Neither of us meets from this profile, so how do we ruin anything for anyone?
You said you don't meet without her."
I don't meet without her, nor do I meet from this profile, so I don't get why that ruins this website? |
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I'm a girl and use this profile as a single girl, but sometimes also use it to connect with other couples for my FWB and I to meet up with clubbing - I think I've made it pretty clear in my profile though |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I rule out anyone who uses the wrong profile type (I suppose except trans people, that's a whole other issue. Sorry). If you're a guy, I'll be prepared to meet you... if you don't pretend to be a couple. Etc. "
Agreed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hmmm, I am on here as a single, but am really a couple, cos I don't meet without her.
But I do state that on my profile, so that's ok'ish... right?
You're a couple. Change it. People like you ruin this website for others.
How? Neither of us meets from this profile, so how do we ruin anything for anyone?
You said you don't meet without her.
I don't meet without her, nor do I meet from this profile, so I don't get why that ruins this website?"
Do you message women from this profile asking to meet you both?
If not, you're not what the OP is on about are you. I don't know why you commented as you're not on a couples profile pretending to be a couple. |
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Seeing this more and more on here lately. Singles that are couples and vice versa. A lot of people say report and block, but that doesn’t stop the issue, and more often than not the profile remains active. Even some couples profile seem to be suspicious. Photo verified, yet no other type of verification for years? Yet profile is written that the “couple” are eager to play, and get stuck in etc etc... |
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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago
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"Does anyone else have this problem. I get messages from "couples". All the compliments, a few messages backwards and forwards and then "btw this is just the male part of the couple, wife says its ok that we meet".
I really dont care what agreement they have, what I dont want is to be mislead into thinking I am meeting a couple. Obviously they think they will have greater success as a couple instead of the hundreds and hundreds of single males.
Its just dishonest. "
Lots of characters on here, just out the undesirables.
Theres not much else we can do |
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"Seeing this more and more on here lately. Singles that are couples and vice versa. A lot of people say report and block, but that doesn’t stop the issue, and more often than not the profile remains active. Even some couples profile seem to be suspicious. Photo verified, yet no other type of verification for years? Yet profile is written that the “couple” are eager to play, and get stuck in etc etc..."
The only person you can look after is yourself, ultimately. Reporting and blocking solves the issue for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I won't meet couples nor a 'single' lady from a couple. Bad experience in both cases, greeted badly by couples and in later a sudden appearance of hubby in the middle of things, saying he was only going to watch.
I've a fwb who is married and on here with hubbys knowledge. (Long term friend) |
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I think everyone just needs to be honest. We're a couple that meets other couples, males and females. We sometimes meet separately (it started through the convenience of arranging meets around vanilla life). If you read our veris you'll see that we are genuine. Some females simply won't entertain the thought of playing with Mr in case he's fake (despite the veris). We just accept it and move on! |
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"I think everyone just needs to be honest. We're a couple that meets other couples, males and females. We sometimes meet separately (it started through the convenience of arranging meets around vanilla life). If you read our veris you'll see that we are genuine. Some females simply won't entertain the thought of playing with Mr in case he's fake (despite the veris). We just accept it and move on! "
This I don't mind tbh. If it's all above board and I have confirmation from the other party (or ideally meet them too), great. If it's oh, the Mrs is away, she's not well, she's shy, there's no evidence of her existence... Nope. |
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"I think everyone just needs to be honest. We're a couple that meets other couples, males and females. We sometimes meet separately (it started through the convenience of arranging meets around vanilla life). If you read our veris you'll see that we are genuine. Some females simply won't entertain the thought of playing with Mr in case he's fake (despite the veris). We just accept it and move on!
This I don't mind tbh. If it's all above board and I have confirmation from the other party (or ideally meet them too), great. If it's oh, the Mrs is away, she's not well, she's shy, there's no evidence of her existence... Nope. "
I totally get that from your point of view. People just need to be upfront. We communicate with people who are going to meet alone with our other half. It puts everyone's mind at ease. If anything I think it confirms we're after NSA fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have this profile and also both have single profiles. If a single or couple contacts us and we are interested either as a couple or single we'll direct as appropriate.
If it's a single or couple masquerading as something else we just block. Our block list grows quite a lot! |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm a girl and use this profile as a single girl, but sometimes also use it to connect with other couples for my FWB and I to meet up with clubbing - I think I've made it pretty clear in my profile though"
Yes and it reads like a couples profile not a single female as clearly stated it is mainly used as a fwb profile only occasionally for solo meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are a couple and only ever meet as a couple but do get the Male half of couples message us. Normally is Male half J on line..but we dont meet couples only single guys...so wont meet Male half of a couple.. |
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"I think everyone just needs to be honest. We're a couple that meets other couples, males and females. We sometimes meet separately (it started through the convenience of arranging meets around vanilla life). If you read our veris you'll see that we are genuine. Some females simply won't entertain the thought of playing with Mr in case he's fake (despite the veris). We just accept it and move on!
This I don't mind tbh. If it's all above board and I have confirmation from the other party (or ideally meet them too), great. If it's oh, the Mrs is away, she's not well, she's shy, there's no evidence of her existence... Nope. "
The second is pretty much the view I take of all couple profiles to begin with. Nice surprise if it isn't lol |
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I've had both the male and female half contact me, in both cases it's a no. I get it,that some couples are genuine and they can play alone, but I'm not taking that on. I enjoy threesomes or even more for play but have a preference for one on one meets. |
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"I'm a girl and use this profile as a single girl, but sometimes also use it to connect with other couples for my FWB and I to meet up with clubbing - I think I've made it pretty clear in my profile though
Yes and it reads like a couples profile not a single female as clearly stated it is mainly used as a fwb profile only occasionally for solo meets. "
Thanks for the feedback, profile updated, not looking to deceive anyone  |
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