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Single woman attending a club

By *S94xxx OP Woman over a year ago

Doncaster

I am a mid twenties female and am interested in attending a club or event however am slightly nervous about attending alone. I am not a shy person and get on with most people but just not sure what to expect. Appreciate any advice. I'm trying to persuade a friend to come along with me or should I just jump in at the deep end lol x

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By * AND R 777Couple over a year ago

Teesside

We know a lot of single girls who go to clubs who love going, cos it's a fun and safe way to meet up with people, the staff will show you around and tell you the rules and what to expect, you can read the reviews of the clubs close to you and see which one and what night will suit you best, but most of all have fun

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By *urematMan over a year ago

brighouse

I'm in the same situation but I'm male haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am a mid twenties female and am interested in attending a club or event however am slightly nervous about attending alone. I am not a shy person and get on with most people but just not sure what to expect. Appreciate any advice. I'm trying to persuade a friend to come along with me or should I just jump in at the deep end lol x"

I have been to clubs a few times but I am going on my own for the first time in April. I have butterflies thinking about it!! I think the reason why I am looking forward to try a solo visit is that I won't have anyone holding me back .... apart from myself! I hope it goes ok for you ... well for us both

xxx

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By *dam1971Man over a year ago

Bedford

I did my first club visit alone and it was great. Scary before but it’s a matter of finding some friendly people (which is almost everyone) and having a chat.

Go for it, you’ll be glad you did

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Going to a club aaa female shouldn’t be an issue, just remember you can say no and single males should respect that. If you have any issues report it to the staff who will undoubtedly sort it out for you.

As a single guy, it is frustrating to see some single guys behave like complete idiots. Following girls around, assuming they could be in! Lol but a good club has regular s who also watch out for single females and can / do intervene.

Most of all it’s about fun, relax and enjoy.

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By *elshsunsWoman over a year ago

Flintshire

I’m a single fem and I attend clubs on my own ... I love it .... everyone is welcoming and friendly I just plonk myself at the bar talk to random people and see what happens ... I usually go to Townhouse ... a lovely club ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In my limited experience you will be in total control of what happens. Stay in the bar area and just chat or explore the play areas where a no from you will stop any unwanted attention. Personally didn't like going alone but as a single male who is quite introverted the issue was more due to me than the club. Will need an experienced club partner if I ever go again. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You are not too far away from Quest in Leeds.. This is a very friendly club and the owners run a tight ship . It's clean and has a great atmosphere. The single males are always polite and will not pressure you if you say no. Let me know if you fancy coming along sometime and I'll accompany you if it makes you more at ease .. No pressure to play but just to have a friendly face to chat to

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By *oney to the beeWoman over a year ago

Manchester

Its ok going alone but in all honesty its better going with someone or meeting them there as some single guys lack manners in clubs at times.

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By *ittleKinksCouple over a year ago

Reading

If it's your first time going on a couples and singles woman only night would be good that way there's no single men who can sometimes be a bit annoying if they don't pick up the subtle hints. Once your more confident with the club's you can try the single man night. Key with them is to be confident. Direct. Clear and picky. Don't be shy to say no, men will respect your response but sometimes don't pick up on disinterest so it needs to be clear

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By *emel9Man over a year ago

West Midlands

Most things have already been said. Clubs are friendly and safe places in my experience, and I've been as a single, a couple and a group.

You may find it easier to go on a newbie night, where a lot of clubs get regulars to act as hosts and look after those who are more nervous.

Also, look on the forums for posts by other single females going to a club on a specific night. you could message them and at least know someone to chat too when you are there, before spreading your wings a little.

Also rmember this. There is no need to do anything in a club ever. A lot of people use a first visit to simply observe and get familiar with ettiquette.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not been to a club before. I'm looking at dates to try townhouse, but I think I'll be a pussy and tag along with someone

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By *heHotWifeClubWoman over a year ago

leicester

I have lots of ladies attend my events and I set a kik group up before hand so people can chat beforehand and it definitely makes it easier for 1st timers

Also most clubs when you get a tour will direct you to members and introduce you so your not standing alone xxx

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By *heycallmehanWoman over a year ago

nr wakefield

Go alone, be you, chat and be friendly, speak to anyone you can and You’ll be fine.

You’ll be surprised at the friends you’ll make x

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By *itty9899Man over a year ago

Craggy Island

Depending on what or who you are looking for most single ladies are welcome at clubs and are well looked after although going on own in my opinion is not wise move unless you go to a couple and single ladies night only night, not that I will say that the single guy community will not be welcoming to unless you consider yourself a bit more confident I would recommend a friend with you or a couple single lady night.

Good luck hope to see you around.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I jumped in the deep end. Went on my own. Luckily a lovely couple looked after me or i would of struggled i think.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I know the feeling I'm planning my first visit to a club on my own and its the not knowing what to expect when I get there that's the most daunting thing

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I know.... I’m not a single female.... I know that I cannot experience what you will go through.

I do know you will empower yourself by doing it.

If you want to meet at th bar inside a club and chat fantastic. There, there is the safety net, the crossing the threshold; well that is up to you.

Smiles, or the people inside will not recognised our.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I know I'm.not a single..being the Male half but know quite a few single ladies who go to clubs and enjoy it loads....often stating better and safer than down town....like many say read the reviews and pick one that sounds friendly...

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Tamworth

I enjoy going alone because you have the flexibility of pleasing yourself in terms of who you play with, rather than having to find three or even four way attraction!

However it can be fun to go with the right person too - a different dynamic.

Just be careful of the 'I'll take you' brigade, who just want to get in to a club. Go with someone you know and feel comfortable with if you don't want to go alone!

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