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Thinking of giving up the chase

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Apologies in advance as I know it's just me having a rant been on fab a year now with absolutely no luck I barely get a no thank you ?? ok I'll be the first to admit there are guys more appealing to women and couples but I'm a nice guy and I'm never disrespectful.

I guess some things are just not to be..

Anyway that's my rant.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I thought you had a quiz show addiction for a moment. Ah fab isn't for everyone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" Apologies in advance as I know it's just me having a rant been on fab a year now with absolutely no luck I barely get a no thank you ?? ok I'll be the first to admit there are guys more appealing to women and couples but I'm a nice guy and I'm never disrespectful.

I guess some things are just not to be..

Anyway that's my rant.

Have you tried dogging, clubs, social meets networking? Can't see how you can't meet in a year

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I guess some things are just not to be..

Anyway that's my rant.

What first message do you usually send to women?

Also - you need to add a profile pic, take better photos, and write a better bio.

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By *oupleNeedPlus1Couple over a year ago

Reading

I guess some things are just not to be..

Anyway that's my rant.

What first message do you usually send to women?

Also - you need to add a profile pic, take better photos, and write a better bio. "

Yes to all this.

Nothing would stand out again the hundreds and hundreds of others

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I guess some things are just not to be..

Anyway that's my rant.

Being nice is good. Nor being disrespectful is good. But that goes for most people on here and it takes way more than that alone to get meets on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

As I said it was merely me getting it of my chest tho yes there are points I will take on board ??

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Surely being nice and respectful is normal behaviour?!

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

A blank avatar is odd considering you have face pics. Your profile tells us nothing about what you can offer.

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By *oelDorianMan over a year ago

vanaheim

Possibly OP try adding to your profile to make it stand out, most women and couples on here won’t reply unless you have a profile picture and like some have said try a social or club who knows a lot of fabbers go to clubs

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By *eorge n DragonCouple over a year ago

Cheshire

As with all of the above sorry to say you can only blame yourself.

People do read profiles and with nothing on yours you shooting yourself in the foot.

Spend time and effort not just in messages but in your profile. Say what you can offer. You get out of the site what you put in.

Offerwise you just another bloke who wants a quick fuck like the many thousands on here and will get nothing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You have put 50 times more effort into the rant than your profile

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By *uliaChrisCouple over a year ago

westerham

"You have put 50 times more effort into the rant than your profile"

You are in London and you haven’t been to any clubs???

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By *cgkcCouple over a year ago

Hitchin

"I thought you had a quiz show addiction for a moment. Ah fab isn't for everyone

Hehe. That tickled.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm off aswell some ignorant people on here that you message and they don't even say no thanks your not my type it's not hard to message someone back saying no is it fab has gone down the pan the last year or so

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan over a year ago

It doesn't really matter what you write on your profile or what your first message says 90% of people won't reply if there is no attraction to any pictures you might have,, Also people don't have to reply if they don't want to,

I'd say clubs and social events is the best option or even try going on cam (face only) and chatting to people and letting your personality come out,

Search for local events and give them a try,

Good luck

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I'm off aswell some ignorant people on here that you message and they don't even say no thanks your not my type it's not hard to message someone back saying no is it fab has gone down the pan the last year or so "

Read the faq section. No reply means no interest, its not considered rude. Please reply to all your unasked for spam and junk mail in your emails if you disagree, go on, try it for a day, see how far you get. Nobody is forcing you to stay either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I guess some things are just not to be..

Anyway that's my rant.

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a year and no luck not good really ,try changing things see if that has an affect ,new pics ,new write up ,new approach, good luck

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

It is when some profiles get hundreds of messages a day

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By *eorge n DragonCouple over a year ago

Cheshire

"It doesn't really matter what you write on your profile or what your first message says 90% of people won't reply if there is no attraction to any pictures you might have,, Also people don't have to reply if they don't want to,

I'd say clubs and social events is the best option or even try going on cam (face only) and chatting to people and letting your personality come out,

Search for local events and give them a try,

Good luck "

Disagree. We look at profile first before look at any photos. Physical attraction only one part. If someone cannot be bothered doing anything with their profile we do not bother.

And any messages get saying fancy a fuck do not bother looking at photos either. Could be the most attractive person ever still would not get a reply.

You do not have to be an adonis to get a meet. Just have to be a sane decent person.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It is when some profiles get hundreds of messages a day

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employ a secretary cmon

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By *itty9899Man over a year ago

Craggy Island

I guess some things are just not to be..

Anyway that's my rant.

Being nice and respectful won't get you anywhere, you said it yourself other guys are more appealing.

I don't know which profiles you are messaging but I recommend broaden your horizons, cast your net further a field.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I guess some things are just not to be..

Anyway that's my rant.

Being nice and respectful won't get you anywhere, you said it yourself other guys are more appealing.

I don't know which profiles you are messaging but I recommend broaden your horizons, cast your net further a field. "
USA?

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By *eliciousladyWoman over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

"You have put 50 times more effort into the rant than your profile"

Exactly this I’m afraid OP.

Although I read all the replies before looking at your ‘profile’.

Having 1 short sentence about yourself is insufficient.

Perhaps try composing a few more lines about yourself to add to the profile.

Wishing you best of luck x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Surely being nice and respectful is normal behaviour?! "

Yeah I love how people use this as some sort of USP lol

Same with the verifications where guys say to treat this lady with respect. Always makes me think that the person leaving the veri picks and chooses which women he treats with respect....

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By *oney to the beeWoman over a year ago

Manchester

Always sad when people put up a one line profile and expect people to be interested I guess it just makes it easier for the guys who do put more effort in.

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