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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

No names mentioned

This happened to me a few weeks ago

I agreed to travel the 30 minute drive to make it easier for her,as is proper

I arrive at Costa on time

I get a text

Running late be there in half hour

40 mins later she arrives

I’d got us a coffee

She walked in with 3 year old daughter in tow

Bought the girl some juice and 2 cakes

One for her and one for the daughter ( I’d have asked if I wanted one even though I’d have declined )

The entire social was spent focussed on the daughter and how not to eat cake

And controlling her behaviour

After an hour of not really talking much

I left

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I must say, I've had better socials.

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

You stayed an hour ?

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By *esires of HertsCouple over a year ago

Herts and London Borders

Send her a rude message saying she is a user then block her

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Send her a rude message saying she is a user then block her"

Why is she a user. She bought her own juice and cakes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Send her a rude message saying she is a user then block her

Why is she a user. She bought her own juice and cakes "

Oh, he bought her a coffee.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm surprised the woman in question bought her daughter along to a social meet?.. crazy!..

Maybe she is just a lonely mum looking for some company I don't know, however you stayed and talked. Maybe you cheered her up a little. Good for you!..

Have you had contact since? X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You stayed an hour ?"

And I thought I was the polite one. Jeese an hour.. Some people eh ?

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By *esires of HertsCouple over a year ago

Herts and London Borders

"Send her a rude message saying she is a user then block her

Why is she a user. She bought her own juice and cakes "
...she wasted his time

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"Send her a rude message saying she is a user then block her

Why is she a user. She bought her own juice and cakes ...she wasted his time

.."

He wasn't tied up. At any time he could have left. Not approriate to take kids to meets with random strangers tho.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman over a year ago

Rhyl

Wow, awkward situation... definitely inappropriate bringing little one along.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm surprised the woman in question bought her daughter along to a social meet?.. crazy!..

Maybe she is just a lonely mum looking for some company I don't know, however you stayed and talked. Maybe you cheered her up a little. Good for you!..

Have you had contact since? X"

Yeah we chatted a while after

Until I noticed she’s blocked me on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If anyone I was meeting for a social walked in with a young child, that'd be the end of the meet.

Totally inappropriate to take a child with you to meet a stranger.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If anyone I was meeting for a social walked in with a young child, that'd be the end of the meet.

Totally inappropriate to take a child with you to meet a stranger. "

I’m way too polite

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By *acavityMan over a year ago

Redditch

To be devil's advocate, maybe her babysitter let her down, which is why she was late and turned up with child.

It might have been better to cancel, but then be a time waster, for making OP drive 30 minutes.

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By *orticiaWoman over a year ago

Wirral

"To be devil's advocate, maybe her babysitter let her down, which is why she was late and turned up with child.

It might have been better to cancel, but then be a time waster, for making OP drive 30 minutes."

Giving him the heads up & the choice between cancelling or the child tagging along would have been better

But it’s way beyond inappropriate to take a child to meet a potential sexual partner

OP, sounds like you had a lucky escape there!

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By *uzukiNo1Woman over a year ago

Rhyl

"To be devil's advocate, maybe her babysitter let her down, which is why she was late and turned up with child.

It might have been better to cancel, but then be a time waster, for making OP drive 30 minutes.

Giving him the heads up & the choice between cancelling or the child tagging along would have been better

But it’s way beyond inappropriate to take a child to meet a potential sexual partner

OP, sounds like you had a lucky escape there! "

Agree

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would have said best to rearrange a one on one meet another time and left. Not here to meet people’s kids / family. Inappropriate on her front .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Let it go. Move it on to your next social

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Worst we ever had was with a couple who had clearly turned to swinging in a last ditch effort to save marriage/relationship the simmering tensions were shocking she was openly mocking him and about his lack of partners before they got together

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By *oney to the beeWoman over a year ago

Manchester

"No names mentioned

This happened to me a few weeks ago

I agreed to travel the 30 minute drive to make it easier for her,as is proper

I arrive at Costa on time

I get a text

Running late be there in half hour

40 mins later she arrives

I’d got us a coffee

She walked in with 3 year old daughter in tow

Bought the girl some juice and 2 cakes

One for her and one for the daughter ( I’d have asked if I wanted one even though I’d have declined )

The entire social was spent focussed on the daughter and how not to eat cake

And controlling her behaviour

After an hour of not really talking much

I left "

would it have been better for her not to turn up turn you could have put a let down timwaster thread! Obviously she couldn't get a sitter I must say to me your attitude is a little selfish and only looking at things from your angle. I know after reading this you are not someone I would meet and would guess a lot will feel the same.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sometimes shit happens

You know the score by now,

Start again thenext one might be dab

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By *ay19720Man over a year ago

Ashford kent

"No names mentioned

This happened to me a few weeks ago

I agreed to travel the 30 minute drive to make it easier for her,as is proper

I arrive at Costa on time

I get a text

Running late be there in half hour

40 mins later she arrives

I’d got us a coffee

She walked in with 3 year old daughter in tow

Bought the girl some juice and 2 cakes

One for her and one for the daughter ( I’d have asked if I wanted one even though I’d have declined )

The entire social was spent focussed on the daughter and how not to eat cake

And controlling her behaviour

After an hour of not really talking much

I left "

But it was a social. .? And you were all being social ??

Maybe she didn't want anything but just that..the girl was a safty net...and she may not got a sitter or was letdown..maybe that why she was late...

She could of just cancelled..leaving u sitting there..

What did you want on a social. ? For it to turn into more...?

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By *ay19720Man over a year ago

Ashford kent

"No names mentioned

This happened to me a few weeks ago

I agreed to travel the 30 minute drive to make it easier for her,as is proper

I arrive at Costa on time

I get a text

Running late be there in half hour

40 mins later she arrives

I’d got us a coffee

She walked in with 3 year old daughter in tow

Bought the girl some juice and 2 cakes

One for her and one for the daughter ( I’d have asked if I wanted one even though I’d have declined )

The entire social was spent focussed on the daughter and how not to eat cake

And controlling her behaviour

After an hour of not really talking much

I left

Think he wanted a bj..lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No names mentioned

This happened to me a few weeks ago

I agreed to travel the 30 minute drive to make it easier for her,as is proper

I arrive at Costa on time

I get a text

Running late be there in half hour

40 mins later she arrives

I’d got us a coffee

She walked in with 3 year old daughter in tow

Bought the girl some juice and 2 cakes

One for her and one for the daughter ( I’d have asked if I wanted one even though I’d have declined )

The entire social was spent focussed on the daughter and how not to eat cake

And controlling her behaviour

After an hour of not really talking much

I left

Think he wanted a bj..lol "

Why u assume that?

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By *litterbabeWoman over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

"If anyone I was meeting for a social walked in with a young child, that'd be the end of the meet.

Totally inappropriate to take a child with you to meet a stranger. "

My thoughts too, and strange she did not let you know the situation

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If anyone I was meeting for a social walked in with a young child, that'd be the end of the meet.

Totally inappropriate to take a child with you to meet a stranger.

My thoughts too, and strange she did not let you know the situation"

Agree

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Send her a rude message saying she is a user then block her

Why is she a user. She bought her own juice and cakes ...she wasted his time

He wasn't tied up. At any time he could have left. Not approriate to take kids to meets with random strangers tho."

How did she waste his time. ..she turned up as agreed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As a mum, I wouldn’t dream of bringing my lad to socials and I don’t play when he’s home. He’s at his dads enough that I can control myself... I have a friend I trust very much that is allowed if he’s home but only because they have become a friend... other than that, no!

So I think it was very inappropriate of her to bring child.

That said, you could have said look I don’t feel right and left?

She could have called to ask of it was ok beforehand...

Can’t comment on lateness as I’ll be late for my own funeral.

But it is a “social”

No one should go with expectation of ending up alone together for sex.

Maybe she was nervous, maybe she was let down by childcare as already said?

Maybe she is lonely or suffers with anxiety? You could drive yourself mad thinking up scenarios. I’d say move on especially as she’s blocked you now x

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Send her a rude message saying she is a user then block her

Why is she a user. She bought her own juice and cakes ...she wasted his time

.."

How? She turned up, didn't ghost or cancel last minute. A warning about bringing her daughter would have been appropriate though.

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

A Social is a social not sex and yes she brought the child with her but maybe no babysitter was available. I don’t get the issue here.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"No names mentioned

This happened to me a few weeks ago

I agreed to travel the 30 minute drive to make it easier for her,as is proper

I arrive at Costa on time

I get a text

Running late be there in half hour

40 mins later she arrives

I’d got us a coffee

She walked in with 3 year old daughter in tow

Bought the girl some juice and 2 cakes

One for her and one for the daughter ( I’d have asked if I wanted one even though I’d have declined )

The entire social was spent focussed on the daughter and how not to eat cake

And controlling her behaviour

After an hour of not really talking much

I left

But it was a social. .? And you were all being social ??

Maybe she didn't want anything but just that..the girl was a safty net...and she may not got a sitter or was letdown..maybe that why she was late...

She could of just cancelled..leaving u sitting there..

What did you want on a social. ? For it to turn into more...?"

Most do want more from my experience.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Cant believe some people on here don't get what's wrong with taking a child to a social meet arranged on a swingers site where you would expect some talk about sex.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A Social is a social not sex and yes she brought the child with her but maybe no babysitter was available. I don’t get the issue here. "

We don’t know who we are meeting. I would never put my kid at risk like that personally

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cant believe some people on here don't get what's wrong with taking a child to a social meet arranged on a swingers site where you would expect some talk about sex. "

Exactly! There’s a time and a place as I’ve sort of said already

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"A Social is a social not sex and yes she brought the child with her but maybe no babysitter was available. I don’t get the issue here.

We don’t know who we are meeting. I would never put my kid at risk like that personally "

The mother is there to protect the child and it sounds like it was in a public place if juice and cake were consumed. Plus we are in the era of CCTV cameras in town centres! Are you trying to say that OP may be a danger to people?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A Social is a social not sex and yes she brought the child with her but maybe no babysitter was available. I don’t get the issue here.

We don’t know who we are meeting. I would never put my kid at risk like that personally

Nope I’m insinuating nothing against the OP

It’s common sense

CCTV didn’t save Jamie Bulger did it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A social organised on a sex website will have an undercurrent that is much more up front than a dating website.

But bringing a kid unannounced to such a meet with a stranger raises red flags on her part.

She should’ve just said she can’t make it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A social organised on a sex website will have an undercurrent that is much more up front than a dating website.

But bringing a kid unannounced to such a meet with a stranger raises red flags on her part.

She should’ve just said she can’t make it.

At the end of it all yes I quite agree

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If anyone I was meeting for a social walked in with a young child, that'd be the end of the meet.

Totally inappropriate to take a child with you to meet a stranger. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Worst we ever had was with a couple who had clearly turned to swinging in a last ditch effort to save marriage/relationship the simmering tensions were shocking she was openly mocking him and about his lack of partners before they got together "

We met a couple like that. It was awful. She clearly didn't want to do anything, only he did. She proceeded to get very d*unk so we left.

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By *ANDA2Couple over a year ago

Henley Arden

"No names mentioned

This happened to me a few weeks ago

I agreed to travel the 30 minute drive to make it easier for her,as is proper

I arrive at Costa on time

I get a text

Running late be there in half hour

40 mins later she arrives

I’d got us a coffee

She walked in with 3 year old daughter in tow

Bought the girl some juice and 2 cakes

One for her and one for the daughter ( I’d have asked if I wanted one even though I’d have declined )

The entire social was spent focussed on the daughter and how not to eat cake

And controlling her behaviour

After an hour of not really talking much

I left "

See the positive, this is what a social is for. It’s to see if your compatible.

I’d say your not compatible.

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"A Social is a social not sex and yes she brought the child with her but maybe no babysitter was available. I don’t get the issue here.

We don’t know who we are meeting. I would never put my kid at risk like that personally

Nope I’m insinuating nothing against the OP

It’s common sense

CCTV didn’t save Jamie Bulger did it? "

No it didn’t you are quite correct but two people challenged the perpetrators and the response was they were Jamie’s brothers. That was a shocking crime.

However, OP was in Costa with staff probably nearby. As a fellow Fabber said, it’s obvious these two weren’t compatible after having the social....

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

As soon as I got the text I'd of rearranged, I wouldn't wait half an hour for someone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No names mentioned

This happened to me a few weeks ago

I agreed to travel the 30 minute drive to make it easier for her,as is proper

I arrive at Costa on time

I get a text

Running late be there in half hour

40 mins later she arrives

I’d got us a coffee

She walked in with 3 year old daughter in tow

Bought the girl some juice and 2 cakes

One for her and one for the daughter ( I’d have asked if I wanted one even though I’d have declined )

The entire social was spent focussed on the daughter and how not to eat cake

And controlling her behaviour

After an hour of not really talking much

I left

But it was a social. .? And you were all being social ??

Maybe she didn't want anything but just that..the girl was a safty net...and she may not got a sitter or was letdown..maybe that why she was late...

She could of just cancelled..leaving u sitting there..

What did you want on a social. ? For it to turn into more...?

Most do want more from my experience. "

I’d like to make it clear to the shallow ones

I was not expecting more than chat and coffee

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What irresponsible person takes a kid to meet an internet stranger?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What irresponsible person takes a kid to meet an internet stranger?

Read on

Apparently, I was after a blow job and got the hump

Some people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What irresponsible person takes a kid to meet an internet stranger?

Read on

Apparently, I was after a blow job and got the hump

Some people "

Next meet say no kids allowed adults only

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

At least she turned up

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By *edRidingWolfCouple over a year ago

Lydney

We met a couple like that. It was awful. She clearly didn't want to do anything, only he did. She proceeded to get very d*unk so we left. "

Worst social we had we organised to meet this couple at a local pub. Just after we arrived, a little early, we had a text from the guy saying his partner couldn’t come, but he was bringing “one of his girls.” Red flag #1

He arrived solo, and said “she” would be here soon.

Red flag #2

He was close to 60, and not the 40 his profile stated.

Red flag #3 - Quite worried now.

Soon thereafter 2 girls arrived and joined us at our table. We sat down to eat, and apart from some risqué dress, the girls were quite good company.

Red and the girls disappeared out for a quick smoke/vape, and when she came back quickly told me that the girls were on the game, and had a couple of hours between clients, so came for lunch.

“Sorry if I smell bad, I’ve not had a chance to shower since my last client.”

We made our polite excuses and ran back to the car where we looked at each other and burst into laughter...

This was, basically, our 3rd Social meet together. Thankfully, it didn’t put us off!

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would say it was an severe error of judgement!

I wonder where she told the kid they were going? and how did she explain the man they met?

She took her daughter to meet a stranger who she met on the internet on a sex site.

I can see why the op wasn't comfortable with that! Should of been given the heads up.

I fear that's a big safeguarding issue, one has to ask if that is a regular occurrence.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I would say it was an severe error of judgement!

I wonder where she told the kid they were going? and how did she explain the man they met?

She took her daughter to meet a stranger who she met on the internet on a sex site.

I can see why the op wasn't comfortable with that! Should of been given the heads up.

I fear that's a big safeguarding issue, one has to ask if that is a regular occurrence.

The only positive I can find is that through our conversations, she felt safe enough and trusted me

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I would say it was an severe error of judgement!

I wonder where she told the kid they were going? and how did she explain the man they met?

She took her daughter to meet a stranger who she met on the internet on a sex site.

I can see why the op wasn't comfortable with that! Should of been given the heads up.

I fear that's a big safeguarding issue, one has to ask if that is a regular occurrence.

The only positive I can find is that through our conversations, she felt safe enough and trusted me "

Surely a good thing then, despite the lack of warning from her, which would have been more appropriate. I've heard people doing far worse things than turning up with a child to a social in a public place. People that wait till kids are in bed before having others to their home for sex is far worse surely? I've even had messages from people who invite me to theirs in this situation as well, it beggars belief that they are willing to have a total stranger in their home for sex with kids there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Tbh she really should have cancelled on you and said look sorry but I've got my lil one and I cant come.

But think of it this way at least she came given the circumstances, maybe hold out for when shes free?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No names mentioned

This happened to me a few weeks ago

I agreed to travel the 30 minute drive to make it easier for her,as is proper

I arrive at Costa on time

I get a text

Running late be there in half hour

40 mins later she arrives

I’d got us a coffee

She walked in with 3 year old daughter in tow

Bought the girl some juice and 2 cakes

One for her and one for the daughter ( I’d have asked if I wanted one even though I’d have declined )

The entire social was spent focussed on the daughter and how not to eat cake

And controlling her behaviour

After an hour of not really talking much

I left "

How did you stay for an hour?!?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well she show up..didnt cansel at last minut so im with her..but brings your child not adviced.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not excusing her behaviour,but maybe that is the reason why she was running late,As trying to get a minder for her daughter was impossible. And she didn't want to cancel as she probably already know what it's like to be let down etc.

Look been a single mum especially when they are young isn't easy.

and we are already Hard on ourselves and Judged as it is.

She is a mum she should be focusing on her child and not herself. You make sacrifices for them.

No shit really!!. But we are sexual human being.

Fair play for not being a total prick about it and actually staying with her for a hour.

Yes that is awkward.You probably made her day.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing ever surprises me on this site.

I've seen it all

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By *e DevilMan over a year ago

Blantyre

"No names mentioned

This happened to me a few weeks ago

I agreed to travel the 30 minute drive to make it easier for her,as is proper

I arrive at Costa on time

I get a text

Running late be there in half hour

40 mins later she arrives

I’d got us a coffee

She walked in with 3 year old daughter in tow

Bought the girl some juice and 2 cakes

One for her and one for the daughter ( I’d have asked if I wanted one even though I’d have declined )

The entire social was spent focussed on the daughter and how not to eat cake

And controlling her behaviour

After an hour of not really talking much

I left

But it was a social. .? And you were all being social ??

Maybe she didn't want anything but just that..the girl was a safty net...and she may not got a sitter or was letdown..maybe that why she was late...

She could of just cancelled..leaving u sitting there..

What did you want on a social. ? For it to turn into more...?

Most do want more from my experience.

I’d like to make it clear to the shallow ones

I was not expecting more than chat and coffee "

You got a chat and a coffee ?

I think your upset youve just been blocked by her. She messaged to say she would be late tick , she turned up tick, she clearly had no babysitter so still honoured the meet tick, she looked after daughter by feeding her tick, she asked her to eat properly tick, she spent a lot of the meet interacting with daughter tick

Your a random guy that means next to nothing to her but still she made an effort to meet you. You come on criticising her a frw weeks later, i personally think you blew it for not being tolerant of her situation and now she has blocked you. Thats why we have this thread.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

I seriously cant believe how many people believe its ok to meet a stranger of a swinging site with a kid in tow and then seem to try and justify her actions. Only thing op did wrong was stay an hour i would of been right out of there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree its not right to bring a child along to an adult social meet, but it was a social meet and nothing was implied about any 'afters'. Also a few single Mum's aren't just looking for just sex and though not a true 'dating' site, some do try to use it as such if this is their first time on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't have stayed an hour.

I'd be unlikely to wait the extra 40mins after travelling 30mins already to get there.

Bringing her child was inappropriate.

However, you still chatted a bit afterwards, were you still going to meet her?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can honestly say... I’m shocked .....

Have people lost their minds?

Do we not know what’s right and wrong?

Look I understand this is a swinging site, but don’t leave your common sense at the door...

A parent is supposed to think of their children first.... the hell with being called a time waster on a swinging site... you should thinking about your children’ Opinion of you, not some stranger from a sex site....

Now if any parent found out their other half took their child to meet a stranger from a sex site... they would call children protective services immediately...... and have that child taken away......

I can’t see how any rational person can find a silver lining in this story.....

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By *rkeb3Man over a year ago

east Lancashire road

Maybe the reason she was late was the daughter no one to look after her maybe she didn't have any other option that's why she brought her u got to understand the single mums sometimes or she brought so u don't get frisky lol safety reasons as they say

But in general why bother about social it's waste of time

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By *e DevilMan over a year ago

Blantyre

"I can honestly say... I’m shocked .....

Have people lost their minds?

Do we not know what’s right and wrong?

Look I understand this is a swinging site, but don’t leave your common sense at the door...

Now if any parent found out their other half took their child to meet a stranger from a sex site... they would call children protective services immediately...... and have that child taken away......

I can’t see how any rational person can find a silver lining in this story.....

And i have to say im also shocked, shocked at the moral hypocrites on this site.

We have no idea this womans circumstances and what everyone seems to forget is this lady was going to a coffee shop for coffee. Has none of you ever spoke to a stranger in a coffee shop with your kids before. Just because they started chatting on a website does not mean they are going to talk shagging all night. A normal social means normal conversation. If 2 adults cant talk normal in front of a child then there is something seriously abnormal about u in the first place.she NEVER for a second put her child at risk. As for child services lmfao , get a grip. I worked with child services and believe me when i say , if you think that is bad parenting your the one that needs your eyes opened.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can honestly say... I’m shocked .....

Have people lost their minds?

Do we not know what’s right and wrong?

Look I understand this is a swinging site, but don’t leave your common sense at the door...

Now if any parent found out their other half took their child to meet a stranger from a sex site... they would call children protective services immediately...... and have that child taken away......

I can’t see how any rational person can find a silver lining in this story.....

And i have to say im also shocked, shocked at the moral hypocrites on this site.

Really never?

I mean it's never something ive given serious thought to but i reckon a grown man could inflict life changing injuries to a 3 year old in one blow before anyone has any idea whats happening.

Taking a 3 year old to meet a stranger off the internet seems insane, like just out right batshit crazy.

Especialy as a "safety net" jesus.

Risk vs reward of you meeting a stranger is one thing risk vs reward of taking your incredibly vunerable 3 year old daughter is just so skewed it may as well be an elephant and a feather on a seasaw

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

at last we start getting sensible answers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe the reason she was late was the daughter no one to look after her maybe she didn't have any other option that's why she brought her u got to understand the single mums sometimes or she brought so u don't get frisky lol safety reasons as they say

But in general why bother about social it's waste of time "

What was the 3 year old going to do to stop him? Get him in a head lock and throw him out?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can honestly say... I’m shocked .....

Have people lost their minds?

Do we not know what’s right and wrong?

Look I understand this is a swinging site, but don’t leave your common sense at the door...

Now if any parent found out their other half took their child to meet a stranger from a sex site... they would call children protective services immediately...... and have that child taken away......

I can’t see how any rational person can find a silver lining in this story.....

And i have to say im also shocked, shocked at the moral hypocrites on this site.

I’m 2 bottles deep of Shiraz , so if I get banned... I’ll live with it....

Sir please stop trying to make excuses.... you’re wrong... there is no Grey area... it’s black and white.....

If you find it perfectly alright for your wife/ex wife to bring your children to meet strangers from the internet....

I think your parenting skills are severely lacking.....

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

I think most people on this thread have lost touch with reality

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By *e DevilMan over a year ago

Blantyre

There is a Fab walking group in scotland that happens every weekend. Strangers in attendance, lets call it a social. Kids have done and do attend. Strangely enough none have been punched , kicked or traumatised by fab sex talk. They must be terrible parents eh. ? . Cmon its a coffee in a coffee shop. The OP even said she spent most of her time tending her child . If the OP would like to escalate things and say he gave them a lift home or they had some car fun while the child was strapped into the back seat , then thats different. If all that happened was coffee, wheres the problem. Im sure if it turned into a play meet later the child would not be there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There is a Fab walking group in scotland that happens every weekend. Strangers in attendance, lets call it a social. Kids have done and do attend. Strangely enough none have been punched , kicked or traumatised by fab sex talk. They must be terrible parents eh. ? . Cmon its a coffee in a coffee shop. The OP even said she spent most of her time tending her child . If the OP would like to escalate things and say he gave them a lift home or they had some car fun while the child was strapped into the back seat , then thats different. If all that happened was coffee, wheres the problem. Im sure if it turned into a play meet later the child would not be there. "

Ok I’ll say it....

Bringing your children to meet strangers from the internet is wrong

I said it three times.... do you understand now?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In totally unrelated news David McGreavy has been cleared for release by the parole board

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By *e DevilMan over a year ago

Blantyre

Ok I’ll say it....

Bringing your children to meet strangers from the internet is wrong

I said it three times.... do you understand now?"

So you have never seen a shopping centre santa advertised online or booked a kids party online or seen a soft play advertised on line and took your kids to any of these events. Each one poses a level of risk. Its about controlling the risks.

You can repeat it 100 times , it still wont make it wrong, perhaps not advisable but certainly not wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ok I’ll say it....

Bringing your children to meet strangers from the internet is wrong

I said it three times.... do you understand now?

You can repeat it 100 times , it still wont make it wrong, perhaps not advisable but certainly not wrong. "

Hmmm..... I’m sorry you lost me at Santa......

If you can’t see anything wrong , I can’t help you....

But to give you a different perspective.....

Go tell all your co workers/friends/family that your female neighbor told you “ She takes her children with her to meet men from a sex/swinging site for coffee “

Then when they look at you in shock and horror.....

Please repeat this “ It’s not wrong ... what she is doing...perhaps not advisable but certainly not wrong “

Then come back and post in this thread...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ok I’ll say it....

Bringing your children to meet strangers from the internet is wrong

I said it three times.... do you understand now?

You can repeat it 100 times , it still wont make it wrong, perhaps not advisable but certainly not wrong. "

They all come with CRB checks...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ok I’ll say it....

Bringing your children to meet strangers from the internet is wrong

I said it three times.... do you understand now?

You can repeat it 100 times , it still wont make it wrong, perhaps not advisable but certainly not wrong.

Hmmm..... I’m sorry you lost me at Santa......

If you can’t see anything wrong , I can’t help you....

But to give you a different perspective.....

Go tell all your co workers/friends/family that your female neighbor told you “ She takes her children with her to meet men from a sex/swinging site for coffee “

Then when they look at you in shock and horror.....

Please repeat this “ It’s not wrong ... what she is doing...perhaps not advisable but certainly not wrong “

Then come back and post in this thread..."

Hell tell them you took your kid on a tinder date and see the reaction. This is not normal human behaviour

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I can honestly say... I’m shocked .....

Have people lost their minds?

Do we not know what’s right and wrong?

Look I understand this is a swinging site, but don’t leave your common sense at the door...

Now if any parent found out their other half took their child to meet a stranger from a sex site... they would call children protective services immediately...... and have that child taken away......

I can’t see how any rational person can find a silver lining in this story.....

And i have to say im also shocked, shocked at the moral hypocrites on this site.

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By *e DevilMan over a year ago

Blantyre

Ok I’ll say it....

Bringing your children to meet strangers from the internet is wrong

I said it three times.... do you understand now?

You can repeat it 100 times , it still wont make it wrong, perhaps not advisable but certainly not wrong.

Hmmm..... I’m sorry you lost me at Santa......

If you can’t see anything wrong , I can’t help you....

But to give you a different perspective.....

Go tell all your co workers/friends/family that your female neighbor told you “ She takes her children with her to meet men from a sex/swinging site for coffee “

Then when they look at you in shock and horror.....

Please repeat this “ It’s not wrong ... what she is doing...perhaps not advisable but certainly not wrong “

Then come back and post in this thread..."

Im assuming ALL your family know your on this site offering your big black cock to any willing female or couple wanting to release their inner nympho. ?

Im sure they would also think thats wrong , wont really make it wrong though will it ? . We can all judge things we know nothing about, it dosnt make our opinions and judgments wrong though , now does it. ?

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By *e DevilMan over a year ago

Blantyre

Ok I’ll say it....

Bringing your children to meet strangers from the internet is wrong

I said it three times.... do you understand now?

You can repeat it 100 times , it still wont make it wrong, perhaps not advisable but certainly not wrong.

Hmmm..... I’m sorry you lost me at Santa......

If you can’t see anything wrong , I can’t help you....

But to give you a different perspective.....

Go tell all your co workers/friends/family that your female neighbor told you “ She takes her children with her to meet men from a sex/swinging site for coffee “

Then when they look at you in shock and horror.....

Please repeat this “ It’s not wrong ... what she is doing...perhaps not advisable but certainly not wrong “

Then come back and post in this thread...

Im assuming ALL your family know your on this site offering your big black cock to any willing female or couple wanting to release their inner nympho. ?

Or more importantly, it doesnt make them right either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can honestly say... I’m shocked .....

Have people lost their minds?

Do we not know what’s right and wrong?

Look I understand this is a swinging site, but don’t leave your common sense at the door...

Now if any parent found out their other half took their child to meet a stranger from a sex site... they would call children protective services immediately...... and have that child taken away......

I can’t see how any rational person can find a silver lining in this story.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thid is one of those threads where id be really interested to see a gender reversal.

If so many people would be defending a dad who did this

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By *OXO2018Couple over a year ago

Norfolk

I’ve took my nephew on a social before but made sure the guy new and meet at my local kids play area. He ran off and played we chatted it was nice, till he got in the ball pit with him and split his trousers lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve took my nephew on a social before but made sure the guy new and meet at my local kids play area. He ran off and played we chatted it was nice, till he got in the ball pit with him and split his trousers lol."

Did the parents know?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ok I’ll say it....

Bringing your children to meet strangers from the internet is wrong

I said it three times.... do you understand now?

You can repeat it 100 times , it still wont make it wrong, perhaps not advisable but certainly not wrong.

Hmmm..... I’m sorry you lost me at Santa......

If you can’t see anything wrong , I can’t help you....

But to give you a different perspective.....

Go tell all your co workers/friends/family that your female neighbor told you “ She takes her children with her to meet men from a sex/swinging site for coffee “

Then when they look at you in shock and horror.....

Please repeat this “ It’s not wrong ... what she is doing...perhaps not advisable but certainly not wrong “

Then come back and post in this thread...

Im assuming ALL your family know your on this site offering your big black cock to any willing female or couple wanting to release their inner nympho. ?

Or more importantly, it doesnt make them right either.

I'm not sure you can compare the two. He's making his own choices about what he does with other like minded adults. There are no children involved who have no idea who this other person their parent is meeting is.

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By *OXO2018Couple over a year ago

Norfolk

Did the parents know?"

They new I was meeting a friend for coffee yes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Did the parents know?

They new I was meeting a friend for coffee yes."

Not a stranger of an internet swinging/sex site?

Cause theres a huge world of differnce there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How can people not see how inappropriate this is? Why are people even arguing about this? I'm a single parent and not having a babysitter is a frequent occurance. You just accept it.

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By *OXO2018Couple over a year ago

Norfolk

Did the parents know?

They new I was meeting a friend for coffee yes.

Not a stranger of an internet swinging/sex site?

Cause theres a huge world of differnce there "

I see it slightly differently to that. I’d consider my regular playmate of 2 years a friend not a stranger...

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

"If anyone I was meeting for a social walked in with a young child, that'd be the end of the meet.

Totally inappropriate to take a child with you to meet a stranger.

My thoughts too, and strange she did not let you know the situation"

These are my thoughts too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How can people not see how inappropriate this is? Why are people even arguing about this? I'm a single parent and not having a babysitter is a frequent occurance. You just accept it. "
Exactly. The safety of my children is more important than being labelled as a time waster on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How can people not see how inappropriate this is? Why are people even arguing about this? I'm a single parent and not having a babysitter is a frequent occurance. You just accept it. Exactly. The safety of my children is more important than being labelled as a time waster on here."

But if you’re not meeting for sex and in a public place..... the safety of your children shouldn’t enter your mind.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How can people not see how inappropriate this is? Why are people even arguing about this? I'm a single parent and not having a babysitter is a frequent occurance. You just accept it. Exactly. The safety of my children is more important than being labelled as a time waster on here.

But if you’re not meeting for sex and in a public place..... the safety of your children shouldn’t enter your mind....."

The conversations I have had on my social meets have been totally inappropriate for the ears of children.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How can people not see how inappropriate this is? Why are people even arguing about this? I'm a single parent and not having a babysitter is a frequent occurance. You just accept it. Exactly. The safety of my children is more important than being labelled as a time waster on here.

But if you’re not meeting for sex and in a public place..... the safety of your children shouldn’t enter your mind....."

Yea, because no person ever befriended someone to get access to their children.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How can people not see how inappropriate this is? Why are people even arguing about this? I'm a single parent and not having a babysitter is a frequent occurance. You just accept it. Exactly. The safety of my children is more important than being labelled as a time waster on here.

But if you’re not meeting for sex and in a public place..... the safety of your children shouldn’t enter your mind.....

Yea, because no person ever befriended someone to get access to their children. "

Sarcasm...

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By *OXO2018Couple over a year ago

Norfolk

And no ones ever had sex with a stranger with there kids upstairs in bed...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And no ones ever had sex with a stranger with there kids upstairs in bed..."

I can say , I have never done this and I never will....

We are humans and have higher intelligence than animals....

Without boundaries and a moral code , we are just animals.....

Bringing strangers into my home to have sex while children are in my home is not a turn on....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And no ones ever had sex with a stranger with there kids upstairs in bed..."

Which is totally wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How can people not see how inappropriate this is? Why are people even arguing about this? I'm a single parent and not having a babysitter is a frequent occurance. You just accept it. Exactly. The safety of my children is more important than being labelled as a time waster on here.

But if you’re not meeting for sex and in a public place..... the safety of your children shouldn’t enter your mind....."

But if a child asks “who’s this?” Or if they are old enough to remember..?

Personally I don’t want my lad growing up with a string of “uncles” thanks

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"And no ones ever had sex with a stranger with there kids upstairs in bed..."
noone with an ounce of morality or common sense

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How can people not see how inappropriate this is? Why are people even arguing about this? I'm a single parent and not having a babysitter is a frequent occurance. You just accept it. Exactly. The safety of my children is more important than being labelled as a time waster on here.

But if you’re not meeting for sex and in a public place..... the safety of your children shouldn’t enter your mind.....

But if a child asks “who’s this?” Or if they are old enough to remember..?

Personally I don’t want my lad growing up with a string of “uncles” thanks

How will you answer, when he asks about Uncle Patrick who bought him chocolates at Starbucks?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How can people not see how inappropriate this is? Why are people even arguing about this? I'm a single parent and not having a babysitter is a frequent occurance. You just accept it. Exactly. The safety of my children is more important than being labelled as a time waster on here.

But if you’re not meeting for sex and in a public place..... the safety of your children shouldn’t enter your mind.....

But if a child asks “who’s this?” Or if they are old enough to remember..?

Personally I don’t want my lad growing up with a string of “uncles” thanks

How will you answer, when he asks about Uncle Patrick who bought him chocolates at Starbucks?"

I have no answer so I wouldn’t even put myself in that position... I guess him being older he asks more questions so that would mean more deceitful answers.

To each their own but as my lad has Asperger Syndrome, he overthinks everything and if he liked the guy in question he’d want to see him again cos he’s such a friendly kid.

He has a father... a bloody good one that doesn’t need replacing.

Fab is for me to be Ellie again not mummy xx

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By *electableDalliancesCouple over a year ago

leeds

Even on a 'normal' first date it would be considered wierd to take along your child.

I'd rather be celibate than have placed my child into that situation.

So yes it's wierd and wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And no ones ever had sex with a stranger with there kids upstairs in bed..."

I love that that is the defence

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

What i dont get is theres already been a murder on fab and r**pes and guys going to prison for terrorizing women what the hell is there to stop guys grooming single mothers and people are not getting this

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By *cgkcCouple over a year ago

Hitchin

"theres already been a murder on fab"

Eh, what?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"theres already been a murder on fab

Eh, what?

"
A well known tv was killed in her hotel room after a weekend fab meet it was well documented at the time.

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By *cgkcCouple over a year ago

Hitchin

"theres already been a murder on fab

Eh, what?

A well known tv was killed in her hotel room after a weekend fab meet it was well documented at the time. "

Crumbs. How awful

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"theres already been a murder on fab

Eh, what?

A well known tv was killed in her hotel room after a weekend fab meet it was well documented at the time.

Crumbs. How awful

"
exactly so whats stopping guys joining to groom single mothers

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By *cgkcCouple over a year ago

Hitchin

Indeed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"theres already been a murder on fab

Eh, what?

A well known tv was killed in her hotel room after a weekend fab meet it was well documented at the time. "

I remember that well and the match serial killer too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You did well pal to last the hour

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Should have left instantly I would have

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Should have left instantly I would have

That’s rude isn’t it

It was awkward

But felt obliged

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"Should have left instantly I would have

That’s rude isn’t it

It was awkward

But felt obliged "

Not when they’ve blindsided you with the kid and you politely excuse yourself that you’re not comfortable with the situation

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Messaging, chats beforehand and then socials help you to filter out unsuitable people for you. We don't know her situation and the positive is that she actually turned up and met you, rather than standing you up. You know now that you aren't both right for each other. We're adults and people outside of fab and the swinging world have NSA sexual partners, without too much concern. I'm guessing that the meet was nothing like what she had expected and planned for it to be but circumstances didn't work for her and then impacged on you all. Put it down to experience and look for others and also take a little comfort in knowing that it's not the worst encounter that's happened to many of us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Should have left instantly I would have

That’s rude isn’t it

It was awkward

But felt obliged

Not when they’ve blindsided you with the kid and you politely excuse yourself that you’re not comfortable with the situation "

I’m too nice

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By *e DevilMan over a year ago

Blantyre

"Should have left instantly I would have

That’s rude isn’t it

It was awkward

But felt obliged

Not when they’ve blindsided you with the kid and you politely excuse yourself that you’re not comfortable with the situation

I’m too nice

So why has she blocked you ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Should have left instantly I would have

That’s rude isn’t it

It was awkward

But felt obliged

Not when they’ve blindsided you with the kid and you politely excuse yourself that you’re not comfortable with the situation

I’m too nice

So why has she blocked you ?"

You’re a proper ray of sunshine you

You’d have to ask her

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By *e DevilMan over a year ago

Blantyre

"Should have left instantly I would have

That’s rude isn’t it

It was awkward

But felt obliged

Not when they’ve blindsided you with the kid and you politely excuse yourself that you’re not comfortable with the situation

I’m too nice

So why has she blocked you ?

You’re a proper ray of sunshine you

You’d have to ask her "

Lol a ray of sunshine, im just weighing up your post

You met her , stayed for an hour

You kept in contact for a few weeks after.

Something happened that you wont tell us or maybe dont know

And NOW suddenly she is the subject of a thread for bringing a child to a coffee meet.

Mmmmmmm

Me thinks theres 2 sides to this wee tale and your only telling us half the real story.

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By *e DevilMan over a year ago

Blantyre

"Should have left instantly I would have

That’s rude isn’t it

It was awkward

But felt obliged

Not when they’ve blindsided you with the kid and you politely excuse yourself that you’re not comfortable with the situation

I’m too nice

So why has she blocked you ?

You’re a proper ray of sunshine you

You’d have to ask her

Lol a ray of sunshine, im just weighing up your post

You met her , stayed for an hour

You kept in contact for a few weeks after.

Something happened that you wont tell us or maybe dont know

And NOW suddenly she is the subject of a thread for bringing a child to a coffee meet.

Mmmmmmm

Me thinks theres 2 sides to this wee tale and your only telling us half the real story.

Sry meant to add something happened that made her block you.

Yep definitely half a story. Bud

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Beat this one

. Met a man for coffee just to check we are both sane and relatively like our pictures. He arrived(I’d got coffees in) and slapped a large hold-all on the table, wiped the coffee froth off his face ( not a good look, he’d lost all chance at this point), and opened up the bag to show ‘what he’d brought for today’. Nope. Not a bluebrrry muffin. A long bull whippy thingy and a plug in implement that looked like a food processor. Whilst loudly explaining that he’d never used a bull whip before but that it’s on his bucket list.

I suggested he go find a bull.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can honestly say... I’m shocked .....

Have people lost their minds?

Do we not know what’s right and wrong?

Look I understand this is a swinging site, but don’t leave your common sense at the door...

Now if any parent found out their other half took their child to meet a stranger from a sex site... they would call children protective services immediately...... and have that child taken away......

I can’t see how any rational person can find a silver lining in this story.....

And i have to say im also shocked, shocked at the moral hypocrites on this site.

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By *e DevilMan over a year ago

Blantyre

"Beat this one

I suggested he go find a bull. "

Ahhhh but did he have his 3 year old with him

Only joking . You might 9f at least asked what the othe gizzmo was, i definitely think you did the right think not going any further. It could have been a mincer and you were the main course lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Should have left instantly I would have

That’s rude isn’t it

It was awkward

But felt obliged

Not when they’ve blindsided you with the kid and you politely excuse yourself that you’re not comfortable with the situation

I’m too nice

So why has she blocked you ?

You’re a proper ray of sunshine you

You’d have to ask her

Lol a ray of sunshine, im just weighing up your post

You met her , stayed for an hour

You kept in contact for a few weeks after.

Something happened that you wont tell us or maybe dont know

And NOW suddenly she is the subject of a thread for bringing a child to a coffee meet.

Mmmmmmm

Me thinks theres 2 sides to this wee tale and your only telling us half the real story.

Sry meant to add something happened that made her block you.

Yep definitely half a story. Bud"

I’d be really surprised if the female in question came into the forums to give her side of the story.... so for now we have to take his side of the story as gospel...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What i dont get is theres already been a murder on fab and r**pes and guys going to prison for terrorizing women what the hell is there to stop guys grooming single mothers and people are not getting this"

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By *e DevilMan over a year ago

Blantyre

Im curious steel, you gave this comment the thumbs up, does that mean ALL females on Fab that have children should now close their accts and leave Fab due to the pottential risks of someone grooming a single female to get to the children.

Of course your not saying that, this post is just another scare tactic to make the single female that is the subject of this thread, look worse. Again im sure she took all precautions necessary even to the point the poor innocent OP said she hardly spoke to him as she interacted more with the daughter than him.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

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Make her feel worse? Tell you what the girl needs and thats a damn good talking to about what is and isnt acceptable when meeting a stranger of a swinging/sex site

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By *entleman JayMan over a year ago

Wakefield

Good grief!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Make her feel worse? Tell you what the girl needs and thats a damn good talking to about what is and isnt acceptable when meeting a stranger of a swinging/sex site"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What on earth are you on about? Who is saying all women with kids should leave Fab?

And I'm not suggesting the OP is a nutjob by the way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

What on earth are you on about? Who is saying all women with kids should leave Fab?

And I'm not suggesting the OP is a nutjob by the way.

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By *e DevilMan over a year ago

Blantyre

Make her feel worse? Tell you what the girl needs and thats a damn good talking to about what is and isnt acceptable when meeting a stranger of a swinging/sex site"

I bet your mother or sister rould say the exact same thing if they knew you done the same. Ie meet strangers off a sex site. Ps havnt looked at your profile so appologies if your just on Fab for the banter.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Make her feel worse? Tell you what the girl needs and thats a damn good talking to about what is and isnt acceptable when meeting a stranger of a swinging/sex site

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How the hell is what im doing the same i dont or ever did take my son to meets. You need to take a good look at yourself

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By *e DevilMan over a year ago

Blantyre

Make her feel worse? Tell you what the girl needs and thats a damn good talking to about what is and isnt acceptable when meeting a stranger of a swinging/sex site

How the hell is what im doing the same i dont or ever did take my son to meets. You need to take a good look at yourself"

Its all about perception. You percieve this single femsle as making a bad decision taking her daughter, where as your mother would see you as making bad decisions meeting strangers. Neither is a wrong decision, you tske precautions b4 meeting strangers i bet, and this female no doubt never risked her daughter either, meeting in a public place and leaving only with her daughter. I agree its not advisable, but neither is it wrong.

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By *lovebustyladiesMan over a year ago

Birmingham

I can beat that I have a meet that lasted all of 5 minutes lol and another meet when she got her mate to call her to say she was needed at work lol

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Make her feel worse? Tell you what the girl needs and thats a damn good talking to about what is and isnt acceptable when meeting a stranger of a swinging/sex site

How the hell is what im doing the same i dont or ever did take my son to meets. You need to take a good look at yourself

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Im a fully grown adult plus my mum knows. I have never involved a minor in any of my activities

However, Judging by the other thread it shows your way in the minority with your views which makes me thankful that everyone hasnt taken leave of there senses

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

If it’s all about perception then surely people are fully within their right to perceive it as wrong.

I’m in the it’s wrong camp wouldn’t dream of doing it with my own children or anyone else’s kids and anything related to sex should be an obvious no go area to my mind.

Not to mention I know how distracting kids are and I wouldn’t feel it was fair to the person I was meeting, to get to know better, that they weren’t my focus because I was in mum mode.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Make her feel worse? Tell you what the girl needs and thats a damn good talking to about what is and isnt acceptable when meeting a stranger of a swinging/sex site

How the hell is what im doing the same i dont or ever did take my son to meets. You need to take a good look at yourself

It's weird

You've sat on a children's panel

You surely can't even try to be suggesting that it's responsible parenting

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By *e DevilMan over a year ago

Blantyre

Make her feel worse? Tell you what the girl needs and thats a damn good talking to about what is and isnt acceptable when meeting a stranger of a swinging/sex site

How the hell is what im doing the same i dont or ever did take my son to meets. You need to take a good look at yourself

Im a fully grown adult plus my mum knows. I have never involved a minor in any of my activities

However, Judging by the other thread it shows your way in the minority with your views which makes me thankful that everyone hasnt taken leave of there senses"

Hey diamonnd, its quite normal for me to be in the minority on some of my views.

As i say i do actually agree with everyone who say they would never take a child to a meet, but

1 we only have this thread and are judging a female when we have a BLOCKED possibly disgruntled OP who only now thinks she was at fault , weeks after continued chat.

2 we only have half the story.

And 3 she NEVER put the child at risk merely took a child to a coffee shop and met up with a guy she could simply introduce as a friend.

Remember by the OPS own account he said she paid most attention to the child.

Anyone thinking she was a bad parent really should read up on neglect and endangering kids. This single femsle is almost a saint compared to some parents.

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By *inkerbell67Woman over a year ago

Clacton on sea essex

I would have got up and walked away ..

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

seriously if i was sat waiting for someone of here to turn up for a social and without any warning they rocked up with a kid in toe i think i would of spontaneously combost

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By *amsay BoltonMan over a year ago

Motherwell

When a was younger and on here the first time a met an older woman. Pure fantasy for a young guy thought I was the man.

Did the deed then lying in bed afterwards she does this massive loud fart and starts cupping he smell from her arse and smelling it saying ‘nothing like yer own brand’

Couldn’t get out fast enuf. Left her a veri saying ‘fart smeller’ and she blocked me pmsl think she’s still on here too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No names mentioned

This happened to me a few weeks ago

I agreed to travel the 30 minute drive to make it easier for her,as is proper

I arrive at Costa on time

I get a text

Running late be there in half hour

40 mins later she arrives

I’d got us a coffee

She walked in with 3 year old daughter in tow

Bought the girl some juice and 2 cakes

One for her and one for the daughter ( I’d have asked if I wanted one even though I’d have declined )

The entire social was spent focussed on the daughter and how not to eat cake

And controlling her behaviour

After an hour of not really talking much

I left "

We respect the lady that she at least honoured the meet . It was a social, non sexual meet anyway .

What were you looking for in a social meet ?

Off course ,she came with a child put you off ,but don't have any hard feelings for the single mum.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Make her feel worse? Tell you what the girl needs and thats a damn good talking to about what is and isnt acceptable when meeting a stranger of a swinging/sex site

How the hell is what im doing the same i dont or ever did take my son to meets. You need to take a good look at yourself

Im a fully grown adult plus my mum knows. I have never involved a minor in any of my activities

However, Judging by the other thread it shows your way in the minority with your views which makes me thankful that everyone hasnt taken leave of there senses

Hey diamonnd, its quite normal for me to be in the minority on some of my views.

As i say i do actually agree with everyone who say they would never take a child to a meet, but

1 we only have this thread and are judging a female when we have a BLOCKED possibly disgruntled OP who only now thinks she was at fault , weeks after continued chat.

2 we only have half the story.

And 3 she NEVER put the child at risk merely took a child to a coffee shop and met up with a guy she could simply introduce as a friend.

Remember by the OPS own account he said she paid most attention to the child.

Anyone thinking she was a bad parent really should read up on neglect and endangering kids. This single femsle is almost a saint compared to some parents.

She is almost a saint....... I just spit my coffee out.....

If my child told me my ex took her to meet a stranger from a sex/swinging site... I would take her to court immediately and have custody taken away....

You could be her attorney and explain everything you posted in this thread as her defense....

Guess who would win?

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By *e DevilMan over a year ago

Blantyre

Make her feel worse? Tell you what the girl needs and thats a damn good talking to about what is and isnt acceptable when meeting a stranger of a swinging/sex site

How the hell is what im doing the same i dont or ever did take my son to meets. You need to take a good look at yourself

Im a fully grown adult plus my mum knows. I have never involved a minor in any of my activities

However, Judging by the other thread it shows your way in the minority with your views which makes me thankful that everyone hasnt taken leave of there senses

Hey diamonnd, its quite normal for me to be in the minority on some of my views.

As i say i do actually agree with everyone who say they would never take a child to a meet, but

1 we only have this thread and are judging a female when we have a BLOCKED possibly disgruntled OP who only now thinks she was at fault , weeks after continued chat.

2 we only have half the story.

And 3 she NEVER put the child at risk merely took a child to a coffee shop and met up with a guy she could simply introduce as a friend.

Remember by the OPS own account he said she paid most attention to the child.

Anyone thinking she was a bad parent really should read up on neglect and endangering kids. This single femsle is almost a saint compared to some parents.

She is almost a saint....... I just spit my coffee out.....

If my child told me my ex took her to meet a stranger from a sex/swinging site... I would take her to court immediately and have custody taken away....

You could be her attorney and explain everything you posted in this thread as her defense....

Guess who would win? "

Another person who only quotes the parts that suit a debate. I said a almost a saint "compared to some parents".

You clearly have no idea the suffering of some children mate. When you do , you come back and we can have a rational discussion on it.

You might also read up on child custody cases while your at it.

By your analogy if your ex found out you were on a sex site meeting strange women could she get a ban on you from ever seeing your child again until they are 16, or does those rules differ for a man and you ? Remember its not just about who you meet its about the enviroment a child is in when visiting too, which means by your analogy Fab and its members are ALL dodgy men and women ( strangers ). As said way earlier in this thread, hypocrit standards.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Leave it out _e devil

She put her own fanny before her child

It’s wrong regardless of wether it was in a bloody coffee shop or not as there was at some point a potential for sex as an outcome of this meeting

And my ex now only sees his children under supervision for doing just as this woman did. So clearly it all that right is it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Make her feel worse? Tell you what the girl needs and thats a damn good talking to about what is and isnt acceptable when meeting a stranger of a swinging/sex site

How the hell is what im doing the same i dont or ever did take my son to meets. You need to take a good look at yourself

Im a fully grown adult plus my mum knows. I have never involved a minor in any of my activities

However, Judging by the other thread it shows your way in the minority with your views which makes me thankful that everyone hasnt taken leave of there senses

Hey diamonnd, its quite normal for me to be in the minority on some of my views.

As i say i do actually agree with everyone who say they would never take a child to a meet, but

1 we only have this thread and are judging a female when we have a BLOCKED possibly disgruntled OP who only now thinks she was at fault , weeks after continued chat.

2 we only have half the story.

And 3 she NEVER put the child at risk merely took a child to a coffee shop and met up with a guy she could simply introduce as a friend.

Remember by the OPS own account he said she paid most attention to the child.

Anyone thinking she was a bad parent really should read up on neglect and endangering kids. This single femsle is almost a saint compared to some parents.

She is almost a saint....... I just spit my coffee out.....

If my child told me my ex took her to meet a stranger from a sex/swinging site... I would take her to court immediately and have custody taken away....

You could be her attorney and explain everything you posted in this thread as her defense....

Guess who would win?

Another person who only quotes the parts that suit a debate. I said a almost a saint "compared to some parents".

You clearly have no idea the suffering of some children mate. When you do , you come back and we can have a rational discussion on it.

You might also read up on child custody cases while your at it.

You’re really bad at this.....

My ex couldn’t get a ban on me because my Swinging life and my home life is completely separate.....

Now unlike you .... I don’t believe children should be involved in any of my private activities....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So...is it ok to bring a child to a social if I was meeting someone of the same sex?

Would it be ok to bring a child to a family BBQ of someone I meet on fab? But not meet before

Personally I don’t see a problem if it was just a social maybe of meet somewhere with a kids play area so you don’t get distracted.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"So...is it ok to bring a child to a social if I was meeting someone of the same sex?

Would it be ok to bring a child to a family BBQ of someone I meet on fab? But not meet before

Personally I don’t see a problem if it was just a social maybe of meet somewhere with a kids play area so you don’t get distracted."

Haven’t and Wouldn’t do any of those scenarios either my children are kept completely separate from anything relating to this lifestyle

Which is for me as it should be

It means I can’t meet anywhere near as often as I’d like to but they come first

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By *e DevilMan over a year ago

Blantyre

"So...is it ok to bring a child to a social if I was meeting someone of the same sex?

Would it be ok to bring a child to a family BBQ of someone I meet on fab? But not meet before

Personally I don’t see a problem if it was just a social maybe of meet somewhere with a kids play area so you don’t get distracted.

Haven’t and Wouldn’t do any of those scenarios either my children are kept completely separate from anything relating to this lifestyle

Which is for me as it should be

It means I can’t meet anywhere near as often as I’d like to but they come first

Ahh the differences of a gender posting. I get told to leave it out but when a female posts in support of this single females actions all you say is , you wouldnt do it.

Now i volunteered in Scotland on what is called the childrens panel and we gave out supervision orders and the likes, and i would bet any money your ex is not on supervised visits only for simply taking his kids to a coffee shop to meet a strange female, regardless of how they met. Anorher half a story to over dramatise your point.

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By *e DevilMan over a year ago

Blantyre

"Leave it out _e devil

She put her own fanny before her child

It’s wrong regardless of wether it was in a bloody coffee shop or not as there was at some point a potential for sex as an outcome of this meeting

And my ex now only sees his children under supervision for doing just as this woman did. So clearly it all that right is it?

She put her fanny before her child ?? She went for a coffee ?

Of course maybe at a later meeting there was a potential of sex but that does not mean her child would be there on that occasion.

Remember the OP kept chatting for weeks after, to the point she has now blocked him. I wonder why. ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So...is it ok to bring a child to a social if I was meeting someone of the same sex?

Would it be ok to bring a child to a family BBQ of someone I meet on fab? But not meet before

Personally I don’t see a problem if it was just a social maybe of meet somewhere with a kids play area so you don’t get distracted.

Haven’t and Wouldn’t do any of those scenarios either my children are kept completely separate from anything relating to this lifestyle

Which is for me as it should be

It means I can’t meet anywhere near as often as I’d like to but they come first

It's not swinging club, it's meeting for a coffee in a public area where you don't discuss dicks and pussies anyway unless you fuck in Costa on a social .

Come on .

We read about some worst parents who dumped their kids at home and gone on holidays , night outs .

Respect for the lady who came out for a social with her little one, shows the priority.

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By *e DevilMan over a year ago

Blantyre

"So...is it ok to bring a child to a social if I was meeting someone of the same sex?

Would it be ok to bring a child to a family BBQ of someone I meet on fab? But not meet before

Personally I don’t see a problem if it was just a social maybe of meet somewhere with a kids play area so you don’t get distracted.

Haven’t and Wouldn’t do any of those scenarios either my children are kept completely separate from anything relating to this lifestyle

Which is for me as it should be

It means I can’t meet anywhere near as often as I’d like to but they come first

One last point, u say you keep fab life separate from family life yet your name on Fab uses the word Mama , meaning mum. Your advertising on Fab you have kids so not exactly keeping it separate is it. ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So...is it ok to bring a child to a social if I was meeting someone of the same sex?

Would it be ok to bring a child to a family BBQ of someone I meet on fab? But not meet before

Personally I don’t see a problem if it was just a social maybe of meet somewhere with a kids play area so you don’t get distracted.

Haven’t and Wouldn’t do any of those scenarios either my children are kept completely separate from anything relating to this lifestyle

Which is for me as it should be

It means I can’t meet anywhere near as often as I’d like to but they come first

You're tenacious !

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"So...is it ok to bring a child to a social if I was meeting someone of the same sex?

Would it be ok to bring a child to a family BBQ of someone I meet on fab? But not meet before

Personally I don’t see a problem if it was just a social maybe of meet somewhere with a kids play area so you don’t get distracted.

Haven’t and Wouldn’t do any of those scenarios either my children are kept completely separate from anything relating to this lifestyle

Which is for me as it should be

It means I can’t meet anywhere near as often as I’d like to but they come first

Given your earlier defense That’s a matter of perspective is it not?

My kids don’t call me mama by the why that’s just an assumption you’ve made. It just sounded catchy at the time of joining 8 years ago before even became a parent.

Don’t believe I asked for a critique on my profile either so you might want to check forum rules before trying to be so petty because things aren’t going your way

Let’s Just be a graceful adults and agree to disagree shall we?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As a mum, I wouldn’t dream of bringing my lad to socials and I don’t play when he’s home. He’s at his dads enough that I can control myself... I have a friend I trust very much that is allowed if he’s home but only because they have become a friend... other than that, no!

So I think it was very inappropriate of her to bring child.

That said, you could have said look I don’t feel right and left?

She could have called to ask of it was ok beforehand...

Can’t comment on lateness as I’ll be late for my own funeral.

But it is a “social”

No one should go with expectation of ending up alone together for sex.

Maybe she was nervous, maybe she was let down by childcare as already said?

Maybe she is lonely or suffers with anxiety? You could drive yourself mad thinking up scenarios. I’d say move on especially as she’s blocked you now x "

One of the few rational responses on here.

To those saying totally inappropriate to meet a stranger with your child, paranoia has the better of so many. It was Costa ffs, have you never engaged with a stranger when out shopping with your kids? What message are we sending to our children, that all strangers (single guys) are paedophiles, abductors, criminals, that we shouldn't talk to anyone we don't know? If this is always in the back of your mind, no wonder there is many post up by ladies reflecting on how hard they find it to just go and simply date someone and end up not able to read the signs if the guy is genuinely interested or not. The signals of distrust must be immense with some of you.

For those who argued she was not being selfish, you're just as selfish if you can't see she should have messaged explaining her situation at the very minimum, then again a lot of women on here don't feel that they need to show respect, but expect it from guys. Imagine his shock, how uncomfortable it would make him feel.

(I once turned up to a one to one social and found out were were there with other fabbers. No chance of chatting to get to know her, who she was, what she was like, needless to say it didn't happen for us and she never understood why)

It's also strange he found out she had blocked him.

Watched a brilliant documentary called Blind Travel. Yes he's blind and he has a companion to join him who he's never met before and the head to northern Turkey. It was an amazing insight into trust. She who had all her faculties was so I'm trusting of others, (turns out its more about her lack of trust in herself), he who cannot see, would just approach anyone or any situation with an openness, talk to anyone and would try anything (it enabled him to make a picture if the situation/person etc. What was interesting to note, was how this demonstrated how others picked up things. Her mistrust breeded mistrust, his trust brought it out in others, it transformed her life and the way she started seeing the world (such irony). She had learned to rely too heavily on just her sight and only used her other senses as secondaries. This gave her an imbalanced view of the world around her and she was missing out so much as a result. He couldn't see (not a choice) and so had learned how much his other senses could provide that missing picture for him.

It didn't show it they fucked each other though.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

One advantage of this thread is its acted as a great filter for knowing which people are on the same wavelength as you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"One advantage of this thread is its acted as a great filter for knowing which people are on the same wavelength as you

Is that what forums are most about? It's a good filter system but its not very reflective of Fab as only small amount, 5% use the forums. Possibly a certain type that generally use them too.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

I think the people who say there is nothing wrong with it, it is just a social are on a totally different wave length than us that's for sure

It is totally wrong for me

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

Not to to arrange a meet for sex no.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

Make her feel worse? Tell you what the girl needs and thats a damn good talking to about what is and isnt acceptable when meeting a stranger of a swinging/sex site

How the hell is what im doing the same i dont or ever did take my son to meets. You need to take a good look at yourself

Im a fully grown adult plus my mum knows. I have never involved a minor in any of my activities

However, Judging by the other thread it shows your way in the minority with your views which makes me thankful that everyone hasnt taken leave of there senses

Hey diamonnd, its quite normal for me to be in the minority on some of my views.

As i say i do actually agree with everyone who say they would never take a child to a meet, but

1 we only have this thread and are judging a female when we have a BLOCKED possibly disgruntled OP who only now thinks she was at fault , weeks after continued chat.

2 we only have half the story.

And 3 she NEVER put the child at risk merely took a child to a coffee shop and met up with a guy she could simply introduce as a friend.

Remember by the OPS own account he said she paid most attention to the child.

Anyone thinking she was a bad parent really should read up on neglect and endangering kids. This single femsle is almost a saint compared to some parents.

She is almost a saint....... I just spit my coffee out.....

If my child told me my ex took her to meet a stranger from a sex/swinging site... I would take her to court immediately and have custody taken away....

You could be her attorney and explain everything you posted in this thread as her defense....

Guess who would win?

Another person who only quotes the parts that suit a debate. I said a almost a saint "compared to some parents".

You clearly have no idea the suffering of some children mate. When you do , you come back and we can have a rational discussion on it.

You might also read up on child custody cases while your at it.

You seem to be only quoting parts that suit you

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

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Not to to arrange a meet for sex no. "

Likewise the engagement with strangers In public places is nothing more than polite small talk, sex in that situation is the last thing on my mind, especially if my children were with me

Hell sex with your own partner is challenging when you have kids there’s reason people say they’re the best form of contraception

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By *e DevilMan over a year ago

Blantyre

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Not to to arrange a meet for sex no. "

But no one has said it was to arrange sex.

Social are just to see if you get along and are who you say you are , thats my definition of a coffee social. Not sure if i know any guy sitting in costa who would say to a female on the other side of the table, when are we hooking up for sex.

I am only being tenacious as people say she was wrong. Yes i concede it was perhaps inappropriate but not wrong. What some parents put their kids through is WRONG. Not meeting for coffee.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

Respect for the lady who came out for a social with her little one, shows the priority."

The priority of meeting a stranger for a social

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

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Not to to arrange a meet for sex no.

But no one has said it was to arrange sex.

I am only being tenacious as people say she was wrong. Yes i concede it was perhaps inappropriate but not wrong. What some parents put their kids through is WRONG. Not meeting for coffee."

It is wrong and people are entitled to say that if they think it.

Your idea of a social is different than ours, we always had socials with a view to having sex on the same day so the talk was about sex too. I am interested to know how many men you have asked did they talk about sex at a social to come to your conclusion

I have just read you were n some sort of panel for Childrens welfare, did they send you on courses to know about appropriate behaviour when caring for children?

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

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Not to to arrange a meet for sex no.

But no one has said it was to arrange sex.

I am only being tenacious as people say she was wrong. Yes i concede it was perhaps inappropriate but not wrong. What some parents put their kids through is WRONG. Not meeting for coffee."

It was two people from this site meeting

You do realise sex is an aspect of swinging right?

Would you really meet anyone from this site 1 to 1 for a just social if you didn’t think there was any chance of a sexual spark being there at least initially?

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By *e DevilMan over a year ago

Blantyre

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Not to to arrange a meet for sex no.

But no one has said it was to arrange sex.

I am only being tenacious as people say she was wrong. Yes i concede it was perhaps inappropriate but not wrong. What some parents put their kids through is WRONG. Not meeting for coffee.

It is wrong and people are entitled to say that if they think it.

I have just read you were n some sort of panel for Childrens welfare, did they send you on courses to know about appropriate behaviour when caring for children?"

There are a lot of definitions of what is appropriate and inappropriate behaviours when it comes to children as im sure you would agree. There is a line on this for example. Coffee in a public place , regardless of how they met, chess club , school pantomime, fab, tinder , pof or wherever, all pose exact same risks to the child from an unknown stranger. Crossing the line is then going into cars and back to maybe his flat or another non safe location so on the basis of this example , just going for coffee it would not initially be evidence or reason enough to put that child on any ' at risk' monitoring or supervision type status.

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By *e DevilMan over a year ago

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Not to to arrange a meet for sex no.

But no one has said it was to arrange sex.

I am only being tenacious as people say she was wrong. Yes i concede it was perhaps inappropriate but not wrong. What some parents put their kids through is WRONG. Not meeting for coffee.

It is wrong and people are entitled to say that if they think it.

I have just read you were n some sort of panel for Childrens welfare, did they send you on courses to know about appropriate behaviour when caring for children?

When i said line i mean she never crossed the line in my opinion.

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By *electableDalliancesCouple over a year ago

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That’s all everyone who posted has done , given their opinion on the situation as presented.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Well It’s my opinion that your definition of what the line should be is severely blurred

I met my current partner through this site known him for 5 years as a fab friend and it still took 9 months of actually fully dating him before I felt I trusted him enough and saw future potential in the relationship for us to meet each other’s children. I believe if you take your role as a parent seriously you strive to get every step just right. Sure no ones the “perfect parent” but some things should be clearly right and wrong if you’ve got any common sense and decency about you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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Is that just people who post? I know a lot of people who read but can't/ don't post.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people are utterly clueless about how to behave in social situations. Many people have posted before, about how they have been approached while out in public with their kids, by people openly making reference to Fab and sex. In front of the children.

Again, I'm not inferring the OP is like that. But the woman didn't know this.

The fact they were in a coffee shop is irrelevant. I've met men who spoke about blow jobs and sex in coffee shop environments. I was on my own with them but I didn't meet them again as they were not respectful or discreet.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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Funnily enough there was a post on here a long while ago where a woman was reported to SS for meeting men from the site when her kids were about, she was investigated by SS so they must have thought it deemed it needed investigating. I seem to remember she just got some advice.

I know other people mentioned the child being at risk, but I more thought it was wrong to take a child there in the first place.

Surely some things ( this being one of them ) should be kept separate from swinging/ hook ups for sex

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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"1%

Is that just people who post? I know a lot of people who read but can't/ don't post. "

Clicks on the forum, so posters and lurkers

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