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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We have been stood up by our first single man for a mmf tonight. We had an awesome build up and shared stuff with him. I was all ready and if I do say so myself looked fucking hot and he just didn't show. 2 hours later and he texts with some tale about his friend making him run late. I really wanted to experience mmf with someone who would put the effort in. His loss but I'm massively disappointed and have no idea how we'll trust someone next time.  |
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Unfortunately guys it’s something you will need to get used to, we have had more no shows than meets when we were looking for a MFM. Try a social meet before hand and see if they turn up if not then we would just treat it as a nice out for us both  don’t give up folks the right person will be out there. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Unfortunately guys it’s something you will need to get used to, we have had more no shows than meets when we were looking for a MFM. Try a social meet before hand and see if they turn up if not then we would just treat it as a nice out for us both don’t give up folks the right person will be out there. "
Thanks. Hubby did meet him today to chat and make arrangements. I think that's what makes me so disappointed  |
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I have a few ladies saying they will meet but do not show. One even made four times to meet but still did not show. I believe in honesty and if i say i will meet i will every time. You do not have to let people down. If you do not fancy when you meet just be honest and say no with out being rude. We are all adults |
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By *roticaCouple
over a year ago
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What I dont undertstand is that men on FAB say how hard it is to get a response to a message yet alone a meet. Most would give anything for a chance of an mmf. So the lucky ones who manage to get a meet yet dont turn up are spoiling it for everyone. Is it the chase?...possibly. Do they suddenly realise a dream has become reality and chicken out?...possibly. Are they total idiots....definately!.  |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
Hull |
OP.
Sad and annoying as it turned out, it is a common occurrence on here and other sites.
There's little you can do, even with the most detailed planning, a social beforehand, etc etc.
I've always made a point of showing up for meets, building in spare time en-route just in case. But there are some people, Guys as well as Ladies & Couples who let others down with or without having the courtesy to get in touch.
Move on, safe in the knowledge, the guy possibly wasn't worth the effort. There are plenty of other good people. |
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By *olexMan
over a year ago
Hull |
"Unfortunately guys it’s something you will need to get used to, we have had more no shows than meets when we were looking for a MFM. Try a social meet before hand and see if they turn up if not then we would just treat it as a nice out for us both don’t give up folks the right person will be out there.
Thanks. Hubby did meet him today to chat and make arrangements. I think that's what makes me so disappointed "
Sorry guys. Don't give up though. It will happen for you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks everyone. He has messaged to apologise and said he was more used to casual club meets and had underestimated the trust being invited into someone's home.
We'll go away lick our wounds and maybe a couple of other things too   |
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"Unfortunately guys it’s something you will need to get used to, we have had more no shows than meets when we were looking for a MFM. Try a social meet before hand and see if they turn up if not then we would just treat it as a nice out for us both don’t give up folks the right person will be out there.
Thanks. Hubby did meet him today to chat and make arrangements. I think that's what makes me so disappointed "
Is it possible that just hubby arriving at the pre meet made the guy question if you were a couple ? You hear about lone guys pretending there's a wife at home , maybe he mistakenly thought that ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have been stood up by our first single man for a mmf tonight. We had an awesome build up and shared stuff with him. I was all ready and if I do say so myself looked fucking hot and he just didn't show. 2 hours later and he texts with some tale about his friend making him run late. I really wanted to experience mmf with someone who would put the effort in. His loss but I'm massively disappointed and have no idea how we'll trust someone next time. "
I’m sorry to hear that the guy ditched you, considering all of the effort and the excitement for the meet yesterday.
Don’t lose hope and give up as the mfm is one of the best experiences and it’s definitely worth it. I hope you’ll manage to find a guy that won’t disappoint you in he future |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Unfortunately guys it’s something you will need to get used to, we have had more no shows than meets when we were looking for a MFM. Try a social meet before hand and see if they turn up if not then we would just treat it as a nice out for us both don’t give up folks the right person will be out there.
Thanks. Hubby did meet him today to chat and make arrangements. I think that's what makes me so disappointed
Is it possible that just hubby arriving at the pre meet made the guy question if you were a couple ? You hear about lone guys pretending there's a wife at home , maybe he mistakenly thought that ? "
He knew I was there. We'd done live videos and had 3 way chats from different locations. He has messaged to say he had screwed up. |
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We like to do a social only first that way your not as disappointed in a no show because if they don't show your still out at a nice bar or pub with your other half. Also it's more likely someone who's serious will agree to a social first. Then when you meet you can tell much better if they are for real. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Unfortunately guys it’s something you will need to get used to, we have had more no shows than meets when we were looking for a MFM. Try a social meet before hand and see if they turn up if not then we would just treat it as a nice out for us both don’t give up folks the right person will be out there.
Thanks. Hubby did meet him today to chat and make arrangements. I think that's what makes me so disappointed
Is it possible that just hubby arriving at the pre meet made the guy question if you were a couple ? You hear about lone guys pretending there's a wife at home , maybe he mistakenly thought that ?
He knew I was there. We'd done live videos and had 3 way chats from different locations. He has messaged to say he had screwed up."
Hubby may have said something to put him off. Sounds like the guy thought it was all too intense for him. |
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"Unfortunately guys it’s something you will need to get used to, we have had more no shows than meets when we were looking for a MFM. Try a social meet before hand and see if they turn up if not then we would just treat it as a nice out for us both don’t give up folks the right person will be out there.
Thanks. Hubby did meet him today to chat and make arrangements. I think that's what makes me so disappointed
Is it possible that just hubby arriving at the pre meet made the guy question if you were a couple ? You hear about lone guys pretending there's a wife at home , maybe he mistakenly thought that ?
He knew I was there. We'd done live videos and had 3 way chats from different locations. He has messaged to say he had screwed up."
Maybe try a club for a MMF? Asking someone into your home can be daunting for them! Try to see his side too rather than thinking of self... |
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"Ever in Liverpool ladies and gents give me a shout haha "
it's simply ambition exceeding ability , happens lots OP unfortunately it's something you will have to get used to , happened to me many times
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By *ndyP76Man
over a year ago
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"What I dont undertstand is that men on FAB say how hard it is to get a response to a message yet alone a meet. Most would give anything for a chance of an mmf. So the lucky ones who manage to get a meet yet dont turn up are spoiling it for everyone. Is it the chase?...possibly. Do they suddenly realise a dream has become reality and chicken out?...possibly. Are they total idiots....definately!. "
I was saying exactly the same thing to someone who had exactly the same issue yesterday.
It's probably more common these days as everything is more accessible to people to set up - no more combing through Forum and writing to p.o. boxes - but doesn't make it any less disappointing. And the ubiquity of porn fills people's heads with how cool and stress free it will be before the reality kicks in and they pull the rip chord.
That's my thought for the day.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have had it too were they are very keen but then bottle it , and I think they must really kick themselves after but what’s a amazing fantasy they just can’t go through with it in real life .. we only give one chance if they don’t turn up they are ignored in future . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Unfortunately guys it’s something you will need to get used to, we have had more no shows than meets when we were looking for a MFM. Try a social meet before hand and see if they turn up if not then we would just treat it as a nice out for us both don’t give up folks the right person will be out there.
Thanks. Hubby did meet him today to chat and make arrangements. I think that's what makes me so disappointed
Is it possible that just hubby arriving at the pre meet made the guy question if you were a couple ? You hear about lone guys pretending there's a wife at home , maybe he mistakenly thought that ?
He knew I was there. We'd done live videos and had 3 way chats from different locations. He has messaged to say he had screwed up.
Maybe try a club for a MMF? Asking someone into your home can be daunting for them! Try to see his side too rather than thinking of self..."
sorry but his feelings didn't need to stop him from messaging to say he wasn't coming. Basic decency. And as for thinking of his feelings before ours, when he behaved like he did, is not even worth it. A message to say something is wrong we can work with but anything else doesn't warrant sympathy. |
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"Unfortunately guys it’s something you will need to get used to, we have had more no shows than meets when we were looking for a MFM. Try a social meet before hand and see if they turn up if not then we would just treat it as a nice out for us both don’t give up folks the right person will be out there.
Thanks. Hubby did meet him today to chat and make arrangements. I think that's what makes me so disappointed
Is it possible that just hubby arriving at the pre meet made the guy question if you were a couple ? You hear about lone guys pretending there's a wife at home , maybe he mistakenly thought that ?
He knew I was there. We'd done live videos and had 3 way chats from different locations. He has messaged to say he had screwed up.
Maybe try a club for a MMF? Asking someone into your home can be daunting for them! Try to see his side too rather than thinking of self... sorry but his feelings didn't need to stop him from messaging to say he wasn't coming. Basic decency. And as for thinking of his feelings before ours, when he behaved like he did, is not even worth it. A message to say something is wrong we can work with but anything else doesn't warrant sympathy."
agreed, it's totally disrespectful |
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