what is the etiquette regarding saying ‘no’ nicely? Is it better to go through with a social when you know you’re not interested, or be politely upfront? And if someone takes it badly, how do you respond to that? |
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"what is the etiquette regarding saying ‘no’ nicely? Is it better to go through with a social when you know you’re not interested, or be politely upfront? And if someone takes it badly, how do you respond to that?"
No don't put yourself in a position where it will be even harder to say no. I've found the best way is either block OR say your not compatible or something along those lines.
I don't like being rude to people but sometimes a simple no thankyou gets alot of abuse back.
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Intend to just say. "sorry you're not my type". Have had a few that's got abusive but think that's their own problems not mine. At least I'm being honest.
I wouldn't just block as I wouldn't want that done to me. Honesty is always the best policy in my book. |
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"what is the etiquette regarding saying ‘no’ nicely? Is it better to go through with a social when you know you’re not interested, or be politely upfront? And if someone takes it badly, how do you respond to that?"
Why the hell would you go through with a social when you aren't interested. Jesus Christ  |
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"what is the etiquette regarding saying ‘no’ nicely? Is it better to go through with a social when you know you’re not interested, or be politely upfront? And if someone takes it badly, how do you respond to that?
Why the hell would you go through with a social when you aren't interested. Jesus Christ "
Because people like to interact and spend time with people they are not sexually attracted to.... |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
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Their wording of ‘go through with’ seems to indicate a lack of interest on any level to me, cane. In which case...hell no. Just say that you ae no longer interested, then block. Or don’t block. That’s personal preference. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"what is the etiquette regarding saying ‘no’ nicely? Is it better to go through with a social when you know you’re not interested, or be politely upfront? And if someone takes it badly, how do you respond to that?
Why the hell would you go through with a social when you aren't interested. Jesus Christ
Because people like to interact and spend time with people they are not sexually attracted to...."
They don't tho. The level of intelligence baffles me on this site |
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"what is the etiquette regarding saying ‘no’ nicely? Is it better to go through with a social when you know you’re not interested, or be politely upfront? And if someone takes it badly, how do you respond to that?
Why the hell would you go through with a social when you aren't interested. Jesus Christ
Because people like to interact and spend time with people they are not sexually attracted to....
They don't tho. The level of intelligence baffles me on this site "
You are one of the few that are not in the matrix.... |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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If I know I'm not interested I would let them know before you go for a social, if you are still interested in potential platomy
(is that a word? Kind of like monogamy but different)
That way it's transparent and you have already put it out there but you are not looking for anything more.
As most people on here are looking to connect and hope for eventual intimacy, you might find they don't want to go through with the social if you are not interested in them, but at least you will have put your cards on the table. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Bizaarely, people sometimes have a social with someone they aren't sexually attracted to, or even won't have sex with, because they enjoy socialising.
I had several socials in Belfast with a lady who won't play because of my marital status but found me fascinating and wanted to meet me anyway.
Another lady I enjoy dinner dates with, we meet and chat as friends but won't get physical.
To answer the OP though, only meet if they interest you in some way, not because you feel you have to. |
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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago
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"what is the etiquette regarding saying ‘no’ nicely? Is it better to go through with a social when you know you’re not interested, or be politely upfront? And if someone takes it badly, how do you respond to that?"
I'm more than happy to receive a polite no message upfront.
Some people never respond to messages and some waste your time when a polite no would suffice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As the above advice said. Be honest and upfront. You cannot avoid offending some people and nor should you feel the need to put yourself in a bad situation just to save some feelings.
You have a right to your preferences. |
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If you go for a social first and know you are not interested in taking it further, be honest and say so.
A lady did with me once and we had a great afternoon riding our motorcycles in Derbyshire; had coffee and parted as friends.
Big difference between people you would want as friends and people you want to fuck I think.
Besides whats the worst that can happen if you are somewhere public - someone takes it badly and walks away ? and you get blocked ? |
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