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"It sounds like you want different things" Yep. Sounds like the OP wants more and her meet just wants a willing hole to empty his load into. | |||
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"We do want the same things, regular sessions together, all great before and during and when we're done he gets ready and runs away less than 5 mins later. Very strange thing I've never came across before lol" It doesn't sound like you want the same things, he wants to fuck and go, you want to spend time chatting maybe snuggling after ? | |||
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"Because he's got what he wanted. " Yup that was my main thought too. Thanks ladies for confirming  | |||
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"Because he's got what he wanted. " And now he has to go home, cos his wife's cooked his fish fingers | |||
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"Encountered a situation I've never experienced before. A lad I've recently been seeing gets very horny before and during sex, but after he literally runs away! Anybody experienced this before? I don't just wanna get used to it, I feel it's something we should work on together, don't wanna take on all the work myself, he should work on not fleeing lol Any advice you lovely people can give? " Guilt maybe | |||
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"Encountered a situation I've never experienced before. A lad I've recently been seeing gets very horny before and during sex, but after he literally runs away! Anybody experienced this before? I don't just wanna get used to it, I feel it's something we should work on together, don't wanna take on all the work myself, he should work on not fleeing lol Any advice you lovely people can give? " He isn’t giving you what you want.....GED RID! | |||
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"Encountered a situation I've never experienced before. A lad I've recently been seeing gets very horny before and during sex, but after he literally runs away! Anybody experienced this before? I don't just wanna get used to it, I feel it's something we should work on together, don't wanna take on all the work myself, he should work on not fleeing lol Any advice you lovely people can give? " My husband can turn over and go straight to sleep without even a goodnight where as I want to cuddle, chat, make plans for the future and maybe play a few times more. I think once most men have cum (apart from the lucky ones) their hormones die down pretty quickly and they can return to normal. Maybe that's something to do with it to xxx | |||
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"Because he's got what he wanted. And now he has to go home, cos his wife's cooked his fish fingers"   | |||
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"He’s selfish and you want more "Am I selfish for wanting my own company and bed after giving a man a hell of a fuck? | |||
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"Why you let him continue to do this if it irks you? Stop having sex with him" | |||
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"Yep seems he onky sees you as a quick easy fuck and ur playing to him Have you talked to him about it op? " Briefly yeah. He didn't really have much to say other than once he cums he feels different. Thankfully not known him very long so might be best to knock it on the head whilst in early days, definately seems like he's using me as a hole to dump his load and leave. | |||
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"Yep seems he onky sees you as a quick easy fuck and ur playing to him Have you talked to him about it op? Briefly yeah. He didn't really have much to say other than once he cums he feels different. Thankfully not known him very long so might be best to knock it on the head whilst in early days, definately seems like he's using me as a hole to dump his load and leave. " Yes, very likely. Not to be rude but rather honest, your username does convey the right thoughts. Definitely the right move to cut ties with him and learn from this experience. Only accept what you want for your pleasurable experience, it should be mutual and make you happy | |||
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"Yep seems he onky sees you as a quick easy fuck and ur playing to him Have you talked to him about it op? Briefly yeah. He didn't really have much to say other than once he cums he feels different. Thankfully not known him very long so might be best to knock it on the head whilst in early days, definately seems like he's using me as a hole to dump his load and leave. Yes, very likely. Not to be rude but rather honest, your username does convey the right thoughts. Definitely the right move to cut ties with him and learn from this experience. Only accept what you want for your pleasurable experience, it should be mutual and make you happy "Got to agree with the bit about the username | |||
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 once I found out he said he would leave so quick due to the guilt. | |||
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"We do want the same things, regular sessions together, all great before and during and when we're done he gets ready and runs away less than 5 mins later. Very strange thing I've never came across before lol" Unfortunately it does tend to be a man thing. Many men are happy to just get dressed and leave after sex. However, there are also many (myself included) that like to chat afterwards. It does depend a lot on my feelings for the person I’m with. Some I like to chat with, sone I like to chat and cuddle afterwards... and the odd ones I do prefer to leave when I can. However, I tend not to as I feel that it is selfish of me to just get dressed and go. So, I tend to chat for a bit with the ones I won’t to leave because I like to consider their feelings. I would suspect that you both want different things after sex. Maybe talk to him about your feelings.... he may not be aware of how his actions are making you feel. Not all blokes are in tune with women’s feelings C x | |||
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The way he explained it? With them, he was looking to unliad and didn’t want to waste any more of his precious time once he’d done so. Absolutely brutal. With me, he’d made the mistake of sharing interests and building a friendship, so he didn’t feel like he could do that to me...didn’t really want to, either. Much rather have a coffee and chat about podcasts and books.
It might not be the motivator, but you have to be clear with him what you need from him too. If he’s not willing to tell you why or stay with you...cut him loose. He’s not the regular partner you’re looking for, no matter how good the sex. | |||
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"I didn't meet him from here by the way so my username doesn't come into it neither does my profile. That being said, what changes can you guys recommend? " How people assume because of your profile name like it’s your fault! Get rid of him, you deserve better honey | |||
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"I didn't meet him from here by the way so my username doesn't come into it neither does my profile. That being said, what changes can you guys recommend? How people assume because of your profile name like it’s your fault! Get rid of him, you deserve better honey "Did I say it was her fault? It's a factor for sure! How you see and portray yourself is what you invite in and attract. Don't accept less than you deserve | |||
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"I didn't meet him from here by the way so my username doesn't come into it neither does my profile. That being said, what changes can you guys recommend? " I would recommend changing your name to something that doesn't portray you as a hole for use only. Men may read your profile name and assume you are "up for it" all the time without considering you as a person with sexual needs, including the "after care" of cuddling or pillow talk. If you get those types of messages, perhaps reconsider. "Treat me right and you shall reap the rewards, treat me badly you will not get a second chance." Actually like thay part on your profile. And definitely something to stand by especially in regards to your OP. | |||
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"I didn't meet him from here by the way so my username doesn't come into it neither does my profile. That being said, what changes can you guys recommend? I would recommend changing your name to something that doesn't portray you as a hole for use only. Men may read your profile name and assume you are "up for it" all the time without considering you as a person with sexual needs, including the "after care" of cuddling or pillow talk. If you get those types of messages, perhaps reconsider. "Treat me right and you shall reap the rewards, treat me badly you will not get a second chance." Actually like thay part on your profile. And definitely something to stand by especially in regards to your OP. " She didn’t meet him here so it’s nothing to do with the profile name. | |||
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"Encountered a situation I've never experienced before. A lad I've recently been seeing gets very horny before and during sex, but after he literally runs away! Anybody experienced this before? I don't just wanna get used to it, I feel it's something we should work on together, don't wanna take on all the work myself, he should work on not fleeing lol Any advice you lovely people can give? " It is said that after sex The female wants a cuddle And the man just wants to go to sleep! | |||
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"Encountered a situation I've never experienced before. A lad I've recently been seeing gets very horny before and during sex, but after he literally runs away! Anybody experienced this before? I don't just wanna get used to it, I feel it's something we should work on together, don't wanna take on all the work myself, he should work on not fleeing lol Any advice you lovely people can give? " Ask him why he does it and say he's not getting your goodies again unless he stays with you for awhile after as you feel used. Or B, just as he's about to cum jump out of bed get dressed and leg it out the door. When you next meet him and he asks you why you did it, you've got him | |||
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"I didn't meet him from here by the way so my username doesn't come into it neither does my profile. That being said, what changes can you guys recommend? I would recommend changing your name to something that doesn't portray you as a hole for use only. Men may read your profile name and assume you are "up for it" all the time without considering you as a person with sexual needs, including the "after care" of cuddling or pillow talk. If you get those types of messages, perhaps reconsider. "Treat me right and you shall reap the rewards, treat me badly you will not get a second chance." Actually like thay part on your profile. And definitely something to stand by especially in regards to your OP. She didn’t meet him here so it’s nothing to do with the profile name." I know that now but she did ask what changes can we recommend.
So I answered.
Again, how we portray ourselves here or anywhere give off certain vibes and attract certain people.
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"This thread is why swinging gets very confusing.... The guy might think this is the greatest sexual relationship ever.... The woman wants more of a emotional connection...... I think people should be more honest online and tell potential partners exactly what they want before someone gets their feelings hurt.... This goes for both men and women...." Wanting a little bit of cuddle time afterwards, rather than anything abrupt, isn't necessarily to do with wanting an emotional connection. That time afterwards is an important part of sex for some people. And this is not necessarily a stereotypical gendered thing, as your post implies. But otherwise, I agree. People should be clear about the things that they want. | |||
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"This thread is why swinging gets very confusing.... The guy might think this is the greatest sexual relationship ever.... The woman wants more of a emotional connection...... I think people should be more honest online and tell potential partners exactly what they want before someone gets their feelings hurt.... This goes for both men and women...." I think a typed out agenda or legal agreement signed and sealed is needed (think 50 shades with the contract). That way he gets his shag and she gets her cuddles or there is trouble! How does that sound? Ridiculous lol like some of the assumptions in this thread but Fabsteroos this is what I love about the forums and why I stick around. All these views and debates! It’s great | |||
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"We do want the same things, regular sessions together, all great before and during and when we're done he gets ready and runs away less than 5 mins later. Very strange thing I've never came across before lol" Happens to most of us guys after orgasm we kinda lose interest in anything sexual for a short period. If your just fuck buddies then thats his cue to leave | |||
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"We do want the same things, regular sessions together, all great before and during and when we're done he gets ready and runs away less than 5 mins later. Very strange thing I've never came across before lol Happens to most of us guys after orgasm we kinda lose interest in anything sexual for a short period. If your just fuck buddies then thats his cue to leave" If he can’t give her what she wants she should get rid! Find a man with better manners and respect! | |||
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"We do want the same things, regular sessions together, all great before and during and when we're done he gets ready and runs away less than 5 mins later. Very strange thing I've never came across before lol It doesn't sound like you want the same things, he wants to fuck and go, you want to spend time chatting maybe snuggling after ? " Definition of fuck and go to me .. he’s using you | |||
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"We do want the same things, regular sessions together, all great before and during and when we're done he gets ready and runs away less than 5 mins later. Very strange thing I've never came across before lol It doesn't sound like you want the same things, he wants to fuck and go, you want to spend time chatting maybe snuggling after ? Definition of fuck and go to me .. he’s using you " How can he using her?? This is a swingers site!! At the end of the day it is about having sex with others/strangers who are outside of your normal life.... Jeez...when did it all get so touchy feels "oooh he is using you" ....it is sex end of...if you don't like, don't meet... | |||
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"We do want the same things, regular sessions together, all great before and during and when we're done he gets ready and runs away less than 5 mins later. Very strange thing I've never came across before lol It doesn't sound like you want the same things, he wants to fuck and go, you want to spend time chatting maybe snuggling after ? Definition of fuck and go to me .. he’s using you How can he using her?? This is a swingers site!! At the end of the day it is about having sex with others/strangers who are outside of your normal life.... Jeez...when did it all get so touchy feels "oooh he is using you" ....it is sex end of...if you don't like, don't meet... "
Thanks..So good to hear, esp from a woman..
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"We do want the same things, regular sessions together, all great before and during and when we're done he gets ready and runs away less than 5 mins later. Very strange thing I've never came across before lol It doesn't sound like you want the same things, he wants to fuck and go, you want to spend time chatting maybe snuggling after ? Definition of fuck and go to me .. he’s using you How can he using her?? This is a swingers site!! At the end of the day it is about having sex with others/strangers who are outside of your normal life.... Jeez...when did it all get so touchy feels "oooh he is using you" ....it is sex end of...if you don't like, don't meet... "Two words.... Manners Respect I would get rid of him after the first time he ran off like that...... | |||
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"We do want the same things, regular sessions together, all great before and during and when we're done he gets ready and runs away less than 5 mins later. Very strange thing I've never came across before lol It doesn't sound like you want the same things, he wants to fuck and go, you want to spend time chatting maybe snuggling after ? Definition of fuck and go to me .. he’s using you How can he using her?? This is a swingers site!! At the end of the day it is about having sex with others/strangers who are outside of your normal life.... Jeez...when did it all get so touchy feels "oooh he is using you" ....it is sex end of...if you don't like, don't meet...
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Respect
I would get rid of him after the first time he ran off like that......"Ran off? Lol... he got his fuck and left...it is a swingers site...many on here do not have manners...because the whole site is one big melting pot with samples from the wide range of society...yes, I would not meet again if he left prematurely... but I certainly wouldn't come on here for others to lick your my wounds... | |||
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"We do want the same things, regular sessions together, all great before and during and when we're done he gets ready and runs away less than 5 mins later. Very strange thing I've never came across before lol It doesn't sound like you want the same things, he wants to fuck and go, you want to spend time chatting maybe snuggling after ? Definition of fuck and go to me .. he’s using you How can he using her?? This is a swingers site!! At the end of the day it is about having sex with others/strangers who are outside of your normal life.... Jeez...when did it all get so touchy feels "oooh he is using you" ....it is sex end of...if you don't like, don't meet...
Thanks..So good to hear, esp from a woman..
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"We do want the same things, regular sessions together, all great before and during and when we're done he gets ready and runs away less than 5 mins later. Very strange thing I've never came across before lol Happens to most of us guys after orgasm we kinda lose interest in anything sexual for a short period. If your just fuck buddies then thats his cue to leave If he can’t give her what she wants she should get rid! Find a man with better manners and respect! " Sorry just a fact of our biology. Even the happily married woman above says it happens. There is one theory that the disinterest/sleep reflex of men is to buy women time to safely leave, a hangover from the days when our reproduction was less than consensual | |||
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"We do want the same things, regular sessions together, all great before and during and when we're done he gets ready and runs away less than 5 mins later. Very strange thing I've never came across before lol It doesn't sound like you want the same things, he wants to fuck and go, you want to spend time chatting maybe snuggling after ? Definition of fuck and go to me .. he’s using you How can he using her?? This is a swingers site!! At the end of the day it is about having sex with others/strangers who are outside of your normal life.... Jeez...when did it all get so touchy feels "oooh he is using you" ....it is sex end of...if you don't like, don't meet...
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Respect
I would get rid of him after the first time he ran off like that......
Ran off? Lol... he got his fuck and left...it is a swingers site...many on here do not have manners...because the whole site is one big melting pot with samples from the wide range of society...yes, I would not meet again if he left prematurely... but I certainly wouldn't come on here for others to lick your my wounds..."He isnt from here | |||
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"I didn't meet him from here by the way so my username doesn't come into it neither does my profile. That being said, what changes can you guys recommend? " Have your conversation and cuddles before the sex? While hes horny you csn pretty kuch have him do as you pleasr | |||
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"We do want the same things, regular sessions together, all great before and during and when we're done he gets ready and runs away less than 5 mins later. Very strange thing I've never came across before lol" Can i just suggest from my own experience i have done this on occasion for me the reason why I up and went after was because i really enjoyed it and then got post stage fright didn't know how to act after shy embarrassed by the way it went and thought getting out ASAP was the answer thankfully it happens alot less nowadays less nowadays or perhaps he may be inexperienced? | |||
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"We do want the same things, regular sessions together, all great before and during and when we're done he gets ready and runs away less than 5 mins later. Very strange thing I've never came across before lol Can i just suggest from my own experience i have done this on occasion for me the reason why I up and went after was because i really enjoyed it and then got post stage fright didn't know how to act after shy embarrassed by the way it went and thought getting out ASAP was the answer thankfully it happens alot less nowadays less nowadays or perhaps he may be inexperienced? " Something to consider too,depending what his personality is like and how many times you've seen each other. I have a casual date I sometimes see. It's perhaps been 5 times so far. The first 2/3 times he'd just immediately leave, but now he'll lie there and we will talk about all sorts whilst gently stroking each other. More vocal with compliments too. Maybe it's just getting to know each other...? | |||
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"Encountered a situation I've never experienced before. A lad I've recently been seeing gets very horny before and during sex, but after he literally runs away! Anybody experienced this before? I don't just wanna get used to it, I feel it's something we should work on together, don't wanna take on all the work myself, he should work on not fleeing lol Any advice you lovely people can give? My husband can turn over and go straight to sleep without even a goodnight where as I want to cuddle, chat, make plans for the future and maybe play a few times more. I think once most men have cum (apart from the lucky ones) their hormones die down pretty quickly and they can return to normal. Maybe that's something to do with it to xxx " That's my guess ... it dawned on him what he'd done once his hormones subsided. The question then is what bothered him ... embarrassment, guilt ... Might be worth asking him next time. | |||
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