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A week is nothing in Fab land, I'm afraid. A month is almost nothing. Some guys go over six months without a meet.
Talk to women (have a good presence here, send personal messages based on their profile), and if they like you they'll agree to meet you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there any way to speed it up lol"
Yes. Lower your expectations. If you think a week is a long time without a meet, then expect a year. That way you aren't disappointed. |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
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Clubs, socials etc. Some do get meets quicker but they tend to be the ones with well-thought-out, engaging profiles and spend time on their messages. This isn’t Dial-A-Shag though - you have to put out a lot of effort to find someone good |
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"It's not instashag OP, and women aren't free prostitutes at your beck and call. Try getting yourself to organised socials and clubs to start networking. "
Yeah, it's sometimes a frustrating site for everyone. It's a great tool to find like minded people, but women are inundated with (often poor) attention, and a lot of men struggle to get a look in. |
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"Where do I find my local club"
There's a club section on Fab. Check membership policies, who's allowed on what days, type of club, and prices (which usually differ by gender).
Unfortunately it can still be hard even with verification, and going to a club certainly doesn't guarantee any action either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op think of it this way; If you were a part of a couple or single female & you were contacted by YOUR profile?.. What would think / say or do? (Be honest).
I.e; Put yourself in the receiving peoples place.
1week is nowhere near close to securing a meet, it might be "fabswingers", sure aint "last person on earth, lets shag swingers".
Clubs, socials, networking.. make yourself known and you will have a chance. It will take time many many months and possibly multiple trips to clubs.
Its the harsh reality of the "swinging" world. Swinging is a choice & not a must, i.e.. people only meet if they want (& even then you can have you time wasted). Alot of people confuse swinging with the "paid" service kinda lifestyle.
^^ All my thoughts; in case pc brigade is watching / im entitled to have my say
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Where do I find my local club"
There's Pennant Hall which I think is near Mold. Best would be Townhouse in Birkenhead. Or there is a social held in Chester |
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"Where do I find my local club
There's a club section on Fab. Check membership policies, who's allowed on what days, type of club, and prices (which usually differ by gender).
Unfortunately it can still be hard even with verification, and going to a club certainly doesn't guarantee any action either. "
I agree, stick with Fab mate, I’ve found it far more rewarding than the club scene  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Where do I find my local club"
Your nearest club is Townhouse in Birkenhead. Have a look on the club listings section on the forums and see if any of their parties take your fancy.
FYI. I've been on here off and on since 2012 and only ever met people in Townhouse. I've never had a meet from messaging the ladies on here. Also, too many fakes and timewasters, on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Where do I find my local club
Your nearest club is Townhouse in Birkenhead. Have a look on the club listings section on the forums and see if any of their parties take your fancy.
FYI. I've been on here off and on since 2012 and only ever met people in Townhouse. I've never had a meet from messaging the ladies on here. Also, too many fakes and timewasters, on here."
I chatted to a guy offline as his profile and message were quite intriguing...after about an hour he said he came off here as it was full of timewasters...and then a few minutes later revealed he was only looking to chat and wank himself off to our conversations... hmm and there he was saying Fab was full of fakes and timewasters  |
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Clubs are easier for making a good impression and instant attraction. Wider pool but harder to get to a meet on Fab.
I think I do well, and on Fab I probably get around 200 first messages to one full meet. Club, probably 15-20 interactions to one play. But I'm a 33 year old single lady at the smaller end of curvy. |
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"Clubs are easier for making a good impression and instant attraction. Wider pool but harder to get to a meet on Fab.
I think I do well, and on Fab I probably get around 200 first messages to one full meet. Club, probably 15-20 interactions to one play. But I'm a 33 year old single lady at the smaller end of curvy. "
.....and the OP will be “yet another single guy in a club”
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"Clubs are easier for making a good impression and instant attraction. Wider pool but harder to get to a meet on Fab.
I think I do well, and on Fab I probably get around 200 first messages to one full meet. Club, probably 15-20 interactions to one play. But I'm a 33 year old single lady at the smaller end of curvy.
.....and the OP will be “yet another single guy in a club”
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Which is only a bad thing if the club doesn't manage numbers or he behaves inappropriately. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Clubs are easier for making a good impression and instant attraction. Wider pool but harder to get to a meet on Fab.
I think I do well, and on Fab I probably get around 200 first messages to one full meet. Club, probably 15-20 interactions to one play. But I'm a 33 year old single lady at the smaller end of curvy.
.....and the OP will be “yet another single guy in a club”
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There's not enough single guys in clubs in my opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Where do I find my local club
There's Pennant Hall which I think is near Mold. Best would be Townhouse in Birkenhead. Or there is a social held in Chester"
Pennant Hall is now closed down |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Clubs are easier for making a good impression and instant attraction. Wider pool but harder to get to a meet on Fab.
I think I do well, and on Fab I probably get around 200 first messages to one full meet. Club, probably 15-20 interactions to one play. But I'm a 33 year old single lady at the smaller end of curvy.
.....and the OP will be “yet another single guy in a club”
Which is only a bad thing if the club doesn't manage numbers or he behaves inappropriately. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok put pics on what u all think"
As you’ve asked specifically, I’d say check that your photos reflect how you’ve described yourself in your profile. If people don’t see what you’re saying you have it throws doubt over everything else you’ve said
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mate I’ve been on here for about 8 months and the messages I’ve sent almost always get ignored. Opened and no response. Lol. I don’t have any advice but be patient, it takes time. Especially for men because women are bombarded and often overwhelmed with messages! |
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Have I read OP profile correctly. Basically ONLY sex, not really looking at being friends, handing out, just meeting others and not adverse to 121?
There's nothing more un-sexy than to think you're strictly booty call material. Not worth investing in otherwise. I know a swinger site, but even so, it would make me feel like a prostitute without the perks! |
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"Have I read OP profile correctly. Basically ONLY sex, not really looking at being friends, handing out, just meeting others and not adverse to 121?
There's nothing more un-sexy than to think you're strictly booty call material. Not worth investing in otherwise. I know a swinger site, but even so, it would make me feel like a prostitute without the perks!"
Best that he open and honest with what he wants out of the site.
Some just want one off meets. Although we enjoy the social side of swinging and have met some good friends we enjoy the occasional one off fun ourselves. Would not feel bad even if never speak again if arrange that. All get fun out of it  |
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As a response to an overall pattern on this thread: OP, the best profiles here come from those who think for themselves. Look around at how people sell themselves (yes including at men, yes you're allowed). Look at the features of the site. Search the forum for dogging. (as it's illegal you're unlikely to find anything very specific) Search the forum and club reviews for insights into clubs. Think about what you read. Think about how you can apply it to your own experience. |
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