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So been back on fab since October and I am having a pretty bad time. It was crowned off this week by being stood up in spectacular fashion.
Can anyone help me understand why I am about as appealing as a hat full of wasps? |
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over a year ago
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"How were you stood up?we had arranged to meet on Monday, I travelled to Manchester and got us a hotel room. She never turned up. It had been planned 3 weeks in advance "
Ooh.. how long had you been messaging for? What did you talk about usually? Talk over the phone or camera? |
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"Saying you like rough sex and a bit dom coupled to pics of you muscled up could scare single girls. Get smiley face pics and say how nice you are. "
thanks. I was actually going to put more emphasis on the fact that I enjoy slower more sensual sex just as much. I will try smiling too ??
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"How were you stood up?we had arranged to meet on Monday, I travelled to Manchester and got us a hotel room. She never turned up. It had been planned 3 weeks in advance "
Has she given any explanation why she didnt turn up ?
Had you spoken on the phone or via webcam ?
Its horrible that you were treated that way x |
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"How were you stood up?we had arranged to meet on Monday, I travelled to Manchester and got us a hotel room. She never turned up. It had been planned 3 weeks in advance
Ooh.. how long had you been messaging for? What did you talk about usually? Talk over the phone or camera?"
we had spoke in the past for a couple of weeks. Probably about 5 weeks in total. Just exchanged text messages and pics. We just talked about what we were gonna do to each other, made arrangements to meet and general chit chat. She asked me on the day to prove I was there which I did. |
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"How were you stood up?we had arranged to meet on Monday, I travelled to Manchester and got us a hotel room. She never turned up. It had been planned 3 weeks in advance
Has she given any explanation why she didnt turn up ?
Had you spoken on the phone or via webcam ?
Its horrible that you were treated that way x"
phone battery died and she didn’t remember where to go. No never spoke on the phone. She’s verified tho. |
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"How were you stood up?we had arranged to meet on Monday, I travelled to Manchester and got us a hotel room. She never turned up. It had been planned 3 weeks in advance
Ooh.. how long had you been messaging for? What did you talk about usually? Talk over the phone or camera?we had spoke in the past for a couple of weeks. Probably about 5 weeks in total. Just exchanged text messages and pics. We just talked about what we were gonna do to each other, made arrangements to meet and general chit chat. She asked me on the day to prove I was there which I did."
Classic time waster tactic asking you to prove you are there, just to confirm that they wasted your time. How many veris, were they displayed, anything look dodgy with the veris? |
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I've been stood up like that once. It fucking sucks and I feel for you man. Since then I've learnt to filter out anyone who is likley to do things like that to me.
I tend not talk too much about sex, I save that for if it happens. Ask lots of questions, maybe talk some sex and lots of flirting, but it's not really the "I'm going to do this to you, you're going to do that to me" Kind of chat. More like the stuff you see on the forum. Skirting around sex, not being so direct. Be subtle.
There are a lot of fantasy hunters who consistently chicken out of meets. Then there are those who enjoy being mean to others and playing tricks. These types tend to fold under continued interrogation with indirect questions. |
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I really like your profile and pics (especially the bit about rough sex)  . I now always insist on kik cam prior to a social. So that's my advice to you. I was catfished once by a bloke with false pics on his prof. He was at least 20 yrs older than his age stated. 
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"How were you stood up?we had arranged to meet on Monday, I travelled to Manchester and got us a hotel room. She never turned up. It had been planned 3 weeks in advance
Has she given any explanation why she didnt turn up ?
Had you spoken on the phone or via webcam ?
Its horrible that you were treated that way xphone battery died and she didn’t remember where to go. No never spoke on the phone. She’s verified tho."
Im guessing that she was a man hence why they didnt turn up ! |
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"I've been stood up like that once. It fucking sucks and I feel for you man. Since then I've learnt to filter out anyone who is likley to do things like that to me.
I tend not talk too much about sex, I save that for if it happens. Ask lots of questions, maybe talk some sex and lots of flirting, but it's not really the "I'm going to do this to you, you're going to do that to me" Kind of chat. More like the stuff you see on the forum. Skirting around sex, not being so direct. Be subtle.
There are a lot of fantasy hunters who consistently chicken out of meets. Then there are those who enjoy being mean to others and playing tricks. These types tend to fold under continued interrogation with indirect questions. "
I normally wouldn’t travel that far for someone I don’t know but I decided to take a risk. |
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There are thousands of guys after the same thing has you are, couples and single ladys it can be hard to get meets sometimes but don’t give up I am a older guy but I have got verifications and met so many lovely couples and singles for private meets and at clubs too. So don’t feel it’s all about just you others guys have the same problem |
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You have been on for 6 years and only recently single? So right or wrongly people may assumme you have been cheating. Or have never updated your profile since you joined. Maybe post new photos |
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"Come to quest on a Sunday in Leeds  "
Normally I don’t recommend single guys visit clubs OP, but as you live in Leeds, it’ll be very little effort for you, so worth a look 
Your profile looks fine, although I would advise to hide the cock pics for those who ask to see them 
Good luck fella |
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"Come to quest on a Sunday in Leeds
Normally I don’t recommend single guys visit clubs OP, but as you live in Leeds, it’ll be very little effort for you, so worth a look
Your profile looks fine, although I would advise to hide the cock pics for those who ask to see them
Good luck fella "
I go to clubs to only meet single men so don’t tell them that! |
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You've been around fab for a long time, so know many of the issues for single men, I assume: typically that there is plenty of competition, allowing others to pick from those who have made the effort, who best fits their needs, to go on to meet them.
There are a couple of things from that: it takes a lot of effort, generally, for men to get meets. It largely means intelligent effort, such as attending socials, visiting clubs, contacting the right people via message etc. And next, people with increased choice at their disposal, will have a finite amount of time/energy to make that choice but will still have a growing number of single men that they can pick from. There are winners and losers.
If you are someone with near universal appeal to those people who are also wanted by you, then it's great. There are others who, for whatever reasons, will be less attractive - taste and preference is something that's subjective.
Ultimately op, you need to ask yourself whether you are selling yourself as well as you can, whether there is something missing, that you could be doing, or what adjustments you could be making, so that you can refine your approach. |
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"Meet the cunt and try not to travel far and then get a,room day use .
That's well mint advice and free bro"
Is this your official entry for Fab's 2019 marketing competition, as you've not submitted it via the appropriate entry slot? |
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