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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Apologies, I know I must be the millionth one to ask, but can someone suggest anything I’m doing wrong... if not everything!
My opening messages are always polite, humorous (hopefully), personal to the person I’m messaging, and I never promise I’m going to make them cum like never before or my dick is a lot bigger than it looks in the pictures!
But I’m not having any luck with couples or women.
I get that being curious may put some women off, but it shouldn’t with bi couples.
Obviously I know I’m not everyone’s cup of tea..
But I must be someone’s! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The cock pics! This is a swingers site but you’re only showing pictures of your cock and saying you won’t send pics of your face. How will they recognise you? Going to whip out your cock? (Obviously I’m being facetious) What if they’re not attracted to you if they do meet you- that would make for an awkward drink, unless you can offer scintillating conversation, but that’s unlikely to get you a sexual meet, just a nice chat. If you can offer it though, sell that point- many like intelligence as well as sex.
What alternatives can you offer for not being able to accommodate? Where would you like to meet- can you offer hotel meets, do you want to go to clubs etc? If you’re attached be honest x
Good luck btw x
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The cock pics! This is a swingers site but you’re only showing pictures of your cock and saying you won’t send pics of your face. How will they recognise you? Going to whip out your cock? (Obviously I’m being facetious) What if they’re not attracted to you if they do meet you- that would make for an awkward drink, unless you can offer scintillating conversation, but that’s unlikely to get you a sexual meet, just a nice chat. If you can offer it though, sell that point- many like intelligence as well as sex.
What alternatives can you offer for not being able to accommodate? Where would you like to meet- can you offer hotel meets, do you want to go to clubs etc? If you’re attached be honest x
Good luck btw x
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Thanks for the response..
never thought about how they’d recognise me, would you not be able to tell it’s me if I did whip my cock out?
Failing that, I think I could hold their attention with some of the hilarious anecdotes and sexual conquests have in my locker...... don’t ask...
You both say cock pics...firstly, One is full body, may not be an amazing body, but it’s there!
Secondly, the other pic, granted, not showing it to its full potential! Maybe need to address that.
Thirdly, what else would you propose?
With regards to not having face pics and not wanting to share them, lots of profiles don’t. The reason I don’t like to send them is simply because I don’t believe everyone on here can be trusted.
And finally non accommodation... single parent. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Cock pics and can’t accom which screams ‘I’m married’ "
That said, your first verification only had cock pics until 9 November and can not accommodate. |
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Op you’ve been given some great advice and comments here, maybe try heeding it!
With regards to the pics......are you a man or just a cock? If all you have to offer is your cock then fair enough, but I’m sure there’s more to you than that. Take a look at the profiles of some of they successful guys on here, do you see just a couple of cock pics? No! You see a variety of interesting, imaginative, teasing pics. Semi clothed, smartly dressed, sometimes face pics but often not.
As for not sending face pics at all before a meet.....good luck with that! Most people expect to see a picture of who they’re talking to very early in the conversation. Being facially attracted to someone can be very important and many will not even talk to you if you won’t send a pic, you won’t get as far as that coffee meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Then why not show a pic of your full body wearing underwear? Or a pic with jeans/trousers on, open to give the tease. Implied is just as sexy as gratuitous so have both.
Do you want face pics back? A lot of profiles don’t send them, that’s true, but a lot won’t meet without them- “not blind date” etc.
Say why you can’t accommodate, it’s nothing you need to hide, and is less likely to put people off. As it is, it looks like you’re hiding a partner, whereas honesty would make people more open to meet, in light of your circumstances. Say if you don’t want to meet at home because it’s where your child/children live- lots of women do the same.
Sell yourself! Hate that term, but it’s true, you want someone to look at your profile and take the time to meet you. Make it interesting, and worth their while xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cock pics and can’t accom which screams ‘I’m married’
That said, your first verification only had cock pics until 9 November and can not accommodate. "
This isn’t about anyone else and their profile, but about you and your wanting advice. Please don’t do down the line of “but you...” you don’t want to be known as someone who looks at other people as a means of justifying their own lack of transparency xx |
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Your in the real world now not a fantasy one where people will meet you blind without knowing who you are and what you look like.
Your 2 years older than beards yet you come across like a 60 year old with the way you talk here.
You’ve put you don’t trust anyone but you don’t give anyone anything to trust you with.
If you want to be serious and meet people then you need to sort your profile out. And if you need others to help you then you will come across as having no imagination when it comes to sex. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Op you’ve been given some great advice and comments here, maybe try heeding it!
With regards to the pics......are you a man or just a cock? If all you have to offer is your cock then fair enough, but I’m sure there’s more to you than that. Take a look at the profiles of some of they successful guys on here, do you see just a couple of cock pics? No! You see a variety of interesting, imaginative, teasing pics. Semi clothed, smartly dressed, sometimes face pics but often not.
As for not sending face pics at all before a meet.....good luck with that! Most people expect to see a picture of who they’re talking to very early in the conversation. Being facially attracted to someone can be very important and many will not even talk to you if you won’t send a pic, you won’t get as far as that coffee meet "
Thanks again for the response.
It has been great advice and it’s very welcome.
I will be heeding it, I was only saying there are plenty of profiles on here with only cock shots. Including one of the verifications of a previous commenter, obviously prior to him meeting someone.
I get the face pic comment and I’ll change the text, but it seems pointless to change anything yet, as I may get other advice suggesting something else.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Op you’ve been given some great advice and comments here, maybe try heeding it!
With regards to the pics......are you a man or just a cock? If all you have to offer is your cock then fair enough, but I’m sure there’s more to you than that. Take a look at the profiles of some of they successful guys on here, do you see just a couple of cock pics? No! You see a variety of interesting, imaginative, teasing pics. Semi clothed, smartly dressed, sometimes face pics but often not.
As for not sending face pics at all before a meet.....good luck with that! Most people expect to see a picture of who they’re talking to very early in the conversation. Being facially attracted to someone can be very important and many will not even talk to you if you won’t send a pic, you won’t get as far as that coffee meet
Thanks again for the response.
It has been great advice and it’s very welcome.
I will be heeding it, I was only saying there are plenty of profiles on here with only cock shots. Including one of the verifications of a previous commenter, obviously prior to him meeting someone.
I get the face pic comment and I’ll change the text, but it seems pointless to change anything yet, as I may get other advice suggesting something else.
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They may have had a profile of only cock pics, but they may have been happy to send face pics privately, you don’t know that they didn’t. Whereas you’re stating you don’t want to at all. The main thing is not to make sweeping assumptions, hence the advice given being around transparency, and make your profile suit you. Good luck xx |
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"Op you’ve been given some great advice and comments here, maybe try heeding it!
With regards to the pics......are you a man or just a cock? If all you have to offer is your cock then fair enough, but I’m sure there’s more to you than that. Take a look at the profiles of some of they successful guys on here, do you see just a couple of cock pics? No! You see a variety of interesting, imaginative, teasing pics. Semi clothed, smartly dressed, sometimes face pics but often not.
As for not sending face pics at all before a meet.....good luck with that! Most people expect to see a picture of who they’re talking to very early in the conversation. Being facially attracted to someone can be very important and many will not even talk to you if you won’t send a pic, you won’t get as far as that coffee meet
Thanks again for the response.
It has been great advice and it’s very welcome.
I will be heeding it, I was only saying there are plenty of profiles on here with only cock shots. Including one of the verifications of a previous commenter, obviously prior to him meeting someone.
I get the face pic comment and I’ll change the text, but it seems pointless to change anything yet, as I may get other advice suggesting something else.
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You're an average bloke in his forties who can't accomodate. Given the ratios on here, that already puts you pretty much at the bottom of the fabs pecking order.
When you then say you won't send face pics, virtually every woman or couple is then going to shrug their shoulders and move on to the next guy who will send a face pic.
Sorry, but that's the way it is... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t worry, not everyone follows all advice given, as is their prerogative, and as such, it is yours as well- but you will probably receive a lot more advice re getting rid of the cock pics. You may think your first is just one of your full body but as you’re naked I’m afraid it’s perceived as just another cock pic xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Your in the real world now not a fantasy one where people will meet you blind without knowing who you are and what you look like.
Your 2 years older than beards yet you come across like a 60 year old with the way you talk here.
You’ve put you don’t trust anyone but you don’t give anyone anything to trust you with.
If you want to be serious and meet people then you need to sort your profile out. And if you need others to help you then you will come across as having no imagination when it comes to sex. "
I didn’t put I don’t trust anyone, but I appreciate there isn’t anything to put trust in me.
Hurts a bit that I sound like a 60 yr old..
although not sure why asking for help on a profile says I would have no imagination when it comes to sex...
thanks for your comments.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Op you’ve been given some great advice and comments here, maybe try heeding it!
With regards to the pics......are you a man or just a cock? If all you have to offer is your cock then fair enough, but I’m sure there’s more to you than that. Take a look at the profiles of some of they successful guys on here, do you see just a couple of cock pics? No! You see a variety of interesting, imaginative, teasing pics. Semi clothed, smartly dressed, sometimes face pics but often not.
As for not sending face pics at all before a meet.....good luck with that! Most people expect to see a picture of who they’re talking to very early in the conversation. Being facially attracted to someone can be very important and many will not even talk to you if you won’t send a pic, you won’t get as far as that coffee meet
Thanks again for the response.
It has been great advice and it’s very welcome.
I will be heeding it, I was only saying there are plenty of profiles on here with only cock shots. Including one of the verifications of a previous commenter, obviously prior to him meeting someone.
I get the face pic comment and I’ll change the text, but it seems pointless to change anything yet, as I may get other advice suggesting something else.
You're an average bloke in his forties who can't accomodate. Given the ratios on here, that already puts you pretty much at the bottom of the fabs pecking order.
When you then say you won't send face pics, virtually every woman or couple is then going to shrug their shoulders and move on to the next guy who will send a face pic.
Sorry, but that's the way it is... "
Wow, that hurts, lol. But thanks |
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"Op you’ve been given some great advice and comments here, maybe try heeding it!
With regards to the pics......are you a man or just a cock? If all you have to offer is your cock then fair enough, but I’m sure there’s more to you than that. Take a look at the profiles of some of they successful guys on here, do you see just a couple of cock pics? No! You see a variety of interesting, imaginative, teasing pics. Semi clothed, smartly dressed, sometimes face pics but often not.
As for not sending face pics at all before a meet.....good luck with that! Most people expect to see a picture of who they’re talking to very early in the conversation. Being facially attracted to someone can be very important and many will not even talk to you if you won’t send a pic, you won’t get as far as that coffee meet
Thanks again for the response.
It has been great advice and it’s very welcome.
I will be heeding it, I was only saying there are plenty of profiles on here with only cock shots. Including one of the verifications of a previous commenter, obviously prior to him meeting someone.
I get the face pic comment and I’ll change the text, but it seems pointless to change anything yet, as I may get other advice suggesting something else.
You're an average bloke in his forties who can't accomodate. Given the ratios on here, that already puts you pretty much at the bottom of the fabs pecking order.
When you then say you won't send face pics, virtually every woman or couple is then going to shrug their shoulders and move on to the next guy who will send a face pic.
Sorry, but that's the way it is...
Wow, that hurts, lol. But thanks"
It's not personal. There are loads and loads of average guys in their forties. Far more than there are women and couples wanting to meet them.
Hence, if you are an average single guy in his forties, you have to stand out to get meets. You don't I am afraid. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Don’t worry, not everyone follows all advice given, as is their prerogative, and as such, it is yours as well- but you will probably receive a lot more advice re getting rid of the cock pics. You may think your first is just one of your full body but as you’re naked I’m afraid it’s perceived as just another cock pic xx "
Thank you very much for your advice, it’s been helpful.
I’ll take a look at others and see what you think when I’ve changed things around. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Op you’ve been given some great advice and comments here, maybe try heeding it!
With regards to the pics......are you a man or just a cock? If all you have to offer is your cock then fair enough, but I’m sure there’s more to you than that. Take a look at the profiles of some of they successful guys on here, do you see just a couple of cock pics? No! You see a variety of interesting, imaginative, teasing pics. Semi clothed, smartly dressed, sometimes face pics but often not.
As for not sending face pics at all before a meet.....good luck with that! Most people expect to see a picture of who they’re talking to very early in the conversation. Being facially attracted to someone can be very important and many will not even talk to you if you won’t send a pic, you won’t get as far as that coffee meet
Thanks again for the response.
It has been great advice and it’s very welcome.
I will be heeding it, I was only saying there are plenty of profiles on here with only cock shots. Including one of the verifications of a previous commenter, obviously prior to him meeting someone.
I get the face pic comment and I’ll change the text, but it seems pointless to change anything yet, as I may get other advice suggesting something else.
You're an average bloke in his forties who can't accomodate. Given the ratios on here, that already puts you pretty much at the bottom of the fabs pecking order.
When you then say you won't send face pics, virtually every woman or couple is then going to shrug their shoulders and move on to the next guy who will send a face pic.
Sorry, but that's the way it is...
Wow, that hurts, lol. But thanks
It's not personal. There are loads and loads of average guys in their forties. Far more than there are women and couples wanting to meet them.
Hence, if you are an average single guy in his forties, you have to stand out to get meets. You don't I am afraid. "
No I know it’s not personal. Your comments made me laugh....
in a painful, Jesus Christ is it really that bad kind of way.  |
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"Op you’ve been given some great advice and comments here, maybe try heeding it!
With regards to the pics......are you a man or just a cock? If all you have to offer is your cock then fair enough, but I’m sure there’s more to you than that. Take a look at the profiles of some of they successful guys on here, do you see just a couple of cock pics? No! You see a variety of interesting, imaginative, teasing pics. Semi clothed, smartly dressed, sometimes face pics but often not.
As for not sending face pics at all before a meet.....good luck with that! Most people expect to see a picture of who they’re talking to very early in the conversation. Being facially attracted to someone can be very important and many will not even talk to you if you won’t send a pic, you won’t get as far as that coffee meet
Thanks again for the response.
It has been great advice and it’s very welcome.
I will be heeding it, I was only saying there are plenty of profiles on here with only cock shots. Including one of the verifications of a previous commenter, obviously prior to him meeting someone.
I get the face pic comment and I’ll change the text, but it seems pointless to change anything yet, as I may get other advice suggesting something else.
You're an average bloke in his forties who can't accomodate. Given the ratios on here, that already puts you pretty much at the bottom of the fabs pecking order.
When you then say you won't send face pics, virtually every woman or couple is then going to shrug their shoulders and move on to the next guy who will send a face pic.
Sorry, but that's the way it is...
Wow, that hurts, lol. But thanks
It's not personal. There are loads and loads of average guys in their forties. Far more than there are women and couples wanting to meet them.
Hence, if you are an average single guy in his forties, you have to stand out to get meets. You don't I am afraid.
No I know it’s not personal. Your comments made me laugh....
in a painful, Jesus Christ is it really that bad kind of way. "
You're refusal to send face pics is a massive issue. What's the huge risk? You send a normal face pic to someone. What can they do with it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That seems to be the main sticking point...
oh and cock on towel pic! "
It’s all about trust. You have trust issues re your face pics, but those who send to you have to trust you. It’s a two way street. It’s not set in stone to send them but does help with being looked at for meets.
Please don’t get caught up in people not responding, even if you do change your profile, it’s not necessarily a reflection of you as a person, but that you’re not exactly what they’re looking for. Lost count of the amounts of no replies, deleted messages and knock backs we’ve had, but we know we’re not everyone’s taste, so don’t let it knock your confidence xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"That seems to be the main sticking point...
oh and cock on towel pic!
It’s all about trust. You have trust issues re your face pics, but those who send to you have to trust you. It’s a two way street. It’s not set in stone to send them but does help with being looked at for meets.
Please don’t get caught up in people not responding, even if you do change your profile, it’s not necessarily a reflection of you as a person, but that you’re not exactly what they’re looking for. Lost count of the amounts of no replies, deleted messages and knock backs we’ve had, but we know we’re not everyone’s taste, so don’t let it knock your confidence xx"
Thanks....
you’re advice is like a hug in text form...
genuinely love what you write and how you write it. |
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