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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So just a thought but what's peoples _iews to meeting when there are kids in the house but asleep in their beds (young kids that is like under 6?) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not ideal at all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definately NO |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we meet as much as poss our kids are 3 yrs and a 1 year old we havent had any probs as yet but respect there wil b isues as and wen they get older then our meeting plans wil b re adresed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, totally wrong  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we must b the minority then  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Some one suggested it to me as a way around the accom problem, not sure how I feel about it. How is it different to having sex with your partner when they asleep? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have 2 kids..one 15yr girl and 7yr boy.
We are the end of the house and never had a problem...now i know this sounds scarey but when you teenagers in the house they know we have friends bk..mainly the same friends but if anyone different then at the end of the day she know were adults and we stay up late.
At the end of the day my teenage daughter stops up till 6am on fridays and most weekends but not on a saturday night when its our time..
I hope that's not put folks off us 
But we've been doing this for years and never once had a problem..But we do go clubs to break it up as well.
Us adults have to have a life u know..its alright when they stop up and drink and laugh till all hrs of the morning so why cant we!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have 2 kids..one 15yr girl and 7yr boy.
We are the end of the house and never had a problem...now i know this sounds scarey but when you teenagers in the house they know we have friends bk..mainly the same friends but if anyone different then at the end of the day she know were adults and we stay up late.
At the end of the day my teenage daughter stops up till 6am on fridays and most weekends but not on a saturday night when its our time..
I hope that's not put folks off us
But we've been doing this for years and never once had a problem..But we do go clubs to break it up as well.
Us adults have to have a life u know..its alright when they stop up and drink and laugh till all hrs of the morning so why cant we!!"
YOUR 15 YR OLD DTR STAYS UP TO ALL HOURS DRINKING????? or did i read that wrong??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i think its awful personally, but everyone is different...
im a loud person whilst having sex anyways so couldnt possibly do it if we wanted too, i dont see how anybody could do it, imagine if they walked in on that kind of scene! Horrific!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not ideal and it does depend on the parents and them knowing what time their kids will be fast asleep and not likely to start wandering around.
Met a couple who did this and never had a problem.
I find clubs are good as I can't accommodate either. |
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Kids and swinging dont go together
There is no way we would have fun with a couple if their kids where upstairs in bed......you just wouldnt relax
BUT each to their own  |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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I personally wouldn't meet them but each to their own.
Beggars belief what you would say to a child who see mum being spit roasted..
or dad being shagged by the man from the corner shop whilst mum sucks his cock |
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once out of the cot i wouldn't , too much chance they could wake and wander in. |
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"Some one suggested it to me as a way around the accom problem, not sure how I feel about it. How is it different to having sex with your partner when they asleep? "
You and a partner both know the kids, and frankly kids knowing mum and dad shag isnt the end of the world...but many couples like us find it easier to shag when the kids are out of the house, im loud and it means we can relax and enjoy ourselves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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YOUR 15 YR OLD DTR STAYS UP TO ALL HOURS DRINKING????? or did i read that wrong??
No my Daughter doesn't stop up drinking..she stays up on XBOX LIVE talking to her mates...how things have changed to our days.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We wouldn't do it if we thought in anyway that my kids would hear...
We are 30ft from the kids,and we have the music on as well...It just sounds like were having a laugh..
Each to there own i guess |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
North of The Wall - youll need your vest |
Personally I wouldnt go to a house where there were kids in bed as I wouldnt feel comfortable.
If I was that desperate to meet them Id wait and arrange something another time |
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We done it once but didnt know the child was going to be there until we arrived the couple said its fine she wont wake once shes asleep shes asleep ... yeah right lost count how many times play had to stop as dad went and comforted the crying child so never again lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we would never do it with kids that young that's the different...I do prefer to go to clubs and play there..but i also like a little drink back ours for another hr or so..nothing wrong with that i think..well i hope so |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We wouldn't do it if we thought in anyway that my kids would hear...
We are 30ft from the kids,and we have the music on as well...It just sounds like were having a laugh.."
30ft is not very far and to be playing music so they can't hear what you're doing???? Have you ever give it a thought that YOU won't be able to hear what THEY are doing?? ....like getting out of bed and approaching the room you are playing in
It's all very well saying "it's ok, they sleep like logs" .....kids can get ill or have nightmares at any time and automatically go and search for their parents for comfort.
An absolutely massive NO from us. |
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I wouldn't feel comfortable knowing there was children in the house. The very thought of a young child walking in and seeing mummy/daddy or both in a compromising position with other people doesnt bear thinking about.
We have 2 grown daughters, one moved home again 6 months ago.
For about a year we where child free house (but to a certain extent). The daughters both have house keys and would call any time day or night so we still wouldn't accomadate. And to be honest I wouldn't have it any other way, this is still their home, wether they move out or get married. So for that reason we will probably never accomadate. (not unless they both moved abroad and I knew they couldn't pop in)
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I wont meet whilst my children are home, family & swinging are two very different things |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most times our daughter goes a sleepover and Mr has alot of non-swinging friends which doesn't mean we aren't shagging one another,were just socially aving a drink and there's nowt wrong with that.But we do go to clubs more than we meet at home thoe |
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"Personally I wont meet whilst my children are home, family & swinging are two very different things"
+1
I think its a bit creepy tbh to be having a swinging meet while children are in the home and its not safe...it could turn out to be a bad meet and i for one would not have my chld in that situation as im a good mum but like others say each to their own i guess but ewwwwww |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we have two boys at home 15 and 20 sometime they are in but they never bother us or say anything the next day |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lots of judgemental people on this, is it ok to tell people that they are wrong to play with kids in the house but it's not ok to tell people that they are wrong to cheat on their wives and husbands on other threads??! Double standards and not fair.
Personally we don't play with the kiddies asleep at home but it sure don't give us the right to have a go at those who do |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"Lots of judgemental people on this, is it ok to tell people that they are wrong to play with kids in the house but it's not ok to tell people that they are wrong to cheat on their wives and husbands on other threads??! Double standards and not fair.
Personally we don't play with the kiddies asleep at home but it sure don't give us the right to have a go at those who do"
A question was asked and people answered, I don't see people overly judging.  |
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I'm a single parent of 4 kids aged - eldest is 18 and would never bring a playmate into the house if they were at home or likely to turn up before the fun has finished. I know it's been said that adults need fun as well as the kids but kids always come first - my ex always had gfs round and the kids hated it so would never put them in that situation. I have been invited to play round a guys house with 'the kids are in bed but it will be ok' line - just politely turned them down. Defo not worth mixing family and swinging lifes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"we must b the minority then "
Dont worry.. I meet with mine in the house.. but I also know that as long as I make it after 9pm that I have basically no chance of being disturbed..
I have a lock on my door.. and my bedroom is downstairs 
Oh and my kids are all on sleeping medication due to hyper activity.. so wouldnt wake if I wanted them too...
Do what you feel is best... and I think as long as you make sure tiny ones can not walk in on seeing anything then your fine.
Cali x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lots of judgemental people on this, is it ok to tell people that they are wrong to play with kids in the house but it's not ok to tell people that they are wrong to cheat on their wives and husbands on other threads??! Double standards and not fair.
Personally we don't play with the kiddies asleep at home but it sure don't give us the right to have a go at those who do"
Did the OP mention cheating ?... nope  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never!! We hav 3 boys 9,10 & 12 & wud
Never ever hav meet in house when their
At home. It's a chance 2 take that's just
Way 2 dangerous |
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"we have two boys at home 15 and 20 sometime they are in but they never bother us or say anything the next day"
Can i ask you a question not having a go in the slighest btw...but can you look yor sons in the face after a meet and they have heard the life being pounded out of you...i only ask this as i came home early one night and heard my son giving his g/f a good pounding made it known i was in the house and the cheeky fucker carried on pounding till he was done i think ewwwww still creeps me out at the thought.
For 3 days straight he couldnt look me in the face and i couldnt look at him it was a very awkward moment for the 3 of us. The fact that your sons say nothing to you the next day do you think they are ashamed of what you do or what they hear? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lots of judgemental people on this, is it ok to tell people that they are wrong to play with kids in the house but it's not ok to tell people that they are wrong to cheat on their wives and husbands on other threads??! Double standards and not fair.
Personally we don't play with the kiddies asleep at home but it sure don't give us the right to have a go at those who do
A question was asked and people answered, I don't see people overly judging. "
I hate the thought of an innocent child discovering their parents enjoying a group session... if that happens, it's wrong and not the child's fault
If an adult has decided to be unfaithful to his or her partner, then it's them that have to face the consequences of getting found out... it's wrong and it's the 'cheaters' fault....... but hopefully a child isn't involved in 'discovering' their actions |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry its a no to this from us too.
I had a meet years ago when i was playing as a single lady.
I was told the children would be asleep and they would def not wake up as once they were put to bed they stayed there....
Long story short we had all finished and were laid on the bed nattering when the door suddenly opened.
There stood their 3 yrd saying she wanted a drink.
I've never moved so fast in my life and only just made it behind the door before she stopped rubbing her eyes.
So for those who think they dont wake up.... they do xxxx |
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"Lots of judgemental people on this, is it ok to tell people that they are wrong to play with kids in the house but it's not ok to tell people that they are wrong to cheat on their wives and husbands on other threads??! Double standards and not fair.
Personally we don't play with the kiddies asleep at home but it sure don't give us the right to have a go at those who do
A question was asked and people answered, I don't see people overly judging. "
Nor me to be honest.....what's the point of having a debate if people have to walk around on egg shells for fear of being accused of saying something wrong? |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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what would social services say if they knew?
not a judgement... just a genuine question? |
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"what would social services say if they knew?
not a judgement... just a genuine question?"
depends, i would guess a 1 on meet, nothing, anything else...i shudder to think .Given the trouble gay,lesbian and transgender ppl have getting equal access to their children(not in every case i know) any lifestyle outside the model 2;4 kids and nice hetro couple seems to be frowned upon. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"what would social services say if they knew?
not a judgement... just a genuine question?"
I can actually answer you this as a friend of mine reported me to them for doing this.. Actually it was because my Master wouldnt fuck her.. but she reported that I had orgies in my house with the kids in it ( so not true)
They count it as no different than if you have a b/f in.. as long as you take all reasonable precautions to not have the children see and that they are happy that your not involving the kids in it.
I actually had a good discussion about it with them..
Cali |
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"Lots of judgemental people on this, is it ok to tell people that they are wrong to play with kids in the house but it's not ok to tell people that they are wrong to cheat on their wives and husbands on other threads??! Double standards and not fair.
Personally we don't play with the kiddies asleep at home but it sure don't give us the right to have a go at those who do"
i say its wrong to cheat all the time...to the extent i think ppl are sick of me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So for those who think they dont wake up.... they do xxxx"
Which is why you fit a £10 lock on your door that locks from the inside On the bedroom door..
Cali |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Angus & Findhorn |
"what would social services say if they knew?
not a judgement... just a genuine question?
I can actually answer you this as a friend of mine reported me to them for doing this.. Actually it was because my Master wouldnt fuck her.. but she reported that I had orgies in my house with the kids in it ( so not true)
They count it as no different than if you have a b/f in.. as long as you take all reasonable precautions to not have the children see and that they are happy that your not involving the kids in it.
I actually had a good discussion about it with them..
Cali "
think you are right Cali..
I knew a woman on another site who was estranged from her husband, he loaded spyware on the laptop and reported her to social services...they got the chat logs from the spyware.
they took her kids from her and gave custody to him as they were able to prove she was in the chat rooms whilst the kids were up... they inter_iewed her kids and I think her eldest son once saw a guy on the cam for a few seconds. I think that is what caused the issue
was very messy for her and she didn't accomodate.
all true. |
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Ok, i answer these threads all the while with the same answer, but this is the reason i think it is so so wrong.
There is a world of difference between a child walking in on a partnership couple than on some random person. If a child walked in on parents having sex it is very easy to sit them down and explain what mummy and daddy where doing. Not quite so simple when its just a random someone. Also, when i have guys here i vet them the best i can and i think i do a damn good job, however, none of us can be 100% certain who we are inviting. Now if something was to happen to me then it would be my fault, if something was to happen to a child it would be unforgivable. 99.5% of people will be fantastic but i would noway take that .5% risk with my child.
What if the meet went wrong. Taking from a woman on her owns point of _iew. What if the guy drugged me, beat me ect, what if he needed to go upstairs to use the bathroom and bypass the childs bedroom. Maybe i am talking in extreme terms but god forbid anything would happen to my child simply because i wanted a shag |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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see that is where I am careful.. I dont go on anything that my kids may see..
And they were happy as long as the kids were not seeing anything.. They were happy that I locked my door etc..and met late at night.. or in the day when kids were not around..
And were happy to not bother me again..
Cali |
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"what would social services say if they knew?
not a judgement... just a genuine question?
I can actually answer you this as a friend of mine reported me to them for doing this.. Actually it was because my Master wouldnt fuck her.. but she reported that I had orgies in my house with the kids in it ( so not true)
They count it as no different than if you have a b/f in.. as long as you take all reasonable precautions to not have the children see and that they are happy that your not involving the kids in it.
I actually had a good discussion about it with them..
Cali
think you are right Cali..
I knew a woman on another site who was estranged from her husband, he loaded spyware on the laptop and reported her to social services...they got the chat logs from the spyware.
they took her kids from her and gave custody to him as they were able to prove she was in the chat rooms whilst the kids were up... they inter_iewed her kids and I think her eldest son once saw a guy on the cam for a few seconds. I think that is what caused the issue
was very messy for her and she didn't accomodate.
all true."
that was the kind of thing i was thinking, social services wont think anything of u picking up a different bloke any night of the week in a pub...find out you are on a "sex site " and its a whole different story.
Cali in that situation did they know you were on here?
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So for those who think they dont wake up.... they do xxxx
Which is why you fit a £10 lock on your door that locks from the inside On the bedroom door..
Cali "
And dont forget to save a little money for the shrink the kids will need after hearing all the sex parties in their home while they were growing up |
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I can't even imagine bringing some one back for sex when children ( and I include children of any age - even teenagers up to 18 years old) are in the house - knowing that your parents have sex is one thing - it's quite another to wander in or hear your parents shagging other people - in my opinion it's wrong, selfish and totally inapropriate. Z |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My kids met thier dads new g/f by walking into his bedroom whilst she was riding him...... not a great 1st introduction, they were 9 & 11 and could hear "funny noises" |
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"My kids met thier dads new g/f by walking into his bedroom whilst she was riding him...... not a great 1st introduction, they were 9 & 11 and could hear "funny noises""
That's normal though in a relationship, walking in on 4 in a bed is totally different! Z |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My kids met thier dads new g/f by walking into his bedroom whilst she was riding him...... not a great 1st introduction, they were 9 & 11 and could hear "funny noises"
That's normal though in a relationship, walking in on 4 in a bed is totally different! Z"
I agree with you totally |
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"My kids met thier dads new g/f by walking into his bedroom whilst she was riding him...... not a great 1st introduction, they were 9 & 11 and could hear "funny noises"
That's normal though in a relationship, walking in on 4 in a bed is totally different! Z"
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and people who think children are totally unaware of things are wrong, its amazing what kids do pick up on whether they say something at the time or years later |
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Happened to us once..
Never knew until we got there! And one of the little darlings walked in, thankfully before anything had happened! But I was half naked and luckily Del was able to shield me in time!
Can understand why some do, unable to get sitters etc...
But I won't play now if I know kids in house....I WILL walk away 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"and people who think children are totally unaware of things are wrong, its amazing what kids do pick up on whether they say something at the time or years later"
well I have been doing this for a good many years.. and my children still know nothing..
Its easy when you know they are asleep.. yes my kids know I have sex.. do they realise its not with my partner.. Nope.. why would they...
I meet a lot.. and I really have never had a problem.. but then as I said.. I take all the precautions I can..
Yes my older children know... and are fine with it
Cali |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My kids met thier dads new g/f by walking into his bedroom whilst she was riding him...... not a great 1st introduction, they were 9 & 11 and could hear "funny noises"
That's normal though in a relationship, walking in on 4 in a bed is totally different! Z"
can not understand all these parents without locks on the bedroom doors.. and all my kids knock first even when its not locked.
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Didn't need locks...as you say, mine knocked first....
But not everyone "plays" in the bedroom....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just simply "No..........not ever". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Didn't need locks...as you say, mine knocked first....
But not everyone "plays" in the bedroom....
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if I am playing that its behind a locked door..
But then my bedroom is my office/slouch space anyway...
but these locks I have on my bedroom door can be fitted to most doors.
Cali |
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Personally, i prefer to live in a home and not fork nox fitting locks to all my doors. My son respected my bedroom as i did his, however, it was also our curl up cuddling room. It was his home as much as mine and i never felt the need to have any locks |
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Can I just say that although children may not say anything, it doesn't mean they don't know.....a childs silence doesn't always equate to a childs ignorance on a matter. |
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"My kids met thier dads new g/f by walking into his bedroom whilst she was riding him...... not a great 1st introduction, they were 9 & 11 and could hear "funny noises"
That's normal though in a relationship, walking in on 4 in a bed is totally different! Z
can not understand all these parents without locks on the bedroom doors.. and all my kids knock first even when its not locked.
cali"
We don't want a lock on our bedroom door - our son always knocks if he wants to come in - if we were shagging people in the lounge or one of the spare bedrooms however we just don't want to have any one else in the house! Z |
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"Can I just say that although children may not say anything, it doesn't mean they don't know.....a childs silence doesn't always equate to a childs ignorance on a matter."
Yes, totally agree, my sister had to stay at our aunty & uncles house for a week or 2 and she saw some very peculiar antics but never said anything for years! Z |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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These threads always remind me that some parents feel their sexual satisfaction comes before the needs and innocence of their own children |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
I used to play at home until my daughter told me just how uncomfortable it made her. To me, her comfort means more than my female boner so if I can't find someone who can accom, I don't play. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We Never really had us as being "Loud"
- but - our 4 yr old recently told her "Granny"..
" Daddy Hurts Mummy in the bedroom.."
Mortified.. was the word.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definately NO!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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wrong wrong ,,,and wrong again!!!!!
i cannot beleive that cpls would do this???
we have 3 kids and i wouldnt even contimplate having anyone near my house.
no babysitter = no fun,,,simple
shouldnt even be considered!!!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Big no-no for me.
I find it tasteless. It's not something that a child should have to accidentally witness or hear, and I wouldn't want somebody who I didnt 100% know to be in my home, let alone near my children (if I had any) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"These threads always remind me that some parents feel their sexual satisfaction comes before the needs and innocence of their own children "
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We had a teen at home and found it hard to have sex in the house never mind have people over, so we just gave up and didnt meet at home at all. We are lucky now and we are now teen free! I think if a child is still in a cot and has no chance whatsoever of seeing anything at all when you have people over then thats fine but any older it has to be a definate no. |
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"We Never really had us as being "Loud"
- but - our 4 yr old recently told her "Granny"..
" Daddy Hurts Mummy in the bedroom.."
Mortified.. was the word.. "
We try to shag when the kids arent about...but on holiday, in a caravan we got ,very quietly i thought, down and dirty...believing the lads were sounf asleep.
The next morning one says..."daddy was mummy ill last night, i could hear her groaning, she sounded like a cow!"
double mortified! |
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over a year ago
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A guy I chat to on here once told me about a meet he went to, they were just getting down to it on the sofa, she was happily sucking away when he heard crying. its ok, she said, its the baby, he will cry for a min then go back to sleep..... |
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"Ok, i answer these threads all the while with the same answer, but this is the reason i think it is so so wrong.
There is a world of difference between a child walking in on a partnership couple than on some random person. If a child walked in on parents having sex it is very easy to sit them down and explain what mummy and daddy where doing. Not quite so simple when its just a random someone. Also, when i have guys here i vet them the best i can and i think i do a damn good job, however, none of us can be 100% certain who we are inviting. Now if something was to happen to me then it would be my fault, if something was to happen to a child it would be unforgivable. 99.5% of people will be fantastic but i would noway take that .5% risk with my child.
What if the meet went wrong. Taking from a woman on her owns point of _iew. What if the guy drugged me, beat me ect, what if he needed to go upstairs to use the bathroom and bypass the childs bedroom. Maybe i am talking in extreme terms but god forbid anything would happen to my child simply because i wanted a shag"
Couldn't agree with this more!!! |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"We Never really had us as being "Loud"
- but - our 4 yr old recently told her "Granny"..
" Daddy Hurts Mummy in the bedroom.."
Mortified.. was the word..
We try to shag when the kids arent about...but on holiday, in a caravan we got ,very quietly i thought, down and dirty...believing the lads were sounf asleep.
The next morning one says..."daddy was mummy ill last night, i could hear her groaning, she sounded like a cow!"
double mortified!"
Moo!!
I take it you weren't wearing the cow outfit at the time. |
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"These threads always remind me that some parents feel their sexual satisfaction comes before the needs and innocence of their own children "
+1
It's a huge and very definite 'No' from us. |
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"We Never really had us as being "Loud"
- but - our 4 yr old recently told her "Granny"..
" Daddy Hurts Mummy in the bedroom.."
Mortified.. was the word..
We try to shag when the kids arent about...but on holiday, in a caravan we got ,very quietly i thought, down and dirty...believing the lads were sounf asleep.
The next morning one says..."daddy was mummy ill last night, i could hear her groaning, she sounded like a cow!"
double mortified!
Moo!!
I take it you weren't wearing the cow outfit at the time."
u nearly made me spill my wine u wicked woman |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"We Never really had us as being "Loud"
- but - our 4 yr old recently told her "Granny"..
" Daddy Hurts Mummy in the bedroom.."
Mortified.. was the word..
We try to shag when the kids arent about...but on holiday, in a caravan we got ,very quietly i thought, down and dirty...believing the lads were sounf asleep.
The next morning one says..."daddy was mummy ill last night, i could hear her groaning, she sounded like a cow!"
double mortified!
Moo!!
I take it you weren't wearing the cow outfit at the time.
u nearly made me spill my wine u wicked woman "
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I think this is more common than you would think and once tackled a couple in person about it. They weren't happy but didn't have a leg to stand on. Absolute no from us...and yes we do have a knock before you enter rule as well as a lock on our door. Children often pick up on things but won't mention it but I think this will come back to bite quite a few parents in the arse when their kids grow up and get more communicative. They hear things, absorb atmospheres and know something goes on even if it takes adulthood to piece it all together. We won't even play at home when we have an empty house as can never be completely certain the guy won't turn up on the offchance sometime or even become a bit obsessive. Any small risk is a risk too far for us and ours are teens. |
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"Can I just say that although children may not say anything, it doesn't mean they don't know.....a childs silence doesn't always equate to a childs ignorance on a matter."
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"Lots of judgemental people on this, is it ok to tell people that they are wrong to play with kids in the house but it's not ok to tell people that they are wrong to cheat on their wives and husbands on other threads??! Double standards and not fair.
Personally we don't play with the kiddies asleep at home but it sure don't give us the right to have a go at those who do"
sorry disagree here, we wont pkey with kids inhouse whatever age neither will we play with a married person, wether so called partner knows or not |
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over a year ago
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As long as you lock them in the coal bunker overnight it's fine! |
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over a year ago
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wow, some funny opinions here.
I'm ok with it if the parents know their kids and have a good relationship with them.
There's too many comments here that smell of 'do as I say, not as I do'.
To a young child, what is different to seeing mum and dad having sex or mum and another guy?
I know you'll shoot me down, but, they don't understand sex full stop!
Kids walk in on their parents all the time and have done since humans existed. It's not that bad!
With teenagers though, do you really want to tell them to be responsible sexually while you're fucking strangers?
I find this even more amusing when the mother is bisexual but struggles to talk to her own daughter about sex.
Maybe my family was very liberated but we didn't have any issues talking about sex at all. This was great and really helped me in so many ways.
Like I didn't feel pressured to loose my virginity before 'I' was ready. I knew about masturbation and safe sex etc.
I just think that parents should be open and transparent about such things with their kids when they'e able to understand.
I've got a few swinging friends who are like this with their kids and it's great. 2 couples have teenage and student age kids who even know they're swingers. This has been a real bonding thing for them as the kids really respect them for being open and honest and in return the parents get to have kids who are open and honest back.
I'd have no issues with someone walking in on me anyway - it's happened in hotels, in my student bedrooms, my bedroom at my parents...isn't it a fact of life that sometimes we get busted??
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"wow, some funny opinions here.
I'm ok with it if the parents know their kids and have a good relationship with them.
There's too many comments here that smell of 'do as I say, not as I do'.
To a young child, what is different to seeing mum and dad having sex or mum and another guy?
I know you'll shoot me down, but, they don't understand sex full stop!
Kids walk in on their parents all the time and have done since humans existed. It's not that bad!
With teenagers though, do you really want to tell them to be responsible sexually while you're fucking strangers?
I find this even more amusing when the mother is bisexual but struggles to talk to her own daughter about sex.
Maybe my family was very liberated but we didn't have any issues talking about sex at all. This was great and really helped me in so many ways.
Like I didn't feel pressured to loose my virginity before 'I' was ready. I knew about masturbation and safe sex etc.
I just think that parents should be open and transparent about such things with their kids when they'e able to understand.
I've got a few swinging friends who are like this with their kids and it's great. 2 couples have teenage and student age kids who even know they're swingers. This has been a real bonding thing for them as the kids really respect them for being open and honest and in return the parents get to have kids who are open and honest back.
I'd have no issues with someone walking in on me anyway - it's happened in hotels, in my student bedrooms, my bedroom at my parents...isn't it a fact of life that sometimes we get busted??
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I'm not going to shoot you down... all in going to say is I'm glad that your _iews and attitude are thankfully rare.
....we would be mortified if we allowed any of our kids witness us pair in the throws of passion with each other (it does freak most children out)
.....I couldn't even entertain the thought of any child discovering us having group sex, let alone our own. It isn't right |
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we have 3 young kids and would never dream of bringing anyone back or anything when our kids are hear, that's exactly why we don't accommodate. we would be mortified if our kids caught us let alone with others. our kids are everything and would never put them in that position. we believe swinging should be separate from the children. no matter how old they are. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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LOL looks like I opened a can of worms
As I said earlier the question was asked because a couple suggested it to me as away around the problem of accommodating.
thanks for every ones advice/opinions, I decided to for go the meet till another time.
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"wow, some funny opinions here.
I'm ok with it if the parents know their kids and have a good relationship with them.
There's too many comments here that smell of 'do as I say, not as I do'.
To a young child, what is different to seeing mum and dad having sex or mum and another guy?
I know you'll shoot me down, but, they don't understand sex full stop!
Kids walk in on their parents all the time and have done since humans existed. It's not that bad!
With teenagers though, do you really want to tell them to be responsible sexually while you're fucking strangers?
I find this even more amusing when the mother is bisexual but struggles to talk to her own daughter about sex.
Maybe my family was very liberated but we didn't have any issues talking about sex at all. This was great and really helped me in so many ways.
Like I didn't feel pressured to loose my virginity before 'I' was ready. I knew about masturbation and safe sex etc.
I just think that parents should be open and transparent about such things with their kids when they'e able to understand.
I've got a few swinging friends who are like this with their kids and it's great. 2 couples have teenage and student age kids who even know they're swingers. This has been a real bonding thing for them as the kids really respect them for being open and honest and in return the parents get to have kids who are open and honest back.
I'd have no issues with someone walking in on me anyway - it's happened in hotels, in my student bedrooms, my bedroom at my parents...isn't it a fact of life that sometimes we get busted??
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Thats a huge bunch of assumptions you just made there, but I guess you're happy up there with them. |
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I'm not going to quote anyone, but parents who think there is nothing wrong with inflicting their sexuality on small impressionable children, just make me shake my head in despair...
That people here think that there is nothing wrong with a young child potentially being exposed to their parents indulging in group or casual sex with strangers seriously need their heads examined. While being open and supportive to older children needing advice, teaching and support is and should be the role of loving, responsible parents, it is a very different thing to what is being described...
We'd walk straight out of a house with children of any age in it...
oh, and i may be a kill joy but I'd have 2 words for you...Child Safeguarding... |
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"I'm not going to quote anyone, but parents who think there is nothing wrong with inflicting their sexuality on small impressionable children, just make me shake my head in despair...
That people here think that there is nothing wrong with a young child potentially being exposed to their parents indulging in group or casual sex with strangers seriously need their heads examined. While being open and supportive to older children needing advice, teaching and support is and should be the role of loving, responsible parents, it is a very different thing to what is being described...
We'd walk straight out of a house with children of any age in it...
oh, and i may be a kill joy but I'd have 2 words for you...Child Safeguarding... "
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"I'm not going to quote anyone, but parents who think there is nothing wrong with inflicting their sexuality on small impressionable children, just make me shake my head in despair...
That people here think that there is nothing wrong with a young child potentially being exposed to their parents indulging in group or casual sex with strangers seriously need their heads examined. While being open and supportive to older children needing advice, teaching and support is and should be the role of loving, responsible parents, it is a very different thing to what is being described...
We'd walk straight out of a house with children of any age in it...
oh, and i may be a kill joy but I'd have 2 words for you...Child Safeguarding...
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Sex is a fact of life.. do I take precautions to make sure I'm not walked in on ...
Yes... Do I think its wrong to have sex when kids are asleep.. no. I'll often sneak a quickie with my master when kids are in a different room... Do they realise.. nope.. its just how it is to me as a parent.
If my kids are maybe unwell or have been unsettled in the evening I won't play.... But once sound off.. then I will..
However I don't have couples here or women here unless I have an empty house... Most I've done is a mmf... But rarely.. so its normally me with one guy.... To which they if they even did hear .....(which I know if they did as been told by them before with master that they heard us) they would think it was my master.
for those that do it... Just trust your parenting instincts.. as you know if its okay... And ignore the sly comments on whether your a good parent or not.
Protect by all means... But sex is natural.. even the way we do it... My 2 older kids know... And my 15year old can come to me with any question.... And yes she is asleep by play time too.
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over a year ago
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Disgusting and a big fat no no!!!! People should put kids first!!! They wake up! Not nice wen mum n dad are getting banged in same house at all! Its wrong and a dusgrace if people do! |
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"I'm not going to quote anyone, but parents who think there is nothing wrong with inflicting their sexuality on small impressionable children, just make me shake my head in despair...
That people here think that there is nothing wrong with a young child potentially being exposed to their parents indulging in group or casual sex with strangers seriously need their heads examined. While being open and supportive to older children needing advice, teaching and support is and should be the role of loving, responsible parents, it is a very different thing to what is being described...
We'd walk straight out of a house with children of any age in it...
oh, and i may be a kill joy but I'd have 2 words for you...Child Safeguarding...
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over a year ago
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Did the OP mention cheating ?... nope "
Did I say the OP mentioned cheating ? ... NOPE!!!
Sorry BUT the question was asked do you play with kids in the house, not to start saying how it makes bad parents etc. it's not OK to judge anyone you dont know over their actions, not just when it suits. Some of you who have posted have hit out at people judging you in the past, pot calling kettle!!
As previously stated, we dont play with the kids in the house but everyone is different and we don't think it's fair to slam those who do. Il await the arsey replies to this, but really I'm just re-saying exactly what many others have said on bareback, CIM, anal, single meets and playing away when married Threads.....!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Kids need protecting and there is a time for everything.... and kids been in bed when mum or dad isnt good, they do hear, and sometimes do get up! Its not right and something i feel very strongly about but my opinion and me putting this wont stop some doing it, but my son will never turn to me one day and say " i remember when......!!!!" ....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I work with kids, we have kids and we do our very best for them in every way that we can, that still does not give us the right to judge other parents. |
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over a year ago
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i agree with that comment, i wouldn't say we have never had sex when kids are in bed asleep we always make sure that our door is locked and we are quiet, but its not very often .we just don't agree with bringing extras in and swinging with kids in the house. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not for me
I feel guilty enough when the dog gives me that 'what, another one ?' look |
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kids at one point will find out what us parents have done to make them, and most kids look at there parents is disgust, i know i did i didn't want to think my parents did that. but its natural and as long as my kids don't ever see us and hear us then that's fine. if people wanna do it that's there choice we just do not agree with it, we certainly wouldn't judge anyone for it, but if anyone asks us to join them when they have kids in the house then the answer would be no it wouldn't feel right.
that's just our opinion. |
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over a year ago
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Did the OP mention cheating ?... nope
Did I say the OP mentioned cheating ? ... NOPE!!!
Sorry BUT the question was asked do you play with kids in the house, not to start saying how it makes bad parents etc. it's not OK to judge anyone you dont know over their actions, not just when it suits. Some of you who have posted have hit out at people judging you in the past, pot calling kettle!!
As previously stated, we dont play with the kids in the house but everyone is different and we don't think it's fair to slam those who do. Il await the arsey replies to this, but really I'm just re-saying exactly what many others have said on bareback, CIM, anal, single meets and playing away when married Threads.....!!"
If that's your take on things then aren't you trying to tell everyone one to either 'agree with every subject matter' or 'disagree with every subject matter?'
There are topics that don't even flicker the slightest emotion with me e.g 'Winks' ...but I witnessed some forumites have a virtual cardiac on a recent thread about winks.
....I feel very strongly about this current topic of discussion. I totally and utterly feel that swinging with children sleeping (or possibly awake) is wrong. I think it's very selfish of the parents to IMHO. I can't even say "but each to their own" on the subject *shudders*.
....I feel undecided about other subjects and have ended up with splinters in my arse with the amount of fence sitting I have endured
I've got friends on here that will agree with me on many subjects but we can easily lock horns on others. It's perfectly natural. |
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"kids at one point will find out what us parents have done to make them, and most kids look at there parents is disgust, i know i did i didn't want to think my parents did that. but its natural and as long as my kids don't ever see us and hear us then that's fine. if people wanna do it that's there choice we just do not agree with it, we certainly wouldn't judge anyone for it, but if anyone asks us to join them when they have kids in the house then the answer would be no it wouldn't feel right.
that's just our opinion. "
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"I'm not going to quote anyone, but parents who think there is nothing wrong with inflicting their sexuality on small impressionable children, just make me shake my head in despair...
That people here think that there is nothing wrong with a young child potentially being exposed to their parents indulging in group or casual sex with strangers seriously need their heads examined. While being open and supportive to older children needing advice, teaching and support is and should be the role of loving, responsible parents, it is a very different thing to what is being described...
We'd walk straight out of a house with children of any age in it...
oh, and i may be a kill joy but I'd have 2 words for you...Child Safeguarding...
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By *umqueenWoman
over a year ago
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no to children in house and swinging…
a club is much better and you can scream and moan as loud as you want without desturbing anyone!!
safer to keep them separate!  |
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By *ustyWoman
over a year ago
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def a no at all ...... no matter what the kid/kids are new born to 16 def a no no |
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"wow, some funny opinions here.
I'm ok with it if the parents know their kids and have a good relationship with them.
There's too many comments here that smell of 'do as I say, not as I do'.
To a young child, what is different to seeing mum and dad having sex or mum and another guy?
I know you'll shoot me down, but, they don't understand sex full stop!
Kids walk in on their parents all the time and have done since humans existed. It's not that bad!
With teenagers though, do you really want to tell them to be responsible sexually while you're fucking strangers?
I find this even more amusing when the mother is bisexual but struggles to talk to her own daughter about sex.
Maybe my family was very liberated but we didn't have any issues talking about sex at all. This was great and really helped me in so many ways.
Like I didn't feel pressured to loose my virginity before 'I' was ready. I knew about masturbation and safe sex etc.
I just think that parents should be open and transparent about such things with their kids when they'e able to understand.
I've got a few swinging friends who are like this with their kids and it's great. 2 couples have teenage and student age kids who even know they're swingers. This has been a real bonding thing for them as the kids really respect them for being open and honest and in return the parents get to have kids who are open and honest back.
I'd have no issues with someone walking in on me anyway - it's happened in hotels, in my student bedrooms, my bedroom at my parents...isn't it a fact of life that sometimes we get busted??
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From as young as i can remember i was open with my son about sex, i taught him all about relationships, valuing saftey, i taught him all about drugs ect ect, there is not one single thing my son wouldnt be able to discuss with me, sexually or about life in general. But ive not had to have strangers bonking me in the house to have formed this bond. |
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over a year ago
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been there done that ...never again . |
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"wow, some funny opinions here.
I'm ok with it if the parents know their kids and have a good relationship with them.
There's too many comments here that smell of 'do as I say, not as I do'.
To a young child, what is different to seeing mum and dad having sex or mum and another guy?
I know you'll shoot me down, but, they don't understand sex full stop!
Kids walk in on their parents all the time and have done since humans existed. It's not that bad!
With teenagers though, do you really want to tell them to be responsible sexually while you're fucking strangers?
I find this even more amusing when the mother is bisexual but struggles to talk to her own daughter about sex.
Maybe my family was very liberated but we didn't have any issues talking about sex at all. This was great and really helped me in so many ways.
Like I didn't feel pressured to loose my virginity before 'I' was ready. I knew about masturbation and safe sex etc.
I just think that parents should be open and transparent about such things with their kids when they'e able to understand.
I've got a few swinging friends who are like this with their kids and it's great. 2 couples have teenage and student age kids who even know they're swingers. This has been a real bonding thing for them as the kids really respect them for being open and honest and in return the parents get to have kids who are open and honest back.
I'd have no issues with someone walking in on me anyway - it's happened in hotels, in my student bedrooms, my bedroom at my parents...isn't it a fact of life that sometimes we get busted??
From as young as i can remember i was open with my son about sex, i taught him all about relationships, valuing saftey, i taught him all about drugs ect ect, there is not one single thing my son wouldnt be able to discuss with me, sexually or about life in general. But ive not had to have strangers bonking me in the house to have formed this bond. "
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Did the OP mention cheating ?... nope
Did I say the OP mentioned cheating ? ... NOPE!!!
Sorry BUT the question was asked do you play with kids in the house, not to start saying how it makes bad parents etc. it's not OK to judge anyone you dont know over their actions, not just when it suits. Some of you who have posted have hit out at people judging you in the past, pot calling kettle!!
As previously stated, we dont play with the kids in the house but everyone is different and we don't think it's fair to slam those who do. Il await the arsey replies to this, but really I'm just re-saying exactly what many others have said on bareback, CIM, anal, single meets and playing away when married Threads.....!!
If that's your take on things then aren't you trying to tell everyone one to either 'agree with every subject matter' or 'disagree with every subject matter?'
There are topics that don't even flicker the slightest emotion with me e.g 'Winks' ...but I witnessed some forumites have a virtual cardiac on a recent thread about winks.
....I feel very strongly about this current topic of discussion. I totally and utterly feel that swinging with children sleeping (or possibly awake) is wrong. I think it's very selfish of the parents to IMHO. I can't even say "but each to their own" on the subject *shudders*.
....I feel undecided about other subjects and have ended up with splinters in my arse with the amount of fence sitting I have endured
I've got friends on here that will agree with me on many subjects but we can easily lock horns on others. It's perfectly natural."
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"Not for me
I feel guilty enough when the dog gives me that 'what, another one ?' look "
move away from the dog bussy! |
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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago
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Ok, so after reading all the posts on this thread, the majority of couples won't swing with anyone else in their home because of the kids being there and they feel it's wrong. So.. here's a question for you all, if you think it's so wrong, what about when you're not swinging, do you still refrain from having sex with your partner 'in case the kids walk in and see you'. Sex is one of the most natural things in the world, and if you hide it away like it's some sort of guilty secret, your kids sometimes pick up on that and that can make things worse. Just my opinion!
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"Ok, so after reading all the posts on this thread, the majority of couples won't swing with anyone else in their home because of the kids being there and they feel it's wrong. So.. here's a question for you all, if you think it's so wrong, what about when you're not swinging, do you still refrain from having sex with your partner 'in case the kids walk in and see you'. Sex is one of the most natural things in the world, and if you hide it away like it's some sort of guilty secret, your kids sometimes pick up on that and that can make things worse. Just my opinion!
Devil "
I think you'll find that the majority who won't shag strangers in the house with children don't have a problem with being walked in on or heard by their own children, sex between parents is natural and acceptable and won't mess with a child's mind. Z |
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By *edriderCouple
over a year ago
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we have two young kids aged 4 and 2 and wouldnt invite people to ours for fun with them here as they do get up during night sometimes, we rarely have sex while theyre awake as cant leave them alone for two minutes lol have had a quickie up against the bathroom door a few times but thats about it as they tend to follow us around the house. i dont mind being caught by an adult but would hate to be caught in the act by a child, just my opinion though x |
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ive been to two houses before who have had kids in bed and ive left on both occasions
If i couldnt get a sitter get some pop corn and watch a film rather than have anyone here |
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"Ok, so after reading all the posts on this thread, the majority of couples won't swing with anyone else in their home because of the kids being there and they feel it's wrong. So.. here's a question for you all, if you think it's so wrong, what about when you're not swinging, do you still refrain from having sex with your partner 'in case the kids walk in and see you'. Sex is one of the most natural things in the world, and if you hide it away like it's some sort of guilty secret, your kids sometimes pick up on that and that can make things worse. Just my opinion!
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I think you'll find that the majority who won't shag strangers in the house with children don't have a problem with being walked in on or heard by their own children, sex between parents is natural and acceptable and won't mess with a child's mind. Z"
We have a problem with being walked in on by our own children so sex between hubby and me only happens when we know 100% we can hear footsteps approaching the room .....and we have learnt to get out of a compromising position in time not to be 'discovered'... it's perfectly natural for parents to be hugging
....if we are swinging with others, it's going to be extremely hard to 'disguise' what we have been 'up to' in the few seconds you get between hearing a child get out of bed and patter the feet straight into the room you are in |
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I meet way more than your average couple.. on average its 3-4 meets in a week in the evening.. and maybe the same or more in the day.. now day meets.. my kids arent here.. so not really a discussion..
Evening meets, are after 10pm.. in my room which is downstairs.. which is locked.. and as I meet 3-4 sometimse more times a week.. I think I can safely say that my kids dont interupt... and even if they did wake.. all they would hear is what they would hear if my Master was home...
They would not see anything, they would not know it was anyone else...They dont meet my playmeets.. Only person they have met was the bf... and they knew him as OUR friend. However, if it had developed further they would have still only known him as a lodger.
My older kids do know.. and it didnt make them think OMG my mums a tart.. actually one was happier with his sexual needs as he was able to talk to me... and realised that being as active as he was.. wasnt some freak of nature..
When my oldest lived with me.. all I said was I had company later.. and he would either go out.. or stop up in his room with tv on.. and perhaps take the piss the next day..
I dont expect everyone to want to do it... For me its abig part of my life.. some people play xbox.. some people watch movies.. I have lots of sex..
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"we have two young kids aged 4 and 2 and wouldnt invite people to ours for fun with them here as they do get up during night sometimes, we rarely have sex while theyre awake as cant leave them alone for two minutes lol have had a quickie up against the bathroom door a few times but thats about it as they tend to follow us around the house. i dont mind being caught by an adult but would hate to be caught in the act by a child, just my opinion though x "
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"I meet way more than your average couple.. on average its 3-4 meets in a week in the evening.. and maybe the same or more in the day.. now day meets.. my kids arent here.. so not really a discussion..
Evening meets, are after 10pm.. in my room which is downstairs.. which is locked.. and as I meet 3-4 sometimse more times a week.. I think I can safely say that my kids dont interupt... and even if they did wake.. all they would hear is what they would hear if my Master was home...
They would not see anything, they would not know it was anyone else...They dont meet my playmeets.. Only person they have met was the bf... and they knew him as OUR friend. However, if it had developed further they would have still only known him as a lodger.
My older kids do know.. and it didnt make them think OMG my mums a tart.. actually one was happier with his sexual needs as he was able to talk to me... and realised that being as active as he was.. wasnt some freak of nature..
When my oldest lived with me.. all I said was I had company later.. and he would either go out.. or stop up in his room with tv on.. and perhaps take the piss the next day..
I dont expect everyone to want to do it... For me its abig part of my life.. some people play xbox.. some people watch movies.. I have lots of sex..
cali "
Has it not occurred to you that you may be putting your children at risk? If you are having that many meets a week surely theres a high chance that one day one of your meets may not go exactly as planned? What if a meet turns nasty? Surely your own sexual desires are secondary to your childrens safety? As has been said before children are incredibly perceptive and pick up on things at a very young age. A constant stream of late night visitors to mummys bedroom is surely neglectful? Is it really ok for your older children to 'take the piss' out of your bedroom antics?
Welcome to the Jeremy Kyle show lol.!!!!
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Has it not occurred to you that you may be putting your children at risk? If you are having that many meets a week surely theres a high chance that one day one of your meets may not go exactly as planned? What if a meet turns nasty? Surely your own sexual desires are secondary to your childrens safety? As has been said before children are incredibly perceptive and pick up on things at a very young age. A constant stream of late night visitors to mummys bedroom is surely neglectful? Is it really ok for your older children to 'take the piss' out of your bedroom antics?
Welcome to the Jeremy Kyle show lol.!!!!
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I must admit i always think this
And women who openly admit they invite guys to their house while their kids are in are just asking to attarct the wrong kind of guy
Sometimes you can meet someone several times and think you trust them before they betray your trust
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Has it not occurred to you that you may be putting your children at risk? If you are having that many meets a week surely theres a high chance that one day one of your meets may not go exactly as planned? What if a meet turns nasty? Surely your own sexual desires are secondary to your childrens safety? As has been said before children are incredibly perceptive and pick up on things at a very young age. A constant stream of late night visitors to mummys bedroom is surely neglectful? Is it really ok for your older children to 'take the piss' out of your bedroom antics?
Welcome to the Jeremy Kyle show lol.!!!!
I must admit i always think this
And women who openly admit they invite guys to their house while their kids are in are just asking to attarct the wrong kind of guy
Sometimes you can meet someone several times and think you trust them before they betray your trust
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i am very conflicted here...everyone deserves to have a decent sex life, but kids deserve to be protected to.
A story from a friend of mine...at 8 she woke in the night, mummy was away and so she went to the nannys room ,nanny wasnt there, she went to her parents bedroom to find daddy fucking the nanny...
she never mentioned it, but to this day cannot trust men and is only coming to terms now at 45 with how much it has fucked her up.
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Gosh....
On a slight tangent I'd love to know how many people replying here also don't talk about sex with their friends.
I also can't imagine giving up sex like some of you guys do just because you have kids in the house.
Protect them, totally. But, your marriage is far more important to them than your insecurity and fear of being walked in on! |
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"Gosh....
On a slight tangent I'd love to know how many people replying here also don't talk about sex with their friends.
I also can't imagine giving up sex like some of you guys do just because you have kids in the house.
Protect them, totally. But, your marriage is far more important to them than your insecurity and fear of being walked in on!"
why do you have to give up sex just because you dont fuck other people with kids in the house?
I never have anyone to my home and i have quite a active sex life, i can meet in the day when my sprogs at school or for evening theres clubs and hotels, theres loads of places to meet without doing it under your childrens nose, id sooner pay for a sitter and a club than have men in my house with my kids, theres far miore to worry about than them walking in on you and to be honest i think thats bad enough |
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"I actually find some things written on this thread in an open forum quite disturbing"
So do I |
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Has it not occurred to you that you may be putting your children at risk? If you are having that many meets a week surely theres a high chance that one day one of your meets may not go exactly as planned? What if a meet turns nasty? Surely your own sexual desires are secondary to your childrens safety? As has been said before children are incredibly perceptive and pick up on things at a very young age. A constant stream of late night visitors to mummys bedroom is surely neglectful? Is it really ok for your older children to 'take the piss' out of your bedroom antics?
Welcome to the Jeremy Kyle show lol.!!!!
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My older child is in his 20s now... Its more a .... banter than taking the piss.. As we can talk and he actually no longer lives with me. Oh and is also a member on here..and was a member BEFORE he knew I swung.
No I dont think I put my kids at risk because of the way I meet.. They dont get the address straight away... and to be honest.. Most I have met first in the day sometime.. Also its always on cam and with my Master on the phone.. Now for all they know Master is sat happily in another room in the house.. IN fact I would say 99% assume that.
Add to that I often have my regular guy here too... taking photos really cant see anything bad happening.
Now the soul reason I dont meet groups is because that does have the potential to go wrong... I wouldnt like my kids to maybe accidentally over hear a few people in my room at night..
Am I going to give it up..Not unless It actually caused a problem... which in many many years it has not..
My kids totally come first.. It would be way easier to meet earlier and my kids are asleep by about 8pm... but I like to have time after they have gone to sleep to get ready.. ( ie not getting into my nice wear before they are in bed)
Remember I have already been reported to social services by a friend for my lifestyle... and they actually were enlightend after talking to me (as it was about tbe bdsm side too) and happy that I do not put my kids needs second and that I have a very good balance..
Balance is what it is about.. and I am quite happy that I have a good balance..
Same as we manage to keep the bdsm side from the kids.. our sex life is kept from them too... and even the older one isnt in full detail knowing.. same as I dont want to know full details of his sex life.. For all he knows it could be the same guy everynight..
I dont meet weekends... because that is my family time.. but sun-thursday is fair game as long as no one is poory or upset about anything.
For those that do it.. just remember that plenty of people are happy to if you can assure them that you wont be disturbed..but even I dont have couples or women over unless I have a kid free house which happens every once in a blue moon.
And I tend to keep the streams of guys for in the day...
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Has it not occurred to you that you may be putting your children at risk? If you are having that many meets a week surely theres a high chance that one day one of your meets may not go exactly as planned? What if a meet turns nasty? Surely your own sexual desires are secondary to your childrens safety? As has been said before children are incredibly perceptive and pick up on things at a very young age. A constant stream of late night visitors to mummys bedroom is surely neglectful? Is it really ok for your older children to 'take the piss' out of your bedroom antics?
Welcome to the Jeremy Kyle show lol.!!!!
My older child is in his 20s now... Its more a .... banter than taking the piss.. As we can talk and he actually no longer lives with me. Oh and is also a member on here..and was a member BEFORE he knew I swung.
No I dont think I put my kids at risk because of the way I meet.. They dont get the address straight away... and to be honest.. Most I have met first in the day sometime.. Also its always on cam and with my Master on the phone.. Now for all they know Master is sat happily in another room in the house.. IN fact I would say 99% assume that.
Add to that I often have my regular guy here too... taking photos really cant see anything bad happening.
Now the soul reason I dont meet groups is because that does have the potential to go wrong... I wouldnt like my kids to maybe accidentally over hear a few people in my room at night..
Am I going to give it up..Not unless It actually caused a problem... which in many many years it has not..
My kids totally come first.. It would be way easier to meet earlier and my kids are asleep by about 8pm... but I like to have time after they have gone to sleep to get ready.. ( ie not getting into my nice wear before they are in bed)
Remember I have already been reported to social services by a friend for my lifestyle... and they actually were enlightend after talking to me (as it was about tbe bdsm side too) and happy that I do not put my kids needs second and that I have a very good balance..
Balance is what it is about.. and I am quite happy that I have a good balance..
Same as we manage to keep the bdsm side from the kids.. our sex life is kept from them too... and even the older one isnt in full detail knowing.. same as I dont want to know full details of his sex life.. For all he knows it could be the same guy everynight..
I dont meet weekends... because that is my family time.. but sun-thursday is fair game as long as no one is poory or upset about anything.
For those that do it.. just remember that plenty of people are happy to if you can assure them that you wont be disturbed..but even I dont have couples or women over unless I have a kid free house which happens every once in a blue moon.
And I tend to keep the streams of guys for in the day...
Cali"
Forget Jeremy Kyle sounds more like 'Shameless'....
You telling me you are actually comfortable with your son being on the same swinging site as you?? Surely some things are best kept to yourself and not shared with your nearest and dearest? If I came across a family member on here I'd be horrified. Your son can access very itimate pics of you! My account would be closed ASAP. From what you have said and the number of meets you appear to be having I really do think you are maybe a sex addict. Which in turn is causing you to behave irrationally and out of character. Your explanations for why your children are safe really dont add up plus you've just told god knows how many people that you are actually in the house alone with your children.
Please you really should take an board peoples comments and put your children first and your labido second!!!!
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Has it not occurred to you that you may be putting your children at risk? If you are having that many meets a week surely theres a high chance that one day one of your meets may not go exactly as planned? What if a meet turns nasty? Surely your own sexual desires are secondary to your childrens safety? As has been said before children are incredibly perceptive and pick up on things at a very young age. A constant stream of late night visitors to mummys bedroom is surely neglectful? Is it really ok for your older children to 'take the piss' out of your bedroom antics?
Welcome to the Jeremy Kyle show lol.!!!!
My older child is in his 20s now... Its more a .... banter than taking the piss.. As we can talk and he actually no longer lives with me. Oh and is also a member on here..and was a member BEFORE he knew I swung.
No I dont think I put my kids at risk because of the way I meet.. They dont get the address straight away... and to be honest.. Most I have met first in the day sometime.. Also its always on cam and with my Master on the phone.. Now for all they know Master is sat happily in another room in the house.. IN fact I would say 99% assume that.
Add to that I often have my regular guy here too... taking photos really cant see anything bad happening.
Now the soul reason I dont meet groups is because that does have the potential to go wrong... I wouldnt like my kids to maybe accidentally over hear a few people in my room at night..
Am I going to give it up..Not unless It actually caused a problem... which in many many years it has not..
My kids totally come first.. It would be way easier to meet earlier and my kids are asleep by about 8pm... but I like to have time after they have gone to sleep to get ready.. ( ie not getting into my nice wear before they are in bed)
Remember I have already been reported to social services by a friend for my lifestyle... and they actually were enlightend after talking to me (as it was about tbe bdsm side too) and happy that I do not put my kids needs second and that I have a very good balance..
Balance is what it is about.. and I am quite happy that I have a good balance..
Same as we manage to keep the bdsm side from the kids.. our sex life is kept from them too... and even the older one isnt in full detail knowing.. same as I dont want to know full details of his sex life.. For all he knows it could be the same guy everynight..
I dont meet weekends... because that is my family time.. but sun-thursday is fair game as long as no one is poory or upset about anything.
For those that do it.. just remember that plenty of people are happy to if you can assure them that you wont be disturbed..but even I dont have couples or women over unless I have a kid free house which happens every once in a blue moon.
And I tend to keep the streams of guys for in the day...
Cali"
Following on from my comment about being horrified at your son being on this site aswell I have just clicked on your profile and immediately seen pics of you covered in man juice sucking a cock!!! Are you honestly telling me you are happy for your son to see this????
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Not happy but what can I do except have him blocked... And make sure we don't accidentally bump into one another at a club... He sticks to couples nights when he goes.
So no.. I don't want him to see me nor do I wish to see him. But at 20 I can hardly stop him doing as he wants...
Why is it okay for us but not our kids... And he was on here before he knew I did this... He was actually quite horrified when he realised he had left his profile on the pc....
My profile is my profile... He is blocked from seeing it.. as is any of his friends that also frequent this site.
It's not like me son is underage.. he is an adult quite capable of doing his own thing...
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Forget Jeremy Kyle sounds more like 'Shameless'....
You telling me you are actually comfortable with your son being on the same swinging site as you?? Surely some things are best kept to yourself and not shared with your nearest and dearest? If I came across a family member on here I'd be horrified. Your son can access very itimate pics of you! My account would be closed ASAP. From what you have said and the number of meets you appear to be having I really do think you are maybe a sex addict. Which in turn is causing you to behave irrationally and out of character. Your explanations for why your children are safe really dont add up plus you've just told god knows how many people that you are actually in the house alone with your children.
Please you really should take an board peoples comments and put your children first and your labido second!!!!
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just search for the threads where people have found close family members.. I know a few close family on here both mine and my Masters... What do we do.. block and move on..
Am I a sex addict.. according to my doctor yes.. am I neglectful, hell no.. I have happy, sorted children.. My bedroom as already said is downstairs.. And I do not put my kids safety before my sexual needs.. I could have way more men and sex than I do..
My son has never seen my photos.. I have never seen his.. I just knew from him leaving his profile on my laptop that he had one. So blocked him.
I once came across a home made video of my mum.. shocked me at the time for all of about 5 mins.. Just laughed and told my mum I had found it
I am just arguing from the other side of the coin... as we cant all think a like.. And for all the comments I am happy with my life and happy in my parenting..
And when did I say I was alone in the house with strange men...??? I said that I have a regular that comes over. Just leave my rather fantastic sex life to me.. and you bring up your kids..and I will bring up mine
You may be ashamed of swinging.. but I have spent a lot of years trying to adjust my behaviour to SUIT the world.. NOW I am happy and content with being myself.
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personally i wouldn't feel comfortable with someones children asleep in the house. so i wouldn't play.
BUT it is up to individual parents to make their own choices.
i am concerned that this thread may be getting personally directed. the op asked for opinions. opinions and judgements are not the same thing. just as with some of the bareback threads it appears to be acceptable to slam people for their choices, and just as with the bareback issue as long as its an informed choice then surely we need to accept the individuals right to make that choice.
agreeing to disagree is my preferred stance on these kind of issues. we all get judged off site, please can this be a judgement free friendly zone. |
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"personally i wouldn't feel comfortable with someones children asleep in the house. so i wouldn't play.
BUT it is up to individual parents to make their own choices.
i am concerned that this thread may be getting personally directed. the op asked for opinions. opinions and judgements are not the same thing. just as with some of the bareback threads it appears to be acceptable to slam people for their choices, and just as with the bareback issue as long as its an informed choice then surely we need to accept the individuals right to make that choice.
agreeing to disagree is my preferred stance on these kind of issues. we all get judged off site, please can this be a judgement free friendly zone."
Well obviously the comments appear to be aimed at one individual when that individual has very strong _iews about the subject. All the posts are constructive and not derogatory. It's called a healthy debate!!!
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"personally i wouldn't feel comfortable with someones children asleep in the house. so i wouldn't play.
BUT it is up to individual parents to make their own choices.
i am concerned that this thread may be getting personally directed. the op asked for opinions. opinions and judgements are not the same thing. just as with some of the bareback threads it appears to be acceptable to slam people for their choices, and just as with the bareback issue as long as its an informed choice then surely we need to accept the individuals right to make that choice.
agreeing to disagree is my preferred stance on these kind of issues. we all get judged off site, please can this be a judgement free friendly zone.
Well obviously the comments appear to be aimed at one individual when that individual has very strong _iews about the subject. All the posts are constructive and not derogatory. It's called a healthy debate!!!
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i have read the whole thread and some of the comments are more suited to either private message or if you can't say anything nice than don't say anything.
opinions are one thing - i stated mine quite clearly, but play nicely people!
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"personally i wouldn't feel comfortable with someones children asleep in the house. so i wouldn't play.
BUT it is up to individual parents to make their own choices.
i am concerned that this thread may be getting personally directed. the op asked for opinions. opinions and judgements are not the same thing. just as with some of the bareback threads it appears to be acceptable to slam people for their choices, and just as with the bareback issue as long as its an informed choice then surely we need to accept the individuals right to make that choice.
agreeing to disagree is my preferred stance on these kind of issues. we all get judged off site, please can this be a judgement free friendly zone.
Well obviously the comments appear to be aimed at one individual when that individual has very strong _iews about the subject. All the posts are constructive and not derogatory. It's called a healthy debate!!!
i have read the whole thread and some of the comments are more suited to either private message or if you can't say anything nice than don't say anything.
opinions are one thing - i stated mine quite clearly, but play nicely people!
this really is bringing out my strict nanny side and i don't even enjoy dishing out spankings! "
Opinions are strong because this is such a spicy subject. Forums are for discussions and exchanges of opinions. There are moderators in place to nanny the forums and make sure no one is misbehaving. If you dont like this forum maybe should move on to the next topic! |
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as i stated i have no problem with the topic or any of the opinions, just that some of them appeared to be getting personally judgemental.
debate, yes please!
tar and feather and run out of town on a rail.... erm no thanks.
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If you put it out there you will be judged. If you are happy in your choices then other peoples _iews are probably going to have no effect anyway. Anyone who feels upset about their replies should step away and stop posting. Personal or abusive attacks are dealt with by mods. You cant always persuade someone else to agree with you and thats the way things are. It doesnt mean others are not allowed to express their _iews on an open forum no matter how unsavoury at times. I personally find this topic pretty disturbing and always have. I do know however that we all have different morals, standards and choices. We arent all the same, dont raise kids the same and dont produce the same type of kids as a result. I do however think that this is one of those subjects which is like marmite. Everyone knows how they feel and will not change it easily. I just hope that every child involved grows up happy and well balanced and no worse off. Seems unlikely with the amount of children involved as this seems fairly common but thats life I guess. |
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Forget Jeremy Kyle sounds more like 'Shameless'....
You telling me you are actually comfortable with your son being on the same swinging site as you?? Surely some things are best kept to yourself and not shared with your nearest and dearest? If I came across a family member on here I'd be horrified. Your son can access very itimate pics of you! My account would be closed ASAP. From what you have said and the number of meets you appear to be having I really do think you are maybe a sex addict. Which in turn is causing you to behave irrationally and out of character. Your explanations for why your children are safe really dont add up plus you've just told god knows how many people that you are actually in the house alone with your children.
Please you really should take an board peoples comments and put your children first and your labido second!!!!
just search for the threads where people have found close family members.. I know a few close family on here both mine and my Masters... What do we do.. block and move on..
Am I a sex addict.. according to my doctor yes.. am I neglectful, hell no.. I have happy, sorted children.. My bedroom as already said is downstairs.. And I do not put my kids safety before my sexual needs.. I could have way more men and sex than I do..
My son has never seen my photos.. I have never seen his.. I just knew from him leaving his profile on my laptop that he had one. So blocked him.
I once came across a home made video of my mum.. shocked me at the time for all of about 5 mins.. Just laughed and told my mum I had found it
I am just arguing from the other side of the coin... as we cant all think a like.. And for all the comments I am happy with my life and happy in my parenting..
And when did I say I was alone in the house with strange men...??? I said that I have a regular that comes over. Just leave my rather fantastic sex life to me.. and you bring up your kids..and I will bring up mine
You may be ashamed of swinging.. but I have spent a lot of years trying to adjust my behaviour to SUIT the world.. NOW I am happy and content with being myself.
Cali "
cali i was going to pm this, but thought it better in the open...you DO NOT have to justify yourself here. Your Master and your kids are the only ppl who it concerns.
i wouldnt play in anothers house once kids were out of a cot, purely practical as far as i can see, i wouldnt be able to relax, nor would i be able to relax at mine knowing the boys could wander in at any moment. Those are my choices,you have yours. There are some here saying their choices should apply to all, life rarely works that way.
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"we must b the minority then "
we are the same twin we only ever do it with ppl we really trust. we dont see any differnt from having vanilla freinds round for a drink or to |
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To be honest... I've not really seen it as a personal attack.. I'm putting my _iews out there because I'm have my _iew. I've maybe answered a little more indepth than I may have originally wanted to.. but so that there are no misunderstandings..
I'm happy with my life, kids, relationship, and know that any personal _iew put on a public forum is up for people to comment on. If I found fault in what I was doing or felt it risked my kids.. i would stop. I'm not afraid to take on board a new approach to things.. for instance.. last year I commented on a thread and found my _iews to be based on a prejudice that wasn't even mine..
Over much thinking and talking with my master I realised I was actually rather ashamed of my actions and _iews... So over time adjusted them..
However on this topic I won't budge as been doing it to long and know my own kids and life. I am sure my lifestyle isn't for all... But it works for my family and myself.
As I said before... If its your choice and you take precautions then its your business...
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not a broblem ,depends on who you invite round and can you trust then ..... |
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"To be honest... I've not really seen it as a personal attack.. I'm putting my _iews out there because I'm have my _iew. I've maybe answered a little more indepth than I may have originally wanted to.. but so that there are no misunderstandings..
I'm happy with my life, kids, relationship, and know that any personal _iew put on a public forum is up for people to comment on. If I found fault in what I was doing or felt it risked my kids.. i would stop. I'm not afraid to take on board a new approach to things.. for instance.. last year I commented on a thread and found my _iews to be based on a prejudice that wasn't even mine..
Over much thinking and talking with my master I realised I was actually rather ashamed of my actions and _iews... So over time adjusted them..
However on this topic I won't budge as been doing it to long and know my own kids and life. I am sure my lifestyle isn't for all... But it works for my family and myself.
As I said before... If its your choice and you take precautions then its your business...
Cali . "
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"To be honest... I've not really seen it as a personal attack.. I'm putting my _iews out there because I'm have my _iew. I've maybe answered a little more indepth than I may have originally wanted to.. but so that there are no misunderstandings..
I'm happy with my life, kids, relationship, and know that any personal _iew put on a public forum is up for people to comment on. If I found fault in what I was doing or felt it risked my kids.. i would stop. I'm not afraid to take on board a new approach to things.. for instance.. last year I commented on a thread and found my _iews to be based on a prejudice that wasn't even mine..
Over much thinking and talking with my master I realised I was actually rather ashamed of my actions and _iews... So over time adjusted them..
However on this topic I won't budge as been doing it to long and know my own kids and life. I am sure my lifestyle isn't for all... But it works for my family and myself.
As I said before... If its your choice and you take precautions then its your business...
Cali .
well put "
all's we can say is if you have children you must have had sex and to be a swinger we thought that meant open minded. as a married couple we have sex every day and alot of the time make noise never been walked in on. sex is sex we are honest and open. our child would never catch us having fun as we have a stair gate that she can not open and as we think its no different to us having vanila friends round for a drink |
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over a year ago
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I would never meet it someone's house that has their kids in.. its bad enough meeting in their house with their kids toys about etc
But then again i seriously dislike children, so i would say that. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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Everybody judges, wether you like it or not...life is like that.
As far as I can see the thread is a debate, if people don't want to answer others they won't. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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To answer the OP...if we had been meeting others for fun when our children were at home then no, we wouldn't be playing at home, we would be at hotels.
Parents getting caught or being heard having sex by your children is a whole different ball game to being caught having two cocks in my mouth by my children...so why we would never have put ourselves in a position to be caught by them. |
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over a year ago
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How would you feel if if one of your meets was later found out to be a paedofile. Could you be 100% sure he wasn't at any point alone in your house? Surely that has to be a consideration when you have that much traffic coming through your bedroom?? You guys seem to be stuck on the 'what if they walk in' scene. Thats not my concern although I dont think its particulary healthy for your little one to catch mummy sucking a strangers cock whilst daddys playing bumper cars with her from behind lol. This is not about being liberal and open minded with your sexuality regards your children. Its about making sure your children are 110% safe and I really dont think you could be when you are bringing home that many meets when your kids are in the same house regardless of what 'safety' measures you take. |
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over a year ago
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How do they have access to my children though... They dont go anywhere near them.. Hence my room is downstairs.
I either have random one offs.. or a regular that is basically a bf... and when I find the right regular the chances are they would move in..
You could say the same with vanilla friends..and lets face it they have much more access to kids than random men.... Vanilla friends could be just as much a risk to your kids as someone you meet from a site.. and while I wouldnt think about letting my kids meet a playmate..(unless long time regular) A friend that I met in the vanilla world maybe popping in when my kids are awake.. and potentially far more risk... yet it seems okay because its not sex related.
Its not allowed to be talked about on here but the statistics for it being a stranger that assaults children or women is much lower than it is for someone you know well... even more so for with kids..
I do get that one day a guy could turn nasty.. but I have my back ups.. not exactly going to disclose totally, but I am never defensless.. or at risk.. because we have covered this.. for a start my Master wont put me at risk...
Cali
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"How would you feel if if one of your meets was later found out to be a paedofile. Could you be 100% sure he wasn't at any point alone in your house? Surely that has to be a consideration when you have that much traffic coming through your bedroom?? You guys seem to be stuck on the 'what if they walk in' scene. Thats not my concern although I dont think its particulary healthy for your little one to catch mummy sucking a strangers cock whilst daddys playing bumper cars with her from behind lol. This is not about being liberal and open minded with your sexuality regards your children. Its about making sure your children are 110% safe and I really dont think you could be when you are bringing home that many meets when your kids are in the same house regardless of what 'safety' measures you take. "
do you have kids ???
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over a year ago
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we only sk this as your post suggest you never have anybody round your house as its not just swingers that could be peados |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"we only sk this as your post suggest you never have anybody round your house as its not just swingers that could be peados"
Yes I do which is why I feel quite strongly about this. Please dont try suggesting that I am implying swingers are more likely to be paedos than non swingers. What I am suggesting is that when you have your 'normal' friends around then you are familiar with them and are comfortable about having them around your family as you will have built up a relationship. This is completely different to inviting random strangers into your home whom you know little about.
I think this topic has now been talked to death and fortunately the majority of people seem to be in agreement that meets at home when the kiddies are there is a 'no no' and highly inappropriate.
I wont be looking back here but feel free to pm me if you want to continue this debate. |
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"To be honest... I've not really seen it as a personal attack.. I'm putting my _iews out there because I'm have my _iew. I've maybe answered a little more indepth than I may have originally wanted to.. but so that there are no misunderstandings..
I'm happy with my life, kids, relationship, and know that any personal _iew put on a public forum is up for people to comment on. If I found fault in what I was doing or felt it risked my kids.. i would stop. I'm not afraid to take on board a new approach to things.. for instance.. last year I commented on a thread and found my _iews to be based on a prejudice that wasn't even mine..
Over much thinking and talking with my master I realised I was actually rather ashamed of my actions and _iews... So over time adjusted them..
However on this topic I won't budge as been doing it to long and know my own kids and life. I am sure my lifestyle isn't for all... But it works for my family and myself.
As I said before... If its your choice and you take precautions then its your business...
Cali .
well put
all's we can say is if you have children you must have had sex and to be a swinger we thought that meant open minded. as a married couple we have sex every day and alot of the time make noise never been walked in on. sex is sex we are honest and open. our child would never catch us having fun as we have a stair gate that she can not open and as we think its no different to us having vanila friends round for a drink "
i think for many the problem is that they keep family and swinging seperate, parents fucking is part of family life, not saying which is right, just trying to explain how they might feel.
Personally the image of a toddler at a stair gate crying for mummy is about as unsexy as they come, as i have said before, i wouldnt cos i couldnt relax. Selfish perhaps but im loud and wild during sex. |
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over a year ago
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"So just a thought but what's peoples _iews to meeting when there are kids in the house but asleep in their beds (young kids that is like under 6?)"
What about meeting when one's parents are in the house but in their bed sleeping? |
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over a year ago
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I'm loud too.. but that's my point. I'm always louder with master... Always at it longer too.. hours not minutes... And yet we never get disturbed... So a guy that's in and out in 30mins tops isn't going to cause me any issues.
If I thought my kids would wake, I'd not do it.. but they always sleep through... Maybe it helps that I know they all have medication at night... So I kinda know they won't wake.
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"I actually find some things written on this thread in an open forum quite disturbing"
I do too.... |
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"I'm loud too.. but that's my point. I'm always louder with master... Always at it longer too.. hours not minutes... And yet we never get disturbed... So a guy that's in and out in 30mins tops isn't going to cause me any issues.
If I thought my kids would wake, I'd not do it.. but they always sleep through... Maybe it helps that I know they all have medication at night... So I kinda know they won't wake.
Cali "
All your kids have medication at night? |
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All your kids have medication at night?"
Yes.. well its more a help with natural sleep chemicals as otherwise they would be awake till 1am or later.
So they are all on medication to help them sleep... Different doses but all the same..(And not sleeping tablets as such) but a substance called bio melatonin. So quite gentle but effective.
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over a year ago
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Ok...just curious as to what some people on this thread would make of my 'relationships' in my family.
I have been swinging since my early student days with various boyfriends and girlfriends.
I met my hubby through the scene and he has been swinging for a long time too.
I'm one of those teenagers who found out that her parents were swingers when, one night when I went out with my mates clubbing, ended up going home to my parents instead of my best mate's as planned. She happened to pull a guy in the club and well, I didn't fancy being in a 3some at the time in her room!
So, I went home, thinking nothing of it...walked in at 2am to find a naked woman in the kitchen and a small group of adults in the house...well, enjoying a small 'adult' party.
This did freak me a little at the time and my mum broke away from the group to chat to me at the time. I was OK with it and just hid in my room and slept - I was pretty d*unk to be honest.
Anyway, that's the first bit.
What happened which really shocked us all was when I took my husband back to my parents to meet him - the first meet of a serious bf kind of meeting.
Only turns out that while he was a student in their city - while I was elsewhere as a student - they used to frequent the same swinging club!!!!!!!!!
EWWWWWWW!!!!
Took me weeks to get over it. I still loved him but, did I want to shag him still??
If my parents were not swingers, this situation would not have arisen but, at the same time I'm glad I could talk to them about it.
See, not everything is simple in life and yes, we need to be tolerant to each and everyone's opinion.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wow,
I never realised that there were actually parents out there that drugged their kids to sleep.
Even if that was the case i still wouldn't go to a house with children in for a meet. it just wouldn't sit right with me... if i ever had kids i don't even think i could have sex with them in the house with just my partner... but thats just because of how i personally feel about kids and about sex not saying its wrong.
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By *b430Man
over a year ago
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"Wow,
I never realised that there were actually parents out there that drugged their kids to sleep.
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Melatonin is produced naturally in your body and helps you get to sleep/ feel tired to go to sleep.
Some people don't produce enough of it so are prescribed it by a doctor. It isn't a case that parents have "drugged their kids to sleep". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I actually find some things written on this thread in an open forum quite disturbing
I do too...."
You're not alone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are not drugging our kids... Mine have a proper reason to be on the medication. Yes it does mean I dont worry... But if they slept normally I'd not have to give them it and would still meet.
And really not having sex with your partner.. once your a parent you will realise that's not really practical..
Cali |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wrong on many levels
If someone offered me to come around whilst their children were in bed i'd lose all respect and run a mile!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wow,
I never realised that there were actually parents out there that drugged their kids to sleep.
Melatonin is produced naturally in your body and helps you get to sleep/ feel tired to go to sleep.
Some people don't produce enough of it so are prescribed it by a doctor. It isn't a case that parents have "drugged their kids to sleep". "
Well it is, just because its a prescribed drug doesn't mean they aren't drugging their kids to sleep... but there was no mention of a doctor or a prescription on the post. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good god... You can't just drug kids to have fun... And it actually does say they are on medication And mentioned earlier on what they are on it for...
I just was clarifying in my place my children honestly won't wake lol...
It don't really bother me about peoples omg as I said what matters to me is happy home and kids.. in a relationship that's solid and full of love and fun...
I am happy and content and rather proud to have such balance... And I'd say the _iews on here are in the minority... As I have only had one person refuse to meet because I have kids here...
Cali |
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By *b430Man
over a year ago
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"Wow,
I never realised that there were actually parents out there that drugged their kids to sleep.
Melatonin is produced naturally in your body and helps you get to sleep/ feel tired to go to sleep.
Some people don't produce enough of it so are prescribed it by a doctor. It isn't a case that parents have "drugged their kids to sleep".
Well it is, just because its a prescribed drug doesn't mean they aren't drugging their kids to sleep... but there was no mention of a doctor or a prescription on the post."
It all depends on the way you were meaning "drugging their kids to sleep" now doesn't it! |
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with ex wife had few meets when kids were young, we played down stairs because we had fitted a simple lock to inside door so there could no walk in on use, we found lock useful just for the two of us to watch dirty vid etc in peace knowing kids could not walk in on us, would not have played once there had go a little older. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Wow,
I never realised that there were actually parents out there that drugged their kids to sleep.
Melatonin is produced naturally in your body and helps you get to sleep/ feel tired to go to sleep.
Some people don't produce enough of it so are prescribed it by a doctor. It isn't a case that parents have "drugged their kids to sleep".
Well it is, just because its a prescribed drug doesn't mean they aren't drugging their kids to sleep... but there was no mention of a doctor or a prescription on the post.
It all depends on the way you were meaning "drugging their kids to sleep" now doesn't it! "
Um... giving their children drugs for them to go to sleep... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think what you have to remember is like swinging is individual for your relationship, it is also for your family situation too.
I have once gone to a party to find that there was a small baby and a 3 year old asleep upstairs.. Now I found that totally wrong and I didnt stay. I personally wont have couples here or a woman UNLESS I am kid free.. but that happens about once every 2 months...maybe less.
However, for my family I find it perfectly acceptable to play late in the evening... how I do..and am Happy that its not impacting on my kids.. I have no guilt, in fact the opposite because happy and relaxed parents make better parents.
We are all different.. we all parent different, swing different.. do many things different.. To those that are for or against.. no one is saying your wrong.. its just your way.. and there will always be people that agree with your way of thinking... as there will always be those that disagree.
What I do find wrong is when people decide to say ITS so wrong.. Its only wrong to you.. same as to some people what we all do on here is totaly immoral and disgusting.
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By *b430Man
over a year ago
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"Wow,
I never realised that there were actually parents out there that drugged their kids to sleep.
Melatonin is produced naturally in your body and helps you get to sleep/ feel tired to go to sleep.
Some people don't produce enough of it so are prescribed it by a doctor. It isn't a case that parents have "drugged their kids to sleep".
Well it is, just because its a prescribed drug doesn't mean they aren't drugging their kids to sleep... but there was no mention of a doctor or a prescription on the post.
It all depends on the way you were meaning "drugging their kids to sleep" now doesn't it!
Um... giving their children drugs for them to go to sleep... "
It isn't just kids that need extra Melatonin to help/ encourage their own bodies to "feel tired" so they go to sleep.
Most people produces it naturally, others don't and need it prescribed; just like diabetics need Insulin or medication as their own bodies don't produce it/ enough of it.
There is a difference in the way it is put across in here! |
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