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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Gonna sound like a big girl but WHAT SHOULD I WEAR?! The dates getting closer that im attending a club for the first time and im starting to freak out about the little things.
So ive asked around and I'm not sure I've got a definitive answer. I know I need to look smart, that's a given. But how smart is the question.
Should I wear a nice suit to an evening club event? Been told that may be too much..
Been told shirt and jeans.
Been told shirt and trousers.
Someone said a suit will demonstrate I've put effort in. Just don't want to be overdressed and look a right pleb. Any advice/opinions welcome  cheers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nice pants
In case you decide to dress down
Treat yourself to some new aftershave and keep that scent for these moments
Makes you smile when you wear it
Good luck and have fun
Mrs P x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Cheers everyone so far. So initial response is that a suit is probably too much.
And apart from possibly getting in the hottub I can't see myself walking around in dressed down mode during my first time. I'm a bit body conscious at moment. |
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By *dtittyCouple
over a year ago
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"Cheers everyone so far. So initial response is that a suit is probably too much.
And apart from possibly getting in the hottub I can't see myself walking around in dressed down mode during my first time. I'm a bit body conscious at moment. "
Tbh if your looking around in the play areas you'd probably feel more self conscious with your clothes on, bar areas tend to be dressed
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Cheers everyone so far. So initial response is that a suit is probably too much.
And apart from possibly getting in the hottub I can't see myself walking around in dressed down mode during my first time. I'm a bit body conscious at moment.
Tbh if your looking around in the play areas you'd probably feel more self conscious with your clothes on, bar areas tend to be dressed
Good luck"
I'm not going to go out my way to look around the play areas tbh....unless I possibly got invited. So I'm happy to spend my time in the bar area chatting etc even if it's all night |
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By *dtittyCouple
over a year ago
Durham |
"Cheers everyone so far. So initial response is that a suit is probably too much.
And apart from possibly getting in the hottub I can't see myself walking around in dressed down mode during my first time. I'm a bit body conscious at moment.
Tbh if your looking around in the play areas you'd probably feel more self conscious with your clothes on, bar areas tend to be dressed
Good luck
I'm not going to go out my way to look around the play areas tbh....unless I possibly got invited. So I'm happy to spend my time in the bar area chatting etc even if it's all night "
Don't rule it out you never know, quite often we have a mooch and a perv and are invited to join in, we don't because we only play with each other. But you never know catch someone's eye in the bar ..... |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"Cheers everyone so far. So initial response is that a suit is probably too much.
And apart from possibly getting in the hottub I can't see myself walking around in dressed down mode during my first time. I'm a bit body conscious at moment.
Tbh if your looking around in the play areas you'd probably feel more self conscious with your clothes on, bar areas tend to be dressed
Good luck
I'm not going to go out my way to look around the play areas tbh....unless I possibly got invited. So I'm happy to spend my time in the bar area chatting etc even if it's all night
Don't rule it out you never know, quite often we have a mooch and a perv and are invited to join in, we don't because we only play with each other. But you never know catch someone's eye in the bar ....."
Exactly, if you don't buy a ticket you can't win the raffle. Paying to just go and look around, it's not a house viewing.  |
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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago
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"Gonna sound like a big girl but WHAT SHOULD I WEAR?! The dates getting closer that im attending a club for the first time and im starting to freak out about the little things.
So ive asked around and I'm not sure I've got a definitive answer. I know I need to look smart, that's a given. But how smart is the question.
Should I wear a nice suit to an evening club event? Been told that may be too much..
Been told shirt and jeans.
Been told shirt and trousers.
Someone said a suit will demonstrate I've put effort in. Just don't want to be overdressed and look a right pleb. Any advice/opinions welcome cheers"
It all depends on the club really, I would say smart shirt and jeans with traditional shoes. Maybe a suite Jacket but I wouldnt go for the full suited and booted option. For one it can get warm and also not everyone can carry off the look. I seen some people that look like they've come for a job interview rather than a night out 
Where what ever you feel comfortable and sexy in, within the clubs dress code. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It all depends on the club really, I would say smart shirt and jeans with traditional shoes. Maybe a suite Jacket but I wouldnt go for the full suited and booted option. For one it can get warm and also not everyone can carry off the look. I seen some people that look like they've come for a job interview rather than a night out
Where what ever you feel comfortable and sexy in, within the clubs dress code. "
Cheers mate. thats some good solid advice I'll take on board. Wouldn't plan on wearing a tie and im pretty confident I look good in a suit. But yeah might be too much on this occasion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd say wear something smart but what you are comfortable wearing. As there is no point of going to a club and worrying about being uncomfortable in the clothes or worried about being overdressed.
At Jaydees, men wear all sorts, most- nice trousers (website does allow very smart jeans) and a shirt or T-Shirt/Polo shirt. A lot of men walk around in just a towel, especially after the hot tub, but it's nice if the guy makes an effort.
I second the nice aftershave advice. Just please don't splash half a bottle on yourself in one go, a little goes a long way.
Enjoy |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've never wore trousers without a jacket. Doesn't look that smart imo.
So I'm probably going to go with nice jeans, nice shirt, nice shoes. New knickers (boxers). And obviously smell good. Thanks everyone for the input |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"Polo shirt, trousers with a belt and shoes.
Noooooooooo
A really nicely pressed cotton shirt. Preferably with cuffs and links. Dark Jeans or trousers. No rips. Good shoes.
V x "
I'm talking Like Hugo Boss or Ralph Lauren with a collar. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Polo shirt, trousers with a belt and shoes.
Noooooooooo
A really nicely pressed cotton shirt. Preferably with cuffs and links. Dark Jeans or trousers. No rips. Good shoes.
V x "
This sounds more like me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Babe u know ur gonna look gorgeous no matter what. I think suit or very smart trousers/ jeans. With a shirt not t-shirt. Once we’re in the hot tub u won’t need to worry about what ya wearing  xx"
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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago
The South |
"Gonna sound like a big girl but WHAT SHOULD I WEAR?! The dates getting closer that im attending a club for the first time and im starting to freak out about the little things.
So ive asked around and I'm not sure I've got a definitive answer. I know I need to look smart, that's a given. But how smart is the question.
Should I wear a nice suit to an evening club event? Been told that may be too much..
Been told shirt and jeans.
Been told shirt and trousers.
Someone said a suit will demonstrate I've put effort in. Just don't want to be overdressed and look a right pleb. Any advice/opinions welcome cheers"
Wear some cool slippers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Gonna sound like a big girl but WHAT SHOULD I WEAR?! The dates getting closer that im attending a club for the first time and im starting to freak out about the little things.
So ive asked around and I'm not sure I've got a definitive answer. I know I need to look smart, that's a given. But how smart is the question.
Should I wear a nice suit to an evening club event? Been told that may be too much..
Been told shirt and jeans.
Been told shirt and trousers.
Someone said a suit will demonstrate I've put effort in. Just don't want to be overdressed and look a right pleb. Any advice/opinions welcome cheers"
Towel.
Youll only be in your street clothes for 5 miniutes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A suit will be fine, you want to stand out and look confident, besides if all goes well you will be naked soon enough and it won't matter."
As long as he has the confidence to carry it off amongst a room full of guys not in suits...
That is the kind of guy I would go for, for sure.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Shirt with collar, white is the best. Makes you look clean and fresh.
Blazer/suit jacket
Chinos trousers that fit you well or smart jeans-denim, black.
Leather belt
Nice shoes or ankle boots-leather or suede.
Iron/press your clothes including trousers and boxers.
Use eau de toilette or perfume but not to strong. No pacco rabanne invicrus- it's to strong.
Little bit of gel or wax on you hair.
Clip your nails and use hand cream.
And you will rock!!!
I wish you a fantastic party! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cheers everyone so far. So initial response is that a suit is probably too much.
And apart from possibly getting in the hottub I can't see myself walking around in dressed down mode during my first time. I'm a bit body conscious at moment. "
I always drool over a guy walking in in a 3pc suit. Got a thing for waistcoats I think.
Just smart like you were going out on a vanilla night. No trainers.
I used to feel conscious about dress down, now I can't wait!
I guess it's different for men though, but once you see others in towels/boxers you may feel more comfortable about doing the same.
Good luck with it all. X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I used to feel conscious about dress down, now I can't wait!
I guess it's different for men though, but once you see others in towels/boxers you may feel more comfortable about doing the same.
Good luck with it all. X"
Thankyou.
I'm literally making someone (from this thread) to dress down with me and hold my hand through it haha. I'm such a fanny! |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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This sounds like one of the worse preening events in the world. To think that when you walk into a club people are going to be looking you over and checking out your shoes, belt, t-shirt and cuff links. Does he tuck his shirt in or leave it out. It is tailored or loose, if he's not expecting any play does he team his attire up with a decent watch so he has that extra finish?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I share your anxiety, I've never been to one as I'm quite intimidated, not least by the clothes off bit as I am not one for parading about in my underwear - that's an alien concept to me!
Whatever you opt for, make sure it's something you're comfortable in, if you feel over or under dressed, it'll probably reflect in your body language and not do yourself any favours.
Good luck, hope you have a great time! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This sounds like one of the worse preening events in the world. To think that when you walk into a club people are going to be looking you over and checking out your shoes, belt, t-shirt and cuff links. Does he tuck his shirt in or leave it out. It is tailored or loose, if he's not expecting any play does he team his attire up with a decent watch so he has that extra finish? "
Don't see nothing wrong with wanting and making a good impression....regardless if any play happens or not. Especially for someone that's never been to a club like this |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I share your anxiety, I've never been to one as I'm quite intimidated, not least by the clothes off bit as I am not one for parading about in my underwear - that's an alien concept to me!
Whatever you opt for, make sure it's something you're comfortable in, if you feel over or under dressed, it'll probably reflect in your body language and not do yourself any favours.
Good luck, hope you have a great time!"
Totally alien to me too! Still can't get my head round it but fuck it....let's see what happens. Worse that can happen is I'm not into it, have a few drinks regardless and enjoy the buffet and go home. |
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"This sounds like one of the worse preening events in the world. To think that when you walk into a club people are going to be looking you over and checking out your shoes, belt, t-shirt and cuff links. Does he tuck his shirt in or leave it out. It is tailored or loose, if he's not expecting any play does he team his attire up with a decent watch so he has that extra finish?
Don't see nothing wrong with wanting and making a good impression....regardless if any play happens or not. Especially for someone that's never been to a club like this"
I think you will do very well, you seem to have the right attitude with regards to your first visit to a club. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Cheers everyone so far. So initial response is that a suit is probably too much.
And apart from possibly getting in the hottub I can't see myself walking around in dressed down mode during my first time. I'm a bit body conscious at moment. "
I hate seeing guys walking around in clubs with towels around them!. I'd advise against that. Yeah, a shirt or polo top with a smart pair of jeans/trousers & of course smart shoes NO Trainers though!..
Hope you have a fun filled night. Enjoy x
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Cheers everyone so far. So initial response is that a suit is probably too much.
And apart from possibly getting in the hottub I can't see myself walking around in dressed down mode during my first time. I'm a bit body conscious at moment.
I always drool over a guy walking in in a 3pc suit. Got a thing for waistcoats I think.
Just smart like you were going out on a vanilla night. No trainers.
I used to feel conscious about dress down, now I can't wait!
I guess it's different for men though, but once you see others in towels/boxers you may feel more comfortable about doing the same.
Good luck with it all. X"
LOVE guys in waistcoats  |
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I used to feel conscious about dress down, now I can't wait!
I guess it's different for men though, but once you see others in towels/boxers you may feel more comfortable about doing the same.
Good luck with it all. X
Thankyou.
Looking forward to it sexy xx
I'm literally making someone (from this thread) to dress down with me and hold my hand through it haha. I'm such a fanny! "
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I used to feel conscious about dress down, now I can't wait!
I guess it's different for men though, but once you see others in towels/boxers you may feel more comfortable about doing the same.
Good luck with it all. X
Thankyou.
Looking forward to it sexy xx
I'm literally making someone (from this thread) to dress down with me and hold my hand through it haha. I'm such a fanny! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't worry so much about it.
Full suit would probably be too much and you'd be so overheated! But I think smart is really appealing. After all everyone had a different type just be you x |
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"Mainly going for hopefully a decent night out tbh that's a bit different than my usual scene. Anything else is just a bonus. "
This is such a good attitude to have. A lot of guys feels entitles to play because they paid to get in to the club. It's nice to see a newbie with a better mindframe. |
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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago
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"Go full pimp outfit(think huggy bear)
It might not be a fancy dress night 
Do let us know how you get on op.
It's a shame that people can't dress as a pimp on a serious night  "
If thats what you want to do Sam, you go for it bro. Dont let anyone hold you back |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"Mainly going for hopefully a decent night out tbh that's a bit different than my usual scene. Anything else is just a bonus.
This is such a good attitude to have. A lot of guys feels entitles to play because they paid to get in to the club. It's nice to see a newbie with a better mindframe."
It's not entitlement but you have to be outgoing to be a successful single guy.
Very rare you get approached even by people seeking single guys because they expect the man to show interest. Being a wallflower isn't a good tactic. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Mainly going for hopefully a decent night out tbh that's a bit different than my usual scene. Anything else is just a bonus.
This is such a good attitude to have. A lot of guys feels entitles to play because they paid to get in to the club. It's nice to see a newbie with a better mindframe.
It's not entitlement but you have to be outgoing to be a successful single guy.
Very rare you get approached even by people seeking single guys because they expect the man to show interest. Being a wallflower isn't a good tactic."
I'm never been a particularly outgoing guy and I woundnt say Im an unsuccessful single guy, I don't need to be on fab or go to clubs to get sex. I'm going for the experience.
Surely having tactics in the first place isn't a very good tactic. Rather just be me. If I'm shy, I'll be shy. If I'm feeling a little confident, I'll be confident. Plus someone has already shown alot of interest in me that's attending so I really don't need to be anything other than myself so it's all good
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"Mainly going for hopefully a decent night out tbh that's a bit different than my usual scene. Anything else is just a bonus.
This is such a good attitude to have. A lot of guys feels entitles to play because they paid to get in to the club. It's nice to see a newbie with a better mindframe.
It's not entitlement but you have to be outgoing to be a successful single guy.
Very rare you get approached even by people seeking single guys because they expect the man to show interest. Being a wallflower isn't a good tactic.
I'm never been a particularly outgoing guy and I woundnt say Im an unsuccessful single guy, I don't need to be on fab or go to clubs to get sex. I'm going for the experience.
Surely having tactics in the first place isn't a very good tactic. Rather just be me. If I'm shy, I'll be shy. If I'm feeling a little confident, I'll be confident. Plus someone has already shown alot of interest in me that's attending so I really don't need to be anything other than myself so it's all good
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Well I've not done too badly, you know what I mean.
You miss 100% of the shots you don't take is all I'm saying. |
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"Mainly going for hopefully a decent night out tbh that's a bit different than my usual scene. Anything else is just a bonus.
This is such a good attitude to have. A lot of guys feels entitles to play because they paid to get in to the club. It's nice to see a newbie with a better mindframe.
It's not entitlement but you have to be outgoing to be a successful single guy.
Very rare you get approached even by people seeking single guys because they expect the man to show interest. Being a wallflower isn't a good tactic."
I said some men do feel entitled to play because they paid entry. Usually a higher entry price too. I've seen many get bitter that they paid a higher price and didn't end up playing. I'm saying the OP has the right attitude that he plans to enjoy his first night in a club regardless of whether he finds someone to play with or not. I don't really see how saying that being outgoing makes you more likely to find play disproves what I said about some men feeling entitled to it. |
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"Mainly going for hopefully a decent night out tbh that's a bit different than my usual scene. Anything else is just a bonus.
This is such a good attitude to have. A lot of guys feels entitles to play because they paid to get in to the club. It's nice to see a newbie with a better mindframe.
It's not entitlement but you have to be outgoing to be a successful single guy.
Very rare you get approached even by people seeking single guys because they expect the man to show interest. Being a wallflower isn't a good tactic.
I'm never been a particularly outgoing guy and I woundnt say Im an unsuccessful single guy, I don't need to be on fab or go to clubs to get sex. I'm going for the experience.
Surely having tactics in the first place isn't a very good tactic. Rather just be me. If I'm shy, I'll be shy. If I'm feeling a little confident, I'll be confident. Plus someone has already shown alot of interest in me that's attending so I really don't need to be anything other than myself so it's all good
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You sound lovely as you are to me OP. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"Mainly going for hopefully a decent night out tbh that's a bit different than my usual scene. Anything else is just a bonus.
This is such a good attitude to have. A lot of guys feels entitles to play because they paid to get in to the club. It's nice to see a newbie with a better mindframe.
It's not entitlement but you have to be outgoing to be a successful single guy.
Very rare you get approached even by people seeking single guys because they expect the man to show interest. Being a wallflower isn't a good tactic.
I said some men do feel entitled to play because they paid entry. Usually a higher entry price too. I've seen many get bitter that they paid a higher price and didn't end up playing. I'm saying the OP has the right attitude that he plans to enjoy his first night in a club regardless of whether he finds someone to play with or not. I don't really see how saying that being outgoing makes you more likely to find play disproves what I said about some men feeling entitled to it."
I just see this kind of attitude towards single men frequently on here. They say go and pay your money don't expect anything and don't even try in some cases.
It's like a gamble going to a club he might not wanna play with the options he has like I have done several times and just left. You wanna get the odds in your favour though if you want a good time surely. |
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"Mainly going for hopefully a decent night out tbh that's a bit different than my usual scene. Anything else is just a bonus.
This is such a good attitude to have. A lot of guys feels entitles to play because they paid to get in to the club. It's nice to see a newbie with a better mindframe.
It's not entitlement but you have to be outgoing to be a successful single guy.
Very rare you get approached even by people seeking single guys because they expect the man to show interest. Being a wallflower isn't a good tactic.
I said some men do feel entitled to play because they paid entry. Usually a higher entry price too. I've seen many get bitter that they paid a higher price and didn't end up playing. I'm saying the OP has the right attitude that he plans to enjoy his first night in a club regardless of whether he finds someone to play with or not. I don't really see how saying that being outgoing makes you more likely to find play disproves what I said about some men feeling entitled to it.
I just see this kind of attitude towards single men frequently on here. They say go and pay your money don't expect anything and don't even try in some cases.
It's like a gamble going to a club he might not wanna play with the options he has like I have done several times and just left. You wanna get the odds in your favour though if you want a good time surely. "
It's not an attitude towards single men. Nobody is entitled to play because they went to a club. I've had nights that I've gone and not ended up playing and just ended up socialising all night.
There's nothing wrong with optimising your chances I'm just saying that it's a good attitude to have to plan to have a good time whether you end up playing or not rather than being bitter and whiny if you don't. Even my socialising only nights at clubs have been great as I've got to meet new people and have a good laugh and the more people you get to know, the more likely you are to get opportunities for play in the future. A lot of people see socialising in clubs as a waste of time and I personally find that attitude quite unattractive. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"Mainly going for hopefully a decent night out tbh that's a bit different than my usual scene. Anything else is just a bonus.
This is such a good attitude to have. A lot of guys feels entitles to play because they paid to get in to the club. It's nice to see a newbie with a better mindframe.
It's not entitlement but you have to be outgoing to be a successful single guy.
Very rare you get approached even by people seeking single guys because they expect the man to show interest. Being a wallflower isn't a good tactic.
I said some men do feel entitled to play because they paid entry. Usually a higher entry price too. I've seen many get bitter that they paid a higher price and didn't end up playing. I'm saying the OP has the right attitude that he plans to enjoy his first night in a club regardless of whether he finds someone to play with or not. I don't really see how saying that being outgoing makes you more likely to find play disproves what I said about some men feeling entitled to it.
I just see this kind of attitude towards single men frequently on here. They say go and pay your money don't expect anything and don't even try in some cases.
It's like a gamble going to a club he might not wanna play with the options he has like I have done several times and just left. You wanna get the odds in your favour though if you want a good time surely.
It's not an attitude towards single men. Nobody is entitled to play because they went to a club. I've had nights that I've gone and not ended up playing and just ended up socialising all night.
There's nothing wrong with optimising your chances I'm just saying that it's a good attitude to have to plan to have a good time whether you end up playing or not rather than being bitter and whiny if you don't. Even my socialising only nights at clubs have been great as I've got to meet new people and have a good laugh and the more people you get to know, the more likely you are to get opportunities for play in the future. A lot of people see socialising in clubs as a waste of time and I personally find that attitude quite unattractive."
I don't pay like £30 to go to a swingers club for a social. I'm going for sex and I'll be trying to get it. I might not get it or want it though and so be it. You win some, you lose some.
Women getting in free or paying a £5 can have that liberty I guess. |
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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago
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"Mainly going for hopefully a decent night out tbh that's a bit different than my usual scene. Anything else is just a bonus.
This is such a good attitude to have. A lot of guys feels entitles to play because they paid to get in to the club. It's nice to see a newbie with a better mindframe.
It's not entitlement but you have to be outgoing to be a successful single guy.
Very rare you get approached even by people seeking single guys because they expect the man to show interest. Being a wallflower isn't a good tactic.
I said some men do feel entitled to play because they paid entry. Usually a higher entry price too. I've seen many get bitter that they paid a higher price and didn't end up playing. I'm saying the OP has the right attitude that he plans to enjoy his first night in a club regardless of whether he finds someone to play with or not. I don't really see how saying that being outgoing makes you more likely to find play disproves what I said about some men feeling entitled to it.
I just see this kind of attitude towards single men frequently on here. They say go and pay your money don't expect anything and don't even try in some cases.
It's like a gamble going to a club he might not wanna play with the options he has like I have done several times and just left. You wanna get the odds in your favour though if you want a good time surely. "
I have to say Mr B, I just treat it as a night out. I'm to simple minded to calculate odds. I find Meeting and talking to people fun. But anyways I tend to have a good time regardless of the outcome. |
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"Mainly going for hopefully a decent night out tbh that's a bit different than my usual scene. Anything else is just a bonus.
This is such a good attitude to have. A lot of guys feels entitles to play because they paid to get in to the club. It's nice to see a newbie with a better mindframe.
It's not entitlement but you have to be outgoing to be a successful single guy.
Very rare you get approached even by people seeking single guys because they expect the man to show interest. Being a wallflower isn't a good tactic.
I said some men do feel entitled to play because they paid entry. Usually a higher entry price too. I've seen many get bitter that they paid a higher price and didn't end up playing. I'm saying the OP has the right attitude that he plans to enjoy his first night in a club regardless of whether he finds someone to play with or not. I don't really see how saying that being outgoing makes you more likely to find play disproves what I said about some men feeling entitled to it.
I just see this kind of attitude towards single men frequently on here. They say go and pay your money don't expect anything and don't even try in some cases.
It's like a gamble going to a club he might not wanna play with the options he has like I have done several times and just left. You wanna get the odds in your favour though if you want a good time surely.
It's not an attitude towards single men. Nobody is entitled to play because they went to a club. I've had nights that I've gone and not ended up playing and just ended up socialising all night.
There's nothing wrong with optimising your chances I'm just saying that it's a good attitude to have to plan to have a good time whether you end up playing or not rather than being bitter and whiny if you don't. Even my socialising only nights at clubs have been great as I've got to meet new people and have a good laugh and the more people you get to know, the more likely you are to get opportunities for play in the future. A lot of people see socialising in clubs as a waste of time and I personally find that attitude quite unattractive.
I don't pay like £30 to go to a swingers club for a social. I'm going for sex and I'll be trying to get it. I might not get it or want it though and so be it. You win some, you lose some.
Women getting in free or paying a £5 can have that liberty I guess."
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"Mainly going for hopefully a decent night out tbh that's a bit different than my usual scene. Anything else is just a bonus.
This is such a good attitude to have. A lot of guys feels entitles to play because they paid to get in to the club. It's nice to see a newbie with a better mindframe.
It's not entitlement but you have to be outgoing to be a successful single guy.
Very rare you get approached even by people seeking single guys because they expect the man to show interest. Being a wallflower isn't a good tactic.
I said some men do feel entitled to play because they paid entry. Usually a higher entry price too. I've seen many get bitter that they paid a higher price and didn't end up playing. I'm saying the OP has the right attitude that he plans to enjoy his first night in a club regardless of whether he finds someone to play with or not. I don't really see how saying that being outgoing makes you more likely to find play disproves what I said about some men feeling entitled to it.
I just see this kind of attitude towards single men frequently on here. They say go and pay your money don't expect anything and don't even try in some cases.
It's like a gamble going to a club he might not wanna play with the options he has like I have done several times and just left. You wanna get the odds in your favour though if you want a good time surely.
It's not an attitude towards single men. Nobody is entitled to play because they went to a club. I've had nights that I've gone and not ended up playing and just ended up socialising all night.
There's nothing wrong with optimising your chances I'm just saying that it's a good attitude to have to plan to have a good time whether you end up playing or not rather than being bitter and whiny if you don't. Even my socialising only nights at clubs have been great as I've got to meet new people and have a good laugh and the more people you get to know, the more likely you are to get opportunities for play in the future. A lot of people see socialising in clubs as a waste of time and I personally find that attitude quite unattractive.
I don't pay like £30 to go to a swingers club for a social. I'm going for sex and I'll be trying to get it. I might not get it or want it though and so be it. You win some, you lose some.
Women getting in free or paying a £5 can have that liberty I guess.
As ever such a wonderful ray of sunshine to interact with aren't we "
I just tell it like it is.
You don't see the flip side to the coin perhaps.
So you would be happy paying £30 to just go and talk in a swingers club? Several times a month it would be quite an expensive hobby. |
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"Mainly going for hopefully a decent night out tbh that's a bit different than my usual scene. Anything else is just a bonus.
This is such a good attitude to have. A lot of guys feels entitles to play because they paid to get in to the club. It's nice to see a newbie with a better mindframe.
It's not entitlement but you have to be outgoing to be a successful single guy.
Very rare you get approached even by people seeking single guys because they expect the man to show interest. Being a wallflower isn't a good tactic.
I said some men do feel entitled to play because they paid entry. Usually a higher entry price too. I've seen many get bitter that they paid a higher price and didn't end up playing. I'm saying the OP has the right attitude that he plans to enjoy his first night in a club regardless of whether he finds someone to play with or not. I don't really see how saying that being outgoing makes you more likely to find play disproves what I said about some men feeling entitled to it.
I just see this kind of attitude towards single men frequently on here. They say go and pay your money don't expect anything and don't even try in some cases.
It's like a gamble going to a club he might not wanna play with the options he has like I have done several times and just left. You wanna get the odds in your favour though if you want a good time surely.
It's not an attitude towards single men. Nobody is entitled to play because they went to a club. I've had nights that I've gone and not ended up playing and just ended up socialising all night.
There's nothing wrong with optimising your chances I'm just saying that it's a good attitude to have to plan to have a good time whether you end up playing or not rather than being bitter and whiny if you don't. Even my socialising only nights at clubs have been great as I've got to meet new people and have a good laugh and the more people you get to know, the more likely you are to get opportunities for play in the future. A lot of people see socialising in clubs as a waste of time and I personally find that attitude quite unattractive.
I don't pay like £30 to go to a swingers club for a social. I'm going for sex and I'll be trying to get it. I might not get it or want it though and so be it. You win some, you lose some.
Women getting in free or paying a £5 can have that liberty I guess.
As ever such a wonderful ray of sunshine to interact with aren't we
I just tell it like it is.
You don't see the flip side to the coin perhaps.
So you would be happy paying £30 to just go and talk in a swingers club? Several times a month it would be quite an expensive hobby. "
I've paid £25 to go to an event before and not played so... yes.
And I've never got in anywhere for free or for £5.
Other guests are their own people and don't owe me anything regardless of what the venue charges me to go in. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
Chester/Wirral |
"Mainly going for hopefully a decent night out tbh that's a bit different than my usual scene. Anything else is just a bonus.
This is such a good attitude to have. A lot of guys feels entitles to play because they paid to get in to the club. It's nice to see a newbie with a better mindframe.
It's not entitlement but you have to be outgoing to be a successful single guy.
Very rare you get approached even by people seeking single guys because they expect the man to show interest. Being a wallflower isn't a good tactic.
I said some men do feel entitled to play because they paid entry. Usually a higher entry price too. I've seen many get bitter that they paid a higher price and didn't end up playing. I'm saying the OP has the right attitude that he plans to enjoy his first night in a club regardless of whether he finds someone to play with or not. I don't really see how saying that being outgoing makes you more likely to find play disproves what I said about some men feeling entitled to it.
I just see this kind of attitude towards single men frequently on here. They say go and pay your money don't expect anything and don't even try in some cases.
It's like a gamble going to a club he might not wanna play with the options he has like I have done several times and just left. You wanna get the odds in your favour though if you want a good time surely.
It's not an attitude towards single men. Nobody is entitled to play because they went to a club. I've had nights that I've gone and not ended up playing and just ended up socialising all night.
There's nothing wrong with optimising your chances I'm just saying that it's a good attitude to have to plan to have a good time whether you end up playing or not rather than being bitter and whiny if you don't. Even my socialising only nights at clubs have been great as I've got to meet new people and have a good laugh and the more people you get to know, the more likely you are to get opportunities for play in the future. A lot of people see socialising in clubs as a waste of time and I personally find that attitude quite unattractive.
I don't pay like £30 to go to a swingers club for a social. I'm going for sex and I'll be trying to get it. I might not get it or want it though and so be it. You win some, you lose some.
Women getting in free or paying a £5 can have that liberty I guess.
As ever such a wonderful ray of sunshine to interact with aren't we
I just tell it like it is.
You don't see the flip side to the coin perhaps.
So you would be happy paying £30 to just go and talk in a swingers club? Several times a month it would be quite an expensive hobby.
I've paid £25 to go to an event before and not played so... yes.
And I've never got in anywhere for free or for £5.
Other guests are their own people and don't owe me anything regardless of what the venue charges me to go in."
Really? Thought you would have.
I'm not saying the guests owe me anything though. Like I said it's like a gamble going to a club. |
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"If you want a sure thing and worried about losing your money on a "gamble"...wouldnt an escort be more suitable?"
Way i look at it is 30 quid + is a pretty high end night club or event door price.
For that kind of money im expecting a crowded venue, great music, good security maybe a stage show depending on situation or some form of live entertainment in a classy well furnished place.
Most swingers clubs are a bit dingy so if its just a night out torture garden or pedestal, subversion, antichrist, lash etc seem a better purchase |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"If you want a sure thing and worried about losing your money on a "gamble"...wouldnt an escort be more suitable?"
No! I want people to want to have sex with me. No gamble is a sure thing.
I'm not worried of losing my money. I just want to try get some value for it. I've networked in clubs and met at a later date to play. |
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"Mainly going for hopefully a decent night out tbh that's a bit different than my usual scene. Anything else is just a bonus. "
That's the right attitude to have tbf. It's the same viewpoint I went with when going as a single male, though I did play on all but one of these occasions. So whilst you should enter with decent clobber on (I tend to go for tailored shirt/T, well cut jeans and leather shoes) and wear it around the bar area generally, always be prepared to be invited to play by wearing nice undies, which may well get removed for you..
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
Chester/Wirral |
"If you want a sure thing and worried about losing your money on a "gamble"...wouldnt an escort be more suitable?
No! I want people to want to have sex with me. No gamble is a sure thing.
I'm not worried of losing my money. I just want to try get some value for it. I've networked in clubs and met at a later date to play."
That only happened from being pro active and having the balls to make a move too. 1 of my best meets and they weren't looking for single guys. |
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Ensure you comply with new member application requirements - some need advance notice. Get their advice on clothes and tell them your 2 ideas. Follow their lead.
Only wear clothes that you are comfortable in - it will aid your relaxation and confidence. |
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This gorgeous guy is a joy to chat to and he is a credit to single guys. Not once has he pushed to play etc. He’s a genuine nice guy who I can’t wait to meet and get to know. Socially first then see what happens.
If every single guy had his attitude fab would be a much nicer place.
Look forward to seeing you Friday night u sexy fucker xx |
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