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I received a very unusual inbox well for my standard of sexual thinking.
Asking if I've had my boobs bound and blood rushing to my nipples. To me that seems very creepy and scary for a 1st message.
Or is it something sexual I've never heard of as not actually been looking for this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I received a very unusual inbox well for my standard of sexual thinking.
Asking if I've had my boobs bound and blood rushing to my nipples. To me that seems very creepy and scary for a 1st message.
Or is it something sexual I've never heard of as not actually been looking for this. "
It sounds like you had a message from someone that was in to noon bondage X it is something that is common in the BDSM scene xx |
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Fairly tame OP. I am not going to repeat the first ever message we received on here which had us wondering if we had come to the right place but we carried on and thankfully most messages aren't like that first one. |
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
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Worried about what? It’s only a message. He likes boob bondage and is probably cutting and pasting the same question to many.
I dislike messages that play out a scenario or describe things like that, plus I think it’s a bit naff so I’d probably ignore (or block).
But worry? No.
V x |
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"Worried about what? It’s only a message. He likes boob bondage and is probably cutting and pasting the same question to many.
I dislike messages that play out a scenario or describe things like that, plus I think it’s a bit naff so I’d probably ignore (or block).
But worry? No.
V x"
Agreed. I've had much worse! |
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I agree with all the above who say 'nothing to worry about', 'laugh and mive on', and 'block if it frets you'.
The only thing I'd add is that if that was his introduction, then he may have a sadistic streak, but he's most assuredly not a Dom.
Mental control is all - and doesn't come from sudden and unexpected propositions.
Fret not thyself, OP |
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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago
Manchester |
"I received a very unusual inbox well for my standard of sexual thinking.
Asking if I've had my boobs bound and blood rushing to my nipples. To me that seems very creepy and scary for a 1st message.
Or is it something sexual I've never heard of as not actually been looking for this. "
Depends if you want that done to them! Personally I would block but we all have different tastes. |
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"I received a very unusual inbox well for my standard of sexual thinking.
Asking if I've had my boobs bound and blood rushing to my nipples. To me that seems very creepy and scary for a 1st message.
Or is it something sexual I've never heard of as not actually been looking for this. "
not a best first message but just asking. It's meant to be quite nice but never tried it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I received a very unusual inbox well for my standard of sexual thinking.
Asking if I've had my boobs bound and blood rushing to my nipples. To me that seems very creepy and scary for a 1st message.
Or is it something sexual I've never heard of as not actually been looking for this. "
It is something sexual OP. Common in the BDSM world however if you have no knowledge of itI can see why you were creeped out. |
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"worried about what exactly?
get that its not your thing but its words on a screen.
no drama. Block and forget.  "
Those words on a screen from immature men send wemon UNLOS after an hour of opening an account on here men really need to start thinking do they really want to scare or annoy all the wemon to delete accounts on fab and find other sites x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I received a very unusual inbox well for my standard of sexual thinking.
Asking if I've had my boobs bound and blood rushing to my nipples. To me that seems very creepy and scary for a 1st message.
Or is it something sexual I've never heard of as not actually been looking for this. "
Sounds like boob strapping and ropes, definitely tying your boobs up methinks |
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"I received a very unusual inbox well for my standard of sexual thinking.
Asking if I've had my boobs bound and blood rushing to my nipples. To me that seems very creepy and scary for a 1st message.
Or is it something sexual I've never heard of as not actually been looking for this. "
Block move on easy  |
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There’s a definite crossover between some of the bdsm/fetish scene and here, some of us are other unnamed sites for that as well! So I wouldn’t get too worried about it!
I probably wouldn’t have advised he dived straight in with that but some people are a bit impatient! |
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"Well it is not something I would like on a 1st msg nor the one I received asking if I like being watched having a number 2. What floats another doesn't always float another person to.
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none of us like half the shit that appears in their inbox you just delete and move on or usually not bother to open it as you can see how its going to be before you open it |
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"Why does it sound creepy? All you need to do is say sorry not my thing.
Just because you're not into it doesn't always make it crepy. "
If it is unsolicited, based on the desires of the sender, is not expected and not something the recipient has given any consideration to, it may well seem creepy in their opinion. There are vanilla, dabblers and hardcore kinksters on here. Not every one likes the same thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"worried about what exactly?
get that its not your thing but its words on a screen.
no drama. Block and forget.
Those words on a screen from immature men send wemon UNLOS after an hour of opening an account on here men really need to start thinking do they really want to scare or annoy all the wemon to delete accounts on fab and find other sites x"
damned if they do damned if they dont ..i see profiles all the time with a list of rules regarding what you can say or not to the person.
its an adult site for adult pursuits and all manner of kinks and stuffs.
it was only a question.
last time i looked there were filter options.
some people on here are so far up their own arses its a wonder they ever meet or chat to anybody with the attitude they have to people messaging.(not referring to anyone in particular..site in general)
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By (user no longer on site)
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"worried about what exactly?
get that its not your thing but its words on a screen.
no drama. Block and forget.
Those words on a screen from immature men send wemon UNLOS after an hour of opening an account on here men really need to start thinking do they really want to scare or annoy all the wemon to delete accounts on fab and find other sites x
damned if they do damned if they dont ..i see profiles all the time with a list of rules regarding what you can say or not to the person.
its an adult site for adult pursuits and all manner of kinks and stuffs.
it was only a question.
last time i looked there were filter options.
some people on here are so far up their own arses its a wonder they ever meet or chat to anybody with the attitude they have to people messaging.(not referring to anyone in particular..site in general)
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The filters don't work on filtering out kinks. |
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I meant more about filtering who can send you messages as in the case of aforementioned immature men scaring or annoying new women.
ie cant filter immature but can filter single men |
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I would say normally people in our lifestyle are polite and follow etiquette, protocols when introducing themselves to people. I say normal, but define normal.
BDSM isn't all about whips chains and stingy things. In most it's about informed consensually agreed dynamic scene play between adult people who have needs, kink fantasies and a wish to express them.
I have a small following of get kink friends on here who allow me to use impact sensation play with vibes, floggers etc..it's done with their consent to a limit they agree..I also do fire play, warm wax on the skin play..it's not for everyone I accept that but you would be surprised how many who stand and watch my demos come over afterwards and whisper, may I experiment with you.. the good thing about bdsm is sexual favour not always required, unless that dynamic is part of the scene play. Again within agreed limits a and boundaries.
For me and any responsible professional BDSM people it's all about gaining trust and never breaking it.
Never put yourself at risk with anyone you haven't researched.check veries. Ask around.
Warmest
Adam. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I meant more about filtering who can send you messages as in the case of aforementioned immature men scaring or annoying new women.
ie cant filter immature but can filter single men "
If you can crack that one, you deserve Platinum membership  |
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"Why does it sound creepy? All you need to do is say sorry not my thing.
Just because you're not into it doesn't always make it crepy.
If it is unsolicited, based on the desires of the sender, is not expected and not something the recipient has given any consideration to, it may well seem creepy in their opinion. There are vanilla, dabblers and hardcore kinksters on here. Not every one likes the same thing."
I'm not a fan of spunky tits bug I don't think I should be 'worried' or 'creeped out' by those who send m red messages saying they want to cum all over them.
It's an odd choice of words in my opinion. |
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Not had a guy ask if he can suck on your used tampons yet OP? I got one in my first few weeks on here.
Just delete and block anyone who sends you messages that make you want to heave!
There are lots of different fetishes that many people find revolting and the people who enjoy them just fire off hundreds of messages in the hope they can find someone who shares their kink. |
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"I meant more about filtering who can send you messages as in the case of aforementioned immature men scaring or annoying new women.
ie cant filter immature but can filter single men "
Its usually the men who should have more sense who send stupid messages x |
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There's nothing on your profile to even imply you might like that sort of thing, so he probably hasn't read it, and may be sending the same message to many. It's nicer to make a first message a response to something in the recipients profile or status. Quite understand why people use the block button. |
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Dont knock it till you have tried it Properly done it can be very arousing for the tied and the tie Most woman I have made have adored to look feel.and sensation Worry about some one who wants to restrict your movement Tit tie should be art |
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