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The urge to delete
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So once again I'm coming up to the point where I feel it is pointless trying to make contact with others in my immediate area and slightly further because of probably 2 years on here now (had an old profile) I've met 1 person....and a handful of replies which have gone nowhere even though I've been respectful, fleshed them out rather than one liners and never pushed.
I'm thinking of deleting once again, part of me doesn't want to because I enjoy the goings on on this site, the people that catch my eye but, it's unhealthy, obsessive and wears me down. Coming on and seeing read messages but nothing in return...it makes me sour.
I get "the volume of guys to girls/they don't have to reply if they don't want" shpeel.
Just talking from a solo guys point of view... It just gets to you.
So Lowestoft ladies... I'm sorry it's not me, it's you. |
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It must be very demoralising. You could always hide your profile and not look for a month or so. Alternatively you could view fab as a bit of fun to look at now and again but with no expectations at all, stop sending messages or just send one now and again.
Whatever you decide good luck to you! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not sure what you want from this site but, if this is up your only avenue to meet people you need to start widening the search. Although new to this site I'm not new to the real world. Of course the women have the upper hand on the site and so they should. Try going to some clubs, I intend to in the springtime when people are more warm and welcoming. No expectations and just try and have a bit of fun. To be honest I'm enjoying the forums at the minute more the trying to get a hook-up. |
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When I see profiles with virtually no info and the line "if you want to know, ask" it amazes me.
Your profile is your shop window.
If that shop window is empty then it's unlikely that passersby are going to pop in on the off chance to ask what you're selling.
Not when there's a whole row of other shops with great window displays to catch their eye.
Effort in = rewards.
No effort= no success.
Really is that simple. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I see profiles with virtually no info and the line "if you want to know, ask" it amazes me.
Your profile is your shop window.
If that shop window is empty then it's unlikely that passersby are going to pop in on the off chance to ask what you're selling.
Not when there's a whole row of other shops with great window displays to catch their eye.
Effort in = rewards.
No effort= no success.
Really is that simple."
I've just read this in my head with a scouse accent, love the scouse accent. Sorry, off point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP - agree with your sentiments - it's the same for couples too - far too much time wasted on here for very little reward anymore.
Think we will be deleting soon too. We are thinking it over - tbh it's just a chat site for fantasists nowadays - all the great people that we used to meet have gone from the site.
Why? One can only assume that it's because the proportion of people who do actually meet is now tiny, compared to those who use it as just another internet chat site etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP - agree with your sentiments - it's the same for couples too - far too much time wasted on here for very little reward anymore.
Think we will be deleting soon too. We are thinking it over - tbh it's just a chat site for fantasists nowadays - all the great people that we used to meet have gone from the site.
Why? One can only assume that it's because the proportion of people who do actually meet is now tiny, compared to those who use it as just another internet chat site etc."
Do you think more people go to clubs. Most of the updates around this area seem to be going to a club. I thought it would have been easier as a couple. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would suggest going to clubs, I think because of the amount of time wasters and fantasists on here, people become cynical and suspicious. If you go to a club then you will meet real people who are genuine, and they will know the same of you. Trust me, from a single guys perspective, clubs are much better in terms of getting to meet people. Also I agree with the above posts too, take some time to take a few new pics and this might help too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you think more people go to clubs. Most of the updates around this area seem to be going to a club. I thought it would have been easier as a couple."
IIRC the site is owned by some club owners - certainly the stock answer on here is "go to a club" - unfortunately we don't like them because of the cattle market mentality. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you think more people go to clubs. Most of the updates around this area seem to be going to a club. I thought it would have been easier as a couple.
IIRC the site is owned by some club owners - certainly the stock answer on here is "go to a club" - unfortunately we don't like them because of the cattle market mentality."
Is it just nsa you looking for or a small network of people you see when you want. Your profile description is inviting enough. |
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"Do you think more people go to clubs. Most of the updates around this area seem to be going to a club. I thought it would have been easier as a couple.
IIRC the site is owned by some club owners - certainly the stock answer on here is "go to a club" - unfortunately we don't like them because of the cattle market mentality."
Hm... I always tell people to try getting invited to parties or organised socials, and I do not own either...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP - agree with your sentiments - it's the same for couples too - far too much time wasted on here for very little reward anymore.
Think we will be deleting soon too. We are thinking it over - tbh it's just a chat site for fantasists nowadays - all the great people that we used to meet have gone from the site.
Why? One can only assume that it's because the proportion of people who do actually meet is now tiny, compared to those who use it as just another internet chat site etc."
same here for me now so i just put socials meets .x |
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"So once again I'm coming up to the point where I feel it is pointless trying to make contact with others in my immediate area and slightly further because of probably 2 years on here now (had an old profile) I've met 1 person....and a handful of replies which have gone nowhere even though I've been respectful, fleshed them out rather than one liners and never pushed.
I'm thinking of deleting once again, part of me doesn't want to because I enjoy the goings on on this site, the people that catch my eye but, it's unhealthy, obsessive and wears me down. Coming on and seeing read messages but nothing in return...it makes me sour.
I get "the volume of guys to girls/they don't have to reply if they don't want" shpeel.
Just talking from a solo guys point of view... It just gets to you.
So Lowestoft ladies... I'm sorry it's not me, it's you."
I was beginning to feel a little like this towards the end of last year. However, I decided to explore the forums and attend a social. Why I didn’t do this before in my 9 years on Fab I’ve no idea, as it’s completely turned things around for me and I’ve met some wonderful people. |
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"So once again I'm coming up to the point where I feel it is pointless trying to make contact with others in my immediate area and slightly further because of probably 2 years on here now (had an old profile) I've met 1 person....and a handful of replies which have gone nowhere even though I've been respectful, fleshed them out rather than one liners and never pushed.
I'm thinking of deleting once again, part of me doesn't want to because I enjoy the goings on on this site, the people that catch my eye but, it's unhealthy, obsessive and wears me down. Coming on and seeing read messages but nothing in return...it makes me sour.
I get "the volume of guys to girls/they don't have to reply if they don't want" shpeel.
Just talking from a solo guys point of view... It just gets to you.
So Lowestoft ladies... I'm sorry it's not me, it's you.
I was beginning to feel a little like this towards the end of last year. However, I decided to explore the forums and attend a social. Why I didn’t do this before in my 9 years on Fab I’ve no idea, as it’s completely turned things around for me and I’ve met some wonderful people."
well said and well done a lot of men on here don't want to make any effort but expect wemon to drop at their feet... ain't ever going to happen xx |
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IIRC the site is owned by some club owners - certainly the stock answer on here is "go to a club" - unfortunately we don't like them because of the cattle market mentality.
Hm... I always tell people to try getting invited to parties or organised socials, and I do not own either... "
I recommend Quest because I like it but I have no financial incentive to do so. |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
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"You could look at improving your profile and pics ?
This..Women wont chase after Men that dont put the effort in"
That what most men find difficult, what constitutes as effort.
Even simple pleasantries is automatically blocked or deleted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So once again I'm coming up to the point where I feel it is pointless trying to make contact with others in my immediate area and slightly further because of probably 2 years on here now (had an old profile) I've met 1 person....and a handful of replies which have gone nowhere even though I've been respectful, fleshed them out rather than one liners and never pushed.
I'm thinking of deleting once again, part of me doesn't want to because I enjoy the goings on on this site, the people that catch my eye but, it's unhealthy, obsessive and wears me down. Coming on and seeing read messages but nothing in return...it makes me sour.
I get "the volume of guys to girls/they don't have to reply if they don't want" shpeel.
Just talking from a solo guys point of view... It just gets to you.
So Lowestoft ladies... I'm sorry it's not me, it's you."
Your profile is so negative it would out anyone off. No profile, no meets for me and negativity and moaning would put off 99% of people. |
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"I'm not sure what you want from this site but, if this is up your only avenue to meet people you need to start widening the search. Although new to this site I'm not new to the real world. Of course the women have the upper hand on the site and so they should. Try going to some clubs, I intend to in the springtime when people are more warm and welcoming. No expectations and just try and have a bit of fun. To be honest I'm enjoying the forums at the minute more the trying to get a hook-up. "
Why do you believe women should have the upper hand ??? |
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Ok so I’m going to be blunt.
Your profile is shit. As others have said you need to put in a bit of effort.
I feel this is a ‘I’m not really going to delete my profile but I’ll post it on forum and status to get people to talk to me’ attempt.
If you can’t be arsed and are annoyed at not getting any interest just delete profile. Quite simple really
Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok so I’m going to be blunt.
Your profile is shit. As others have said you need to put in a bit of effort.
I feel this is a ‘I’m not really going to delete my profile but I’ll post it on forum and status to get people to talk to me’ attempt.
If you can’t be arsed and are annoyed at not getting any interest just delete profile. Quite simple really
Mrs"
You're as blunt as me |
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"Ok so I’m going to be blunt.
Your profile is shit. As others have said you need to put in a bit of effort.
I feel this is a ‘I’m not really going to delete my profile but I’ll post it on forum and status to get people to talk to me’ attempt.
If you can’t be arsed and are annoyed at not getting any interest just delete profile. Quite simple really
Mrs"
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"Ok so I’m going to be blunt.
Your profile is shit. As others have said you need to put in a bit of effort.
I feel this is a ‘I’m not really going to delete my profile but I’ll post it on forum and status to get people to talk to me’ attempt.
If you can’t be arsed and are annoyed at not getting any interest just delete profile. Quite simple really
Mrs
You're as blunt as me "
I find it’s the best way to be. Straight to the point no bs  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People don't find drama queens or whinging bitches desirable.
Congratulations, you've found what you're looking for....
.... Attention.... "
Thought the OP's original post was quite sensible - expressing his frustration at what has become a very poor site from a "meetings" perspective. He's entitled to do so surely?
Your criticism is unwarranted in our opinion
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok so I’m going to be blunt.
Your profile is shit. As others have said you need to put in a bit of effort.
I feel this is a ‘I’m not really going to delete my profile but I’ll post it on forum and status to get people to talk to me’ attempt.
If you can’t be arsed and are annoyed at not getting any interest just delete profile. Quite simple really
Mrs
You're as blunt as me
I find it’s the best way to be. Straight to the point no bs "
I just then receive abusive messages and being blocked so I can't reply. Very hurtful |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People don't find drama queens or whinging bitches desirable.
Congratulations, you've found what you're looking for....
.... Attention....
Thought the OP's original post was quite sensible - expressing his frustration at what has become a very poor site from a "meetings" perspective. He's entitled to do so surely?
Your criticism is unwarranted in our opinion
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Is my opinion a problem for you ? |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Ok so I’m going to be blunt.
Your profile is shit. As others have said you need to put in a bit of effort.
I feel this is a ‘I’m not really going to delete my profile but I’ll post it on forum and status to get people to talk to me’ attempt.
If you can’t be arsed and are annoyed at not getting any interest just delete profile. Quite simple really
Mrs
You're as blunt as me
I find it’s the best way to be. Straight to the point no bs
I just then receive abusive messages and being blocked so I can't reply. Very hurtful"
Yes that's very annoying. |
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"People don't find drama queens or whinging bitches desirable.
Congratulations, you've found what you're looking for....
.... Attention....
Thought the OP's original post was quite sensible - expressing his frustration at what has become a very poor site from a "meetings" perspective. He's entitled to do so surely?
Your criticism is unwarranted in our opinion
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I think his, mine and others criticism are very warranted.
He’s came on to an open forum whining about his ability to get meets when he has done nothing to help himself.
He’s an adult who has thrown his toys out the pram because people aren’t falling at his feet and he’s done nothing to deserve that treatment
Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok so I’m going to be blunt.
Your profile is shit. As others have said you need to put in a bit of effort.
I feel this is a ‘I’m not really going to delete my profile but I’ll post it on forum and status to get people to talk to me’ attempt.
If you can’t be arsed and are annoyed at not getting any interest just delete profile. Quite simple really
Mrs
You're as blunt as me
I find it’s the best way to be. Straight to the point no bs
I just then receive abusive messages and being blocked so I can't reply. Very hurtful
Yes that's very annoying. "
It makes me emotional |
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"Ok so I’m going to be blunt.
Your profile is shit. As others have said you need to put in a bit of effort.
I feel this is a ‘I’m not really going to delete my profile but I’ll post it on forum and status to get people to talk to me’ attempt.
If you can’t be arsed and are annoyed at not getting any interest just delete profile. Quite simple really
Mrs
You're as blunt as me
I find it’s the best way to be. Straight to the point no bs
I just then receive abusive messages and being blocked so I can't reply. Very hurtful
Yes that's very annoying.
It makes me emotional"
I feel your pain. I can taste your salty tears from here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People don't find drama queens or whinging bitches desirable.
Congratulations, you've found what you're looking for....
.... Attention....
Thought the OP's original post was quite sensible - expressing his frustration at what has become a very poor site from a "meetings" perspective. He's entitled to do so surely?
Your criticism is unwarranted in our opinion
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O.K, what's your take on it ?
P.S
Church tomorrow |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok so I’m going to be blunt.
Your profile is shit. As others have said you need to put in a bit of effort.
I feel this is a ‘I’m not really going to delete my profile but I’ll post it on forum and status to get people to talk to me’ attempt.
If you can’t be arsed and are annoyed at not getting any interest just delete profile. Quite simple really
Mrs
You're as blunt as me
I find it’s the best way to be. Straight to the point no bs
I just then receive abusive messages and being blocked so I can't reply. Very hurtful
Yes that's very annoying.
It makes me emotional
I feel your pain. I can taste your salty tears from here "
My Fab experience so far has been tragic |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not sure what you want from this site but, if this is up your only avenue to meet people you need to start widening the search. Although new to this site I'm not new to the real world. Of course the women have the upper hand on the site and so they should. Try going to some clubs, I intend to in the springtime when people are more warm and welcoming. No expectations and just try and have a bit of fun. To be honest I'm enjoying the forums at the minute more the trying to get a hook-up.
Why do you believe women should have the upper hand ???"
Why not, I suppose it's safer for a woman to be able to control the meets. I'm not implying that things don't happen to men. |
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"Ok so I’m going to be blunt.
Your profile is shit. As others have said you need to put in a bit of effort.
I feel this is a ‘I’m not really going to delete my profile but I’ll post it on forum and status to get people to talk to me’ attempt.
If you can’t be arsed and are annoyed at not getting any interest just delete profile. Quite simple really
Mrs
You're as blunt as me
I find it’s the best way to be. Straight to the point no bs
I just then receive abusive messages and being blocked so I can't reply. Very hurtful
Yes that's very annoying.
It makes me emotional
I feel your pain. I can taste your salty tears from here
My Fab experience so far has been tragic"
Apparently the trick is to say you’re going to delete your profile then everyone will be concerned for you and knickers will fly off and you’ll be beating the women off with a double ender.
Apparently |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok so I’m going to be blunt.
Your profile is shit. As others have said you need to put in a bit of effort.
I feel this is a ‘I’m not really going to delete my profile but I’ll post it on forum and status to get people to talk to me’ attempt.
If you can’t be arsed and are annoyed at not getting any interest just delete profile. Quite simple really
Mrs
You're as blunt as me
I find it’s the best way to be. Straight to the point no bs
I just then receive abusive messages and being blocked so I can't reply. Very hurtful
Yes that's very annoying.
It makes me emotional
I feel your pain. I can taste your salty tears from here
My Fab experience so far has been tragic
Apparently the trick is to say you’re going to delete your profile then everyone will be concerned for you and knickers will fly off and you’ll be beating the women off with a double ender.
Apparently "
No wonder I'm going wrong, I've just been a bit of a C*nt actually. Now I'm pondering on my next move...
Decisions...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok so I’m going to be blunt.
Your profile is shit. As others have said you need to put in a bit of effort.
I feel this is a ‘I’m not really going to delete my profile but I’ll post it on forum and status to get people to talk to me’ attempt.
If you can’t be arsed and are annoyed at not getting any interest just delete profile. Quite simple really
Mrs
You're as blunt as me
I find it’s the best way to be. Straight to the point no bs
I just then receive abusive messages and being blocked so I can't reply. Very hurtful
Yes that's very annoying.
It makes me emotional
I feel your pain. I can taste your salty tears from here
My Fab experience so far has been tragic
Apparently the trick is to say you’re going to delete your profile then everyone will be concerned for you and knickers will fly off and you’ll be beating the women off with a double ender.
Apparently
No wonder I'm going wrong, I've just been a bit of a C*nt actually. Now I'm pondering on my next move...
Decisions... "
Time to change my profile "pity fuck wanted, or i'm deleting." |
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"Ok so I’m going to be blunt.
Your profile is shit. As others have said you need to put in a bit of effort.
I feel this is a ‘I’m not really going to delete my profile but I’ll post it on forum and status to get people to talk to me’ attempt.
If you can’t be arsed and are annoyed at not getting any interest just delete profile. Quite simple really
Mrs
You're as blunt as me
I find it’s the best way to be. Straight to the point no bs
I just then receive abusive messages and being blocked so I can't reply. Very hurtful
Yes that's very annoying.
It makes me emotional
I feel your pain. I can taste your salty tears from here
My Fab experience so far has been tragic
Apparently the trick is to say you’re going to delete your profile then everyone will be concerned for you and knickers will fly off and you’ll be beating the women off with a double ender.
Apparently
No wonder I'm going wrong, I've just been a bit of a C*nt actually. Now I'm pondering on my next move...
Decisions... "
Go for pathetic, snivelling and needy.
Nothing makes a gal wetter |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok so I’m going to be blunt.
Your profile is shit. As others have said you need to put in a bit of effort.
I feel this is a ‘I’m not really going to delete my profile but I’ll post it on forum and status to get people to talk to me’ attempt.
If you can’t be arsed and are annoyed at not getting any interest just delete profile. Quite simple really
Mrs
You're as blunt as me
I find it’s the best way to be. Straight to the point no bs
I just then receive abusive messages and being blocked so I can't reply. Very hurtful
Yes that's very annoying.
It makes me emotional
I feel your pain. I can taste your salty tears from here
My Fab experience so far has been tragic
Apparently the trick is to say you’re going to delete your profile then everyone will be concerned for you and knickers will fly off and you’ll be beating the women off with a double ender.
Apparently
No wonder I'm going wrong, I've just been a bit of a C*nt actually. Now I'm pondering on my next move...
Decisions...
Time to change my profile "pity fuck wanted, or i'm deleting." "
The OP is in lowestoft, it's full of up for it single mothers and d*unken tarts, should be pretty easy to get a bonk? Unless there is something wrong with you ? |
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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago
Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire |
"So once again I'm coming up to the point where I feel it is pointless trying to make contact with others in my immediate area and slightly further because of probably 2 years on here now (had an old profile) I've met 1 person....and a handful of replies which have gone nowhere even though I've been respectful, fleshed them out rather than one liners and never pushed.
I'm thinking of deleting once again, part of me doesn't want to because I enjoy the goings on on this site, the people that catch my eye but, it's unhealthy, obsessive and wears me down. Coming on and seeing read messages but nothing in return...it makes me sour.
I get "the volume of guys to girls/they don't have to reply if they don't want" shpeel.
Just talking from a solo guys point of view... It just gets to you.
So Lowestoft ladies... I'm sorry it's not me, it's you."
There are some days where I wonder about some people on here as you do not even get an acknowledgement.
Unlike some I'm happy to get, no thanks, not interested. Then you meet the game players and picture collectors.
Just when you are about to pack it in, you meet a lovely person.
Just keep at it and don't let the bad manners/behaviour of others get you down. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok so I’m going to be blunt.
Your profile is shit. As others have said you need to put in a bit of effort.
I feel this is a ‘I’m not really going to delete my profile but I’ll post it on forum and status to get people to talk to me’ attempt.
If you can’t be arsed and are annoyed at not getting any interest just delete profile. Quite simple really
Mrs
You're as blunt as me
I find it’s the best way to be. Straight to the point no bs
I just then receive abusive messages and being blocked so I can't reply. Very hurtful
Yes that's very annoying.
It makes me emotional
I feel your pain. I can taste your salty tears from here
My Fab experience so far has been tragic
Apparently the trick is to say you’re going to delete your profile then everyone will be concerned for you and knickers will fly off and you’ll be beating the women off with a double ender.
Apparently
No wonder I'm going wrong, I've just been a bit of a C*nt actually. Now I'm pondering on my next move...
Decisions...
Go for pathetic, snivelling and needy.
Nothing makes a gal wetter "
Ffs... You told me it was "funny" that makes gals the wettest...
*throws out "the big book of a million and one jokes to get the girls knickers soaking and loose." * |
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"Ok so I’m going to be blunt.
Your profile is shit. As others have said you need to put in a bit of effort.
I feel this is a ‘I’m not really going to delete my profile but I’ll post it on forum and status to get people to talk to me’ attempt.
If you can’t be arsed and are annoyed at not getting any interest just delete profile. Quite simple really
Mrs
You're as blunt as me
I find it’s the best way to be. Straight to the point no bs
I just then receive abusive messages and being blocked so I can't reply. Very hurtful
Yes that's very annoying.
It makes me emotional
I feel your pain. I can taste your salty tears from here
My Fab experience so far has been tragic
Apparently the trick is to say you’re going to delete your profile then everyone will be concerned for you and knickers will fly off and you’ll be beating the women off with a double ender.
Apparently
No wonder I'm going wrong, I've just been a bit of a C*nt actually. Now I'm pondering on my next move...
Decisions...
Go for pathetic, snivelling and needy.
Nothing makes a gal wetter
Ffs... You told me it was "funny" that makes gals the wettest...
*throws out "the big book of a million and one jokes to get the girls knickers soaking and loose." *"
No no my friend it’s roofies that do that |
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"Ok so I’m going to be blunt.
Your profile is shit. As others have said you need to put in a bit of effort.
I feel this is a ‘I’m not really going to delete my profile but I’ll post it on forum and status to get people to talk to me’ attempt.
If you can’t be arsed and are annoyed at not getting any interest just delete profile. Quite simple really
Mrs
You're as blunt as me
I find it’s the best way to be. Straight to the point no bs
I just then receive abusive messages and being blocked so I can't reply. Very hurtful
Yes that's very annoying.
It makes me emotional
I feel your pain. I can taste your salty tears from here
My Fab experience so far has been tragic
Apparently the trick is to say you’re going to delete your profile then everyone will be concerned for you and knickers will fly off and you’ll be beating the women off with a double ender.
Apparently
No wonder I'm going wrong, I've just been a bit of a C*nt actually. Now I'm pondering on my next move...
Decisions...
Go for pathetic, snivelling and needy.
Nothing makes a gal wetter
Ffs... You told me it was "funny" that makes gals the wettest...
*throws out "the big book of a million and one jokes to get the girls knickers soaking and loose." *
No no my friend it’s roofies that do that "
See when you said that I thought you said roofers... And thought I'm fucked coz I hate heights. |
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Just hide your profile and take a break..there is nothing worse than reading a profile that says ..Been on here before and back for more..and so on ..you will just look a mardy arse.
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Ad a woman I admit and hands up I don't often look at men's profiles, if they messagee I do I check them out before considering replying, I looked at your profile OP and like many women not all I was put off by the cock picture and would not reply nothing personal just feel it's not for me just a thought, however I am at present hiding my profile to take a break from endless messages and it's worked good luck with your decision this site is either fabulous or frustrating in equal measures |
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"I'm not sure what you want from this site but, if this is up your only avenue to meet people you need to start widening the search. Although new to this site I'm not new to the real world. Of course the women have the upper hand on the site and so they should. Try going to some clubs, I intend to in the springtime when people are more warm and welcoming. No expectations and just try and have a bit of fun. To be honest I'm enjoying the forums at the minute more the trying to get a hook-up. "
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"It must be very demoralising. You could always hide your profile and not look for a month or so. Alternatively you could view fab as a bit of fun to look at now and again but with no expectations at all, stop sending messages or just send one now and again.
Whatever you decide good luck to you!"
Thanks I've been away for a bit anyway. |
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"People don't find drama queens or whinging bitches desirable.
Congratulations, you've found what you're looking for....
.... Attention....
Thought the OP's original post was quite sensible - expressing his frustration at what has become a very poor site from a "meetings" perspective. He's entitled to do so surely?
Your criticism is unwarranted in our opinion
I think his, mine and others criticism are very warranted.
He’s came on to an open forum whining about his ability to get meets when he has done nothing to help himself.
He’s an adult who has thrown his toys out the pram because people aren’t falling at his feet and he’s done nothing to deserve that treatment
Mrs"
I totally understand your bluntness and criticism but referring to my original post, I've tried the fleshed out route (in my old profile) I really have, in messages and profile. I had a lot more info and character to it all, to the point where people said it was too much and more like a dating profile. I made the effort and stuck to it for a while  Seems like there is a goldilocks zone for appropriate profiling.
I have never expected anyone to fall at my feet, those are your words, I only wished for people to entertain a conversation or the idea of a meet.
There is lot of questions, statements, advice and criticism since I was last on, I'm good with it all. It was not for attention it was more so to get it out of my head and create discussion. Who better to see than you lot!  |
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"I'm not sure what you want from this site but, if this is up your only avenue to meet people you need to start widening the search. Although new to this site I'm not new to the real world. Of course the women have the upper hand on the site and so they should. Try going to some clubs, I intend to in the springtime when people are more warm and welcoming. No expectations and just try and have a bit of fun. To be honest I'm enjoying the forums at the minute more the trying to get a hook-up.
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Unfortunately clubs aren't an option at the moment, I am sure they are a great dynamic included in Fab, but I feel that this site shouldn't solely survive on clubs but also the solo venture. Good luck to you when you do though. |
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"Ad a woman I admit and hands up I don't often look at men's profiles, if they messagee I do I check them out before considering replying, I looked at your profile OP and like many women not all I was put off by the cock picture and would not reply nothing personal just feel it's not for me just a thought, however I am at present hiding my profile to take a break from endless messages and it's worked good luck with your decision this site is either fabulous or frustrating in equal measures "
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"The OP is in lowestoft, it's full of up for it single mothers and d*unken tarts, should be pretty easy to get a bonk? Unless there is something wrong with you ? "
Maybe too many know me outside of Fab, Lowestoft is a small world at times.
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"So once again I'm coming up to the point where I feel it is pointless trying to make contact with others in my immediate area and slightly further because of probably 2 years on here now (had an old profile) I've met 1 person....and a handful of replies which have gone nowhere even though I've been respectful, fleshed them out rather than one liners and never pushed.
I'm thinking of deleting once again, part of me doesn't want to because I enjoy the goings on on this site, the people that catch my eye but, it's unhealthy, obsessive and wears me down. Coming on and seeing read messages but nothing in return...it makes me sour.
I get "the volume of guys to girls/they don't have to reply if they don't want" shpeel.
Just talking from a solo guys point of view... It just gets to you.
So Lowestoft ladies... I'm sorry it's not me, it's you."
Sorry I'm not reading all the thread because I realised its 2 weeks old and your still here jumped to near end and... guessing you got lots of sound advice about your lacking profile.... because that's what happens on these look at me threads and you still have a lacking profile ..... |
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"Why don't you try attending an organised social if you don't want to go to a club? Or host one yourself. "
They don't want to make any effort just expect wemon dropping their knickers... not op in particular but I would say approx 70% of guys on here x |
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"Why don't you try attending an organised social if you don't want to go to a club? Or host one yourself.
They don't want to make any effort just expect wemon dropping their knickers... not op in particular but I would say approx 70% of guys on here x "
To reply to both, I haven't really considered doing one myself really, I could give it a shot but "nanny" if you look up a bit you'll see I'm really not expecting people to drop at my feet. I really prefer to speak to people for a while first so I can make a sound decision on whether they are suitable. |
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"Why don't you try attending an organised social if you don't want to go to a club? Or host one yourself.
They don't want to make any effort just expect wemon dropping their knickers... not op in particular but I would say approx 70% of guys on here x
To reply to both, I haven't really considered doing one myself really, I could give it a shot but "nanny" if you look up a bit you'll see I'm really not expecting people to drop at my feet. I really prefer to speak to people for a while first so I can make a sound decision on whether they are suitable. "
Hun you wont get that with your non existent profile its first thing we look at to see if any interests common ground etc x |
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"Why don't you try attending an organised social if you don't want to go to a club? Or host one yourself.
They don't want to make any effort just expect wemon dropping their knickers... not op in particular but I would say approx 70% of guys on here x
To reply to both, I haven't really considered doing one myself really, I could give it a shot but "nanny" if you look up a bit you'll see I'm really not expecting people to drop at my feet. I really prefer to speak to people for a while first so I can make a sound decision on whether they are suitable.
Hun you wont get that with your non existent profile its first thing we look at to see if any interests common ground etc x "
I get that, it's likely I'll build upon it again slowly. |
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The only way to meet people as a man is to go to socials and clubs..women get hundreds of messages ,I for one never send one,but I have a great time ...you have to get out there ... |
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"Why don't you try attending an organised social if you don't want to go to a club? Or host one yourself.
They don't want to make any effort just expect wemon dropping their knickers... not op in particular but I would say approx 70% of guys on here x
To reply to both, I haven't really considered doing one myself really, I could give it a shot but "nanny" if you look up a bit you'll see I'm really not expecting people to drop at my feet. I really prefer to speak to people for a while first so I can make a sound decision on whether they are suitable.
Hun you wont get that with your non existent profile its first thing we look at to see if any interests common ground etc x
I get that, it's likely I'll build upon it again slowly."
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"So once again I'm coming up to the point where I feel it is pointless trying to make contact with others in my immediate area and slightly further because of probably 2 years on here now (had an old profile) I've met 1 person....and a handful of replies which have gone nowhere even though I've been respectful, fleshed them out rather than one liners and never pushed.
I'm thinking of deleting once again, part of me doesn't want to because I enjoy the goings on on this site, the people that catch my eye but, it's unhealthy, obsessive and wears me down. Coming on and seeing read messages but nothing in return...it makes me sour.
I get "the volume of guys to girls/they don't have to reply if they don't want" shpeel.
Just talking from a solo guys point of view... It just gets to you.
So Lowestoft ladies... I'm sorry it's not me, it's you."
So it's everyone else's fault that you're not getting anywhere?
Here's a hint. Minimal input equals minimal return. Too many single males on here put so little effort into their profile yet want women throwing themselves at their feet. It doesn't work that way.
One uninteresting profile pic and uninformative profile text. Who's fault is it again? |
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"So it's everyone else's fault that you're not getting anywhere?
Here's a hint. Minimal input equals minimal return. Too many single males on here put so little effort into their profile yet want women throwing themselves at their feet. It doesn't work that way.
One uninteresting profile pic and uninformative profile text. Who's fault is it again?"
Here's a hint for you learn to read, I've had enough of people saying the "throwing themselves" line. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"So it's everyone else's fault that you're not getting anywhere?
Here's a hint. Minimal input equals minimal return. Too many single males on here put so little effort into their profile yet want women throwing themselves at their feet. It doesn't work that way.
One uninteresting profile pic and uninformative profile text. Who's fault is it again?
Here's a hint for you learn to read, I've had enough of people saying the "throwing themselves" line. "
It's an open forum. People are allowed to express their opinions within the rules, there's no need for rudeness. |
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