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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Afternoon fab people,
Relatively new to the swinging world, I’m looking for someone who could take me under their wing and help my transition be a bit smoother. Have attended a club once and that’s what opened my eyes to this.
Waiting on photo verification, sent off 30 mins ago. Not having much luck in terms of replies, am I being too vanilla? Do I have to include filth in every message? I’m not one to talk about it, I’d rather do it..
Any tips, advice welcome, or someone looking for an apprentice, friend with benefits, or a regular playmate to attend clubs with. Hit me up.
All the best
M
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Firstly welcome to the forums 
Usually when people find they're not getting replies to messages it's for one (or possibly all) of a few reasons:
Profile and pics aren't up to much - having looked at yours, your profile text is ok but fairly generic for a single guy on here - try and come up with something unique or that shows your personality that gets across not only what you're looking for from the site but what you think you bring to a potential meet. Your one public pic on the other hand does not reveal a great deal and isn't particularly appealing - try taking a look at other well verified guys pics if you're stuck for ideas of what might work - you can achieve a lot with a simple phone camera on timer mode.
Messages - I don't know what type of messages you send but you need to find the right balance between a one liner and War & Peace - on the rare occasions I send cold messages I usually introduce myself and why I am writing, pick a couple of things from the person's profile to comment on and say why I think we'd be a good match, leave a couple of questions dangling for them to answer if they want to and invite them to take a look at my profile and respond if they like what they see. You don't need to be crude at all, in fact I'd advise against it unless encouraged to do so.
Expectations - set them low and then take them down a notch or two - there are a lot of single guys on here and whilst you're not competing with them as such, it does mean you may need to be patient to find someone interested enough to message back, let alone consider meeting.
Attitude and approach - try and be positive at all times - you'll get a lot of knock backs but don't let that frustrate you - get the attitude and approach right and accept the knock backs and whilst it won't guarantee anything it'll make your experience of the site better.
Socials and forums - think about getting along to group socials or joining in the forums more - they're both great ways of getting to know people and them you.
I'll not sugar coat this but your age will go against you - a lot of people won't meet people the same age as their kids, so use the advanced search feature to look for people that are looking for people your own age - in fact I'd broaden that to say only message people whose criteria you do meet on any front.
Finally, be yourself, don't try and be something you're not - this place can be frustrating if you let it frustrate you, but it can also be a lot of fun if you approach it right.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Wonderful response, I will re read and take all onboard. Thanks ever so much for taking the time out to reply. Had a few private messages also with very helpful feedback. Much appreciated, thanks again! |
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