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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just been told by someone I might be a ten on fab but I'd be a five in real life (for context - this was after I'd rejected him and he hadn't seen my face, only the public pics on my profile). As shitty as that is to hear, it's not exactly the first time I've heard this on here. Nine times out of ten when I say thanks but no thanks my message either gets deleted (which is absolutely fine) or I get a polite "no worries, thanks for letting me know" back. But then I get those that think they should be letting me know I'm absolutely out of my mind to be rejecting straight up tens like them because I'm nothing but a fat, ugly bitch. When I bring up the irony that they were begging to fuck a fat cow only moments before, they then remind me that men will fuck anything and they would never try it with me in real life.
Anyway, all this begs the question: is it pointless to have standards on here? Or even hold yourself to some sort of level where you have the confidence to feel good about yourself without some see you next Tuesday with a bruised ego trying to bring you back down a peg or two? Are they right? Should I just resign myself to the fact that no one on here cares what I look like as long as I let them fuck me and I'm not allowed to be picky because I'm fat? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Remember that sexy comes in all different shapes and sizes. You deserve to be as picky as you like and guys who make comments over your weight aren't worth any time thinking about. For what it's worth, if I lived closer I'd definitely consider myself lucky if we met  Stay sexy  x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are here to enjoy our own sexuality, not to be used. You don't owe anyone a fuck just because they are a 10.
Block them and commence enjoyment of fab, don't think about them a second longer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just been told by someone I might be a ten on fab but I'd be a five in real life (for context - this was after I'd rejected him and he hadn't seen my face, only the public pics on my profile). As shitty as that is to hear, it's not exactly the first time I've heard this on here. Nine times out of ten when I say thanks but no thanks my message either gets deleted (which is absolutely fine) or I get a polite "no worries, thanks for letting me know" back. But then I get those that think they should be letting me know I'm absolutely out of my mind to be rejecting straight up tens like them because I'm nothing but a fat, ugly bitch. When I bring up the irony that they were begging to fuck a fat cow only moments before, they then remind me that men will fuck anything and they would never try it with me in real life.
Anyway, all this begs the question: is it pointless to have standards on here? Or even hold yourself to some sort of level where you have the confidence to feel good about yourself without some see you next Tuesday with a bruised ego trying to bring you back down a peg or two? Are they right? Should I just resign myself to the fact that no one on here cares what I look like as long as I let them fuck me and I'm not allowed to be picky because I'm fat? "
Sadly some men think because you are very fat you should fuck any man who asks.
When you turn a man down and he calls you fat or some other nasty name just laugh and block him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As others said - sexy comes in all shapes and sizes, and beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Just because you may not fit the standards created by fashion magazines (I certainly don't), it doesn't mean you should allow any idiot to get you down. Stay confident and sexy within yourself (which, I agree, is sometimes easier said than done) and it will shine through.
It's actually quite interesting as I had a conversation lately with my 'weekend husband', regarding beauty standards that are projected in the society. I was going by those created by fashion magazines, but he said to actually look at porn magazines, as those are much more diverse. Apparently, women there come in all shapes and sizes, which was quite a shock for me. But a positive shock  .
Also, I go to swingers clubs regularly, and they taught me you can be sexy in any age/shape/size. So just keep your standards, love yourself and don't get down by spiteful comments. |
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Those classic words that they send after rejection "your loss" .... well if we didn't fancy them in the first place and said no we are clearly not losing anything!
The rude comments used to upset me when I was first on here but have learnt to just block and move on now.
It's entirely your choice who you want to meet and if someone isn't your type then that's your choice. If they are nasty when rejected then I say it was a good call to say no, obviously have zero respect for women and will get nowhere on here x |
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Men who react like that when you say no thankyou are to be pitied, I seriously wouldn't give them a second thought. Don't start questioning anything they say.
There are decent emotionally developed confident men on here we women just need to concentrate on them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Keep your head high OP. You're here to enjoy yourself and fulfil your desires. Don't let the dummy spitters knock you down. They're not worth a second thought.
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Hell OP I can relate to this...
All over me until I am nice and reply with the "thanks but etc etc" ..I then get the," well you're a freak anyway and should have died at birth" sort of crap (Yep I've actually had that).. .. it's horrible sometimes but just ignore, block and move on and leave 'em to sweat out their nonsense on their own ...one gets a thick skin after you have been on here for a while |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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op please understand this is not just you and its not a size thing i get it often when i say no thanks ..i get called awful things and im a size 8 .... i think your find its aimed at women of all size and its done by a small group of people who can not handle rejection in life and the internet gives them a protection bubble to hide behind... been swinging nearly 20 years its go worse with the growth of the internet but i laught it off and block ....and remember sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me.
ps by the way your beautiful op |
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Sad how some people think. They value someone more highly as a sexual comodity on FAB than the would in everyday life. In their find you being of Fab = an assumption youll put out = a higher value to them as a sexual comidity. People who think of you this way are people to avoid. Sadly there is no (to my knowledge) accurate equipment you can buy to detect these people when they are lying and saying in their opinion your the best thing since sliced bread. I suppose all you can use is experiance and gut instinct to combat these people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Block and move on.
However I genuinely believe men will say anything to get somewhere. So much false flattery that women and couples just don't entertain.
That doesn't mean you shouldn't have confidence, it means that they also come out with insult's just as easily as compliments if it suits them. Both should be treated with a pinch of salt |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m starting to feel bad for the women on Fab...
If you don’t reply to a unwanted message... you’re fake or up your own ass..
If you reply with a no thank you message, you receive abuse....
You just can’t win |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hell OP I can relate to this...
All over me until I am nice and reply with the "thanks but etc etc" ..I then get the," well you're a freak anyway and should have died at birth" sort of crap (Yep I've actually had that).. .. it's horrible sometimes but just ignore, block and move on and leave 'em to sweat out their nonsense on their own ...one gets a thick skin after you have been on here for a while "
That's horrible, nobody should have those things said to them just for being themselves. Some people are truly vile.
Thank you everybody for your kind words and support. I do usually brush these kinds of things off but I think I was just feeling sorry for myself at 3am,full of a cold and unable to sleep and needed a good rant. You guys are right though, I shouldn't let anybody make me believe I'm not as sexy as I feel. If I want to feel like a straight up ten I bloody well will, regardless of whether it's on here or in real life - as everybody should! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m starting to feel bad for the women on Fab...
If you don’t reply to a unwanted message... you’re fake or up your own ass..
If you reply with a no thank you message, you receive abuse....
You just can’t win "
To be fair to the men of Fab, they aren't ALL bad. Like I said, most of the time I'll get a polite reply back. It's just those handful of vindictive men that truly know how to make you feel worthless  the thing I hate most is when they block you before you have a chance to reply... Would have loved the chance to get my verbal claws out on some of these people  |
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Ah yes the abuse and block brigade....total cowards. You have to remember OP that these men couldn't pull in real life which is why they use sites like this. Thankfully most men on here are not twats though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ah yes the abuse and block brigade....total cowards. You have to remember OP that these men couldn't pull in real life which is why they use sites like this. Thankfully most men on here are not twats though."
Just to play devils advocate.....
I think it might be the opposite of what you’re thinking....
These guys probably do very well in real life , so they can’t understand why all the rejection on Fab....
This might be the genesis of all this frustration and abuse from these men... |
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"Ah yes the abuse and block brigade....total cowards. You have to remember OP that these men couldn't pull in real life which is why they use sites like this. Thankfully most men on here are not twats though.
Just to play devils advocate.....
I think it might be the opposite of what you’re thinking....
These guys probably do very well in real life , so they can’t understand why all the rejection on Fab....
This might be the genesis of all this frustration and abuse from these men..."
Then why be on Fab? |
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I've had this too OP. Thankfully they are in the minority. Most guys on here are polite and it's the odd few that can't handle the rejection. It's not just men though, like in all walks of life, horrible people aren't restricted to just one gender. Block them and have a rant then move on. No one is worth getting upset over x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ah yes the abuse and block brigade....total cowards. You have to remember OP that these men couldn't pull in real life which is why they use sites like this. Thankfully most men on here are not twats though.
Just to play devils advocate.....
I think it might be the opposite of what you’re thinking....
These guys probably do very well in real life , so they can’t understand why all the rejection on Fab....
This might be the genesis of all this frustration and abuse from these men..."
I get a lot of attention in real life too but I somehow manage not to throw my toys out the pram when I get rejected by people I've approached on here... |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"Ah yes the abuse and block brigade....total cowards. You have to remember OP that these men couldn't pull in real life which is why they use sites like this. Thankfully most men on here are not twats though.
Just to play devils advocate.....
I think it might be the opposite of what you’re thinking....
These guys probably do very well in real life , so they can’t understand why all the rejection on Fab....
This might be the genesis of all this frustration and abuse from these men...
Then why be on Fab?"
Because Fab requires less groundwork for a shag. Some vanilla women will test your worth and make you wait for several dates after investing time & money.
If you get a meet on here and it is going well the women are usually DTF. |
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"Ah yes the abuse and block brigade....total cowards. You have to remember OP that these men couldn't pull in real life which is why they use sites like this. Thankfully most men on here are not twats though.
Just to play devils advocate.....
I think it might be the opposite of what you’re thinking....
These guys probably do very well in real life , so they can’t understand why all the rejection on Fab....
This might be the genesis of all this frustration and abuse from these men...
Then why be on Fab?
Because Fab requires less groundwork for a shag. Some vanilla women will test your worth and make you wait for several dates after investing time & money.
If you get a meet on here and it is going well the women are usually DTF."
So you're saying the guys on here are lazy and tight?...seems a bit unfair. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
Chester/Wirral |
"Ah yes the abuse and block brigade....total cowards. You have to remember OP that these men couldn't pull in real life which is why they use sites like this. Thankfully most men on here are not twats though.
Just to play devils advocate.....
I think it might be the opposite of what you’re thinking....
These guys probably do very well in real life , so they can’t understand why all the rejection on Fab....
This might be the genesis of all this frustration and abuse from these men...
Then why be on Fab?
Because Fab requires less groundwork for a shag. Some vanilla women will test your worth and make you wait for several dates after investing time & money.
If you get a meet on here and it is going well the women are usually DTF.
So you're saying the guys on here are lazy and tight?...seems a bit unfair."
Not necessarily but if you're not after a relationship it's not worth the multiple dates etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Look at it in a positive way
They've shown there true colours and fact they have no manners or respect in reap life
So there actually 10's on here and zeros in real life
They've done you a favour and saved you time not having to meet them
And as you weren't keen nothing to lose . |
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It's the childish backlash mentality.
I want, I can't have, you hurt my pride, I'll hurt yours.
I'm neither fat, ugly, or have saggy tits but I've had that thrown back at me for not wanting to meet someone.
Just laugh it off OP & remember you are awesome x |
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Sexy comes in all shapes ,all sizes and shines both within and outwardly . Rejection also comes in all forms . Those that respond nastily obviously haven’t much going on within !
Not all men will fuck anyone , but that’s more to do with preference not standards . My preference is for more athletic women ,,, but my standards would not allow me to be rude or hurtful to another person on here ! |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"Sexy comes in all shapes ,all sizes and shines both within and outwardly . Rejection also comes in all forms . Those that respond nastily obviously haven’t much going on within !
Not all men will fuck anyone , but that’s more to do with preference not standards . My preference is for more athletic women ,,, but my standards would not allow me to be rude or hurtful to another person on here !"
Yeah just move on. My family raised me with impeccable manners. |
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There are no league tables on fab,somebodies 10 is another ones zero and vice a versa
Don't even bother having a conversation with these guys you reject,when they reply with stupid comments
There needs to be a mutual attraction |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
Chester/Wirral |
"There are no league tables on fab,somebodies 10 is another ones zero and vice a versa
Don't even bother having a conversation with these guys you reject,when they reply with stupid comments
There needs to be a mutual attraction "
There are leagues but they are just distorted on here. |
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"There are no league tables on fab,somebodies 10 is another ones zero and vice a versa
Don't even bother having a conversation with these guys you reject,when they reply with stupid comments
There needs to be a mutual attraction There are leagues but they are just distorted on here."
I've never believed in leagues I've met some right hotties  never had a huge ego or looked down on myself  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There are no league tables on fab,somebodies 10 is another ones zero and vice a versa
Don't even bother having a conversation with these guys you reject,when they reply with stupid comments
There needs to be a mutual attraction There are leagues but they are just distorted on here."
Please could you clarify what you mean by distorted? |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"There are no league tables on fab,somebodies 10 is another ones zero and vice a versa
Don't even bother having a conversation with these guys you reject,when they reply with stupid comments
There needs to be a mutual attraction There are leagues but they are just distorted on here.
I've never believed in leagues I've met some right hotties never had a huge ego or looked down on myself "
If the ratios weren't so lopsided they would be more clear I guess. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't stress about it. There are always gonna be a small percentage of slapped arses that just get too frustrated with the site and verbally lash out.
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"There are no league tables on fab,somebodies 10 is another ones zero and vice a versa
Don't even bother having a conversation with these guys you reject,when they reply with stupid comments
There needs to be a mutual attraction There are leagues but they are just distorted on here.
Please could you clarify what you mean by distorted? "
Women don't drop standards in general even for NSA sex. They only do if they're a nymphomaniac or doing it to please a partner. Men will drop standards for NSA.
The ratios are so out of sync that it gives a misleading and false impression (distorted) to people.
Some women can buy into the delusion a bit but the only reason they get the attention sometimes is because of the prospect of NSA sex. |
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"There are no league tables on fab,somebodies 10 is another ones zero and vice a versa
Don't even bother having a conversation with these guys you reject,when they reply with stupid comments
There needs to be a mutual attraction There are leagues but they are just distorted on here.
I've never believed in leagues I've met some right hotties never had a huge ego or looked down on myself If the ratios weren't so lopsided they would be more clear I guess."
Think I'm getting what you mean,the any hole brigade  because there are less woman,it's often thrown back at us, that are maybe a bit plainer,that guys wouldn't meet us if had more choice of 'hot woman'
The difference is like in the real world plain woman of all shapes and sizes do have relationships too,so swinging is no different,we are all attracted to different people
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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago
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"Just been told by someone I might be a ten on fab but I'd be a five in real life (for context - this was after I'd rejected him and he hadn't seen my face, only the public pics on my profile). As shitty as that is to hear, it's not exactly the first time I've heard this on here. Nine times out of ten when I say thanks but no thanks my message either gets deleted (which is absolutely fine) or I get a polite "no worries, thanks for letting me know" back. But then I get those that think they should be letting me know I'm absolutely out of my mind to be rejecting straight up tens like them because I'm nothing but a fat, ugly bitch. When I bring up the irony that they were begging to fuck a fat cow only moments before, they then remind me that men will fuck anything and they would never try it with me in real life.
Anyway, all this begs the question: is it pointless to have standards on here? Or even hold yourself to some sort of level where you have the confidence to feel good about yourself without some see you next Tuesday with a bruised ego trying to bring you back down a peg or two? Are they right? Should I just resign myself to the fact that no one on here cares what I look like as long as I let them fuck me and I'm not allowed to be picky because I'm fat? "
You don;t owe anyone anything, your standards are your own and never compromise on them. Ignore the idiotic spit he dummy out rejection replies, they just highlight what a good choice you made in rejecting their advances.
Stay true to yourself, you look amazing and I hope you have much more luck in the future. One silver lining is the idiots make it really easy to fill up your Block list or Cockwomble Collection as we call ours. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"There are no league tables on fab,somebodies 10 is another ones zero and vice a versa
Don't even bother having a conversation with these guys you reject,when they reply with stupid comments
There needs to be a mutual attraction There are leagues but they are just distorted on here.
I've never believed in leagues I've met some right hotties never had a huge ego or looked down on myself If the ratios weren't so lopsided they would be more clear I guess.
Think I'm getting what you mean,the any hole brigade because there are less woman,it's often thrown back at us, that are maybe a bit plainer,that guys wouldn't meet us if had more choice of 'hot woman'
The difference is like in the real world plain woman of all shapes and sizes do have relationships too,so swinging is no different,we are all attracted to different people
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Some men who just join will be looking to use women as stepping stones to get veris and get established.
They hope this will attract the type of women they want. So quite a few women who aren't shrewd can just get used and abused on here unfortunately. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Just been told by someone I might be a ten on fab but I'd be a five in real life (for context - this was after I'd rejected him and he hadn't seen my face, only the public pics on my profile). As shitty as that is to hear, it's not exactly the first time I've heard this on here. Nine times out of ten when I say thanks but no thanks my message either gets deleted (which is absolutely fine) or I get a polite "no worries, thanks for letting me know" back. But then I get those that think they should be letting me know I'm absolutely out of my mind to be rejecting straight up tens like them because I'm nothing but a fat, ugly bitch. When I bring up the irony that they were begging to fuck a fat cow only moments before, they then remind me that men will fuck anything and they would never try it with me in real life.
Anyway, all this begs the question: is it pointless to have standards on here? Or even hold yourself to some sort of level where you have the confidence to feel good about yourself without some see you next Tuesday with a bruised ego trying to bring you back down a peg or two? Are they right? Should I just resign myself to the fact that no one on here cares what I look like as long as I let them fuck me and I'm not allowed to be picky because I'm fat?
You don;t owe anyone anything, your standards are your own and never compromise on them. Ignore the idiotic spit he dummy out rejection replies, they just highlight what a good choice you made in rejecting their advances.
Stay true to yourself, you look amazing and I hope you have much more luck in the future. One silver lining is the idiots make it really easy to fill up your Block list or Cockwomble Collection as we call ours."
Cockwomble Collection hahaha I love it! Thanks! |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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They're just hurts because they are not good with rejection. There's no true scale of where people are on on one to ten, it's all perspective.
You are entitled to use the site exactly how you want and only let people that you are attracted to to be with (on the site or not). It doesn't matter what anybody else thinks or says, you should do what you want, and give your time to those who you are attracted to and feel the same way about you. Have a good time and ignore those who are not worthy of it. |
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"There are no league tables on fab,somebodies 10 is another ones zero and vice a versa
Don't even bother having a conversation with these guys you reject,when they reply with stupid comments
There needs to be a mutual attraction There are leagues but they are just distorted on here.
I've never believed in leagues I've met some right hotties never had a huge ego or looked down on myself If the ratios weren't so lopsided they would be more clear I guess.
Think I'm getting what you mean,the any hole brigade because there are less woman,it's often thrown back at us, that are maybe a bit plainer,that guys wouldn't meet us if had more choice of 'hot woman'
The difference is like in the real world plain woman of all shapes and sizes do have relationships too,so swinging is no different,we are all attracted to different people
Some men who just join will be looking to use women as stepping stones to get veris and get established.
They hope this will attract the type of women they want. So quite a few women who aren't shrewd can just get used and abused on here unfortunately."
Yes I do agree with you there,I've been here over 6 years so I don't fall for any of that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There are no league tables on fab,somebodies 10 is another ones zero and vice a versa
Don't even bother having a conversation with these guys you reject,when they reply with stupid comments
There needs to be a mutual attraction There are leagues but they are just distorted on here.
I've never believed in leagues I've met some right hotties never had a huge ego or looked down on myself If the ratios weren't so lopsided they would be more clear I guess.
Think I'm getting what you mean,the any hole brigade because there are less woman,it's often thrown back at us, that are maybe a bit plainer,that guys wouldn't meet us if had more choice of 'hot woman'
The difference is like in the real world plain woman of all shapes and sizes do have relationships too,so swinging is no different,we are all attracted to different people
Some men who just join will be looking to use women as stepping stones to get veris and get established.
They hope this will attract the type of women they want. So quite a few women who aren't shrewd can just get used and abused on here unfortunately."
So these men really don't want to have sex with normal women, they just using to get to the hot ones?
I'm not convinced to be honest |
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It's one thing not finding someone attractive but why can't people keep it in their heads and not be such an utter bellend about it by setting about with the hurtful comments? I hate the way the anonymity of the internet has created this toxic culture (and it's not just on here). None of them would dare say it face to face. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"There are no league tables on fab,somebodies 10 is another ones zero and vice a versa
Don't even bother having a conversation with these guys you reject,when they reply with stupid comments
There needs to be a mutual attraction There are leagues but they are just distorted on here.
I've never believed in leagues I've met some right hotties never had a huge ego or looked down on myself If the ratios weren't so lopsided they would be more clear I guess.
Think I'm getting what you mean,the any hole brigade because there are less woman,it's often thrown back at us, that are maybe a bit plainer,that guys wouldn't meet us if had more choice of 'hot woman'
The difference is like in the real world plain woman of all shapes and sizes do have relationships too,so swinging is no different,we are all attracted to different people
Some men who just join will be looking to use women as stepping stones to get veris and get established.
They hope this will attract the type of women they want. So quite a few women who aren't shrewd can just get used and abused on here unfortunately.
So these men really don't want to have sex with normal women, they just using to get to the hot ones?
I'm not convinced to be honest"
Not all of them but when women say on here "I don't know why he messaged me, he's too good looking and gym fit etc" Them guys. |
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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago
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"It's one thing not finding someone attractive but why can't people keep it in their heads and not be such an utter bellend about it by setting about with the hurtful comments? I hate the way the anonymity of the internet has created this toxic culture (and it's not just on here). None of them would dare say it face to face."
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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Makes me chuckle that people (not just men) throw out the 'well I wouldn't be interested in real life anyway' line only after they've been rejected.
Strange that their initial message isn't something like "well you're only a 5 in real life but....".
I wonder why?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are no league tables on fab,somebodies 10 is another ones zero and vice a versa
Don't even bother having a conversation with these guys you reject,when they reply with stupid comments
There needs to be a mutual attraction There are leagues but they are just distorted on here.
Please could you clarify what you mean by distorted? "
Some (not all) women get very bigheaded when they join Fab.
There are women on here that would get ignored in a pub or a night club. Either because they are fat, ugly or both. Nobody would be trying to chat them up and get them into bed.
Then they come on Fab and have lots of guys telling them they are sexy, gorgeous, etc. Then the women get massive egos. A woman who may be a 2 out of 10 suddenly thinks she should only have guys who are a 9 or a 10.
You see it all the time in chat. A fat or ugly woman comes on webcam and lots of guys are telling her how sexy and gorgeous she is.
I blame those guys for giving the ugly fat women big egos.
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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago
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"There are no league tables on fab,somebodies 10 is another ones zero and vice a versa
Don't even bother having a conversation with these guys you reject,when they reply with stupid comments
There needs to be a mutual attraction There are leagues but they are just distorted on here.
Please could you clarify what you mean by distorted?
Some (not all) women get very bigheaded when they join Fab.
There are women on here that would get ignored in a pub or a night club. Either because they are fat, ugly or both. Nobody would be trying to chat them up and get them into bed.
Then they come on Fab and have lots of guys telling them they are sexy, gorgeous, etc. Then the women get massive egos. A woman who may be a 2 out of 10 suddenly thinks she should only have guys who are a 9 or a 10.
You see it all the time in chat. A fat or ugly woman comes on webcam and lots of guys are telling her how sexy and gorgeous she is.
I blame those guys for giving the ugly fat women big egos.
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The only ugly coming out of that post is your attitude. Talking of ego's |
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By *iReyWoman
over a year ago
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Youd be a 10 in real life to me, I'd show you off everywhere
But no, it's not wrong to have standards at all. I've got standards, particularly no men under 6ft as I find tall dark haired men very attractive. It states this in my profile, yet when I decline 5 foot 6 blonde Billy he decides to tell me I'm a. Ugly fat cow.
Dont dwell on it, they're just butthurt you turned them down. Keep your standards and tell any other person who tells you you're a 5 in real life to kiss your ass |
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He's just showing himself as sexually desperate really. Has higher standards for a relationship than he does for sex.
I'm the other way round, relationships are deeper than sex and therefore many things are atractive to me when it comes to elationships, but for casual sex you have to turn me on so have to be hot/sexy physically. |
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over a year ago
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"There are no league tables on fab,somebodies 10 is another ones zero and vice a versa
Don't even bother having a conversation with these guys you reject,when they reply with stupid comments
There needs to be a mutual attraction There are leagues but they are just distorted on here.
Please could you clarify what you mean by distorted?
Some (not all) women get very bigheaded when they join Fab.
There are women on here that would get ignored in a pub or a night club. Either because they are fat, ugly or both. Nobody would be trying to chat them up and get them into bed.
Then they come on Fab and have lots of guys telling them they are sexy, gorgeous, etc. Then the women get massive egos. A woman who may be a 2 out of 10 suddenly thinks she should only have guys who are a 9 or a 10.
You see it all the time in chat. A fat or ugly woman comes on webcam and lots of guys are telling her how sexy and gorgeous she is.
I blame those guys for giving the ugly fat women big egos.
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Look out ladies. Here's another cockwomble to add to the collection  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There are no league tables on fab,somebodies 10 is another ones zero and vice a versa
Don't even bother having a conversation with these guys you reject,when they reply with stupid comments
There needs to be a mutual attraction There are leagues but they are just distorted on here.
Please could you clarify what you mean by distorted?
Some (not all) women get very bigheaded when they join Fab.
There are women on here that would get ignored in a pub or a night club. Either because they are fat, ugly or both. Nobody would be trying to chat them up and get them into bed.
Then they come on Fab and have lots of guys telling them they are sexy, gorgeous, etc. Then the women get massive egos. A woman who may be a 2 out of 10 suddenly thinks she should only have guys who are a 9 or a 10.
You see it all the time in chat. A fat or ugly woman comes on webcam and lots of guys are telling her how sexy and gorgeous she is.
I blame those guys for giving the ugly fat women big egos.
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You sir have my eternal gratitude for sacrificing your image on the forums and giving a honest well thought out post....
It takes a lot of courage to do what you did and for that you should be honored....
I’m just happy that in this land of sycophants there are still some true seekers among us....
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"There are women on here that would get ignored in a pub or a night club. Either because they are fat, ugly or both. Nobody would be trying to chat them up and get them into bed.
Then they come on Fab and have lots of guys telling them they are sexy, gorgeous, etc. Then the women get massive egos. A woman who may be a 2 out of 10 suddenly thinks she should only have guys who are a 9 or a 10.
You see it all the time in chat. A fat or ugly woman comes on webcam and lots of guys are telling her how sexy and gorgeous she is.
I blame those guys for giving the ugly fat women big egos.
You sir have my eternal gratitude for sacrificing your image on the forums and giving a honest well thought out post....
It takes a lot of courage to do what you did and for that you should be honored....
I’m just happy that in this land of sycophants there are still some true seekers among us....
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How soon is he going to go UNLOS? Unless he has no clue that he has just committed Fab suicide? |
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"There are no league tables on fab,somebodies 10 is another ones zero and vice a versa
Don't even bother having a conversation with these guys you reject,when they reply with stupid comments
There needs to be a mutual attraction There are leagues but they are just distorted on here.
Please could you clarify what you mean by distorted?
Some (not all) women get very bigheaded when they join Fab.
There are women on here that would get ignored in a pub or a night club. Either because they are fat, ugly or both. Nobody would be trying to chat them up and get them into bed.
Then they come on Fab and have lots of guys telling them they are sexy, gorgeous, etc. Then the women get massive egos. A woman who may be a 2 out of 10 suddenly thinks she should only have guys who are a 9 or a 10.
You see it all the time in chat. A fat or ugly woman comes on webcam and lots of guys are telling her how sexy and gorgeous she is.
I blame those guys for giving the ugly fat women big egos.
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I think having a good ego and self confidence is a good thing.
I agree it's true that some people get an overinflated ego in a negative way. It will come back to bite both sides. |
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"There are women on here that would get ignored in a pub or a night club. Either because they are fat, ugly or both. Nobody would be trying to chat them up and get them into bed.
Then they come on Fab and have lots of guys telling them they are sexy, gorgeous, etc. Then the women get massive egos. A woman who may be a 2 out of 10 suddenly thinks she should only have guys who are a 9 or a 10.
You see it all the time in chat. A fat or ugly woman comes on webcam and lots of guys are telling her how sexy and gorgeous she is.
I blame those guys for giving the ugly fat women big egos.
You sir have my eternal gratitude for sacrificing your image on the forums and giving a honest well thought out post....
It takes a lot of courage to do what you did and for that you should be honored....
I’m just happy that in this land of sycophants there are still some true seekers among us....
How soon is he going to go UNLOS? Unless he has no clue that he has just committed Fab suicide?"
Fabicide from a forum comment?! Dont be silly! |
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"There are no league tables on fab,somebodies 10 is another ones zero and vice a versa
Don't even bother having a conversation with these guys you reject,when they reply with stupid comments
There needs to be a mutual attraction There are leagues but they are just distorted on here.
Please could you clarify what you mean by distorted?
Some (not all) women get very bigheaded when they join Fab.
There are women on here that would get ignored in a pub or a night club. Either because they are fat, ugly or both. Nobody would be trying to chat them up and get them into bed.
Then they come on Fab and have lots of guys telling them they are sexy, gorgeous, etc. Then the women get massive egos. A woman who may be a 2 out of 10 suddenly thinks she should only have guys who are a 9 or a 10.
You see it all the time in chat. A fat or ugly woman comes on webcam and lots of guys are telling her how sexy and gorgeous she is.
I blame those guys for giving the ugly fat women big egos.
"
On the other end of that though there are loads of guys online who have literally nothing to offer women apart from their dick, and they think all sexual women are desperate for said dick.
We like sex but you know dildos have been around for centuries coz if we just want dick then that'll do. Many men don't get that if we want more than something hard inside of us then he has to make some effort to seduce us or at least keep us turned on and not turn us off with unattractive proposals. |
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"Just been told by someone I might be a ten on fab but I'd be a five in real life (for context - this was after I'd rejected him and he hadn't seen my face, only the public pics on my profile). As shitty as that is to hear, it's not exactly the first time I've heard this on here. Nine times out of ten when I say thanks but no thanks my message either gets deleted (which is absolutely fine) or I get a polite "no worries, thanks for letting me know" back. But then I get those that think they should be letting me know I'm absolutely out of my mind to be rejecting straight up tens like them because I'm nothing but a fat, ugly bitch. When I bring up the irony that they were begging to fuck a fat cow only moments before, they then remind me that men will fuck anything and they would never try it with me in real life.
Anyway, all this begs the question: is it pointless to have standards on here? Or even hold yourself to some sort of level where you have the confidence to feel good about yourself without some see you next Tuesday with a bruised ego trying to bring you back down a peg or two? Are they right? Should I just resign myself to the fact that no one on here cares what I look like as long as I let them fuck me and I'm not allowed to be picky because I'm fat? "
Only just seen this post, lovely and there’s a load of comments I don’t have the time to sift through (apologies) so if I echo anything already said, please forgive me.
Don’t you dare EVER lose your standards..!
Listen from my 3-4 months on here, I’ve never settled for anyone I didn’t really fancy just for the sake of it.
Realistically; I know I’m not beautiful, I know I’m not skinny, modelesque etc etc but whether I am or I’m not I’m well aware that the majority just see “fresh meat” because they confuse swinging with hook-up with no respect for an established community, theirselves and the likes of you and I and anyone with a modicum of intelligence and decorum.
So I maintain my standards and have met some wonderful people. The 20% of not so wonderful is a reflection of them, not me.
Treat people how you wish to be treated... x |
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"Just been told by someone I might be a ten on fab but I'd be a five in real life (for context - this was after I'd rejected him and he hadn't seen my face, only the public pics on my profile). As shitty as that is to hear, it's not exactly the first time I've heard this on here. Nine times out of ten when I say thanks but no thanks my message either gets deleted (which is absolutely fine) or I get a polite "no worries, thanks for letting me know" back. But then I get those that think they should be letting me know I'm absolutely out of my mind to be rejecting straight up tens like them because I'm nothing but a fat, ugly bitch. When I bring up the irony that they were begging to fuck a fat cow only moments before, they then remind me that men will fuck anything and they would never try it with me in real life.
Anyway, all this begs the question: is it pointless to have standards on here? Or even hold yourself to some sort of level where you have the confidence to feel good about yourself without some see you next Tuesday with a bruised ego trying to bring you back down a peg or two? Are they right? Should I just resign myself to the fact that no one on here cares what I look like as long as I let them fuck me and I'm not allowed to be picky because I'm fat?
Only just seen this post, lovely and there’s a load of comments I don’t have the time to sift through (apologies) so if I echo anything already said, please forgive me.
Don’t you dare EVER lose your standards..!
Listen from my 3-4 months on here, I’ve never settled for anyone I didn’t really fancy just for the sake of it.
Realistically; I know I’m not beautiful, I know I’m not skinny, modelesque etc etc but whether I am or I’m not I’m well aware that the majority just see “fresh meat” because they confuse swinging with hook-up with no respect for an established community, theirselves and the likes of you and I and anyone with a modicum of intelligence and decorum.
So I maintain my standards and have met some wonderful people. The 20% of not so wonderful is a reflection of them, not me.
Treat people how you wish to be treated... x "
PS As a straight bird, I can honestly say from what I have seen of your profile you are very pretty x |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"There are no league tables on fab,somebodies 10 is another ones zero and vice a versa
Don't even bother having a conversation with these guys you reject,when they reply with stupid comments
There needs to be a mutual attraction There are leagues but they are just distorted on here.
Please could you clarify what you mean by distorted?
Some (not all) women get very bigheaded when they join Fab.
There are women on here that would get ignored in a pub or a night club. Either because they are fat, ugly or both. Nobody would be trying to chat them up and get them into bed.
Then they come on Fab and have lots of guys telling them they are sexy, gorgeous, etc. Then the women get massive egos. A woman who may be a 2 out of 10 suddenly thinks she should only have guys who are a 9 or a 10.
You see it all the time in chat. A fat or ugly woman comes on webcam and lots of guys are telling her how sexy and gorgeous she is.
I blame those guys for giving the ugly fat women big egos.
You sir have my eternal gratitude for sacrificing your image on the forums and giving a honest well thought out post....
It takes a lot of courage to do what you did and for that you should be honored....
I’m just happy that in this land of sycophants there are still some true seekers among us....
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He is a brave man. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Balls to him, sour grapes that’s all. I get it all the time, a nice message saying a mature cougar is their fantasy and then when I say no thank you I suddenly become a fat old slag with a chicken neck...keep your head held high and tits up higher...just block and move on x |
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"Remember that sexy comes in all different shapes and sizes. You deserve to be as picky as you like and guys who make comments over your weight aren't worth any time thinking about. For what it's worth, if I lived closer I'd definitely consider myself lucky if we met Stay sexy x"
If we were all meant to be the same would be born sheep |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ah yes the abuse and block brigade....total cowards. You have to remember OP that these men couldn't pull in real life which is why they use sites like this. Thankfully most men on here are not twats though."
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It's basically an egomania/control freak thing. When they get knocked back they feel like they're no longer the one driving the situation, this makes them lash out so they can kid themselves into thinking that it's their idea for you nut to fuck them, or whatever. I was selling a car on Facebook a couple of months back, it took me an hour or two to take down the advert after the new owner collected it. In that time some else messaged. When I told him he'd missed it, he said "oh, it was too expensive anyway"....
"err... Ok then mate, I guess that's why it's sold already..."
Just... Odd. OP don't take it to heart, just remember they are just rude assholes who give the rest of us a bad name. |
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"It's basically an egomania/control freak thing. When they get knocked back they feel like they're no longer the one driving the situation, this makes them lash out so they can kid themselves into thinking that it's their idea for you nut to fuck them, or whatever. I was selling a car on Facebook a couple of months back, it took me an hour or two to take down the advert after the new owner collected it. In that time some else messaged. When I told him he'd missed it, he said "oh, it was too expensive anyway"....
"err... Ok then mate, I guess that's why it's sold already..."
Just... Odd. OP don't take it to heart, just remember they are just rude assholes who give the rest of us a bad name. "
Over a car? Brilliant example! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There are no league tables on fab,somebodies 10 is another ones zero and vice a versa
Don't even bother having a conversation with these guys you reject,when they reply with stupid comments
There needs to be a mutual attraction There are leagues but they are just distorted on here.
Please could you clarify what you mean by distorted?
Some (not all) women get very bigheaded when they join Fab.
There are women on here that would get ignored in a pub or a night club. Either because they are fat, ugly or both. Nobody would be trying to chat them up and get them into bed.
Then they come on Fab and have lots of guys telling them they are sexy, gorgeous, etc. Then the women get massive egos. A woman who may be a 2 out of 10 suddenly thinks she should only have guys who are a 9 or a 10.
You see it all the time in chat. A fat or ugly woman comes on webcam and lots of guys are telling her how sexy and gorgeous she is.
I blame those guys for giving the ugly fat women big egos.
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... What about big pants covering a crinkly bottom on a guy under 5'8! Must have its problems too! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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some people can’t take rejection and when this is coupled with ‘full ball syndrome’ they turn nasty.
Best way to deal with anyone who messages you who doesn’t take your fancy is to block and delete the message. |
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"There are no league tables on fab,somebodies 10 is another ones zero and vice a versa
Don't even bother having a conversation with these guys you reject,when they reply with stupid comments
There needs to be a mutual attraction There are leagues but they are just distorted on here.
Please could you clarify what you mean by distorted?
Some (not all) women get very bigheaded when they join Fab.
There are women on here that would get ignored in a pub or a night club. Either because they are fat, ugly or both. Nobody would be trying to chat them up and get them into bed.
Then they come on Fab and have lots of guys telling them they are sexy, gorgeous, etc. Then the women get massive egos. A woman who may be a 2 out of 10 suddenly thinks she should only have guys who are a 9 or a 10.
You see it all the time in chat. A fat or ugly woman comes on webcam and lots of guys are telling her how sexy and gorgeous she is.
I blame those guys for giving the ugly fat women big egos.
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Beauty is subjective, just as preference for size. So be very careful sunshine!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There are no league tables on fab,somebodies 10 is another ones zero and vice a versa
Don't even bother having a conversation with these guys you reject,when they reply with stupid comments
There needs to be a mutual attraction There are leagues but they are just distorted on here.
Please could you clarify what you mean by distorted?
Some (not all) women get very bigheaded when they join Fab.
There are women on here that would get ignored in a pub or a night club. Either because they are fat, ugly or both. Nobody would be trying to chat them up and get them into bed.
Then they come on Fab and have lots of guys telling them they are sexy, gorgeous, etc. Then the women get massive egos. A woman who may be a 2 out of 10 suddenly thinks she should only have guys who are a 9 or a 10.
You see it all the time in chat. A fat or ugly woman comes on webcam and lots of guys are telling her how sexy and gorgeous she is.
I blame those guys for giving the ugly fat women big egos.
You sir have my eternal gratitude for sacrificing your image on the forums and giving a honest well thought out post....
It takes a lot of courage to do what you did and for that you should be honored....
I’m just happy that in this land of sycophants there are still some true seekers among us....
"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There are no league tables on fab,somebodies 10 is another ones zero and vice a versa
Don't even bother having a conversation with these guys you reject,when they reply with stupid comments
There needs to be a mutual attraction There are leagues but they are just distorted on here.
Please could you clarify what you mean by distorted?
Some (not all) women get very bigheaded when they join Fab.
There are women on here that would get ignored in a pub or a night club. Either because they are fat, ugly or both. Nobody would be trying to chat them up and get them into bed.
Then they come on Fab and have lots of guys telling them they are sexy, gorgeous, etc. Then the women get massive egos. A woman who may be a 2 out of 10 suddenly thinks she should only have guys who are a 9 or a 10.
You see it all the time in chat. A fat or ugly woman comes on webcam and lots of guys are telling her how sexy and gorgeous she is.
I blame those guys for giving the ugly fat women big egos.
On the other end of that though there are loads of guys online who have literally nothing to offer women apart from their dick, and they think all sexual women are desperate for said dick.
We like sex but you know dildos have been around for centuries coz if we just want dick then that'll do. Many men don't get that if we want more than something hard inside of us then he has to make some effort to seduce us or at least keep us turned on and not turn us off with unattractive proposals."
Some dildos would get more fabs than dick pis |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The reality is, some will be willing to meet someone on here, who they wouldn't look at twice in real life. Everybody knows that. I know that i wouldnt attract a strapping 25 year old gym bunny, if i were walking down the street, yet still they would message and try their luck. Women are able to be picky on here. There's nothing wrong with that at all. Just enjoy the fab experience and may i add, if you keep getting messages wherby men are abusive upon rejection, just possibly stop replying. Or say no thank you, then block, so they cant reply. You shouldn't have to tolerate abuse. Nobody on here should |
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The minority of men that take offence when you say no thank you, pick on whatever they think will be your insecurity to abuse you with.
I recently met a guy for a quick drink and he messaged after and I said he wasn’t for me. I had a really long message which started with something along the lines of “you older women .....” I didn’t read the rest as it didn’t deserve my time. I replied “I was right about you” and blocked him. They are weak men who can’t take rejection, sad but true.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The minority of men that take offence when you say no thank you, pick on whatever they think will be your insecurity to abuse you with.
I recently met a guy for a quick drink and he messaged after and I said he wasn’t for me. I had a really long message which started with something along the lines of “you older women .....” I didn’t read the rest as it didn’t deserve my time. I replied “I was right about you” and blocked him. They are weak men who can’t take rejection, sad but true.
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Some men have bad manners, with the number of men on the site, as a man you should expect the odd rejection. Not everyone will find me attractive. I turned down a couple and they were shocked, that i turned them down, i was not attracted to them. Not desperate or attracted to everyone
Sorry the OP had a bad experience. Most fabbers are polite.hspoy swinging ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have standards.
However I treat everyone as an equal. I'm no better than anyone else, but no one else is better than me. I like who I like and make no apology for it. I won't get bittet and twisted if I don't appeal to someone though. Life is too short. |
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"Just been told by someone I might be a ten on fab but I'd be a five in real life (for context - this was after I'd rejected him and he hadn't seen my face, only the public pics on my profile). As shitty as that is to hear, it's not exactly the first time I've heard this on here. Nine times out of ten when I say thanks but no thanks my message either gets deleted (which is absolutely fine) or I get a polite "no worries, thanks for letting me know" back. But then I get those that think they should be letting me know I'm absolutely out of my mind to be rejecting straight up tens like them because I'm nothing but a fat, ugly bitch. When I bring up the irony that they were begging to fuck a fat cow only moments before, they then remind me that men will fuck anything and they would never try it with me in real life.
Anyway, all this begs the question: is it pointless to have standards on here? Or even hold yourself to some sort of level where you have the confidence to feel good about yourself without some see you next Tuesday with a bruised ego trying to bring you back down a peg or two? Are they right? Should I just resign myself to the fact that no one on here cares what I look like as long as I let them fuck me and I'm not allowed to be picky because I'm fat? "
As cruel or horrible as he may of been, he does have a point. Various users have replied to your post stating you’re beautiful and would love to meet you, but none have even seen your face to know!! This proves that yes, majority of men will fuck anything.
Being a 10 on fab but a 5 in reality is also a valid point. Majority of the women/couples I’ve met on fab, I would never have an interest in reality. It’s only because they’re offering NSA sex why I’ve shown interest. |
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By *roy9Man
over a year ago
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If it wasn't hurtful it would be amusing how some men can't take rejection, even a polite one. I often think that the guy's who are full of compliments and friendliness are just reveling their true nature when they send insults as a result of rejection.
I only really became aware of how much misogyny there was in society when I cam onto fab. It is one of a number of bad behaviours that exist on here. Which is sad as in my view, Fab should be a site for finding connection and friendship without complication. |
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"Just been told by someone I might be a ten on fab but I'd be a five in real life (for context - this was after I'd rejected him and he hadn't seen my face, only the public pics on my profile). As shitty as that is to hear, it's not exactly the first time I've heard this on here. Nine times out of ten when I say thanks but no thanks my message either gets deleted (which is absolutely fine) or I get a polite "no worries, thanks for letting me know" back. But then I get those that think they should be letting me know I'm absolutely out of my mind to be rejecting straight up tens like them because I'm nothing but a fat, ugly bitch. When I bring up the irony that they were begging to fuck a fat cow only moments before, they then remind me that men will fuck anything and they would never try it with me in real life.
Anyway, all this begs the question: is it pointless to have standards on here? Or even hold yourself to some sort of level where you have the confidence to feel good about yourself without some see you next Tuesday with a bruised ego trying to bring you back down a peg or two? Are they right? Should I just resign myself to the fact that no one on here cares what I look like as long as I let them fuck me and I'm not allowed to be picky because I'm fat?
As cruel or horrible as he may of been, he does have a point. Various users have replied to your post stating you’re beautiful and would love to meet you, but none have even seen your face to know!! This proves that yes, majority of men will fuck anything.
Being a 10 on fab but a 5 in reality is also a valid point. Majority of the women/couples I’ve met on fab, I would never have an interest in reality. It’s only because they’re offering NSA sex why I’ve shown interest. "
True and honest points, although there is in most cases something attractive or sexy about someone |
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The truths are
1. Most men will be willing to have sex with most women. Thus if a man messages a woman on here, he probably doesn't consider her in any way "special", she's a woman open to casual sex. That's generally enough.
2. Lots of men hate rejection and will lash out if explicitly rejected.
The good news for women on here, in that they have the pick of lots of hot men. As for 2, that's easily avoided by just not replying where you have no interest. |
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There are also men who are a 6 at best who think they are a 10, because women in clubs have no 7+ men to choose from, so take the best of a bad bunch. Also a big dick is enough for some women.
I find it amusing that the men talking about women being fat and ugly are lower leagues themselves. |
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"The truths are
1. Most men will be willing to have sex with most women. Thus if a man messages a woman on here, he probably doesn't consider her in any way "special", she's a woman open to casual sex. That's generally enough.
2. Lots of men hate rejection and will lash out if explicitly rejected.
The good news for women on here, in that they have the pick of lots of hot men. As for 2, that's easily avoided by just not replying where you have no interest. "
And men wonder why women make them jump through hoops. |
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Some (not all) of the males on here have monsterous ego's, delusions of grandeur and a huge sense of self entitlement. Dent their ego or deny them their entitlement and that's it, they simply have to hurl abuse to make themselves feel better. But remember folks, it's a sad pathetic weasel of a man that aims abuse at a woman no matter what the reason. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have standards.
However I treat everyone as an equal. I'm no better than anyone else, but no one else is better than me. I like who I like and make no apology for it. I won't get bittet and twisted if I don't appeal to someone though. Life is too short."
Some blokes get bitter about their messages unread/deleted. The human race is a funny old thing. |
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"There are also men who are a 6 at best who think they are a 10, because women in clubs have no 7+ men to choose from, so take the best of a bad bunch. Also a big dick is enough for some women.
I find it amusing that the men talking about women being fat and ugly are lower leagues themselves. "
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"Just been told by someone I might be a ten on fab but I'd be a five in real life (for context - this was after I'd rejected him and he hadn't seen my face, only the public pics on my profile). As shitty as that is to hear, it's not exactly the first time I've heard this on here. Nine times out of ten when I say thanks but no thanks my message either gets deleted (which is absolutely fine) or I get a polite "no worries, thanks for letting me know" back. But then I get those that think they should be letting me know I'm absolutely out of my mind to be rejecting straight up tens like them because I'm nothing but a fat, ugly bitch. When I bring up the irony that they were begging to fuck a fat cow only moments before, they then remind me that men will fuck anything and they would never try it with me in real life.
Anyway, all this begs the question: is it pointless to have standards on here? Or even hold yourself to some sort of level where you have the confidence to feel good about yourself without some see you next Tuesday with a bruised ego trying to bring you back down a peg or two? Are they right? Should I just resign myself to the fact that no one on here cares what I look like as long as I let them fuck me and I'm not allowed to be picky because I'm fat?
As cruel or horrible as he may of been, he does have a point. Various users have replied to your post stating you’re beautiful and would love to meet you, but none have even seen your face to know!! This proves that yes, majority of men will fuck anything.
Being a 10 on fab but a 5 in reality is also a valid point. Majority of the women/couples I’ve met on fab, I would never have an interest in reality. It’s only because they’re offering NSA sex why I’ve shown interest. "
Lots of women on here think that this is the way lots of guys on here really think, and i have to say i think that is a fair assessment(not all guys obviously, nor all women) When you see comments like this, my opinion of guys on here is definitely affected in a negative way and reinforces those initial thoughts. |
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"Just been told by someone I might be a ten on fab but I'd be a five in real life (for context - this was after I'd rejected him and he hadn't seen my face, only the public pics on my profile). As shitty as that is to hear, it's not exactly the first time I've heard this on here. Nine times out of ten when I say thanks but no thanks my message either gets deleted (which is absolutely fine) or I get a polite "no worries, thanks for letting me know" back. But then I get those that think they should be letting me know I'm absolutely out of my mind to be rejecting straight up tens like them because I'm nothing but a fat, ugly bitch. When I bring up the irony that they were begging to fuck a fat cow only moments before, they then remind me that men will fuck anything and they would never try it with me in real life.
Anyway, all this begs the question: is it pointless to have standards on here? Or even hold yourself to some sort of level where you have the confidence to feel good about yourself without some see you next Tuesday with a bruised ego trying to bring you back down a peg or two? Are they right? Should I just resign myself to the fact that no one on here cares what I look like as long as I let them fuck me and I'm not allowed to be picky because I'm fat?
As cruel or horrible as he may of been, he does have a point. Various users have replied to your post stating you’re beautiful and would love to meet you, but none have even seen your face to know!! This proves that yes, majority of men will fuck anything.
Being a 10 on fab but a 5 in reality is also a valid point. Majority of the women/couples I’ve met on fab, I would never have an interest in reality. It’s only because they’re offering NSA sex why I’ve shown interest.
Lots of women on here think that this is the way lots of guys on here really think, and i have to say i think that is a fair assessment(not all guys obviously, nor all women) When you see comments like this, my opinion of guys on here is definitely affected in a negative way and reinforces those initial thoughts. "
You have nothing to worry about.....
Your inbox will be full of men trying to meet you and sending you compliments daily... |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"Just been told by someone I might be a ten on fab but I'd be a five in real life (for context - this was after I'd rejected him and he hadn't seen my face, only the public pics on my profile). As shitty as that is to hear, it's not exactly the first time I've heard this on here. Nine times out of ten when I say thanks but no thanks my message either gets deleted (which is absolutely fine) or I get a polite "no worries, thanks for letting me know" back. But then I get those that think they should be letting me know I'm absolutely out of my mind to be rejecting straight up tens like them because I'm nothing but a fat, ugly bitch. When I bring up the irony that they were begging to fuck a fat cow only moments before, they then remind me that men will fuck anything and they would never try it with me in real life.
Anyway, all this begs the question: is it pointless to have standards on here? Or even hold yourself to some sort of level where you have the confidence to feel good about yourself without some see you next Tuesday with a bruised ego trying to bring you back down a peg or two? Are they right? Should I just resign myself to the fact that no one on here cares what I look like as long as I let them fuck me and I'm not allowed to be picky because I'm fat?
As cruel or horrible as he may of been, he does have a point. Various users have replied to your post stating you’re beautiful and would love to meet you, but none have even seen your face to know!! This proves that yes, majority of men will fuck anything.
Being a 10 on fab but a 5 in reality is also a valid point. Majority of the women/couples I’ve met on fab, I would never have an interest in reality. It’s only because they’re offering NSA sex why I’ve shown interest.
Lots of women on here think that this is the way lots of guys on here really think, and i have to say i think that is a fair assessment(not all guys obviously, nor all women) When you see comments like this, my opinion of guys on here is definitely affected in a negative way and reinforces those initial thoughts.
You have nothing to worry about.....
Your inbox will be full of men trying to meet you and sending you compliments daily..."
Putting out fires with gasoline again. |
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"Just been told by someone I might be a ten on fab but I'd be a five in real life (for context - this was after I'd rejected him and he hadn't seen my face, only the public pics on my profile). As shitty as that is to hear, it's not exactly the first time I've heard this on here. Nine times out of ten when I say thanks but no thanks my message either gets deleted (which is absolutely fine) or I get a polite "no worries, thanks for letting me know" back. But then I get those that think they should be letting me know I'm absolutely out of my mind to be rejecting straight up tens like them because I'm nothing but a fat, ugly bitch. When I bring up the irony that they were begging to fuck a fat cow only moments before, they then remind me that men will fuck anything and they would never try it with me in real life.
Anyway, all this begs the question: is it pointless to have standards on here? Or even hold yourself to some sort of level where you have the confidence to feel good about yourself without some see you next Tuesday with a bruised ego trying to bring you back down a peg or two? Are they right? Should I just resign myself to the fact that no one on here cares what I look like as long as I let them fuck me and I'm not allowed to be picky because I'm fat?
As cruel or horrible as he may of been, he does have a point. Various users have replied to your post stating you’re beautiful and would love to meet you, but none have even seen your face to know!! This proves that yes, majority of men will fuck anything.
Being a 10 on fab but a 5 in reality is also a valid point. Majority of the women/couples I’ve met on fab, I would never have an interest in reality. It’s only because they’re offering NSA sex why I’ve shown interest.
Lots of women on here think that this is the way lots of guys on here really think, and i have to say i think that is a fair assessment(not all guys obviously, nor all women) When you see comments like this, my opinion of guys on here is definitely affected in a negative way and reinforces those initial thoughts.
You have nothing to worry about.....
Your inbox will be full of men trying to meet you and sending you compliments daily...
Putting out fires with gasoline again. "
It’s the truth..... people on Fab believe all women are beautiful....
Men not so much... |
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"Just been told by someone I might be a ten on fab but I'd be a five in real life (for context - this was after I'd rejected him and he hadn't seen my face, only the public pics on my profile). As shitty as that is to hear, it's not exactly the first time I've heard this on here. Nine times out of ten when I say thanks but no thanks my message either gets deleted (which is absolutely fine) or I get a polite "no worries, thanks for letting me know" back. But then I get those that think they should be letting me know I'm absolutely out of my mind to be rejecting straight up tens like them because I'm nothing but a fat, ugly bitch. When I bring up the irony that they were begging to fuck a fat cow only moments before, they then remind me that men will fuck anything and they would never try it with me in real life.
Anyway, all this begs the question: is it pointless to have standards on here? Or even hold yourself to some sort of level where you have the confidence to feel good about yourself without some see you next Tuesday with a bruised ego trying to bring you back down a peg or two? Are they right? Should I just resign myself to the fact that no one on here cares what I look like as long as I let them fuck me and I'm not allowed to be picky because I'm fat?
As cruel or horrible as he may of been, he does have a point. Various users have replied to your post stating you’re beautiful and would love to meet you, but none have even seen your face to know!! This proves that yes, majority of men will fuck anything.
Being a 10 on fab but a 5 in reality is also a valid point. Majority of the women/couples I’ve met on fab, I would never have an interest in reality. It’s only because they’re offering NSA sex why I’ve shown interest.
Lots of women on here think that this is the way lots of guys on here really think, and i have to say i think that is a fair assessment(not all guys obviously, nor all women) When you see comments like this, my opinion of guys on here is definitely affected in a negative way and reinforces those initial thoughts. "
There's alot of mature, single guys and gals here on fab. Many of whom it would seem are single for very good reasons! |
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By *utie91Woman
over a year ago
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"Just been told by someone I might be a ten on fab but I'd be a five in real life (for context - this was after I'd rejected him and he hadn't seen my face, only the public pics on my profile). As shitty as that is to hear, it's not exactly the first time I've heard this on here. Nine times out of ten when I say thanks but no thanks my message either gets deleted (which is absolutely fine) or I get a polite "no worries, thanks for letting me know" back. But then I get those that think they should be letting me know I'm absolutely out of my mind to be rejecting straight up tens like them because I'm nothing but a fat, ugly bitch. When I bring up the irony that they were begging to fuck a fat cow only moments before, they then remind me that men will fuck anything and they would never try it with me in real life.
Anyway, all this begs the question: is it pointless to have standards on here? Or even hold yourself to some sort of level where you have the confidence to feel good about yourself without some see you next Tuesday with a bruised ego trying to bring you back down a peg or two? Are they right? Should I just resign myself to the fact that no one on here cares what I look like as long as I let them fuck me and I'm not allowed to be picky because I'm fat? "
I’ve had things like this before..... don’t worry about it.. just report their profiles for being abusive and block. Then feel proud that you found out that they were a horrible person before you met them in real life |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm far from thin but doesn't mean I will just shag anything. Everyone deserves some standards...if you don't look after yourself..no-one else will!!
For the record OP..I think you look great |
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Absolutely be picky OP. Set your standards and don't settle for anything less.
I personally won't meet anyone on here who I don't find attractive. I'd say my standards are consistent both on AND off of Fabs.
However, I choose not to meet anyone who I know lowers their standards on here just for the sake of a fuck, especially when they badmouth their past meets to me  . And say things like "I wouldn't look twice at her in real life, she's old/fat/mental/ugly....". I'd stay well clear as I don't like the thought of the same being said about me. And they just come across as cunty.
I know that most guys are just after a fuck. Sometimes it's clear to see by status updates that some would fuck absolutely anyone who gave them attention. I kinda like to feel that a guy is genuinely attracted to me and really wants me. Just my preference.
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"There are also men who are a 6 at best who think they are a 10, because women in clubs have no 7+ men to choose from, so take the best of a bad bunch. Also a big dick is enough for some women.
I find it amusing that the men talking about women being fat and ugly are lower leagues themselves. "
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"There are women on here that would get ignored in a pub or a night club. Either because they are fat, ugly or both. Nobody would be trying to chat them up and get them into bed.
Then they come on Fab and have lots of guys telling them they are sexy, gorgeous, etc. Then the women get massive egos. A woman who may be a 2 out of 10 suddenly thinks she should only have guys who are a 9 or a 10.
You see it all the time in chat. A fat or ugly woman comes on webcam and lots of guys are telling her how sexy and gorgeous she is.
I blame those guys for giving the ugly fat women big egos.
You sir have my eternal gratitude for sacrificing your image on the forums and giving a honest well thought out post....
It takes a lot of courage to do what you did and for that you should be honored....
I’m just happy that in this land of sycophants there are still some true seekers among us....
How soon is he going to go UNLOS? Unless he has no clue that he has just committed Fab suicide?"
I am still here.
I dont care if people dont like what I said. I spoke the truth.
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"There are women on here that would get ignored in a pub or a night club. Either because they are fat, ugly or both. Nobody would be trying to chat them up and get them into bed.
Then they come on Fab and have lots of guys telling them they are sexy, gorgeous, etc. Then the women get massive egos. A woman who may be a 2 out of 10 suddenly thinks she should only have guys who are a 9 or a 10.
You see it all the time in chat. A fat or ugly woman comes on webcam and lots of guys are telling her how sexy and gorgeous she is.
I blame those guys for giving the ugly fat women big egos.
You sir have my eternal gratitude for sacrificing your image on the forums and giving a honest well thought out post....
It takes a lot of courage to do what you did and for that you should be honored....
I’m just happy that in this land of sycophants there are still some true seekers among us....
How soon is he going to go UNLOS? Unless he has no clue that he has just committed Fab suicide?
I am still here.
I dont care if people dont like what I said. I spoke the truth.
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No you have an inflated ego and a self importance about you if you feel that scoring women on any scale is acceptable in any form
People find alsorts of people sexy for different reasons and if they pay compliments to people that's up to them
In fact the majority of bbws we know in here are very self conscious about themselves and size etc.
The fact that people may turn you down does not mean they have a over inflated opinion of themselves. |
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"There are women on here that would get ignored in a pub or a night club. Either because they are fat, ugly or both. Nobody would be trying to chat them up and get them into bed.
Then they come on Fab and have lots of guys telling them they are sexy, gorgeous, etc. Then the women get massive egos. A woman who may be a 2 out of 10 suddenly thinks she should only have guys who are a 9 or a 10.
You see it all the time in chat. A fat or ugly woman comes on webcam and lots of guys are telling her how sexy and gorgeous she is.
I blame those guys for giving the ugly fat women big egos.
You sir have my eternal gratitude for sacrificing your image on the forums and giving a honest well thought out post....
It takes a lot of courage to do what you did and for that you should be honored....
I’m just happy that in this land of sycophants there are still some true seekers among us....
How soon is he going to go UNLOS? Unless he has no clue that he has just committed Fab suicide?
I am still here.
I dont care if people dont like what I said. I spoke the truth.
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As much as it pains me, i definitely think you have a valid point......pains me because you feel the need to shoot people down when they are up (no matter if it is indeed under false illusions). Just live and let live. |
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By *atEvolutionCouple
over a year ago
atlantisEVOLUTION Swingers Club. Stoke |
"Just been told by someone I might be a ten on fab but I'd be a five in real life (for context - this was after I'd rejected him and he hadn't seen my face, only the public pics on my profile). As shitty as that is to hear, it's not exactly the first time I've heard this on here. Nine times out of ten when I say thanks but no thanks my message either gets deleted (which is absolutely fine) or I get a polite "no worries, thanks for letting me know" back. But then I get those that think they should be letting me know I'm absolutely out of my mind to be rejecting straight up tens like them because I'm nothing but a fat, ugly bitch. When I bring up the irony that they were begging to fuck a fat cow only moments before, they then remind me that men will fuck anything and they would never try it with me in real life.
Anyway, all this begs the question: is it pointless to have standards on here? Or even hold yourself to some sort of level where you have the confidence to feel good about yourself without some see you next Tuesday with a bruised ego trying to bring you back down a peg or two? Are they right? Should I just resign myself to the fact that no one on here cares what I look like as long as I let them fuck me and I'm not allowed to be picky because I'm fat? "
He's an arse - you're a Princess.
Polish your Tiara and think Princess things. You live in a very large Kingdom. You are sometimes going to meet citizens from the shitty end of Town.
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"Just been told by someone I might be a ten on fab but I'd be a five in real life (for context - this was after I'd rejected him and he hadn't seen my face, only the public pics on my profile). As shitty as that is to hear, it's not exactly the first time I've heard this on here. Nine times out of ten when I say thanks but no thanks my message either gets deleted (which is absolutely fine) or I get a polite "no worries, thanks for letting me know" back. But then I get those that think they should be letting me know I'm absolutely out of my mind to be rejecting straight up tens like them because I'm nothing but a fat, ugly bitch. When I bring up the irony that they were begging to fuck a fat cow only moments before, they then remind me that men will fuck anything and they would never try it with me in real life.
Anyway, all this begs the question: is it pointless to have standards on here? Or even hold yourself to some sort of level where you have the confidence to feel good about yourself without some see you next Tuesday with a bruised ego trying to bring you back down a peg or two? Are they right? Should I just resign myself to the fact that no one on here cares what I look like as long as I let them fuck me and I'm not allowed to be picky because I'm fat?
He's an arse - you're a Princess.
Polish your Tiara and think Princess things. You live in a very large Kingdom. You are sometimes going to meet citizens from the shitty end of Town.
Cat X "
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Stay picky. If anything get pickier, if your libido will let you. These so called ‘10s’ (who thinks this way?) aren’t 10s, otherwise they wouldn’t be insulting. If you’re going to grade, include marks for personality.
And you are gorgeous. Select the people who are hottest to you, because their personality is hot too, and focus your efforts are them. You won’t die thinking ‘I wish I’d fucked the petty, mean spirited buff guy’. There are PLENTY of men out there. |
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By *atEvolutionCouple
over a year ago
atlantisEVOLUTION Swingers Club. Stoke |
"Just been told by someone I might be a ten on fab but I'd be a five in real life (for context - this was after I'd rejected him and he hadn't seen my face, only the public pics on my profile). As shitty as that is to hear, it's not exactly the first time I've heard this on here. Nine times out of ten when I say thanks but no thanks my message either gets deleted (which is absolutely fine) or I get a polite "no worries, thanks for letting me know" back. But then I get those that think they should be letting me know I'm absolutely out of my mind to be rejecting straight up tens like them because I'm nothing but a fat, ugly bitch. When I bring up the irony that they were begging to fuck a fat cow only moments before, they then remind me that men will fuck anything and they would never try it with me in real life.
Anyway, all this begs the question: is it pointless to have standards on here? Or even hold yourself to some sort of level where you have the confidence to feel good about yourself without some see you next Tuesday with a bruised ego trying to bring you back down a peg or two? Are they right? Should I just resign myself to the fact that no one on here cares what I look like as long as I let them fuck me and I'm not allowed to be picky because I'm fat?
He's an arse - you're a Princess.
Polish your Tiara and think Princess things. You live in a very large Kingdom. You are sometimes going to meet citizens from the shitty end of Town.
Cat X
Love this - thanks!! X"
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