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over a year ago
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Of the person you love as you listen to something they’re saying and feel that overwhelming emotion and just have to say;
“God I love you”.......
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And they just turn away as if you never spoke......
Shit, that hurts. 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Of the person you love as you listen to something they’re saying and feel that overwhelming emotion and just have to say;
“God I love you”.......
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.
.
.
And they just turn away as if you never spoke......
Shit, that hurts.
"
 Harsh! And so not worthy of the words.
Or maybe he felt a bit unsure of how to react.
Don't let it knock you though!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Of the person you love as you listen to something they’re saying and feel that overwhelming emotion and just have to say;
“God I love you”.......
.
.
.
.
And they just turn away as if you never spoke......
Shit, that hurts.
Harsh! And so not worthy of the words.
Or maybe he felt a bit unsure of how to react.
Don't let it knock you though!
"
After 17 years. The last 6 married to this person..... you kinda hope they know how to react.
It’s the festive season.
It’s a time for relationship collapse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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After 17 years. The last 6 married to this person..... you kinda hope they know how to react.
It’s the festive season.
It’s a time for relationship collapse. "
Aww shit hon, these things are never easy but you have to do what is right for your own happiness and wellbeing xx |
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"Of the person you love as you listen to something they’re saying and feel that overwhelming emotion and just have to say;
“God I love you”.......
.
.
.
.
And they just turn away as if you never spoke......
Shit, that hurts.
Harsh! And so not worthy of the words.
Or maybe he felt a bit unsure of how to react.
Don't let it knock you though!
After 17 years. The last 6 married to this person..... you kinda hope they know how to react.
It’s the festive season.
It’s a time for relationship collapse. "
Things still aren't going well?
You've both been through a very tough time that few can properly understand.
Hope things work out for the best for both of you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Of the person you love as you listen to something they’re saying and feel that overwhelming emotion and just have to say;
“God I love you”.......
.
.
.
.
And they just turn away as if you never spoke......
Shit, that hurts.
Harsh! And so not worthy of the words.
Or maybe he felt a bit unsure of how to react.
Don't let it knock you though!
After 17 years. The last 6 married to this person..... you kinda hope they know how to react.
It’s the festive season.
It’s a time for relationship collapse.
Things still aren't going well?
You've both been through a very tough time that few can properly understand.
Hope things work out for the best for both of you."
I’m planning the exit strategy xxx |
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"Of the person you love as you listen to something they’re saying and feel that overwhelming emotion and just have to say;
“God I love you”.......
.
.
.
.
And they just turn away as if you never spoke......
Shit, that hurts.
Harsh! And so not worthy of the words.
Or maybe he felt a bit unsure of how to react.
Don't let it knock you though!
After 17 years. The last 6 married to this person..... you kinda hope they know how to react.
It’s the festive season.
It’s a time for relationship collapse.
Things still aren't going well?
You've both been through a very tough time that few can properly understand.
Hope things work out for the best for both of you.
I’m planning the exit strategy xxx"
Are you. Is it what you both feel is the way forward? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Of the person you love as you listen to something they’re saying and feel that overwhelming emotion and just have to say;
“God I love you”.......
.
.
.
.
And they just turn away as if you never spoke......
Shit, that hurts.
Harsh! And so not worthy of the words.
Or maybe he felt a bit unsure of how to react.
Don't let it knock you though!
After 17 years. The last 6 married to this person..... you kinda hope they know how to react.
It’s the festive season.
It’s a time for relationship collapse.
Things still aren't going well?
You've both been through a very tough time that few can properly understand.
Hope things work out for the best for both of you.
I’m planning the exit strategy xxx"
That would be rachxit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Of the person you love as you listen to something they’re saying and feel that overwhelming emotion and just have to say;
“God I love you”.......
.
.
.
.
And they just turn away as if you never spoke......
Shit, that hurts.
Harsh! And so not worthy of the words.
Or maybe he felt a bit unsure of how to react.
Don't let it knock you though!
After 17 years. The last 6 married to this person..... you kinda hope they know how to react.
It’s the festive season.
It’s a time for relationship collapse.
Things still aren't going well?
You've both been through a very tough time that few can properly understand.
Hope things work out for the best for both of you.
I’m planning the exit strategy xxx"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Of the person you love as you listen to something they’re saying and feel that overwhelming emotion and just have to say;
“God I love you”.......
.
.
.
.
And they just turn away as if you never spoke......
Shit, that hurts.
Harsh! And so not worthy of the words.
Or maybe he felt a bit unsure of how to react.
Don't let it knock you though!
After 17 years. The last 6 married to this person..... you kinda hope they know how to react.
It’s the festive season.
It’s a time for relationship collapse.
Things still aren't going well?
You've both been through a very tough time that few can properly understand.
Hope things work out for the best for both of you.
I’m planning the exit strategy xxx"
Sometimes ending it is the best way for everyone. Hope it works out ok in the end. x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Of the person you love as you listen to something they’re saying and feel that overwhelming emotion and just have to say;
“God I love you”.......
.
.
.
.
And they just turn away as if you never spoke......
Shit, that hurts.
Harsh! And so not worthy of the words.
Or maybe he felt a bit unsure of how to react.
Don't let it knock you though!
After 17 years. The last 6 married to this person..... you kinda hope they know how to react.
It’s the festive season.
It’s a time for relationship collapse.
Things still aren't going well?
You've both been through a very tough time that few can properly understand.
Hope things work out for the best for both of you.
I’m planning the exit strategy xxx
Are you. Is it what you both feel is the way forward?"
It’s not simple because my dad lives with us. |
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"Of the person you love as you listen to something they’re saying and feel that overwhelming emotion and just have to say;
“God I love you”.......
.
.
.
.
And they just turn away as if you never spoke......
Shit, that hurts.
Harsh! And so not worthy of the words.
Or maybe he felt a bit unsure of how to react.
Don't let it knock you though!
After 17 years. The last 6 married to this person..... you kinda hope they know how to react.
It’s the festive season.
It’s a time for relationship collapse.
Things still aren't going well?
You've both been through a very tough time that few can properly understand.
Hope things work out for the best for both of you.
I’m planning the exit strategy xxx
Are you. Is it what you both feel is the way forward?
It’s not simple because my dad lives with us. "
A complicated situation. Sometimes pursuing what we need from life comes at a far greater cost than we ever realised. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Of the person you love as you listen to something they’re saying and feel that overwhelming emotion and just have to say;
“God I love you”.......
.
.
.
.
And they just turn away as if you never spoke......
Shit, that hurts.
Harsh! And so not worthy of the words.
Or maybe he felt a bit unsure of how to react.
Don't let it knock you though!
After 17 years. The last 6 married to this person..... you kinda hope they know how to react.
It’s the festive season.
It’s a time for relationship collapse.
Things still aren't going well?
You've both been through a very tough time that few can properly understand.
Hope things work out for the best for both of you.
I’m planning the exit strategy xxx
Are you. Is it what you both feel is the way forward?
It’s not simple because my dad lives with us.
A complicated situation. Sometimes pursuing what we need from life comes at a far greater cost than we ever realised. "
Nail square in the face  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sending a hug.
Relationships are complicated and messy at the best of times. All great love stories end in tragedy. Treat yourself well and move towards finding someone who looks back at you with the same feelings.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sending a hug.
Relationships are complicated and messy at the best of times. All great love stories end in tragedy. Treat yourself well and move towards finding someone who looks back at you with the same feelings.
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I’m afraid she did. She’s hurting too.
It’s me who’s changed and so she’s mourning a loss. I, on the other hand, am looking at the same person I fell in love with and I still love her.
She doesn’t look me in the eye anymore so she doesn’t see the tears. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am so sorry to hear this. I hope you can work it out. It’s a rare feeling. But true love never leaves you. Hardest thing is when you look into each other’s eyes and still see that love but for what ever reason one of you decides it’s not something you can handle and leaves trying to convince yourself you’ll find it again. When you look into someone else’s eyes and realise your looking at ‘them’ not who’s in front of you. Doing and saying everything to convince yourself it’s not. Don’t fall in that hole. #hug |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Of the person you love as you listen to something they’re saying and feel that overwhelming emotion and just have to say;
“God I love you”.......
.
.
.
.
And they just turn away as if you never spoke......
Shit, that hurts.
Harsh! And so not worthy of the words.
Or maybe he felt a bit unsure of how to react.
Don't let it knock you though!
After 17 years. The last 6 married to this person..... you kinda hope they know how to react.
It’s the festive season.
It’s a time for relationship collapse.
Things still aren't going well?
You've both been through a very tough time that few can properly understand.
Hope things work out for the best for both of you.
I’m planning the exit strategy xxx
Are you. Is it what you both feel is the way forward?
It’s not simple because my dad lives with us.
A complicated situation. Sometimes pursuing what we need from life comes at a far greater cost than we ever realised. "
This last bit is unfortunately the great unknown and there is no going back. It's what often keeps couples from separating. Carry on together and live something that isn't your life or split and take the leap. Nobody can answer for you - but I suspect many are in the same position, tethering on the edge!
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"Sending a hug.
Relationships are complicated and messy at the best of times. All great love stories end in tragedy. Treat yourself well and move towards finding someone who looks back at you with the same feelings.
I’m afraid she did. She’s hurting too.
It’s me who’s changed and so she’s mourning a loss. I, on the other hand, am looking at the same person I fell in love with and I still love her.
She doesn’t look me in the eye anymore so she doesn’t see the tears. "
And also so you don't see hers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I imagine that would tear at my heart.
I felt bad when someone told me they loved me and I had to tell them the feeling with never be reciprocated.
He's ok with it and still says it though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sending a hug.
Relationships are complicated and messy at the best of times. All great love stories end in tragedy. Treat yourself well and move towards finding someone who looks back at you with the same feelings.
I’m afraid she did. She’s hurting too.
It’s me who’s changed and so she’s mourning a loss. I, on the other hand, am looking at the same person I fell in love with and I still love her.
She doesn’t look me in the eye anymore so she doesn’t see the tears.
And also so you don't see hers. "
very true. Some bridges can’t be fixed; others take time to sort. I hope your love can overcome the obstacles and rebuild x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is why I got a divorce after 30 years of marriage to a lovely man who couldn't or wouldnt make me feel special. One person can't carry the relationship and do all the emotional heavy lifting without support. And that support comes in the form of love, hugs, cuddles, respect, shared times and shared goals. Just remember - this is a really really shitty time of year OP. It's hard for lots of us. Just hang on in there. Things change and when they do, that's the time to make big decisions. Hugs xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am so sorry to hear this. I hope you can work it out. It’s a rare feeling. But true love never leaves you. Hardest thing is when you look into each other’s eyes and still see that love but for what ever reason one of you decides it’s not something you can handle and leaves trying to convince yourself you’ll find it again. When you look into someone else’s eyes and realise your looking at ‘them’ not who’s in front of you. Doing and saying everything to convince yourself it’s not. Don’t fall in that hole. #hug"
These words reflect many of my thoughts.
I know we would both find other loves but the love we have is very rare. To find it once was incredible. To find it again with someone else...... very unlikely in my opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am so sorry to hear this. I hope you can work it out. It’s a rare feeling. But true love never leaves you. Hardest thing is when you look into each other’s eyes and still see that love but for what ever reason one of you decides it’s not something you can handle and leaves trying to convince yourself you’ll find it again. When you look into someone else’s eyes and realise your looking at ‘them’ not who’s in front of you. Doing and saying everything to convince yourself it’s not. Don’t fall in that hole. #hug
These words reflect many of my thoughts.
I know we would both find other loves but the love we have is very rare. To find it once was incredible. To find it again with someone else...... very unlikely in my opinion. "
Do you think one day you could be friends again? A lot of people split up then after some time become friends again. It's shit for a while but better in the end. |
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"One person can't carry the relationship and do all the emotional heavy lifting without support. And that support comes in the form of love, hugs, cuddles, respect, shared times and shared goals. Just remember - this is a really really shitty time of year OP. It's hard for lots of us. Just hang on in there. Things change and when they do, that's the time to make big decisions. Hugs xx"
I agree with this
Hugs OP |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I am so sorry to hear this. I hope you can work it out. It’s a rare feeling. But true love never leaves you. Hardest thing is when you look into each other’s eyes and still see that love but for what ever reason one of you decides it’s not something you can handle and leaves trying to convince yourself you’ll find it again. When you look into someone else’s eyes and realise your looking at ‘them’ not who’s in front of you. Doing and saying everything to convince yourself it’s not. Don’t fall in that hole. #hug
These words reflect many of my thoughts.
I know we would both find other loves but the love we have is very rare. To find it once was incredible. To find it again with someone else...... very unlikely in my opinion.
Do you think one day you could be friends again? A lot of people split up then after some time become friends again. It's shit for a while but better in the end. "
We’re still the very best of friends. We still say we love each other and I think she means it too. (I definitely do). |
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"Of the person you love as you listen to something they’re saying and feel that overwhelming emotion and just have to say;
“God I love you”.......
.
.
.
.
And they just turn away as if you never spoke......
Shit, that hurts.
"
Much love to you |
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"Of the person you love as you listen to something they’re saying and feel that overwhelming emotion and just have to say;
“God I love you”.......
.
.
.
.
And they just turn away as if you never spoke......
Shit, that hurts.
Much love to you "
Just be aware that you could possibly be mis-interpreting the response - some people find this sort of thing a bit embarassing and don't really know what to reply. |
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"I am so sorry to hear this. I hope you can work it out. It’s a rare feeling. But true love never leaves you. Hardest thing is when you look into each other’s eyes and still see that love but for what ever reason one of you decides it’s not something you can handle and leaves trying to convince yourself you’ll find it again. When you look into someone else’s eyes and realise your looking at ‘them’ not who’s in front of you. Doing and saying everything to convince yourself it’s not. Don’t fall in that hole. #hug
These words reflect many of my thoughts.
I know we would both find other loves but the love we have is very rare. To find it once was incredible. To find it again with someone else...... very unlikely in my opinion.
Do you think one day you could be friends again? A lot of people split up then after some time become friends again. It's shit for a while but better in the end.
We’re still the very best of friends. We still say we love each other and I think she means it too. (I definitely do). "
I wouldnt rule out finding another love as strong as one you had with her. Your entering a new phase of your life now and you need a new partner who will fully appreciate the new woman you are now. Be it a guy or girl they will treasure you and never want to let you go. I thought like you id never find another after my ex but i did she found me and we couldnt be happier. I never thought my soulmate would be a trans woman but thats life for you can surprise you!  |
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
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"Sending a hug.
Relationships are complicated and messy at the best of times. All great love stories end in tragedy. Treat yourself well and move towards finding someone who looks back at you with the same feelings.
I’m afraid she did. She’s hurting too.
It’s me who’s changed and so she’s mourning a loss. I, on the other hand, am looking at the same person I fell in love with and I still love her.
She doesn’t look me in the eye anymore so she doesn’t see the tears. "
I can imagine that hurts so much for both of you. I can only wish you (both) a speedy and at least painful path to resolution. Whatever that resolution will be.
V x |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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Have been chatting to a great lady on here and as we talked she reminded me of a poem from Kahlil Gibran in, The Prophet, called: on Love.
Been through an intense dynamic recently and it brought it back, almost an anthem to certain play.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"it is sad.
but sometimes the only way people learn to appreciate you is by losing you."
We did that one six years ago. Then we married with a passion neither of us have ever known.
Looking on the bright side she agreed she still likes living with me this evening.
I make her laugh and I look after her.
She looks afte me too and she makes me laugh every day. |
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"it is sad.
but sometimes the only way people learn to appreciate you is by losing you.
We did that one six years ago. Then we married with a passion neither of us have ever known.
Looking on the bright side she agreed she still likes living with me this evening.
I make her laugh and I look after her.
She looks afte me too and she makes me laugh every day. "
Looks like theres still something between you then? Maybe shes open enough for you to have a pseudo boyfriend or girlfriend to satisfy the needs she cant? My girl has a pseudo girlfriend with her best friend who is also in a relationship with a guy herself and it works very well brought us closer she Will even let me have a transguy as a pseudo boyfriend if i found one. Sometimes having play partners works xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"it is sad.
but sometimes the only way people learn to appreciate you is by losing you.
We did that one six years ago. Then we married with a passion neither of us have ever known.
Looking on the bright side she agreed she still likes living with me this evening.
I make her laugh and I look after her.
She looks afte me too and she makes me laugh every day.
Looks like theres still something between you then? Maybe shes open enough for you to have a pseudo boyfriend or girlfriend to satisfy the needs she cant? My girl has a pseudo girlfriend with her best friend who is also in a relationship with a guy herself and it works very well brought us closer she Will even let me have a transguy as a pseudo boyfriend if i found one. Sometimes having play partners works xx"
Well she knows I’m on here and meet to play.
I don’t really want a relationship with anyone else. Just some fulfilment.
We swung together for some years until all the women trying to tempt her to play got on her nerves too much and she stopped.
Obviously, the permission to play is reciprocated; meaning she is free to find men if she desires. |
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"it is sad.
but sometimes the only way people learn to appreciate you is by losing you.
We did that one six years ago. Then we married with a passion neither of us have ever known.
Looking on the bright side she agreed she still likes living with me this evening.
I make her laugh and I look after her.
She looks afte me too and she makes me laugh every day.
Looks like theres still something between you then? Maybe shes open enough for you to have a pseudo boyfriend or girlfriend to satisfy the needs she cant? My girl has a pseudo girlfriend with her best friend who is also in a relationship with a guy herself and it works very well brought us closer she Will even let me have a transguy as a pseudo boyfriend if i found one. Sometimes having play partners works xx
Well she knows I’m on here and meet to play.
I don’t really want a relationship with anyone else. Just some fulfilment.
We swung together for some years until all the women trying to tempt her to play got on her nerves too much and she stopped.
Obviously, the permission to play is reciprocated; meaning she is free to find men if she desires. "
Of course thats what i mean doesnt have to be a relationship just someone to fulfil your desires while still being in a relationship with her best solution i think. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Of the person you love as you listen to something they’re saying and feel that overwhelming emotion and just have to say;
“God I love you”.......
.
.
.
.
And they just turn away as if you never spoke......
Shit, that hurts.
"
It would, why the hell would you be with somebody like that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Of the person you love as you listen to something they’re saying and feel that overwhelming emotion and just have to say;
“God I love you”.......
.
.
.
.
And they just turn away as if you never spoke......
Shit, that hurts.
It would, why the hell would you be with somebody like that "
17 years. Hoping I can get the love back. |
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