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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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After some advice really, happily married couple new to this, adore each other but have different opinions when it comes to ladies they would like to invite, any advice other than 'take one for the team' |
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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago
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"We have differing tastes but neither of us ever take one for the team. Patience is a virtue x"
such a sensible and sensitive answer - never forget that each of us in a couple needs to have their own desires met whilst not causing distress or distance from the other ... things do progress from each play event, just take it easy and you will be surprised how you find yourselves sharing common thresholds of passion
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By (user no longer on site)
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"After some advice really, happily married couple new to this, adore each other but have different opinions when it comes to ladies they would like to invite, any advice other than 'take one for the team' "
Meet up with a couple whereby each of you finds one of them attractive? Appreciate this wouldn't scratch your bi-itch though, but at least you'd both be having fun.  |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"After some advice really, happily married couple new to this, adore each other but have different opinions when it comes to ladies they would like to invite, any advice other than 'take one for the team' "
Is it just the ladies you disagree on?
I've always said that Fab and swinging is so much easier for singles. You only have to worry about your own tastes and preferences. With couples there's four in the equation. Even if you both like the look of both halves of a couple there's always the chance that one or both won't be so keen on you. Finding a match where all four are happy will always be statistically much harder.
But taking one for the team will lead you down a rocky path. You may find yourselves feeling sidelined, or having to compromise and take turns picking and choosing, when it should always be about both of you. If you both have widely different views on who you want to meet you may struggle. Maybe in a club environment (if you're happy playing with different people in the same room) you'd both get what you're looking for. Otherwise it's just a case of waiting for the right people to come along.
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