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Advice needed for inexperienced couple

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hi there fabbers..

We have been on this site for six months or so and aren't having much luck.

We do get some responses to messages but not many. I am not sure if the tone of the messages I send is right.. I never know what to write. Don't want to be too boring but don't want to get straight to the nitty gritty either.

Or could it be what I have written on our profile?

I also realise our pics aren't the best either.

Any advice would be gratefully received.

Thanks in advance x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You can't accommodate or travel?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be fair you are looking for a single lady, non smoker and you can not accommodate or travel. Pickings are going to be very thin. People tend not to play on their own doorstep so you could elaborate on where you want to meet or maybe try a club.

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By *heaspieswingerMan over a year ago

Peak District

"Hi there fabbers..

We have been on this site for six months or so and aren't having much luck.

Or could it be what I have written on our profile?

I also realise our pics aren't the best either.

Any advice would be gratefully received.

Thanks in advance x

If you’re only looking to meet single women for a threesome, you’ll probably have a long wait.

There are a lot of single women here who get bombarded by messages, and simply don’t have the time to reply to all of them. Your messages may get lost in the jumble.

We’d suggest improving your photos to show you both off. The ones you have don’t really stand out amongst all the ones they’ll see. On the plus side - you’ve got no dick pics

Your profile doesn’t say much about you and the experience a single woman is likely to have with you. Make yourselves stand out amongst the crowd

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By *orth South DivideCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

You're looking for a single female - always going to be difficult. 'Studmuffin' - you may want to change that.

A club is a great option - try cupids which is local but not too local to you.

N x

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By *ottie 13Woman over a year ago

Happy go lucky

I'm not having a go but if you know you're pics aren't the best why not get some good ones done and the whole cannot accommodate cannot travel is a big put off where exactly are you planning on meeting anyone?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

8 on ya friends list , try one of them

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Didn't realise we had put can't accommodate or travel as neither is the case.

Thanks

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By *aughtynottsCouple over a year ago

Outside Nottingham

Not wanting to be harsh, but everyone thinks your a bloke picture collecting.

Best advice get to a club mingle and get a few veris, we would not entertain anyone without them!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for your honesty but can you explain your comment about being a bloke collecting pics?

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Any suggestions on how to stand out?

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By *uffnmuffCouple over a year ago

London

"Not wanting to be harsh, but everyone thinks your a bloke picture collecting.

Best advice get to a club mingle and get a few veris, we would not entertain anyone without them!

"
great advice. Thats how we do it. We like to go to clubs and randomly bump into people we allways have a good night.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks for your honesty but can you explain your comment about being a bloke collecting pics?

Thanks"

No pictures of both of you together.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ah thanks for that...

I know we need to update the pics.. He is very vain and lives selfies etc... I hate having my pic taken though lol x

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By *irky_coupleCouple over a year ago

kirky

"Hi there fabbers..

We have been on this site for six months or so and aren't having much luck.

Or could it be what I have written on our profile?

I also realise our pics aren't the best either.

Any advice would be gratefully received.

Thanks in advance x

"
you've actually been on at least 9 months and your pictures are June latest and not much of them. If we had looked at your profile we'd assume a guy playing as a couple just on the pics and time without a veri. And as has been pointed out, looking for a single lady for a 3sum seriously limits your options. We've been here nearly 2 years and it hasn't happened and no doubt others have been longer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks x

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By *aughtynottsCouple over a year ago

Outside Nottingham

Well there are so many blokes here picture collecting, if you have been here 9 months no meets then most will assume your a bloke too collecting pics!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

We have tried for meets but have got nowhere!! People message with us then simply disappear!!

We will keep trying x

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By *udewhennudeMan over a year ago

newport

"We have tried for meets but have got nowhere!! People message with us then simply disappear!!

We will keep trying x"

Easier way to get verified is to have 2 or 3 social meets with well verified guys. One would not be enough. Don't worry too much about exchanging photos, you're not going to play with them. Once people see you're genuine you'll find it much easier. It will still be difficult to find a single woman, but at the moment anyone would be cautious about meeting go you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi there fabbers..

We have been on this site for six months or so and aren't having much luck.

Or could it be what I have written on our profile?

I also realise our pics aren't the best either.

Any advice would be gratefully received.

Thanks in advance x

"
who of the couple wrote the thread?

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By *i explorer and steveMan over a year ago

Boston and Higham Ferrers