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Had a meet on here about ten days ago. Verified single guy the next day, shared a couple of thanks for coming type messages. He displayed his verification and has been online mostly since but has not done us one in return. Not a stickler for these things but it’s kinda annoying that I can’t now remove the one I gave him, proudly displayed on his profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find it's irrationally irritating when a verification isn't returned!
I've asked a couple of guys I've met to remove my verification (different reasons) and they've done so with no unease. Alternatively, if it is bothering you, and you don't want to enjoy him/them again, block them and your verification will no longer be available for him/them to use. |
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over a year ago
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"Had a meet on here about ten days ago. Verified single guy the next day, shared a couple of thanks for coming type messages. He displayed his verification and has been online mostly since but has not done us one in return. Not a stickler for these things but it’s kinda annoying that I can’t now remove the one I gave him, proudly displayed on his profile "
why is it bothering you?
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over a year ago
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"Had a meet on here about ten days ago. Verified single guy the next day, shared a couple of thanks for coming type messages. He displayed his verification and has been online mostly since but has not done us one in return. Not a stickler for these things but it’s kinda annoying that I can’t now remove the one I gave him, proudly displayed on his profile "
you have 15 veris it's no big deal he didn’t reciprocate surely?
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By *emel9Man
over a year ago
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I'd say it's basic manners to veri if you've been verified, unless they give a reason not to.
Is there any harm in asking why he hasn't/doesn't want to?
If he wasn't happy with the meet then nothing lost from blocking him and your veri disappearing. |
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"Had a meet on here about ten days ago. Verified single guy the next day, shared a couple of thanks for coming type messages. He displayed his verification and has been online mostly since but has not done us one in return. Not a stickler for these things but it’s kinda annoying that I can’t now remove the one I gave him, proudly displayed on his profile why is it bothering you? "
why because it's called being polite after all they took time to send one to him this to fucks me of
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"Had a meet on here about ten days ago. Verified single guy the next day, shared a couple of thanks for coming type messages. He displayed his verification and has been online mostly since but has not done us one in return. Not a stickler for these things but it’s kinda annoying that I can’t now remove the one I gave him, proudly displayed on his profile you have 15 veris it's no big deal he didn’t reciprocate surely? "
It doesn’t matter how many verifications we have, it’s not about numbers. It’s about being polite. |
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"I'd say it's basic manners to veri if you've been verified, unless they give a reason not to.
Is there any harm in asking why he hasn't/doesn't want to?
If he wasn't happy with the meet then nothing lost from blocking him and your veri disappearing."
Agreed! When I did his verification the day after the meet, I did mention in WhatsApp, I looked forward to seeing his back. He said yeah sure and then nothing. I think block is the option |
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"I'd say it's basic manners to veri if you've been verified, unless they give a reason not to.
Is there any harm in asking why he hasn't/doesn't want to?
If he wasn't happy with the meet then nothing lost from blocking him and your veri disappearing.
Agreed! When I did his verification the day after the meet, I did mention in WhatsApp, I looked forward to seeing his back. He said yeah sure and then nothing. I think block is the option "
Will you message and tell him you will be blocking him and why?or just block with no explanation?
But rude,don't you think?
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"I find it's irrationally irritating when a verification isn't returned!
I've asked a couple of guys I've met to remove my verification (different reasons) and they've done so with no unease. Alternatively, if it is bothering you, and you don't want to enjoy him/them again, block them and your verification will no longer be available for him/them to use."
Good advice glad it’s not just me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it's irrationally irritating when a verification isn't returned!
I've asked a couple of guys I've met to remove my verification (different reasons) and they've done so with no unease. Alternatively, if it is bothering you, and you don't want to enjoy him/them again, block them and your verification will no longer be available for him/them to use.
Good advice glad it’s not just me "
Ha! Just what I thought when I read your post! It might be irrational, but it bothers me. Lol.
All the best x |
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"I'd say it's basic manners to veri if you've been verified, unless they give a reason not to.
Is there any harm in asking why he hasn't/doesn't want to?
If he wasn't happy with the meet then nothing lost from blocking him and your veri disappearing.
Agreed! When I did his verification the day after the meet, I did mention in WhatsApp, I looked forward to seeing his back. He said yeah sure and then nothing. I think block is the option
Will you message and tell him you will be blocking him and why?or just block with no explanation?
But rude,don't you think?
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I have messaged him. We are an experienced couple who have many friends etc we have met over the years and we don’t just meet pwoooe through this site. Never rude and always polite to others.
I’ve messaged to ask him why he hasn’t verified and if there was an problem with the meet, he could have mentioned rather than the niceties shared afterwards. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Had a meet on here about ten days ago. Verified single guy the next day, shared a couple of thanks for coming type messages. He displayed his verification and has been online mostly since but has not done us one in return. Not a stickler for these things but it’s kinda annoying that I can’t now remove the one I gave him, proudly displayed on his profile you have 15 veris it's no big deal he didn’t reciprocate surely? "
Some people like to see recent veris |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ive had 2 meets so far but because I haven't been verified I wasnt able to give them out and they both seemed to not want to verify me first strangely....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to agree with some of the posts, to me it's basic manners to veri someone that you've met. So block sounds like a reasonable option. I think I'd let them know first, just in case they have stuff going on that has stopped them from writing it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people are just lazy.....
Don’t block him or ask him for a verification again....
When he wants another shag , he will write you a great verification and beg to be in your good graces....
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I can't say it bothers me if I don't get veris from meets, more than happy to write one with no expectations of one in return.
If he's said he'll do one and you've made it clear you'd like one it does seem a bit off though. Why not message him and give him a nudge before just blocking. If he's good enough to want a veri from it seems a bit harsh to go straight to blocking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had a meet on here about ten days ago. Verified single guy the next day, shared a couple of thanks for coming type messages. He displayed his verification and has been online mostly since but has not done us one in return. Not a stickler for these things but it’s kinda annoying that I can’t now remove the one I gave him, proudly displayed on his profile you have 15 veris it's no big deal he didn’t reciprocate surely?
It doesn’t matter how many verifications we have, it’s not about numbers. It’s about being polite. "
but maybe he likes to fly under the sonar I kinda get that, surely thats not rude, have you asked him to verify? |
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"Had a meet on here about ten days ago. Verified single guy the next day, shared a couple of thanks for coming type messages. He displayed his verification and has been online mostly since but has not done us one in return. Not a stickler for these things but it’s kinda annoying that I can’t now remove the one I gave him, proudly displayed on his profile you have 15 veris it's no big deal he didn’t reciprocate surely?
It doesn’t matter how many verifications we have, it’s not about numbers. It’s about being polite. "
It’s just courteous to verify back |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree that it is only good manners to reciprocate a verification. When I’m looking st profiles I do look at Veris - I know they can be slanted but not as much as the profiles
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I thought when you post a verification it is up to the recipient to decide whether they want to display it or not. I have asked for and had them willingly given, and I have made them and heard nothing in return and they've not been used. Guess we're all different. |
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"Had a meet on here about ten days ago. Verified single guy the next day, shared a couple of thanks for coming type messages. He displayed his verification and has been online mostly since but has not done us one in return. Not a stickler for these things but it’s kinda annoying that I can’t now remove the one I gave him, proudly displayed on his profile "
if you block him the verification goes
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Common courtesy , good manners , and just plain simple decency demand that a veri is reciprocated . Sadly these attributes , as simple as they are , aren’t always present . So it’s best to block the ignorant people who can’t be bothered to return a veri , especially when they display yours .
We used to find there were plenty of people that didn’t verify us because they didn’t want people to know they’d been with such sluts as us . So we waited for others to verify us first , and didn’t do them other than in return . |
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We got asked specifically to vari a lady we met a few months previously (she had changed her profile from a single to a couple, I guess she lost her varis on her old profile) So we wrote one and never received a replacement one from her....reading this has annoyed Pete all over again lol, she was very nice though, told Pete not to block her lolol |
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"Had a meet on here about ten days ago. Verified single guy the next day, shared a couple of thanks for coming type messages. He displayed his verification and has been online mostly since but has not done us one in return. Not a stickler for these things but it’s kinda annoying that I can’t now remove the one I gave him, proudly displayed on his profile "
Did he ask for a veri? Maybe he never wanted it and surprisingly you do not get asked to accept or reject a veri. They automatically get posted to your profile so he would have to hide the veri to remove it which would make his summary inaccurate so he would need to hide that as well. Maybe he does not want to hide anything but at the same time never asked for anything in the first place.
Never verify just to get one in return. You should only verify if your happy to endorse that person...because that is what you are doing.
You want to take back the veri because you never got one in return....sorry but that sounds childish. Maybe you should have thought more before verifying him in the first place.
Sorry if I sound harsh....but I can't stand all this tit for tat with veri's. People are always falling out with people and wanting to take back their verification. I don't think it should work like that and then maybe people would be more cautious about who they verify in the first place. |
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over a year ago
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"When people don't verify me I just know they are embarrassed that they met me and don't want anyone to know. "
Not necessarily. If I met you I would not leave a veri because I don't want to be in someone's list of conquests and I would not want a veri from you because I don't think the entire fab community needs to know who I had sex with.
That would be between you and me. So don't assume they are embarrassed to have met you.
Do you verify them because if you do and they display it how are they embarrassed to have met you. Its the link on their profile that would allow their potential meets to know they met you.....not so much the link on your profile.
Don't put yourself down. |
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"Had a meet on here about ten days ago. Verified single guy the next day, shared a couple of thanks for coming type messages. He displayed his verification and has been online mostly since but has not done us one in return. Not a stickler for these things but it’s kinda annoying that I can’t now remove the one I gave him, proudly displayed on his profile
Did he ask for a veri? Maybe he never wanted it and surprisingly you do not get asked to accept or reject a veri. They automatically get posted to your profile so he would have to hide the veri to remove it which would make his summary inaccurate so he would need to hide that as well. Maybe he does not want to hide anything but at the same time never asked for anything in the first place.
Never verify just to get one in return. You should only verify if your happy to endorse that person...because that is what you are doing.
You want to take back the veri because you never got one in return....sorry but that sounds childish. Maybe you should have thought more before verifying him in the first place.
Sorry if I sound harsh....but I can't stand all this tit for tat with veri's. People are always falling out with people and wanting to take back their verification. I don't think it should work like that and then maybe people would be more cautious about who they verify in the first place. "
No problem with verifying him in the first place as it was a good meet and everyone got on. So no need to think about it first.
Maybe I worded my OP wrong and a bit hardly. It’s probably more of an insecurity
As I’ve said above before, we have spoken about it and all it well. We will also be meeting again.
I wish people would be more open than judgemental on these forums |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Verifications help the world go round.Had 3 people not verify me. 2 we're hiding from their own shadows.The 3rd I've met 2 times now and they thought verifying me once was enough!Not realising different experiences at different meets.Verifications simply show 'you are what it says on the tin'
unless your a little dehydrated that day/or haven't eaten well |
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"Common courtesy , good manners , and just plain simple decency demand that a veri is reciprocated . Sadly these attributes , as simple as they are , aren’t always present . So it’s best to block the ignorant people who can’t be bothered to return a veri , especially when they display yours .
We used to find there were plenty of people that didn’t verify us because they didn’t want people to know they’d been with such sluts as us . So we waited for others to verify us first , and didn’t do them other than in return ."
Ditto to all the above. 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tell him if he don't get his arse in gear pronto you'll put posters up all round his town and village stating he's only got 3 inches and that's on a good day pmsl |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me it’s a momento of the meet that two people had more than anything else. Not something that has to be displayed for all to see. Just feels a wee bit disappointing of its not reciprocated. |
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recent veris are our acid test as to whether a couple is currently meeting or just going with meeting...ones that are nearly a year old cut no slack with us..so a return of a veri is only fair if not just for the reason above |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I was here on my last profile, I experienced this, not getting a verification in return.
Don't get yourself worked up about it.
If they haven't returned the favour, they're not likely to, even if you ask nicely.
I'd say learn from it and move on, and if they happen to ask for a repeat meet in the future, well, you can then explain to them why they won't be getting one. |
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Last couple of meets did not return verifications.
As a single male, I find it helpful if people confirm that I will turn up, look like my pictures etc.
The annoying thing is that one of the meets decided to meet me, based on previous verifications. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Last couple of meets did not return verifications.
As a single male, I find it helpful if people confirm that I will turn up, look like my pictures etc.
The annoying thing is that one of the meets decided to meet me, based on previous verifications. "
Why is that annoying? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not the slightest bit bothered if someone doesn't verify me in return. I've met 2 guys on here recently that haven't. Both don't display mine or any so I'd say they don't want people to know who they've met and when they verify someone they have no control over whether that person displays it or not so for that reason don't verify I'm guessing. But kind of rude if they proudly display yours without sending one back but hey ho, fab life and all that. |
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"Last couple of meets did not return verifications.
As a single male, I find it helpful if people confirm that I will turn up, look like my pictures etc.
The annoying thing is that one of the meets decided to meet me, based on previous verifications.
Why is that annoying?"
Because she used the verifications, but did not verify me herself. |
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"Last couple of meets did not return verifications.
As a single male, I find it helpful if people confirm that I will turn up, look like my pictures etc.
The annoying thing is that one of the meets decided to meet me, based on previous verifications.
Why is that annoying?
Because she used the verifications, but did not verify me herself. "
Oh right I see what you mean. That is crap. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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To us, veri’s give an holistic insight (well Intellilgent ones) to who we are and how we play.
So we like to view verifications to see if there is common ground.
If we don’t receive them it’s not that we didn’t have fun (it is impossible not to have fun with L around) it’s more likely they can’t spell Licentious.  |
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"I don't find it nessary to show a online catalogue of who I've slept with... No ones business
So I neither display or give them out
What's to be achieved by doing so??? "
That you’re genuine , you turn up even with short notice or after a quick chat , and you have a nice cock ?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Men do just about everything to talk you into meeting them and then behave like that! Not on. Just block him babe x
There’s a guy on fab (still is) that I was seeing. He stole money from my house! Now that’s bad!!! |
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"Men do just about everything to talk you into meeting them and then behave like that! Not on. Just block him babe x
There’s a guy on fab (still is) that I was seeing. He stole money from my house! Now that’s bad!!!"
Huh ?
Am I missing something here ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No. I was simply saying that there are worse things than not getting a veri...,like someone stealing from your house! I was also being nice and saying that it’s not on when people are rude!!! |
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"No. I was simply saying that there are worse things than not getting a veri...,like someone stealing from your house! I was also being nice and saying that it’s not on when people are rude!!!"
Ah I get you now |
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By *j48Man
over a year ago
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A reciprocated veri also shows that the relative parties are "active" in meeting people when others, who may be interested, view their respective profiles
Keeps a profile up to date
It's just manners to do one back when one is received |
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"Had a meet on here about ten days ago. Verified single guy the next day, shared a couple of thanks for coming type messages. He displayed his verification and has been online mostly since but has not done us one in return. Not a stickler for these things but it’s kinda annoying that I can’t now remove the one I gave him, proudly displayed on his profile you have 15 veris it's no big deal he didn’t reciprocate surely?
It doesn’t matter how many verifications we have, it’s not about numbers. It’s about being polite. "
I agree with the polite point. It’s not too difficult to write one, really? Then it’s up to the parties concerned to display or not.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd say it's basic manners to veri if you've been verified, unless they give a reason not to.
Is there any harm in asking why he hasn't/doesn't want to?
If he wasn't happy with the meet then nothing lost from blocking him and your veri disappearing."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't verifications even if I fall in love
A meets personal if you asked me
Private and confidential.
I guess he could veri you and ask you not to display it .
Is there a chance he dosent know how too ?
Maybe keyboard broken .blank screen .cat died .car got stolen .could be loads of reasons  |
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"Men do just about everything to talk you into meeting them and then behave like that! Not on. Just block him babe x
There’s a guy on fab (still is) that I was seeing. He stole money from my house! Now that’s bad!!!"
There should be some way of dealing with this sort of thing on here that at least shows a question mark?
Funnily enough I was at a GB at a firends place a couple of months ago. I'm pretty sure one of the guys there stole some of my money from where I'd stashed it. I'd be interested to know if it was the same person? |
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It is only polite to leave one in return I could not imagine being any other way . They have taken the time to meet you and leave a verification the least you can do is leave one yourself at the earliest opportunity being polite and not vulgar . |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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i believe that if you are giving one to receive one.... then you are doing it for the wrong reasons!!! in a way its actually a bit petty
all a verification means to me is that you are who you say you are, and that you met! nothing more... nothing less!
anything else is superficial... after all your opinion of a meet is yours and yours alone!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely prefer veris that dont go into lurid detail.
To us suffice to show the person/people showed up and appeared decent. Performance related veris put me off. |
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I think they show that a person is active, who they say they are, and often says things about the person (respectful? Polite? Friendly? Adventurous?)
I don't leave lurid ones, but I do give an idea of what kind of meet, if it was enjoyable, and the kind of person they are. I publish mine in most circumstances. |
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