Use a harness that allows you to attach different sized dildos rather than one that has one size permanently attached.This will allow you to start with a small size and if he is able to take that comfortably change over to a larger one |
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By *andy KTV/TS
over a year ago
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Tell him to bend over and relax and enjoy but make sure he is clean a good douching is in order ..use a butt plug to warm him up and like everyone is saying plenty of that lovely lube x
P.s his a lucky boy |
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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago
Bristol East |
"Hi fab, I'm seeing a guy who wants to be dominated and fucked with a strap on.
Any help or tips for first time with this? Xx"
He needs to prepare, too.
The muscles round the back work differently from the front.
So, if he has not done it before, he needs to begin stretching those muscles.
He also needs to be thinking about emptying the dung hamper before you penetrate him.
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I adore pegging. My best advice in addition to all the above is for you to lie on your back, plenty of lube on the dildo and let him get on top facing you. He can then ease himself on very slowly.
I find a harness fiddly and time consuming. Lovehoney sell dildo underwear which holds everything in place.
Pegging is VERY addictive! 
Miss V x |
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Lube and loads of it, use a very small one to start and continue with a small one until he’s ready for larger.
Take time and push very very slowly, pulse rather than thrust!
Doggy is good position and on his back also good.
Prior to starting, tease him with it, make him suck it!
Enjoy x |
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As others have said... lots of patience and lube.
I would also add, get him to practice... lots... so he's used to the dildo.. I practiced with the dildo we used after my first go... then when we had a second go.. i was much more ready. She also watched, so could see what i could take speed wise and said it helped her guage things.
By third time, she could really go for it.. and we both loved it  |
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My tip is make sure buckles are done up securely..... Nothing worse than going in on the in stroke coming out on the out stroke but the ins still in and you come back on the in and stab your stomach |
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"Get him to douche first and plenty of lube and take it nice n easy use s rubber strap on not the plastic kinds "
I always prefer a smooth area too.
Smooth and clean, and let him slowly mount you xx |
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"I adore pegging. My best advice in addition to all the above is for you to lie on your back, plenty of lube on the dildo and let him get on top facing you. He can then ease himself on very slowly.
I find a harness fiddly and time consuming. Lovehoney sell dildo underwear which holds everything in place.
Pegging is VERY addictive!
Miss V x"
haha hopefully one day i may find out hehe xxx |
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"Hi fab, I'm seeing a guy who wants to be dominated and fucked with a strap on.
Any help or tips for first time with this? Xx"
Does he or has he used butt plugs? If not I'd get him started with them, or warm up to it using them and fingering.
Then Lovehoney do starter pegging kits, you want an interchangeble harness so you can buy different attachments but most starter kits will come with different sizes to work up to the largest one.
Use lots of lube, and go really really slow the first few times. You're going to need to break him in slowly, until you can speed things up. |
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
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Have some wet wipes to hand and if there is any mess deal with it quickly and quietly 
It sometimes helps to put a condom on the strap on as they are lubricated
For added fun get a double ender
V x |
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depends how big a dildo/vibrator you are planning on using on him.
lube is the answer but it depends on whether he will be on his back while you fuck him and you/he wanks himself or whether he wants to be bent over taking one from you!!!
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Ok so, everyone has covered the basics
Clean out.
Lots of lube.
Stretching beforehand.
Relax.
Let him decide pace of 1st entry.
All v good and I concur.
Here's a couple of other helpful things.
1) on first entry if painful or tight he can breathe in quickly and release the breath slowly.
(Blah blah vagus nerve blah parasympathetic nervous system v sympathetic nervous system)
2) If still struggling or possibly if moving up a size,then,bearing down (pretend you're pooping) at point of entry, will help a lot.
Be gentle,be safe,enjoy x |
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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago
Sussex/Surrey |
He needs to be clean and therefore confident. I start with fingering myself and warming up with a plug/dildo first helps.
Best position for me is on my back with my wife over me. That way I can adjust the angle to get comfortable but also then kiss her and look at her while she is fucking me, and occasionally have her boobs in my face.
My balls tend to disappear in this position so I use an adjustable silicone cock ring around the back of my balls.
Good luck - get him in the zone and he’ll be putty in your hands. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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One bit that always gets overlooked: you both need to be relaxed and turned on.
Also, assuming you’re enjoying it: tell him you’re enjoying it: spoils it a. It if you’re thinking she’s hating it and
“Only doing it for you” |
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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago
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"One bit that always gets overlooked: you both need to be relaxed and turned on.
Also, assuming you’re enjoying it: tell him you’re enjoying it: spoils it a. It if you’re thinking she’s hating it and
“Only doing it for you”"
In that vein we find it best if it isn't really planned and just happens or not. |
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