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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Every day we are getting at least 10-20 random friend requests from people we haven’t spoken to. If I post a new photo, we can get anything over 50. It’s annoying as we have to go through each one to check if we have met them at a club etc. Can I ask why people send them randomly? Seems so pointless, especially as we are happy to send face photos to whoever. |
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By *j48Man
over a year ago
Wigan |
And I sent you a friend request when OP
If you're that arsed about finding people who you've met up with somewhere, you look for them
A note on your profile - all freind requests deleted, we'll find you
Eliminates your "entitlement" that you think you're above anyone else
Just delete the fucking things and stop whinging on a ohhh look at us thread |
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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago
Beyond the shadows. |
"Every day we are getting at least 10-20 random friend requests from people we haven’t spoken to. If I post a new photo, we can get anything over 50. It’s annoying as we have to go through each one to check if we have met them at a club etc. Can I ask why people send them randomly? Seems so pointless, especially as we are happy to send face photos to whoever. "
They probably want to check out yur friends only photos or something
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep, so they can wank over your private pics. Just go in and delete all if they bug you.
I don't always accept them but they don't annoy me either. Fucking raging that someone has the cheek to find me attractive and wants to rip the head off it to my pics  |
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"And I sent you a friend request when OP
If you're that arsed about finding people who you've met up with somewhere, you look for them
A note on your profile - all freind requests deleted, we'll find you
Eliminates your "entitlement" that you think you're above anyone else
Just delete the fucking things and stop whinging on a ohhh look at us thread "
What makes you think they think they are above anyone else? Because they asking for a conversation before sending requests ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's so they can see your private pics and so you can see there's
I guess there hoping you'll like theres and ask you to meet "
Like you did when you sent a random friend request!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And I sent you a friend request when OP
If you're that arsed about finding people who you've met up with somewhere, you look for them
A note on your profile - all freind requests deleted, we'll find you
Eliminates your "entitlement" that you think you're above anyone else
Just delete the fucking things and stop whinging on a ohhh look at us thread "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And I sent you a friend request when OP
If you're that arsed about finding people who you've met up with somewhere, you look for them
A note on your profile - all freind requests deleted, we'll find you
Eliminates your "entitlement" that you think you're above anyone else
Just delete the fucking things and stop whinging on a ohhh look at us thread "
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"Every day we are getting at least 10-20 random friend requests from people we haven’t spoken to. If I post a new photo, we can get anything over 50. It’s annoying as we have to go through each one to check if we have met them at a club etc. Can I ask why people send them randomly? Seems so pointless, especially as we are happy to send face photos to whoever. "
Block them. Samples. |
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By *MNJCouple
over a year ago
Nuneaton |
It's like winks everyone uses them differently, we're not too fussed about who we accept it's more so we can control who sees our face pics and we generally accept people if there's an attraction there and we're confident they're nobody we know.
We send them occasionally to kinda "save" people for later as we're not playing right now so seems like a waste of people's time messaging them when it isn't going to go any further for months but we find them attractive and would want to contact them in the future but everyone uses them differently.
Never send them to people who's profile says no random friend requests though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"And I sent you a friend request when OP
If you're that arsed about finding people who you've met up with somewhere, you look for them
A note on your profile - all freind requests deleted, we'll find you
Eliminates your "entitlement" that you think you're above anyone else
Just delete the fucking things and stop whinging on a ohhh look at us thread "
Loll, evidently this has hit a nerve. Very sorry. No need to be bitter though- you could of easily just ignored this post as we can the friend requests, I guess it’s just annoying right?
- I’m only asking as deleting them all takes a good 10 mins everyday. But again, so sorry this has upset you greatly x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And I sent you a friend request when OP
If you're that arsed about finding people who you've met up with somewhere, you look for them
A note on your profile - all freind requests deleted, we'll find you
Eliminates your "entitlement" that you think you're above anyone else
Just delete the fucking things and stop whinging on a ohhh look at us thread "
Where have they said you sent a friend invite?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's like winks everyone uses them differently, we're not too fussed about who we accept it's more so we can control who sees our face pics and we generally accept people if there's an attraction there and we're confident they're nobody we know.
We send them occasionally to kinda "save" people for later as we're not playing right now so seems like a waste of people's time messaging them when it isn't going to go any further for months but we find them attractive and would want to contact them in the future but everyone uses them differently.
Never send them to people who's profile says no random friend requests though."
Thanks for replying with an actual response and not just insults because you do things differently!
This makes sense. I guess it’s cause we only add people who we have met or meeting, as we have face photos public.
Also it’s nice to hear you read profiles, saves everyone’s time! x
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
North of The Wall - youll need your vest |
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- I’m only asking as deleting them all takes a good 10 mins everyday. But again, so sorry this has upset you greatly x "
If you dont delete them and just leave them sitting there it stops someone from resending another request for about 30 days (if my memory serves me correctly) |
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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago
Ashbourne(ish) and Chesterfield(ish) |
"Every day we are getting at least 10-20 random friend requests from people we haven’t spoken to. If I post a new photo, we can get anything over 50. It’s annoying as we have to go through each one to check if we have met them at a club etc. Can I ask why people send them randomly? Seems so pointless, especially as we are happy to send face photos to whoever. "
It seems to be people just wanting access to our friends only pics. Noseyness I guess.
Like you, we have a huge influx of them after we post any new pics. We just quickly go down the list to see if we recognise anyone from meeting or previous communication and then just use the delete all function. |
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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago
Ashbourne(ish) and Chesterfield(ish) |
"If you dont delete them and just leave them sitting there it stops someone from resending another request for about 30 days (if my memory serves me correctly)"
Thanks for that tip, you learn something new everyday.  |
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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago
West Kent (near Tonbridge) |
"And I sent you a friend request when OP
If you're that arsed about finding people who you've met up with somewhere, you look for them
A note on your profile - all freind requests deleted, we'll find you
Eliminates your "entitlement" that you think you're above anyone else
Just delete the fucking things and stop whinging on a ohhh look at us thread
Where have they said you sent a friend invite? "
That's what I was wondering. The tone of the response almost suggests 'prior' with the OP. Didn't see it as a 'look at us' thread at all. |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
They are chancing their arm and probably hoping to look at your private pics.
Put on your profile that if you haven't met then you will just delete any friends request you receive.
Wait till they are off line accept their friends request look at their private photos and then unfriend and block it simple really and what we do
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"And I sent you a friend request when OP
If you're that arsed about finding people who you've met up with somewhere, you look for them
A note on your profile - all freind requests deleted, we'll find you
Eliminates your "entitlement" that you think you're above anyone else
Just delete the fucking things and stop whinging on a ohhh look at us thread
Where have they said you sent a friend invite?
That's what I was wondering. The tone of the response almost suggests 'prior' with the OP. Didn't see it as a 'look at us' thread at all."
I can assure you we have never spoken to this guy before apart from on this forum - also we have an age limit set on profile, so are sure he hasn’t personally been offended by us not accepting his request because he would of never been able to send one in the first place.
I think he’s just sensitive today.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"They are chancing their arm and probably hoping to look at your private pics.
Put on your profile that if you haven't met then you will just delete any friends request you receive.
Wait till they are off line accept their friends request look at their private photos and then unfriend and block it simple really and what we do
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Ooo clever. If ever we want to be nosey I’ll be doing this... |
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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago
West Kent (near Tonbridge) |
"And I sent you a friend request when OP
If you're that arsed about finding people who you've met up with somewhere, you look for them
A note on your profile - all freind requests deleted, we'll find you
Eliminates your "entitlement" that you think you're above anyone else
Just delete the fucking things and stop whinging on a ohhh look at us thread
Where have they said you sent a friend invite?
That's what I was wondering. The tone of the response almost suggests 'prior' with the OP. Didn't see it as a 'look at us' thread at all.
I can assure you we have never spoken to this guy before apart from on this forum - also we have an age limit set on profile, so are sure he hasn’t personally been offended by us not accepting his request because he would of never been able to send one in the first place.
I think he’s just sensitive today...."
Clearly! Oh well. Hope the unsolicited friend requests decline. |
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"And I sent you a friend request when OP
If you're that arsed about finding people who you've met up with somewhere, you look for them
A note on your profile - all freind requests deleted, we'll find you
Eliminates your "entitlement" that you think you're above anyone else
Just delete the fucking things and stop whinging on a ohhh look at us thread "
This is harsh! Take a chill pill.
Friend requests from the unknown are just a waste of time, they should message first! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And I sent you a friend request when OP
If you're that arsed about finding people who you've met up with somewhere, you look for them
A note on your profile - all freind requests deleted, we'll find you
Eliminates your "entitlement" that you think you're above anyone else
Just delete the fucking things and stop whinging on a ohhh look at us thread "
If anything it’s you with the entitlement friend requesting people you’ve never spoken to.
Don’t understand it.
You sound bitter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And I sent you a friend request when OP
If you're that arsed about finding people who you've met up with somewhere, you look for them
A note on your profile - all freind requests deleted, we'll find you
Eliminates your "entitlement" that you think you're above anyone else
Just delete the fucking things and stop whinging on a ohhh look at us thread
Where have they said you sent a friend invite?
That's what I was wondering. The tone of the response almost suggests 'prior' with the OP. Didn't see it as a 'look at us' thread at all.
I can assure you we have never spoken to this guy before apart from on this forum - also we have an age limit set on profile, so are sure he hasn’t personally been offended by us not accepting his request because he would of never been able to send one in the first place.
I think he’s just sensitive today...."
Very sensitive!
Poor baby. |
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By *MNJCouple
over a year ago
Nuneaton |
"It's like winks everyone uses them differently, we're not too fussed about who we accept it's more so we can control who sees our face pics and we generally accept people if there's an attraction there and we're confident they're nobody we know.
We send them occasionally to kinda "save" people for later as we're not playing right now so seems like a waste of people's time messaging them when it isn't going to go any further for months but we find them attractive and would want to contact them in the future but everyone uses them differently.
Never send them to people who's profile says no random friend requests though.
Thanks for replying with an actual response and not just insults because you do things differently!
This makes sense. I guess it’s cause we only add people who we have met or meeting, as we have face photos public.
Also it’s nice to hear you read profiles, saves everyone’s time! x
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I should add though reading the profile doesn't always prevent stumbling over a profile again a few days later knowing youve already read it, sending a friend request then remembering we're not their type of they don't do friend requests so having to send a message apologizing anyway  |
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"And I sent you a friend request when OP
If you're that arsed about finding people who you've met up with somewhere, you look for them
A note on your profile - all freind requests deleted, we'll find you
Eliminates your "entitlement" that you think you're above anyone else
Just delete the fucking things and stop whinging on a ohhh look at us thread
If anything it’s you with the entitlement friend requesting people you’ve never spoken to.
Don’t understand it.
You sound bitter. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's like winks everyone uses them differently, we're not too fussed about who we accept it's more so we can control who sees our face pics and we generally accept people if there's an attraction there and we're confident they're nobody we know.
We send them occasionally to kinda "save" people for later as we're not playing right now so seems like a waste of people's time messaging them when it isn't going to go any further for months but we find them attractive and would want to contact them in the future but everyone uses them differently.
Never send them to people who's profile says no random friend requests though.
Thanks for replying with an actual response and not just insults because you do things differently!
This makes sense. I guess it’s cause we only add people who we have met or meeting, as we have face photos public.
Also it’s nice to hear you read profiles, saves everyone’s time! x
I should add though reading the profile doesn't always prevent stumbling over a profile again a few days later knowing youve already read it, sending a friend request then remembering we're not their type of they don't do friend requests so having to send a message apologizing anyway "
So why send a friend request when you haven't even spoken?
Or is it different rules for couples |
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By *MNJCouple
over a year ago
Nuneaton |
"It's like winks everyone uses them differently, we're not too fussed about who we accept it's more so we can control who sees our face pics and we generally accept people if there's an attraction there and we're confident they're nobody we know.
We send them occasionally to kinda "save" people for later as we're not playing right now so seems like a waste of people's time messaging them when it isn't going to go any further for months but we find them attractive and would want to contact them in the future but everyone uses them differently.
Never send them to people who's profile says no random friend requests though.
Thanks for replying with an actual response and not just insults because you do things differently!
This makes sense. I guess it’s cause we only add people who we have met or meeting, as we have face photos public.
Also it’s nice to hear you read profiles, saves everyone’s time! x
I should add though reading the profile doesn't always prevent stumbling over a profile again a few days later knowing youve already read it, sending a friend request then remembering we're not their type of they don't do friend requests so having to send a message apologizing anyway
So why send a friend request when you haven't even spoken?
Or is it different rules for couples "
For the reasons above, I'm not sure there are rules for anyone as I say everyone uses these features differently. |
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By *offee with MilkCouple
over a year ago
Over the roundabout and then turn right. |
"And I sent you a friend request when OP
If you're that arsed about finding people who you've met up with somewhere, you look for them
A note on your profile - all freind requests deleted, we'll find you
Eliminates your "entitlement" that you think you're above anyone else
Just delete the fucking things and stop whinging on a ohhh look at us thread
Loll, evidently this has hit a nerve. Very sorry. No need to be bitter though- you could of easily just ignored this post as we can the friend requests, I guess it’s just annoying right?
- I’m only asking as deleting them all takes a good 10 mins everyday. But again, so sorry this has upset you greatly x "
I LOVE this reply |
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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago
Beyond the shadows. |
"And I sent you a friend request when OP
If you're that arsed about finding people who you've met up with somewhere, you look for them
A note on your profile - all freind requests deleted, we'll find you
Eliminates your "entitlement" that you think you're above anyone else
Just delete the fucking things and stop whinging on a ohhh look at us thread
Loll, evidently this has hit a nerve. Very sorry. No need to be bitter though- you could of easily just ignored this post as we can the friend requests, I guess it’s just annoying right?
- I’m only asking as deleting them all takes a good 10 mins everyday. But again, so sorry this has upset you greatly x "
Good point well made put in a polite way. Now there's a lesson in how to Disarm someone |
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I keep all my face pics and some naughty pics for friends only..so if someone wants to see them..they have to chat to me 1st and see if there's a mutual connection..plus it stops all the pic pervs from tugging 1 off over me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's like winks everyone uses them differently, we're not too fussed about who we accept it's more so we can control who sees our face pics and we generally accept people if there's an attraction there and we're confident they're nobody we know.
We send them occasionally to kinda "save" people for later as we're not playing right now so seems like a waste of people's time messaging them when it isn't going to go any further for months but we find them attractive and would want to contact them in the future but everyone uses them differently.
Never send them to people who's profile says no random friend requests though.
Thanks for replying with an actual response and not just insults because you do things differently!
This makes sense. I guess it’s cause we only add people who we have met or meeting, as we have face photos public.
Also it’s nice to hear you read profiles, saves everyone’s time! x
I should add though reading the profile doesn't always prevent stumbling over a profile again a few days later knowing youve already read it, sending a friend request then remembering we're not their type of they don't do friend requests so having to send a message apologizing anyway
So why send a friend request when you haven't even spoken?
Or is it different rules for couples
For the reasons above, I'm not sure there are rules for anyone as I say everyone uses these features differently. "
I am fairly confident that if I was to friend request to bookmark someone rather than adding them to my hotlist, I'd be blocked by everyone.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And I sent you a friend request when OP
If you're that arsed about finding people who you've met up with somewhere, you look for them
A note on your profile - all freind requests deleted, we'll find you
Eliminates your "entitlement" that you think you're above anyone else
Just delete the fucking things and stop whinging on a ohhh look at us thread "
This is where I find the forums useful. Spiteful comments like this would ensure I’d never contact the author no matter how attractive their profile was. Red flag for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Probably just want to perv at your friends only pics.
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Exactly this. I get loads, doesn't bother me. I just ignore them and leave them there, they cannot send another one for 30 days I think then! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Every day we are getting at least 10-20 random friend requests from people we haven’t spoken to. If I post a new photo, we can get anything over 50. It’s annoying as we have to go through each one to check if we have met them at a club etc. Can I ask why people send them randomly? Seems so pointless, especially as we are happy to send face photos to whoever. "
Might be just me but is it as the pics are so hot?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And I sent you a friend request when OP
If you're that arsed about finding people who you've met up with somewhere, you look for them
A note on your profile - all freind requests deleted, we'll find you
Eliminates your "entitlement" that you think you're above anyone else
Just delete the fucking things and stop whinging on a ohhh look at us thread "
Here , please have a snickers |
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I tend to think about the whole experience as meeting someone in a bar or club. I wouldn’t go up to a woman and say ‘can we be friends, please, can we, can we, please?!’ I’d have a chat first and take it from there.
So I send a message first and if I don’t hear back I move on: if I do, great, we ‘chat’ and send the friends request through.
Oh and the chat isn’t ‘fancy a meet!’ Again you wouldn’t open a conversation in real life like that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can offer an old pvc blue dress a white pvc nurse dress. A bag of mixed Tesco nuts. And a bottle of iron brew. If you be my friend. PS no one has asked me in months. So am sad. ????????
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe they are thinking it will grab your attention.
Women and couples get so many messages that sometimes you need to send a few before they see yours. It's happened to me send around 3 messages spead over a week then started chatting. They where block deleting as couldn't keep up |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
As a test try putting your friends only pics to private, that will eliminate the pic collectors. Or be really mean & have fully clothed "boring" pics in friends only. See what affect both options have over the next few day? My money is on the volume dropping with no friends pics.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a test try putting your friends only pics to private, that will eliminate the pic collectors. Or be really mean & have fully clothed "boring" pics in friends only. See what affect both options have over the next few day? My money is on the volume dropping with no friends pics.
S"
What do I need to do to get more unsolicited requests? |
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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago
Beyond the shadows. |
"As a test try putting your friends only pics to private, that will eliminate the pic collectors. Or be really mean & have fully clothed "boring" pics in friends only. See what affect both options have over the next few day? My money is on the volume dropping with no friends pics.
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What do I need to do to get more unsolicited requests? "
Become female |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a test try putting your friends only pics to private, that will eliminate the pic collectors. Or be really mean & have fully clothed "boring" pics in friends only. See what affect both options have over the next few day? My money is on the volume dropping with no friends pics.
S
What do I need to do to get more unsolicited requests?
Become female "
Got it in one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a test try putting your friends only pics to private, that will eliminate the pic collectors. Or be really mean & have fully clothed "boring" pics in friends only. See what affect both options have over the next few day? My money is on the volume dropping with no friends pics.
S
What do I need to do to get more unsolicited requests?
Become female
Got it in one. "
I was hoping for a less drastic solution! |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria |
Just bulk delete them, if they are truly interested in meeting and not just wanting to see if you have face or porno pics in friends they will message you anyway, so just one button to press. Perhaps put on your profile that you do this to stop people you met in clubs just sending a friends request before sending a message first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's so they can see your private pics and so you can see there's
I guess there hoping you'll like theres and ask you to meet "
This.
If we like the look of them then we wait until they’re off line. Perve. Then unfriend again until we’re ready to actually confirm again when WE want to.
Otherwise their request just gets deleted.
I do agree it’s a bit baffling but as with anything on this site so many people use so many different things in different ways.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And I sent you a friend request when OP
If you're that arsed about finding people who you've met up with somewhere, you look for them
A note on your profile - all freind requests deleted, we'll find you
Eliminates your "entitlement" that you think you're above anyone else
Just delete the fucking things and stop whinging on a ohhh look at us thread "
Have to say that 3 days on this subject. I'm with him just press delete all. You show everything on your profile so they have nothing to gain. I think it's just a look at us very picky pair lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's so they can see your private pics and so you can see there's
I guess there hoping you'll like theres and ask you to meet
This "
Yeah what he said - I've never done that because im a good boy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's so they can see your private pics and so you can see there's
I guess there hoping you'll like theres and ask you to meet
Like you did when you sent a random friend request!
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