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"Well, look at it this way. You found out they're stuck-up and not worth the time of day." Wow, you think that makes them stuck up? We're here to have nsa sex and not a social networking, lets make friends site, a message like that from a stranger who we've already kinda fobbed off in a nice way would irritate me too! Z | |||
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"Well, look at it this way. You found out they're stuck-up and not worth the time of day. Wow, you think that makes them stuck up? We're here to have nsa sex and not a social networking, lets make friends site, a message like that from a stranger who we've already kinda fobbed off in a nice way would irritate me too! Z" Wasnt fobbed of =the indications were that they wanted to meet sometime and the way its been left they still havent ruled out meeting - everyone uses this site differently - you may use it one way but it doesnt mean its the only or right way to use  | |||
"Well, look at it this way. You found out they're stuck-up and not worth the time of day. Wow, you think that makes them stuck up? We're here to have nsa sex and not a social networking, lets make friends site, a message like that from a stranger who we've already kinda fobbed off in a nice way would irritate me too! Z" The odd thing is you say exactly the opposite on your profile - wining and dinner enjoying the social side and catching up with old friends | |||
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"how do you know he was offended. by the reply you said he gave it just says he was telling you it was none of your business" because I used a bit of discretion and left some of his response out - but was alomg the same lines and his subsequent messages were also along the same lines | |||
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The amount of people that say they are only her to chat is a fair few...
And one or two have been caught, saying one thing and doing another...
Enjoy fab for what you find, not for what you seek  | |||
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The amount of people that say they are only her to chat is a fair few...
And one or two have been caught, saying one thing and doing another...
Enjoy fab for what you find, not for what you seek "pssst if you write in all lower case you get a  | |||
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"Well, look at it this way. You found out they're stuck-up and not worth the time of day." I wouldn't say "stuck up" but maybe this is someway of saying that you are not suited for each other in terms of swinging.... some people like to chat and bit a rapport.... some people are not as "friendly"... but it helps me make up my mind in if I want to take it any further.... | |||
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"We wouldn't have been offended but would have thought the same thing and answered saying why you won't be getting the question answered. To be honest though, if we have said to someone maybe another time and they had come back straight away wanted to chit chat we would be telling them not to contact us again as we only want to chat if we are thinking of arranging meets, maybe this couple do the same." My view too...i would have blocked the op as pushy...messaging when we said we were not interested then trying to get info about our lives. i use the forum/chat to get to know ppl, if i want to meet someone who messages i will say so,nothing is more annoying than being peppered with mail from someone i dont know. | |||
"We wouldn't have been offended but would have thought the same thing and answered saying why you won't be getting the question answered. To be honest though, if we have said to someone maybe another time and they had come back straight away wanted to chit chat we would be telling them not to contact us again as we only want to chat if we are thinking of arranging meets, maybe this couple do the same. My view too...i would have blocked the op as pushy...messaging when we said we were not interested then trying to get info about our lives. i use the forum/chat to get to know ppl, if i want to meet someone who messages i will say so,nothing is more annoying than being peppered with mail from someone i dont know." read the op they were interested in meeting | |||
"I had previously messaged a couple introducing my self and askng if they would like to chat/meet and get to know me and had a polite reply saying that they were not meeting at the moment but not ruling out meeting in the future. As they (maybe he) is online a lot I sent a message a day or so later Headed "Just Chat" thinking he must be on here chatting and not wishing to drone on about swinging I asked " what interest do you have outside the swinging scene" as I do with a lot of people, to which he irately replied "non of your business" - I was merely trying to strike up a polite conversation about soccer rugby politis etc - so don't know what he read in my message - would anyone else take offence - and yes that's exactly how it happened" i think they was trying to say no thanks | |||
"How very dare people feel they have the right not to exchange messages with everyone that writes to them..... Disgusted of Devon" You cant be disgusted of Devon, I am........... Oh no wait I am disgusting of Devon.... carry on...... (bugger) | |||
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The amount of people that say they are only her to chat is a fair few...
And one or two have been caught, saying one thing and doing another...
Enjoy fab for what you find, not for what you seek "Lol, I know loads of em, "Just Chatting"..... Yeah you know who you are....... I shall out you all in a blaze of glory when Bjork agrees to marry me, be afraid, be very afraid..... In other news, I am leaving for Iceland in the morning (no not where you get your chips from), be VERY afraid | |||
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"We wouldn't have been offended but would have thought the same thing and answered saying why you won't be getting the question answered. To be honest though, if we have said to someone maybe another time and they had come back straight away wanted to chit chat we would be telling them not to contact us again as we only want to chat if we are thinking of arranging meets, maybe this couple do the same. My view too...i would have blocked the op as pushy...messaging when we said we were not interested then trying to get info about our lives. i use the forum/chat to get to know ppl, if i want to meet someone who messages i will say so,nothing is more annoying than being peppered with mail from someone i dont know." where in the op did i say I had a message saying they werent interested - do people not read what they are replying to | |||
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"We wouldn't have been offended but would have thought the same thing and answered saying why you won't be getting the question answered. To be honest though, if we have said to someone maybe another time and they had come back straight away wanted to chit chat we would be telling them not to contact us again as we only want to chat if we are thinking of arranging meets, maybe this couple do the same. My view too...i would have blocked the op as pushy...messaging when we said we were not interested then trying to get info about our lives. i use the forum/chat to get to know ppl, if i want to meet someone who messages i will say so,nothing is more annoying than being peppered with mail from someone i dont know. read the op they were interested in meeting" no,they said they were not meeting at the moment,but would keep you in mind...it was a polite brush off...the fact people take this is a come on is why i dont reply to unsolicited messages | |||
"We wouldn't have been offended but would have thought the same thing and answered saying why you won't be getting the question answered. To be honest though, if we have said to someone maybe another time and they had come back straight away wanted to chit chat we would be telling them not to contact us again as we only want to chat if we are thinking of arranging meets, maybe this couple do the same. My view too...i would have blocked the op as pushy...messaging when we said we were not interested then trying to get info about our lives. i use the forum/chat to get to know ppl, if i want to meet someone who messages i will say so,nothing is more annoying than being peppered with mail from someone i dont know. read the op they were interested in meeting no,they said they were not meeting at the moment,but would keep you in mind...it was a polite brush off...the fact people take this is a come on is why i dont reply to unsolicited messages" no - and how would you know what they said are you nystic meg - they had told me they were interested in meeting | |||
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The amount of people that say they are only her to chat is a fair few...
And one or two have been caught, saying one thing and doing another...
Enjoy fab for what you find, not for what you seek
pssst if you write in all lower case you get a "
thanks for the tip | |||
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"no your first paragraph is nowhere near correct I choose only to mention the last couple of days because that was the inly ones relevent I had exchanged a few messages over the last month and had had no adverse comments in fact everytime I was led to believe that they were interested in meeting some time - as they were neither photo or people verified I took it that they meant that they werent ready to meet at that time - If they wernt interested they could have said at anytime or blocked me as they said they wernt new to swinging. So when I messaged him to strike up some banter it was not completely out of the blue as I had taken the time to send them a lengthy introduction message many weeks earlier. Obviously we have a lot of prople on here judging things from their own experiences which dont apply here." O K, so we are asked to have an opinion of your experience? Point of thread = lost on me, in other words, unless we agree with you, we are wrong? Now who is being judgemental? As I said and I will maintain, people commented on your initial post, you have added after the fact information and then berated them for being "wrong". You come across as pushy, my opinion, sorry if it doesnt suit, happy swinging, good luck with future meets and have a great 2012  | |||
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"no your first paragraph is nowhere near correct I choose only to mention the last couple of days because that was the inly ones relevent I had exchanged a few messages over the last month and had had no adverse comments in fact everytime I was led to believe that they were interested in meeting some time - as they were neither photo or people verified I took it that they meant that they werent ready to meet at that time - If they wernt interested they could have said at anytime or blocked me as they said they wernt new to swinging. So when I messaged him to strike up some banter it was not completely out of the blue as I had taken the time to send them a lengthy introduction message many weeks earlier. Obviously we have a lot of prople on here judging things from their own experiences which dont apply here." No..we judge thing from your own post which said.. "I had previously messaged a couple introducing my self and askng if they would like to chat/meet and get to know me and had a polite reply saying that they were not meeting at the moment but not ruling out meeting in the future. " Accept the advice here. or carry on your own sweet way,one will work,one wont,its up to you. Nothing is more pathetic though than a poster who wont own his own words, | |||
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"If the couple weren't interested they should of made it perfectly clear with a 'no thankyou' rather than giving a glimmer of hope, hence why (I presume) you messaged again to strike up a friendship! " bollocks...us couples get slated for not replying,and here for being nice... they said no in a fashion anyone with half a brain could understand. | |||
"Most likely that they had no other interests other than watching porn perving on ppl on fab and gengeral wanking " What utter bollocks  | |||
"I had previously messaged a couple introducing my self and askng if they would like to chat/meet and get to know me and had a polite reply saying that they were not meeting at the moment but not ruling out meeting in the future. As they (maybe he) is online a lot I sent a message a day or so later Headed "Just Chat" thinking he must be on here chatting and not wishing to drone on about swinging I asked " what interest do you have outside the swinging scene" as I do with a lot of people, to which he irately replied "non of your business" - I was merely trying to strike up a polite conversation about soccer rugby politis etc - so don't know what he read in my message - would anyone else take offence - and yes that's exactly how it happened" Search the forums for ignorant or no reply's to my messages. It is so much easier to not respond to someone you are not in the slightest bit interested in meeting. A polite, thanks, but no thanks get's this sort of reaction. | |||
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"Although that wouldn't have offended me I would probably have reaced in the same way, our interests have absolutely nothing to do with any one else especially on a swingers site! Z" Same here and I'd have taken that as being pushy which is off putting. Ms | |||
"How very dare people feel they have the right not to exchange messages with everyone that writes to them..... Disgusted of Devon"  | |||
"Although that wouldn't have offended me I would probably have reaced in the same way, our interests have absolutely nothing to do with any one else especially on a swingers site! Z Same here and I'd have taken that as being pushy which is off putting. Ms" | |||
"If the couple weren't interested they should of made it perfectly clear with a 'no thankyou' rather than giving a glimmer of hope, hence why (I presume) you messaged again to strike up a friendship! bollocks...us couples get slated for not replying,and here for being nice... they said no in a fashion anyone with half a brain could understand." Saying "no in a fashion"? What's the point if only you know that means no! People need to be clear, concise and to the point. If your not interested " no thankyou " is the only way to say it! | |||
if we spot a guy/ girl/ couple we want to play with but they are currently busy or not meeting, we hotlist them and wait until they get back into things, no point in pestering people xx
also, what made you so certain it was the male half? us girls can be just as un-chatty when the wrong things are asked x | |||
"i (fem half) get this quite a lot. As the Mr works away often we get a lot of emails asking to meet which are replied to explaining when we can as it has to fit around Red being home. The most common reply is similar to what OP said, then comes the where are you, what you into etc until it gets to the same questions every time, 'dont you get lonely?' 'dont you play alone' topped off by the best 'he doesnt need to know' Now as soon as i reply with when we can play, any other email starting off with can we chat i dont open for a few days as i know where that route leads
if we spot a guy/ girl/ couple we want to play with but they are currently busy or not meeting, we hotlist them and wait until they get back into things, no point in pestering people xx
also, what made you so certain it was the male half? us girls can be just as un-chatty when the wrong things are asked x "anyway my secret luver, fancy some more filling! | |||
"Well you have changed your story about 6 times during the course of this thread. " I was beginning to think it was me! | |||
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"Well you have changed your story about 6 times during the course of this thread. I was beginning to think it was me! "no wasnt you sassy i thought it to | |||
"Most likely that they had no other interests other than watching porn perving on ppl on fab and gengeral wanking " , indeed | |||
