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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Was wondering so I put the question out there...
What's the biggest put off single men profiles what's the biggest turn on and what would you like to see more.
Also what do you like and hate when single men approaches you?
Question obviously to single women and couples.
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Things I dislike on male profiles: Minimal effort profiles, no text, no sense of who the person is. Bad or old photos. Only one or two photos. Most or all pictures being cock shots. Action shots and cum shots.
I like, well, the opposite. Creative profiles, thoughtful text, nice pictures, particularly tasteful/ teasing.
Messages, I want to know why someone's written to me in particular (not just my pictures, preferably), showing they've read my profile. Respectful, polite, but not deferential. Can be to the point but without being wank chat or crass. What do they have to offer me, and I them? Pictures only necessary if they're lacking on the profile (unusually, I don't ask for face pictures immediately). I hate cock shots unless I've established I want to meet someone. No expectations to meet immediately. No demands for Kik, other social media, or dirty chat.
Spelling and grammar matter to me, but mistakes happen and to a degree can be overlooked. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Things I dislike on male profiles: Minimal effort profiles, no text, no sense of who the person is. Bad or old photos. Only one or two photos. Most or all pictures being cock shots. Action shots and cum shots.
I like, well, the opposite. Creative profiles, thoughtful text, nice pictures, particularly tasteful/ teasing.
Messages, I want to know why someone's written to me in particular (not just my pictures, preferably), showing they've read my profile. Respectful, polite, but not deferential. Can be to the point but without being wank chat or crass. What do they have to offer me, and I them? Pictures only necessary if they're lacking on the profile (unusually, I don't ask for face pictures immediately). I hate cock shots unless I've established I want to meet someone. No expectations to meet immediately. No demands for Kik, other social media, or dirty chat.
Spelling and grammar matter to me, but mistakes happen and to a degree can be overlooked. "
Brilliant! Thank you very much!
What would you change about my profile if you don't mind me asking |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Anymore thoughts?
Help us all single men to improve the experience on here 
Be nice to people, it’s contagious! "
Fantastic positive approach!
Thank you for your comment |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sorry for the delay. I really like your pictures. Maybe think a bit more on the profile text? It's not bad, but could be better. How is difficult to say, you want it to sell you. "
Thank you. Will work on it |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds |
There's no one size fits all.. what one person likes another won't.
All you can be is the best you you can be and hopefully someone else finds that appealing.
Words don't mean much if the other person doesn't find you attractive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dislike seeing a dick pic before anything else. I don't need to see it. I only need to know it's measurements  .
I hate when they lie about matching what I'm looking for. Which is why I like talking for abit before meeting up. They usually slip up and reveal the truth. Biggest fib has actually been they live alone. Some don't.
I like all the guys who act nice and well mannered. Considering why they're on here, extending some manners and respect to the lady they're messaging is the least they can do. No need to lie and deceive. No need to act sleazy from the get go! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'll judge you more on how you chat than what you write in a profile "
Totally agree with you.
Long as a guy puts the basics on his profile, I couldn't care less really if there's only a short to the point paragraph.
I personally only need to know if he's single, lives alone, willing to accommodate, is located within 30 minutes of me and a short bit stating what they hope to get from this site. For example a leg over and go or a regular friendship with added sexual benefits . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like your profile OP. I like the teasing pics. You have given it thought and some class.
Intelligence shows and some insight.
Leaving something to be discovered. Best kind of profile. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There's no one size fits all.. what one person likes another won't.
All you can be is the best you you can be and hopefully someone else finds that appealing.
Words don't mean much if the other person doesn't find you attractive."
I agree partially as in look attracts but personality keep them interested?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I like your profile OP. I like the teasing pics. You have given it thought and some class.
Intelligence shows and some insight.
Leaving something to be discovered. Best kind of profile."
Thank you very much.
Glad you like Exactly what I intended so very happy you've noticed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Was wondering so I put the question out there...
What's the biggest put off single men profiles what's the biggest turn on and what would you like to see more.
Also what do you like and hate when single men approaches you?
Question obviously to single women and couples.
Dan"
see your profile pic for me says fab str8 so I'd get rid of that for starters, they like more subtle pics the ladies that is |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you weren't inked and toned I wonder what responses you would have got instead..."
I've slept with all shapes and sizes. I'm just complimenting what I see in front of me!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you weren't inked and toned I wonder what responses you would have got instead...
I've slept with all shapes and sizes. I'm just complimenting what I see in front of me!
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yes but sleeping and having sex with them are two entirely different things |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you weren't inked and toned I wonder what responses you would have got instead...
I've slept with all shapes and sizes. I'm just complimenting what I see in front of me!
yes but sleeping and having sex with them are two entirely different things "
Hahaha - oh it was definitely dirty, filthy sex, with a paunch and no ink - but with hair! Bonus!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you weren't inked and toned I wonder what responses you would have got instead...
I've slept with all shapes and sizes. I'm just complimenting what I see in front of me!
yes but sleeping and having sex with them are two entirely different things
Hahaha - oh it was definitely dirty, filthy sex, with a paunch and no ink - but with hair! Bonus!!! "
hair and a manly paunch ha |
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"I don't need no help on profile
But I want minimise the verification i actually don't want any more lol
How do u say no to verification after meets lol"
Make it clear during meets. Hide the verification and the summary if they happen anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Men on here never listen to profile advice do they?"
I did. I lost myself. I had to come back with a stinking attitude to remember who I used to be.
It has done me few favours.
Profile advice on how to soften your approach is one thing. Writing lies to appeal to others and being what people want is where men become unstuck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s fairly simple;
Read the profile. And write accordingly.
Be polite.
Use proper English.
And yes although this site is for a purpose, being down right crude isn’t always the best way to start.
Just my opinion x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's funny how male profiles get the bad rap for having no effort put it when 75% of female are just as bad if not worse....
Male profiles get get slagged off for too many cock pics when 90% of female profiles have close up pussy pics that are just as awful to look at... |
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"It's funny how male profiles get the bad rap for having no effort put it when 75% of female are just as bad if not worse....
Male profiles get get slagged off for too many cock pics when 90% of female profiles have close up pussy pics that are just as awful to look at... "
I only care about my own profile. I don't think I'm a hypocrite. I'd do things slightly differently if I were a guy, but, play to your audience and realities of supply and demand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Was wondering so I put the question out there...
What's the biggest put off single men profiles what's the biggest turn on and what would you like to see more.
Also what do you like and hate when single men approaches you?
Question obviously to single women and couples.
Dan"
I hate short texts and just dick pics
Mrscxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's funny how male profiles get the bad rap for having no effort put it when 75% of female are just as bad if not worse....
Male profiles get get slagged off for too many cock pics when 90% of female profiles have close up pussy pics that are just as awful to look at... "
I don't think they get time too to work on profiles with thousands of men trying to get in there first. |
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"Anymore thoughts?
Help us all single men to improve the experience on here
Be nice to people, it’s contagious! "
Every message I've sent has been friendly and polite with no mention of sex..it's got me nowhere..I've been brought up to be respectful but once again..do people not want respect anymore  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's funny how male profiles get the bad rap for having no effort put it when 75% of female are just as bad if not worse....
Male profiles get get slagged off for too many cock pics when 90% of female profiles have close up pussy pics that are just as awful to look at... "
Have you spent a lot or a little time to come up with those percentages? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anymore thoughts?
Help us all single men to improve the experience on here
Be nice to people, it’s contagious!
Every message I've sent has been friendly and polite with no mention of sex..it's got me nowhere..I've been brought up to be respectful but once again..do people not want respect anymore "
If you believe that people do not want respect you might be better giving up now. |
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"Anymore thoughts?
Help us all single men to improve the experience on here
Be nice to people, it’s contagious!
Every message I've sent has been friendly and polite with no mention of sex..it's got me nowhere..I've been brought up to be respectful but once again..do people not want respect anymore
If you believe that people do not want respect you might be better giving up now."
Yeah, if it's a no from me, I'll delete a respectful message (gives scope to try again), and block (possibly report) one that's not. |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds |
"Men on here never listen to profile advice do they?"
Maybe they think the advice isn't all that.. there's no obligation to take and use it. There are many different folk that ask for advice, I'd be surprised if they all took and actioned it.  |
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"Anymore thoughts?
Help us all single men to improve the experience on here
Be nice to people, it’s contagious!
Every message I've sent has been friendly and polite with no mention of sex..it's got me nowhere..I've been brought up to be respectful but once again..do people not want respect anymore
If you believe that people do not want respect you might be better giving up now.
Yeah, if it's a no from me, I'll delete a respectful message (gives scope to try again), and block (possibly report) one that's not. "
Seems I'm doing something wrong by being respectful and polite lol |
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"Anymore thoughts?
Help us all single men to improve the experience on here
Be nice to people, it’s contagious!
Every message I've sent has been friendly and polite with no mention of sex..it's got me nowhere..I've been brought up to be respectful but once again..do people not want respect anymore
If you believe that people do not want respect you might be better giving up now.
Yeah, if it's a no from me, I'll delete a respectful message (gives scope to try again), and block (possibly report) one that's not.
Seems I'm doing something wrong by being respectful and polite lol "
Believe me, that's not where you're going wrong. I don't know where or if you are, but it's not that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Lose the socks! If you’re going to take a photo of you standing there in all your naked glory - then take off the socks. Please.
Thank you. "
Ha ha ha
Fair comment |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hmm, let me think.. How long do we have, OP?
Take as long as you like Jessica
It may take all night long with me "
All night sound perfect but what are we on about here ha ha ha  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hmm, let me think.. How long do we have, OP?
Take as long as you like Jessica
It may take all night long with me
All night sound perfect but what are we on about here ha ha ha "
Improving single men's profiles of course |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thanks so much to everyone who has contributed to this thread - as a single male who is relatively new to this kind of site it has been really interesting seeing what people want to see, and I'll definitely be looking back over my profile as a result. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Things I dislike on male profiles: Minimal effort profiles, no text, no sense of who the person is. Bad or old photos. Only one or two photos. Most or all pictures being cock shots. Action shots and cum shots.
I like, well, the opposite. Creative profiles, thoughtful text, nice pictures, particularly tasteful/ teasing.
Messages, I want to know why someone's written to me in particular (not just my pictures, preferably), showing they've read my profile. Respectful, polite, but not deferential. Can be to the point but without being wank chat or crass. What do they have to offer me, and I them? Pictures only necessary if they're lacking on the profile (unusually, I don't ask for face pictures immediately). I hate cock shots unless I've established I want to meet someone. No expectations to meet immediately. No demands for Kik, other social media, or dirty chat.
Spelling and grammar matter to me, but mistakes happen and to a degree can be overlooked. "
All of this exactly  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thanks so much to everyone who has contributed to this thread - as a single male who is relatively new to this kind of site it has been really interesting seeing what people want to see, and I'll definitely be looking back over my profile as a result."
Glad to hear that! Exactly what I intended. Would be fantastic not to hear this negative comments about single men profiles |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hmm, let me think.. How long do we have, OP?
Take as long as you like Jessica
It may take all night long with me
All night sound perfect but what are we on about here ha ha ha
Improving single men's profiles of course "
Ow okay lol
For a sec thought we've drifted off the topic ha ha ha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It’s fairly simple;
Read the profile. And write accordingly.
Be polite.
Use proper English.
And yes although this site is for a purpose, being down right crude isn’t always the best way to start.
Just my opinion x
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Brilliant comment, thank you x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"silhouette or cock profile pics are a no for me.
Humorous profiles are easily a match for muscles.  "
Not a fan of cock pics, only have one in private in case someone would like to see what's on offer lol
Humorous? Elaborate please |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"silhouette or cock profile pics are a no for me.
Humorous profiles are easily a match for muscles.
Not a fan of cock pics, only have one in private in case someone would like to see what's on offer lol
Humorous? Elaborate please "
Fun- eeee. |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
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"Was wondering so I put the question out there...
What's the biggest put off single men profiles what's the biggest turn on and what would you like to see more.
Also what do you like and hate when single men approaches you?
Question obviously to single women and couples.
Dan"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hmm, let me think.. How long do we have, OP?
Take as long as you like Jessica
It may take all night long with me
All night sound perfect but what are we on about here ha ha ha
Improving single men's profiles of course
Ow okay lol
For a sec thought we've drifted off the topic ha ha ha "
I drifted off not long after |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hmm, let me think.. How long do we have, OP?
Take as long as you like Jessica
It may take all night long with me
All night sound perfect but what are we on about here ha ha ha
Improving single men's profiles of course
Ow okay lol
For a sec thought we've drifted off the topic ha ha ha
I drifted off not long after "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Was wondering so I put the question out there...
What's the biggest put off single men profiles what's the biggest turn on and what would you like to see more.
Also what do you like and hate when single men approaches you?
Question obviously to single women and couples.
Dan"
Biggest put off, cock pics and any message just saying hi, you're hot, I'm in your area.
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