Hi advice needed. How do we avoid time wasters... Turn up at the address given and no answer... Outdoor meets who never turn up... Get to a guys house and says we can't go in so have to sit in the car...
How do we avoid all this? |
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"Checking they have verifications... Asking for the address.. Photos...
What more can we do "
Some people recommend speaking on the phone, some going on cam but if someone is going to let you down they will.
We've never had a no show. We chat by message on here then arrange a social meet. I don't know what we're doing that's different to you. |
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Lots of ways help you to match with more reliable people. Some gained from experience.
Always chat live with them, so you can guage their instant reaction to questions etc. If just text messaging they have time to think of the best answer if it's lies.
Social meets, which are non-sexual meets to check each other out do some of the same and also deter fantasists.
Don't rush in to anything or for new users. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi advice needed. How do we avoid time wasters... Turn up at the address given and no answer... Outdoor meets who never turn up... Get to a guys house and says we can't go in so have to sit in the car...
How do we avoid all this? "
well its difficult to gauge the intention, I have been into same situation, travel to meeting point with nice wine and wasted 1 hours and the excuse was delivery boy is bringing some stuff for that I cannot go out. |
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By *lan157Man
over a year ago
a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex |
I always ask for a social meet. If thats too hard for someone then it's a good indication that all is not well. Maybe it means I miss out on opportunities but there will be others . Social meets put people at ease especially single women and if there is mutual attraction then subsequent play meets are going to be quickly arranged. |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
Durham |
Intuition, if it feels wrong or something is not right its not right. Intuition is the best. The very few times we have gone against it we've been kicked up the arse. Like most are saying a social is always a good place to start. We have observed that a lot of people (not saying all) who want to meet for instant play are looking for the best option and that option could come along half an hour before they are due to meet you, hence a no show |
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I would say have a social meet somewhere in public 1st,we always do and havent been unlucky so far.
Maybe you are attracting fantasists by agreeing to meet straight away ourside or at a home.
Also never do the dirty chat thing with anyone ,thats a good indicator they only want to get their rocks off online.
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"Intuition, if it feels wrong or something is not right its not right. Intuition is the best. The very few times we have gone against it we've been kicked up the arse. Like most are saying a social is always a good place to start. We have observed that a lot of people (not saying all) who want to meet for instant play are looking for the best option and that option could come along half an hour before they are due to meet you, hence a no show"
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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I only meet by chance now in clubs, which means I don't have to think of that kind of stuff anymore.
I realise lots of people don't want to meet in clubs, and it might take away some really interesting meets, but I feel that's what's safest, and best use of my time plus I enjoy the club scene.
When I did use to meet outside of clubs, I would have a quick face to face chat on Kik can first so I could make sure we had a visual connection and everything was as both parties expected.
If that went well a social in a public place like a coffee shop.
That was what worked for me. |
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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago
Camberley/Middleton |
"Hi advice needed. How do we avoid time wasters... Turn up at the address given and no answer... Outdoor meets who never turn up... Get to a guys house and says we can't go in so have to sit in the car...
How do we avoid all this? "
Talk on the phone before travelling if they won't talk its highly unlikely they will meet. |
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"Hi advice needed. How do we avoid time wasters... Turn up at the address given and no answer... Outdoor meets who never turn up... Get to a guys house and says we can't go in so have to sit in the car...
How do we avoid all this? "
You've had 8 meets in two months so going at it fairly hammer & tongs which sadly will increase the risk of encountering time wasters.
Maybe do as others have said and adopt a slower burn through social meets and longer preamble..the wasters quickly get bored of that! |
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