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Rejection from couples versus single guys
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So we’ve chatted and exchanged pics to arrange meets with various couples and single guys over the years.
For single guys we can only every remember one rejection based on pics. For couples it’s been pretty much 75% rejection on photos.
My assumption, as male of the couple, is that it’s me who ruins it for the team 
Any other couples find this? We are, of course, assuming women are much more picky than guys obviously. We will need to get along to a club as we’re nicer in the flesh  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We struggle with couples, we rarely find a couple that we both like both of.. so we don't bother.
It's not easy not everyone can be everyones cup of tea.  |
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"So we’ve chatted and exchanged pics to arrange meets with various couples and single guys over the years.
For single guys we can only every remember one rejection based on pics. For couples it’s been pretty much 75% rejection on photos.
My assumption, as male of the couple, is that it’s me who ruins it for the team
Any other couples find this? We are, of course, assuming women are much more picky than guys obviously. We will need to get along to a club as we’re nicer in the flesh "
Well if you’re struggling then we might as well give up now!  |
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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago
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"So we’ve chatted and exchanged pics to arrange meets with various couples and single guys over the years.
For single guys we can only every remember one rejection based on pics. For couples it’s been pretty much 75% rejection on photos.
My assumption, as male of the couple, is that it’s me who ruins it for the team
Any other couples find this? We are, of course, assuming women are much more picky than guys obviously. We will need to get along to a club as we’re nicer in the flesh "
Why do you assume?
Getting a 4 way liking is easier than just one. Plus the dynamics are very different with two couples vs couple and single guy.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So we’ve chatted and exchanged pics to arrange meets with various couples and single guys over the years.
For single guys we can only every remember one rejection based on pics. For couples it’s been pretty much 75% rejection on photos.
My assumption, as male of the couple, is that it’s me who ruins it for the team
Any other couples find this? We are, of course, assuming women are much more picky than guys obviously. We will need to get along to a club as we’re nicer in the flesh
Why do you assume?
Getting a 4 way liking is easier than just one. Plus the dynamics are very different with two couples vs couple and single guy.
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We assume that when couples look at other couples (assuming both straight couples) they decide whether they fancy the member of the opposite sex from the other couple. Since L (wife) has a very good hit rate with exchanging pics with guys we assume it must be J (husband) who’s been rejected by the other female.
Think in general woman are choosier. L is generally the person in our relationship who rejects people the most too. That’s why we assume women are more choosy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is someone out there for everyone, and yes it is hard to get that all important spark between all 4 people. We normaly only meet people in clubs these days as we think you cannot feel the spark over the Internet  xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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With us the mrs needs to be attracted to both members of a couple, so that does tend to make it more dificult as often she will be attracted to one half more than the other.
Though we tend to find meeting anyone on here to be a lot more difficult than it should be as the only thing you can go on from an attraction perspective is the photos.
We have had some couples that look great in photos only to discover that in person they have zero personality or have editted / picked some from a few years ago.
We have also had some couples that on first look at the pictures has been a no from us, then have met them at a club and had a great night because it was either not a great photo or the attraction was there once you got to know them a bit.
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"With us the mrs needs to be attracted to both members of a couple, so that does tend to make it more dificult as often she will be attracted to one half more than the other.
Though we tend to find meeting anyone on here to be a lot more difficult than it should be as the only thing you can go on from an attraction perspective is the photos.
We have had some couples that look great in photos only to discover that in person they have zero personality or have editted / picked some from a few years ago.
We have also had some couples that on first look at the pictures has been a no from us, then have met them at a club and had a great night because it was either not a great photo or the attraction was there once you got to know them a bit.
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I would definitely agree with this, plus my husband and I don’t necessarily find the same women attractive. It could be a million different reasons it doesn’t mean it’s you letting the side down x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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For us being attracted to people on fab involved a variety of factors, the profile text and pictures, the interaction on here and the face pictures, all are factors in deciding to meet people, not one single element like a face pic, when all is said and done you won’t know how attracted you are to others until you physically engage with them |
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