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Does anyone in RL ‘know’?
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By *eelouWoman
over a year ago
Glasgow |
Yeah my best mate knows as shes my go to for safety when I was meeting people. She would always know where I was going and who with just in case. Don't think I'd tell anyone else in my life about it though, |
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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago
Lincoln |
Yeah I told my main group of friends, it was too hard to only tell half a story when me and SSS got together. They’ve been fine with it, intrigued really although absolutely no understanding of how/why we do what we do!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes at drinking parties with uni friends or vanilla friends I'd slip in a cheeky reference or two to swinging, and more than once I've shocked others at Truth or Dare/Never Have I Ever by blatantly outing myself as a swinger.
The joke is that somehow my words never get treated seriously because people just think it's too good to be true, or because they've already d*unk so much that the fact doesn't really sink into their head. Being Asian also helps with that, because the stereotype so many hold about Asian men not being sexual sort of "shields" me...? |
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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago
Lincoln |
"Sometimes at drinking parties with uni friends or vanilla friends I'd slip in a cheeky reference or two to swinging, and more than once I've shocked others at Truth or Dare/Never Have I Ever by blatantly outing myself as a swinger.
The joke is that somehow my words never get treated seriously because people just think it's too good to be true, or because they've already d*unk so much that the fact doesn't really sink into their head. Being Asian also helps with that, because the stereotype so many hold about Asian men not being sexual sort of "shields" me...? "
SSS has found this too, mentioning stuff nonchalantly when being asked what you’re up to at the weekend for example (‘think I might fuck some guy’s wife whilst he watches’ - back in single days) but no-one believes you!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sometimes at drinking parties with uni friends or vanilla friends I'd slip in a cheeky reference or two to swinging, and more than once I've shocked others at Truth or Dare/Never Have I Ever by blatantly outing myself as a swinger.
The joke is that somehow my words never get treated seriously because people just think it's too good to be true, or because they've already d*unk so much that the fact doesn't really sink into their head. Being Asian also helps with that, because the stereotype so many hold about Asian men not being sexual sort of "shields"
SSS has found this too, mentioning stuff nonchalantly when being asked what you’re up to at the weekend for example (‘think I might fuck some guy’s wife whilst he watches’ - back in single days) but no-one believes you!
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me...?
I’m tempted to go into work one Monday morning and when asked what I did at the weekend say “oh you know, went to a swingers club and indulged in a filthy threesome” lol.
Aweuiuaku though I wouldn’t but I’m highly intrigued as to how many people I know would actually find it quite exciting or who secretly browse/actively use this place! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes at drinking parties with uni friends or vanilla friends I'd slip in a cheeky reference or two to swinging, and more than once I've shocked others at Truth or Dare/Never Have I Ever by blatantly outing myself as a swinger.
The joke is that somehow my words never get treated seriously because people just think it's too good to be true, or because they've already d*unk so much that the fact doesn't really sink into their head. Being Asian also helps with that, because the stereotype so many hold about Asian men not being sexual sort of "shields" me...?
SSS has found this too, mentioning stuff nonchalantly when being asked what you’re up to at the weekend for example (‘think I might fuck some guy’s wife whilst he watches’ - back in single days) but no-one believes you!
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Exactly! Totally me. It's hilarious to see how close minded or ignorant people can be, especially those who think they're like top kink or super experienced with hookup sex etc.
I just look at them and give them the "you know nothing Jon Snow" reply and look. :p though the few who did catch on to what I outed myself about were genuinely interested in my lifestyle, and said that if they weren't attached they'd be more than happy to try swinging too.
BTW your profile and you two are hot! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A few of my friends know, mostly their reaction is one of jealousy or confusion.
With most its the former, as they are in at best very conventional situations at worst the classic dead bedrooms, or at least on life support. Some cant get their head around the idea of being able to let their girl interact sexually with another man no matter what the circumstances. Each to their own though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No. My two best friends know I hook up with people on a regular basis but they don't know its on here. Weirdly the one who is far more traditional/conservative is probably the one whom I think I would have the least judgement from. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"A few of my friends know, mostly their reaction is one of jealousy or confusion.
With most its the former, as they are in at best very conventional situations at worst the classic dead bedrooms, or at least on life support. Some cant get their head around the idea of being able to let their girl interact sexually with another man no matter what the circumstances. Each to their own though "
I hear you!
I feel for people that want to but can’t. Or do but shouldn’t (per conventional norms).
I’m very lucky to have met a guy who is 100% happy for me to indulge and I am 100% happy for him to too. I couldn’t ever imagine being in a relationship where one or both feel restricted. Actually gives me anxiety lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We're quite public about our swinging. There's noone really in our friends or family that doesn't know. Originally we got a cheeky little thrill out of it when people did the whole "wait, what? You're serious" routine. But after a while it just becomes normal. I've had a lot of guys say, "so would you let me fuck your missus then?" They think it's a funny go to line. Until you reply with "yeah sure, so long as I can fuck yours while you watch." That still always seems to catch people off guard. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"About your swinging lifestyle?
How did that come to be?
I told one friend and she was so excited by it all she joined fab too lol"
RL? Rutland or Rhineland? |
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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago
the right frame of mind -London |
It all happened while our moral guardians in the churches, temples and mosques had their backs turned to the congregation for the last 2000 or so years -much like when teacher turns her back on the class. |
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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago
Near Wells |
If I didn't dress up as a lady I probably would be more open about it.
No one in my RL knows what I get up to. It's lucky that I'm away with work a lot so if I dissappear for a time none of my friends or family would suspect. |
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People know you swing? Try people knowing you are living a BDSM lifestyle. It was gossip for a long time in the company I worked for, then I found if you talk knowledgeably about a subject they kind of see it as a profession. |
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We have nothing to hide. Life is easier when people know. People are generally intrigued as to why we do it. When we explain we just love being naughty and having fantasies played out they understand. Most presume it’s because you aren’t happy with the partner you currently have . |
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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago
Ashton Under Lyne |
I have a GF who knows and she's the one who gets a message whenever I have someone new over (for safety reasons). My sister who's a prude recently found out and thinks I'll burn in hell. At work a few coworkers who I've played with know. I don't publicly announce it as I work for the NHS. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My brother and sister in law know, they are currently our babysitters  "
The biggest problem I have is telling my babysitters where I’m off to when I need a sitter. Can hardly blurt out “oh just off to a swingers club for the eve”. Lol |
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