I love oral....giving and receiving BUT what of the STD issue?
It’s only a matter of time and a numbers game when meeting with people we don’t really know that well.
So my question is what’s the general consensus here....do most go bare enjoy it and hope for the best?
Precautions if any?
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Should do, but I don't always. I think very few people even know what they are, let alone where to buy them.
There was a radio program on this morning about the increase in STIs, and even on the program while they mentioned condom use they didn't mention dams.
In all the times I've been to the doctors and been offered free condoms I've never ever been offered dams.
Seems to be a safe sex blind spot for a lot of people .
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"We use dental dams - only bare with each other. It’s personal choice at the end of the day - we opt for very low risk."
Do you ever actually get a meet that wants to play with this criteria in place ?
I’m not being rude , but I can’t imagine there would be a queue of people wanting to play with dental dams ! |
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"We use dental dams - only bare with each other. It’s personal choice at the end of the day - we opt for very low risk.
Do you ever actually get a meet that wants to play with this criteria in place ?
I’m not being rude , but I can’t imagine there would be a queue of people wanting to play with dental dams ! "
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I would never have sex without a condom but will happily give oral without one(prefer it) I do understand it is a risk but its one I'm obviously prepared to take. |
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Only bare with eachother or really close, trusted, long term partners.
I quite enjoy recieving through a Dam but maybe in just a bit kinky like that .
I have a complete aversion to spunk so prefer giving a BJ with a condom, if he came in my mouth or on me I'd  |
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"We use dental dams - only bare with each other. It’s personal choice at the end of the day - we opt for very low risk.
Do you ever actually get a meet that wants to play with this criteria in place ?
I’m not being rude , but I can’t imagine there would be a queue of people wanting to play with dental dams ! "
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"Only bare with eachother or really close, trusted, long term partners.
I quite enjoy recieving through a Dam but maybe in just a bit kinky like that .
I have a complete aversion to spunk so prefer giving a BJ with a condom, if he came in my mouth or on me I'd "
Surely the whole point of bjs is the eh?...climax moment? I got a faceful today and I loved it. |
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At the end of the day it's personal choice but people do seem to have their head in the sand re STI transmission via oral
As per the NHS website -Oral sex is the stimulation of the genitals using the mouth and tongue. It is one of the ways that sexually transmitted infections (STIs) are most frequently passed on. You can catch an STI if you have just one sexual partner. However, the more partners you have, the greater the risk of catching an infection. |
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"Only bare with eachother or really close, trusted, long term partners.
I quite enjoy recieving through a Dam but maybe in just a bit kinky like that .
I have a complete aversion to spunk so prefer giving a BJ with a condom, if he came in my mouth or on me I'd
Surely the whole point of bjs is the eh?...climax moment? I got a faceful today and I loved it. "
Thats absolutely great... But equally, surely the whole point is to enjoy whatever we choose to do? I, personally don't like spunk, nobody has ever complained and my solo profile had over 300 very positive verifications, proving that some, at least, were perfectly happy to play safer until I was ready to otherwise.
The most important thing about swinging for me is respect and trust.
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Orthodontists use them when carrying out a root canal.... The purpose for which they were originally designed. Then the sexy peeps began adding flavors to them  |
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Wow thanks for all the responses guys!
Indeed it’s a personal choice but I suppose I’m worried about the chances of getting something......horrible thought...I guess constant testing is the positive step ??
I get that they’re not sexy but agree something kinky about it...might even consider going down on a woman using a dam! Liberated!
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Still appears to be the norm that safe oral sex is that men receive whilst wearing a condom and no one knows what a dam is.
Would the women on here be offended by the idea of them. Was wondering if we should pack some next time we go to xtasia? |
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"They're also quite a lot more expensive than condoms so this could be a factor in their infrequent use."
I very much doubt that !
I mean let’s be honest here . If you visit a fancy restaraunt and see a plate of luscious food in front of you , are you gonna ask them to cover it in cling film so you can’t taste it ?
I didn’t think so .....
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"Still appears to be the norm that safe oral sex is that men receive whilst wearing a condom and no one knows what a dam is.
Would the women on here be offended by the idea of them. Was wondering if we should pack some next time we go to xtasia?"
As long as you aren’t planning on using them , by all means pack some
I would venture to suggest that if you get them out at any point , you’re unlikely to find a woman who wouldn’t be offended by you’re suggestion to use it .
One of the things we always said about swinging is that if it ever got to be no fun any more then we would stop . The thought of someone placing a dental dam in my wife’s pussy to perform oral is about as much fun as having a filling with no anaesthetic . Just as much fun as having a bj with a condom on , something else we would never consider .
I’m all for everyone doing what they are comfortable with , but in reality , is it really going to be an enjoyable experience when all’s said and done ? |
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"Still appears to be the norm that safe oral sex is that men receive whilst wearing a condom and no one knows what a dam is.
Would the women on here be offended by the idea of them. Was wondering if we should pack some next time we go to xtasia?
As long as you aren’t planning on using them , by all means pack some
I would venture to suggest that if you get them out at any point , you’re unlikely to find a woman who wouldn’t be offended by you’re suggestion to use it .
One of the things we always said about swinging is that if it ever got to be no fun any more then we would stop . The thought of someone placing a dental dam in my wife’s pussy to perform oral is about as much fun as having a filling with no anaesthetic . Just as much fun as having a bj with a condom on , something else we would never consider .
I’m all for everyone doing what they are comfortable with , but in reality , is it really going to be an enjoyable experience when all’s said and done ? "
Probably more enjoyable than chlamydia, gonorea or herpes I would have thought.
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"Still appears to be the norm that safe oral sex is that men receive whilst wearing a condom and no one knows what a dam is.
Would the women on here be offended by the idea of them. Was wondering if we should pack some next time we go to xtasia?
As long as you aren’t planning on using them , by all means pack some
I would venture to suggest that if you get them out at any point , you’re unlikely to find a woman who wouldn’t be offended by you’re suggestion to use it .
One of the things we always said about swinging is that if it ever got to be no fun any more then we would stop . The thought of someone placing a dental dam in my wife’s pussy to perform oral is about as much fun as having a filling with no anaesthetic . Just as much fun as having a bj with a condom on , something else we would never consider .
I’m all for everyone doing what they are comfortable with , but in reality , is it really going to be an enjoyable experience when all’s said and done ?
Probably more enjoyable than chlamydia, gonorea or herpes I would have thought.
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Yep , can’t argue with that .
But one assesses the risk to pleasure ratio .
If the pleasure is no longer there , then the risk may be taken , and in most cases is .
And that’s the reality .
If we don’t want a risk at all , we don’t do what we all do . Dental dams won’t stop herpes , and you’re as likely to get an sti from snogging if the recipient has sore gums or has excessively brushed their teeth . Should we use dams to kiss too ? |
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