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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Morning,
I’m looking at going to Temptations in Bournemouth tonight on my own and just wondered if anyone had any advice on a single lady attending a club alone?
Im not necessarily looking to actually have sex, just more the experience and meet people socially.
My main concern is being hassled as I’m on my own.
Any helpful advice or tips would be appreciated x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Morning,
I’m looking at going to Temptations in Bournemouth tonight on my own and just wondered if anyone had any advice on a single lady attending a club alone?
Im not necessarily looking to actually have sex, just more the experience and meet people socially.
My main concern is being hassled as I’m on my own.
Any helpful advice or tips would be appreciated x
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damn wish I could go tonight ha I havnt been to that club but I'm sure the staff there will welcome your arrival, a definite bonus having you attending for sure |
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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago
'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks |
I go to clubs alone all the time but remember how nerve wracking my first time was.
Make it known to the staff and if its a good club they should give you a tour and explain the rules and watch out for you through the night x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Morning,
I’m looking at going to Temptations in Bournemouth tonight on my own and just wondered if anyone had any advice on a single lady attending a club alone?
Im not necessarily looking to actually have sex, just more the experience and meet people socially.
My main concern is being hassled as I’m on my own.
Any helpful advice or tips would be appreciated x
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I googled it is it not a male club? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Morning,
I’m looking at going to Temptations in Bournemouth tonight on my own and just wondered if anyone had any advice on a single lady attending a club alone?
Im not necessarily looking to actually have sex, just more the experience and meet people socially.
My main concern is being hassled as I’m on my own.
Any helpful advice or tips would be appreciated x
I googled it is it not a male club?"
No, it’s formly Paradise Spa, jacuzzis etc x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I go to clubs alone all the time but remember how nerve wracking my first time was.
Make it known to the staff and if its a good club they should give you a tour and explain the rules and watch out for you through the night x"
Thank you for the advice, it’s abit nervewracking ! x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just what another poster has already said, I go alone to clubs often and feel very relaxed.
I've never been harassed, however if you just want to watch and be left alone like I do, that is unlikely to happen.
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By *ottie 13Woman
over a year ago
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You'll be fine as the others have said let the staff know it's your first time and have a look if there's a thread it helps if you've at least chatted to a few people before you get there that will be going too. Enjoy x |
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Although I've never been a single woman, my guess is that the best way to avoid being harassed is to avoid being on your own. Go and chat to folk rather than wait for people to chat to you.
Although if there are no single guys then you'll have much less hassle any way.
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"Morning,
I’m looking at going to Temptations in Bournemouth tonight on my own and just wondered if anyone had any advice on a single lady attending a club alone?
Im not necessarily looking to actually have sex, just more the experience and meet people socially.
My main concern is being hassled as I’m on my own.
Any helpful advice or tips would be appreciated x
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Doubt you will be going alone after this thread  just ask the club staff to look after you, hang around the bar etc |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Morning,
I’m looking at going to Temptations in Bournemouth tonight on my own and just wondered if anyone had any advice on a single lady attending a club alone?
Im not necessarily looking to actually have sex, just more the experience and meet people socially.
My main concern is being hassled as I’m on my own.
Any helpful advice or tips would be appreciated x
Doubt you will be going alone after this thread just ask the club staff to look after you, hang around the bar etc"
Haha, I’ve got guys I could take with me but I actually want to go my own and experience it |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
Chester/Wirral |
"Morning,
I’m looking at going to Temptations in Bournemouth tonight on my own and just wondered if anyone had any advice on a single lady attending a club alone?
Im not necessarily looking to actually have sex, just more the experience and meet people socially.
My main concern is being hassled as I’m on my own.
Any helpful advice or tips would be appreciated x
Doubt you will be going alone after this thread just ask the club staff to look after you, hang around the bar etc
Haha, I’ve got guys I could take with me but I actually want to go my own and experience it "
Yeah no doubt, it's interesting on your own people watching etc I'm sure you will go down a storm! I wouldn't be too nervous either, seen a lot of hot people not get that much attention because people are intimidated to talk to them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can only talk about Townhouse cause it's the only club I've been too. If it is a decent club they will have rules along to lines of No means no! Single men won't be allowed into the play rooms unless you call them in and they won't be allowed to stand outside doors wanking. There should also be no pressure to play put on you.
I know it's scary the first time you go but, I think most people on the forum's have been in that position. Give it a go and try not to get addicted.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I go to clubs alone all the time but remember how nerve wracking my first time was.
Make it known to the staff and if its a good club they should give you a tour and explain the rules and watch out for you through the night x
Thank you for the advice, it’s abit nervewracking ! x"
I've not been in that club but I have been outside it and it's a small club an ordinary 3 bed house on a main road but supposedly recently refurbished |
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By *redjMan
over a year ago
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Hi x one piece of advice, you shouldn’t be harrased as most of us are very respectful ?? you probably will be touched a few times as some try their luck ! Just a simple no thanks usually works, but if you’re worried I’m sure there will be a lot of nice couples there & if you get talking to them & explain we normally look out for you out of respect ?? most of all.......... enjoy x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love going in my own, do your own thing, go when you want to, do what you want. If it’s a decent club you won’t get harassed, if you are tell the staff, some chancer will probably try and cop a quick feel, a quick slap on the wrist works wonders.
Just relax and go with the flow, chat in the bar area, wonder around the rooms and you’ll be fine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Also, on entry, the club should be scanning drivers license or passports along with a utility bill or bank statement as proof of address. Again, more for safety and security if anything does go wrong. If it is a good club, it will be putting these things in place so you feel safe. |
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I love attending clubs and have rarely had issues. The very occasional person here and there who touches without asking but they’re easily put off.
I’ve always found people to be friendly and have made good friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Top tip - try not to adverise the night you are actually going on a public forum - it's like wierdo magnetism that is"
LOL that’s where I’m going wrong  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Top tip - try not to adverise the night you are actually going on a public forum - it's like wierdo magnetism that is
LOL that’s where I’m going wrong "
Yeah I didn’t think of that.. a very valid point indeed!!! |
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I often go to clubs as a single woman. You will feel nervous walking in but if its a good club you'll soon relax. Hang around the bar, talk to the staff and folks coming up for drinks. Then go for a wander around etc. Most folks will socialise if you're friendly and polite as I'm sure you are.
Anyone tries a quick feel I either laugh it off if I know them or might want to, say no not interested or keep your hands to yourself please. A good stare with raised eyebrows works too with some!
Even then I still get a lot less hassle than if I go to a vanilla club, swingers are much more polite.
Regardless have fun and let us know how you got on
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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago
the right frame of mind -London |
"Top tip - try not to adverise the night you are actually going on a public forum - it's like wierdo magnetism that is
LOL that’s where I’m going wrong "
Yes - and I should know (top class weirdo I am) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would offer - Remember to set yourself a sensible limit on how much you are going to drink before you go and stick to it. It is all to easy to drink to much if you are feeling nervous.
Regarding going on your own. You will have a great time and a firm no is all you should need if at any time someone is making you feel uncomfortable. If they continue to do so speak to the staff about it.
Have a fab time. Clubs are a great in my experience.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would offer - Remember to set yourself a sensible limit on how much you are going to drink before you go and stick to it. It is all to easy to drink to much if you are feeling nervous.
Regarding going on your own. You will have a great time and a firm no is all you should need if at any time someone is making you feel uncomfortable. If they continue to do so speak to the staff about it.
Have a fab time. Clubs are a great in my experience.
Thank you for the good advice
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can only talk about Townhouse cause it's the only club I've been too. If it is a decent club they will have rules along to lines of No means no! Single men won't be allowed into the play rooms unless you call them in and they won't be allowed to stand outside doors wanking. There should also be no pressure to play put on you.
I know it's scary the first time you go but, I think most people on the forum's have been in that position. Give it a go and try not to get addicted. "
Wow!! As a single guy at the townhouse am I allowed to walk around or do I have to crawl, also if a look at a single lady or couple will I get banned? I'd be worried going there health wise because if there is no couple, single lady or staff around how will I know if I can breath in or out without premisson.
I hate these threads especially when people are giving advice to people going to clubs for the first time. I've been swinging now for 14 years two of those years working for chameleons. From my experience OP 99 per cent of single guys are great, much more respectful than your average club or pub. Don't get me wrong there are nutters and like all bad news it gets blown up out if proportion. I find you will get more problems from couples who think they own the place or walk around like there shit don't stink. Also avoid the single ladies who come in get pissed then fall asleep or get aggressive that happens alot. But still swinging is great the best thing you can do is ignore everything people including myself have written on here go with a open mind and a relaxed attitude and you will have a great time!!
Just to add thnks to the person who mentioned the townhouse I think as a 2nd class citzen, sorry single guy I'll avoid the place!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can only talk about Townhouse cause it's the only club I've been too. If it is a decent club they will have rules along to lines of No means no! Single men won't be allowed into the play rooms unless you call them in and they won't be allowed to stand outside doors wanking. There should also be no pressure to play put on you.
I know it's scary the first time you go but, I think most people on the forum's have been in that position. Give it a go and try not to get addicted.
Wow!! As a single guy at the townhouse am I allowed to walk around or do I have to crawl, also if a look at a single lady or couple will I get banned? I'd be worried going there health wise because if there is no couple, single lady or staff around how will I know if I can breath in or out without premisson.
I hate these threads especially when people are giving advice to people going to clubs for the first time. I've been swinging now for 14 years two of those years working for chameleons. From my experience OP 99 per cent of single guys are great, much more respectful than your average club or pub. Don't get me wrong there are nutters and like all bad news it gets blown up out if proportion. I find you will get more problems from couples who think they own the place or walk around like there shit don't stink. Also avoid the single ladies who come in get pissed then fall asleep or get aggressive that happens alot. But still swinging is great the best thing you can do is ignore everything people including myself have written on here go with a open mind and a relaxed attitude and you will have a great time!!
Just to add thnks to the person who mentioned the townhouse I think as a 2nd class citzen, sorry single guy I'll avoid the place!!!"
Not been to the townhouse but the rules reassure me. I’ve only been to parties/clubs where men have to be invited to play/touch. I prefer going with a partner and to a club with very few single guys. Being touched uninvited is not what I call acceptable. |
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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago
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"Morning,
I’m looking at going to Temptations in Bournemouth tonight on my own and just wondered if anyone had any advice on a single lady attending a club alone?
Im not necessarily looking to actually have sex, just more the experience and meet people socially.
My main concern is being hassled as I’m on my own.
Any helpful advice or tips would be appreciated x
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Sorry if this is a bit late hotgirl82, but in my view the "Make it known to the staff it's your first time" and "try not to advertise the night you are actually going" are both excellent pieces of advice.
The last thing clubs want is to get a reputation for allowing bad behaviour and irrespective of when you go, if there is unrestricted entry, there will almost always be an imbalance of single men to couples/single women. Advertising when going, unless the extra attention is wanted, just increases that imbalance.
Temptations is a nice place since the badly needed refurbishment with good facilities. Bit small, but not too bad. As far as bad or pushy behaviour goes, I haven't seen any there, but, like many places, you may well be followed around a bit. Some guys will be a bit more subtle than others. For example, if you get into an empty Jacuzzi, there will be at least five guys getting in too within 30 seconds. If you then go to the steam room, that will fill up and the Jacuzzi will empty. Similar for other areas. From what I've seen there, a simple 'no thanks' or 'not interested thanks' should suffice and most people I've met there are very friendly (and in a nice way).
I hope you enjoyed or will enjoy the experience |
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The advice to the lady going clubbing for the first time sounds very sensible to me. I'm an old guy, new to this scene but not wanting to fade away unnoticed. Contemplating going to a club on my own for the first time and it sounds like good advice to me too, I'll try to find out what I need to know, dress code, approach to others , drinks etc, before hand but good advice is always welcome. Nearest to me? Best for me? Angels, Melksham? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never been to a club on my own but my advice is just let the people on reception know your by yourself. They will look after you i hope everything goes smoothly for you . |
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A guy from Gloucester fr3dj might be able to offer some advice as he's from the same area, but can't ask directly as not in his contact requirements (like I'm a single guy which he doesn't need) so maybe he'll see this or someone knows him. |
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"The advice to the lady going clubbing for the first time sounds very sensible to me. I'm an old guy, new to this scene but not wanting to fade away unnoticed. Contemplating going to a club on my own for the first time and it sounds like good advice to me too, I'll try to find out what I need to know, dress code, approach to others , drinks etc, before hand but good advice is always welcome. Nearest to me? Best for me? Angels, Melksham?"
The advice for a single guy going to a club would be slightly different mate. Do a forum search, there's plenty of previous threads to rummage through.
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No disrespect ment to temptations
But would advise a bigger organised club for a first time visit to a club
Liberations cums to Bournemouth once a month a no pressure swinging night you can play as much or as little as you like
A lot of people going to this club often meet for pre party drinks so a chance for a social before |
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