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People asking for verified only? It’s so hard to get the chance!
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We would never meet anyone without verifications and we don't count cam as verifications, they just tell us you are human.
Alot of people seem to think they can come on Fab and get a fuck straight away because they have a big cock, or a nice smile, or a six pack, most people want more than that.
If someone is not prepared to do the hard yards of going to socials or going to clubs to meet people and get "properly" verified then it will ultimately be there own downfall. Harsh I know, but that's how we swing. |
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You are photo verified so a start.
First thing we did was the same. Then spoke to people in chat rooms and get cam verified.
Then moved onto meets. All a progression.
But as been mentioned it still no guarantee a meet.
Plenty of socials and clubs to go too. Get out and about and meet people. More effort you put in the more will get out of the site. |
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All a cam verification will prove is that you are male. it won't prove you aren't a dreamer, sociable etc. etc.
It's all about networking. Going to a social will probably get you a verification and you will likely meet people there that go to local clubs et voila, when you go to a local club you will know someone. This will get you to meet more people that don't go to the socials and before you know it you will have a circle of people that you know who swing. |
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"Helpppppp"
Go to a club... there's several around Manchester. The staff will happily verify you, plus you'll get the chance to experience the sexiness that goes on in a club, and if your social skills are any good you may even pull.
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My experience would suggest having verifications make little difference..
Yesterday I made arrangements with a guy who had 10 veris,turned out to be a complete time waster,on the other hand met a guy last week who had only been on here 5 days, without a verification & we hooked up without fuss!
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Patients...
You’ve not been on here for long, it took me months to get just a social.
The suggestions of attending a club are spot on too, the perfect opportunity to introduce yourself to a few fellow fabers.
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"Patients...
You’ve not been on here for long, it took me months to get just a social.
The suggestions of attending a club are spot on too, the perfect opportunity to introduce yourself to a few fellow fabers.
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Funny thing is, on several occasions I've set up days and times where I've said I'll be in xyz place for x amount of time, come for a coffee/drink and a chat, good way to get verified etc. Only one person who ever said they'd be there actually turned up, and after we said our goodbyes and I went elsewhere with a friend, he hung around the town centre until I logged on two hours later to ask if I needed 'tucking in'  |
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"It's like when you go for your first job... don't apply for the
''experience required'' roles.
Apply for the ''no experience necessary full training will be given''
and work your way up :D  "
Good advice! |
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Written by xslutx
You get out what you put in.
If your biggest effort is to write help then you will get one line answers that may be superficially helpful.
Ie. Telling a single guy to go to the pub is great advice but you are then assuming he knows how to dress for the occasion and that he can approach and pick up women if you just put him in the vicinity. Which we all know isn't true.
Try talking to people not just pleading for assistance, if you stay and gain experience then accept that in two years it will be your turn to type this kind of message to a newbie ! In fact copy it now because you will need to repeat yourself.
Try meeting people, not just for sex but for drinks chats and maybe even sex.
Try going to events and clubs, please God don't ask me to recommend, there are plenty of people ready to promote their event.
Really what I am trying to say is "if at first you fuck it up
TRY TRY AND FUCKING TRY AGAIN." Or just give up and cry... Whatever's good for you. Happy Hunting.
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By *zzy69Woman
over a year ago
The Lake District |
Looked on Forum because I was fed up receiving silly approaches- mostly from single men.
I like introducing newbies to the scene- it’s not long since I started.
Obviously much more difficult for single men
All the stuff re clubs is true - if you can get through to Liverpool the Townhouse has free social nights etc
BUT
Revamping your profile is a must
Ladies like to see more than your cock - some insist on face pictures. Personally a full body in aroused state gives me a good feeling of how I will react if we met in person |
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By *zzy69Woman
over a year ago
The Lake District |
When I say I like introducing NewbiesI am not volunteering to spend my valuable time giving advice online to random strangers.
More that it is so much fun pushing peoples boundaries eg being watched or group sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We would never meet anyone without verifications and we don't count cam as verifications, they just tell us you are human.
Alot of people seem to think they can come on Fab and get a fuck straight away because they have a big cock, or a nice smile, or a six pack, most people want more than that.
If someone is not prepared to do the hard yards of going to socials or going to clubs to meet people and get "properly" verified then it will ultimately be there own downfall. Harsh I know, but that's how we swing. "
Couldn’t agree more like anything in life you get from it exactly what you put in.
Admittedly it is easier to get verified as a couple but we did by going to parties and social events we all started with zero and spent a lot of time and effort into getting those verifications.
We will seldom take any non verified serious unless they are new and nervous and we are assured we are not dealing with a fake picture collector or a tourist looking for a dirty shag.
For single guys serious about the scene do greedy girls or gang bangs if you can do that the verification will roll in.
Sitting there crying about how unfair it all is will get you nothing and is indeed off putting and unattractive |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The site is riddled with fakes and time wasters, people want piece of mind beforehand. Think of it as an Amazon purchase, read the reviews before tou go for it LOL.
Mrs x"
Lol that's the best way I've heard it described. And so very true |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or go to clubs and/ or group socials. Simple."
This is a lot easier for some people than it is others.
But yeh I agree with the post saying it can be quite a catch 22 at times, particularly the longer you’re on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We would never meet anyone without verifications and we don't count cam as verifications, they just tell us you are human.
Alot of people seem to think they can come on Fab and get a fuck straight away because they have a big cock, or a nice smile, or a six pack, most people want more than that.
If someone is not prepared to do the hard yards of going to socials or going to clubs to meet people and get "properly" verified then it will ultimately be there own downfall. Harsh I know, but that's how we swing. "
Totally agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or go to clubs and/ or group socials. Simple.
This is a lot easier for some people than it is others.
But yeh I agree with the post saying it can be quite a catch 22 at times, particularly the longer you’re on here"
In what way is it easier for some than others? |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"Or go to clubs and/ or group socials. Simple."
That's what I did. Get to chat to someone and if you have a nice conversation, just ask them if they are on FAB and if they would like to be your first veri. Promise to return the favour too. don't forget their FAB names too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was chatting to a female on here, everything was going well. Lots of msgs to and fro, but then I mentioned (tongue in cheek) that she could give my first veri when we met.
She stopped chatting after and when I asked why, she said it was because I only wanted a veri!
No, I wanted to fuck you. Women are weird! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or go to clubs and/ or group socials. Simple.
This is a lot easier for some people than it is others.
But yeh I agree with the post saying it can be quite a catch 22 at times, particularly the longer you’re on here
In what way is it easier for some than others? "
Location for a start. For some you’re talking 1 hour and a half a drive just to the nearest club |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
"I was chatting to a female on here, everything was going well. Lots of msgs to and fro, but then I mentioned (tongue in cheek) that she could give my first veri when we met.
She stopped chatting after and when I asked why, she said it was because I only wanted a veri!
No, I wanted to fuck you. Women are weird! "
Sometimes we can be. It's always a bit risky meeting an unverified person but the second I get the feeling they only want to meet to get a veri I'm out! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not all about verifications. It's how you interact with people. My original time on here it took me 3-4 months to be verified. In fact when asked if I'd like one from her, it had slipped my mind, but of course I'd said yes. I'd had a meet prior to her, a play meet, where I wasn't verified.
Now here for my second time, I still await to meet someone. It has been offered that a previous meet verify me, but to me that's cheating, unless we meet again but since they have moved up north that's unlikely and many of those who I had met previously seem to have left the site.
It's not just about being verified, you have to have the right attitude and be prepared to wait for the right people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes we can be. It's always a bit risky meeting an unverified person but the second I get the feeling they only want to meet to get a veri I'm out! "
You will forever be the one who hot away  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or go to clubs and/ or group socials. Simple.
This is a lot easier for some people than it is others.
But yeh I agree with the post saying it can be quite a catch 22 at times, particularly the longer you’re on here
In what way is it easier for some than others?
Location for a start. For some you’re talking 1 hour and a half a drive just to the nearest club"
That's what it's like for me, but if you want to be successful on here and enjoy the scene, then you have to get off your backside and put the effort in. |
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I dunno, I offered to come round and perform BDSM on the op so he could get that oh so important Veri, but nope no message yet.
Just think, that Veri could go like this... wow, well what can I say about Adam. He arrived on time, a complete gentleman and after a brief chat and after explaining the dynamics of what candle wax play is all about, he soon had me all tied up over the kitchen table and was drizzling warm wax to my cock better than Jamie Oliver basing a turkey at Christmas.
The cranberry sauce was an added touch...thank you Adam
Adam ??
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I dunno, I offered to come round and perform BDSM on the op so he could get that oh so important Veri, but nope no message yet.
Just think, that Veri could go like this... wow, well what can I say about Adam. He arrived on time, a complete gentleman and after a brief chat and after explaining the dynamics of what candle wax play is all about, he soon had me all tied up over the kitchen table and was drizzling warm wax to my cock better than Jamie Oliver basing a turkey at Christmas.
The cranberry sauce was an added touch...thank you Adam
Adam ??
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can I suggest that you try a club on an advertised party night. If you talk to people chances are they will be on here, then verify them as having met (even if it's just socially) then they will likely verify you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm happy to meet people socially too. Good to encourage new blood into this madhouse. May be others could as well. Just a brief social meet. Tells others if they are decent and sane enough and also if the pic is recent. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or go to clubs and/ or group socials. Simple.
This is a lot easier for some people than it is others.
But yeh I agree with the post saying it can be quite a catch 22 at times, particularly the longer you’re on here
In what way is it easier for some than others?
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Location for a start. For some you’re talking 1 hour and a half a drive just to the nearest club"
When people here travel the country just for a meeting with no guarantees your lack of interest in even a small amount of travel tells me that you are not and never will be a swinger you should consider if this club is for you because getting people to allow you anywhere near close will require a lot more effort than a drive |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Or go to clubs and/ or group socials. Simple.
This is a lot easier for some people than it is others.
But yeh I agree with the post saying it can be quite a catch 22 at times, particularly the longer you’re on here
In what way is it easier for some than others?
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Location for a start. For some you’re talking 1 hour and a half a drive just to the nearest club
When people here travel the country just for a meeting with no guarantees your lack of interest in even a small amount of travel tells me that you are not and never will be a swinger you should consider if this club is for you because getting people to allow you anywhere near close will require a lot more effort than a drive "
People have preferences regarding travel, the same as other criteria on here. Your response was a bit OTT to be honest. I'm in the same situation he is. Would I have got the same response from you? Probably not as I'm female. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Infusions Blackpool are doing a no joining fee, just pay entry on Friday (tommorow)on my way
Like a rocket lolis it a bird, is it a plane
No, it's me. "
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"We would never meet anyone without verifications and we don't count cam as verifications, they just tell us you are human.
Alot of people seem to think they can come on Fab and get a fuck straight away because they have a big cock, or a nice smile, or a six pack, most people want more than that.
If someone is not prepared to do the hard yards of going to socials or going to clubs to meet people and get "properly" verified then it will ultimately be there own downfall. Harsh I know, but that's how we swing. "
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"I dunno, I offered to come round and perform BDSM on the op so he could get that oh so important Veri, but nope no message yet.
Just think, that Veri could go like this... wow, well what can I say about Adam. He arrived on time, a complete gentleman and after a brief chat and after explaining the dynamics of what candle wax play is all about, he soon had me all tied up over the kitchen table and was drizzling warm wax to my cock better than Jamie Oliver basing a turkey at Christmas.
The cranberry sauce was an added touch...thank you Adam
Adam ??
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bluddy hell, if he doesnt want you I'll have you, food talk always makes me horny  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As I see it cam verifications are no indication of wanting to actually meet.
First thing I check. If all the verifications are cam only, chances are they will never meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or go to clubs and/ or group socials. Simple.
This is a lot easier for some people than it is others.
But yeh I agree with the post saying it can be quite a catch 22 at times, particularly the longer you’re on here
In what way is it easier for some than others?
.
Location for a start. For some you’re talking 1 hour and a half a drive just to the nearest club
When people here travel the country just for a meeting with no guarantees your lack of interest in even a small amount of travel tells me that you are not and never will be a swinger you should consider if this club is for you because getting people to allow you anywhere near close will require a lot more effort than a drive
People have preferences regarding travel, the same as other criteria on here. Your response was a bit OTT to be honest. I'm in the same situation he is. Would I have got the same response from you? Probably not as I'm female. "
Your situation is not the same because as you pointed out you are female so the numbers game is in your favour your suitors will be willing to travel even as far as st awful (used to live near there) and your not the one morning about the lack of verification so in that context you being female has nothing to do with it.
We collected our early veri by driving from Cornwall to Birmingham or Sheffield because we had no choice then came home after. My point is that as a single guy when the numbers are against you and you are in catch 22 where good verification increases chance of meets then that extra effort is going to be required because verified by cam or phone is not going to persuade us to travel far when we don’t have to.
Bottom line how much do you want it? Because sitting on swinging site waiting for free sex to come your way is not going to happen. And given he is unlikely to get a load of white knights charging in just to get attention my point stands you are no basis for comparison and he has to put the effort in to get what he wants out of it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mate even the experienced guys with good profiles and verifications struggle (it wasn't like this 6 years ago when I first came on) Advice? Work on your profile, try and get quality and variety in your pics, keep at it? The more time you spend on here the luckier you will get, go to clubs, socials, go on webcam to get a veri?
I don't bother looking for meets on fab anymore I get loads more offers on Match so to be honest I would suggest dating sites are better |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Infusions Blackpool are doing a no joining fee, just pay entry on Friday (tommorow)on my way
Like a rocket lolis it a bird, is it a plane
No, it's me. superwood
To the rescue  "
to the rescue here I am, want you to notice, theirs a rainbow to |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always think this unfair. What are you verifying? That you exist, that you're a good fuck, that you turn up or that you're able to go to clubs? I've met some that are and some that aren't. I don't think it's something I've bothered about. I don't think it proves anything |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Helpppppp
How about having a profile that engages people. Just a suggestion. "
I've just looked at profile. I wouldn't meet as profile shows and gives nothing |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
For the last two years I’ve been having a mini social at a pub quiz. Everyone is welcome to join and I’ll happily verify anyone that comes along.
Why not try something similar. Every town has a pub quiz. Put it up as a social meet. Don’t give the venue, make them PM you for that. |
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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago
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"We would never meet anyone without verifications and we don't count cam as verifications, they just tell us you are human.
Alot of people seem to think they can come on Fab and get a fuck straight away because they have a big cock, or a nice smile, or a six pack, most people want more than that.
If someone is not prepared to do the hard yards of going to socials or going to clubs to meet people and get "properly" verified then it will ultimately be there own downfall. Harsh I know, but that's how we swing. "
agree - doing the hard yards is important, one challenge is the decision by some to only accept winks or messages from site supporters ... that can be frustrating for couples like us. Each couple or individual is responsible for their own approach to this space. |
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