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By *dontknow OP Man over a year ago

North Devon

I’m fairly new to this and I’ve been trying in vain to arrange a meet.

A lot of profiles want you to be verified before you message them, but obviously I’m not.

I’ve been tweaking my profile and pics after reading other posts.

Any help, or advice about getting verified / my profile / my pics would be greatly appreciated

Thanks

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By *appyWandererMan over a year ago

Croydon

Go to a social and get verified by the club.

Talk to friendly people at the social, and a nice couple may be willing to verify you.

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By *tirluvMan over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

Op -good to see you're organised -what with numbering your catches and all

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

Well I think your profile is well written, but as we all know, it is very difficult for single guys to get a break on here. But as suggested above, find a social/club, that is the quickest way to get a verification and good luck

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By *dontknow OP Man over a year ago

North Devon

"Op -good to see you're organised -what with numbering your catches and all"

took a while for the penny to drop!!

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By *dontknow OP Man over a year ago

North Devon

"Go to a social and get verified by the club.

Talk to friendly people at the social, and a nice couple may be willing to verify you. "

Thanks

When you say social, do you mean club?

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By *ilkenWoman over a year ago

Manchester

"I’m fairly new to this and I’ve been trying in vain to arrange a meet.

A lot of profiles want you to be verified before you message them, but obviously I’m not.

I’ve been tweaking my profile and pics after reading other posts.

Any help, or advice about getting verified / my profile / my pics would be greatly appreciated

Thanks "

Try the chartrooms you on cam and see if someone will verify you.

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By *izzy.Woman over a year ago

Stoke area

"Go to a social and get verified by the club.

Talk to friendly people at the social, and a nice couple may be willing to verify you.

Thanks

When you say social, do you mean club?"

There are social get together arranged in pubs or social club's or swingers club's. These are literally just a group of swingers meeting up with no playing at the event. Look out in local updates or browse events posts.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m fairly new to this and I’ve been trying in vain to arrange a meet.

A lot of profiles want you to be verified before you message them, but obviously I’m not.

I’ve been tweaking my profile and pics after reading other posts.

Any help, or advice about getting verified / my profile / my pics would be greatly appreciated

Thanks "

It's a good and concise profile with decent pictures. You're already ahead of the majority of new guy's.

Keep the faith and sure your needs will be seen to sooner rather than later.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nice profile and you’re in North Devon too

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By *dontknow OP Man over a year ago

North Devon

"I’m fairly new to this and I’ve been trying in vain to arrange a meet.

A lot of profiles want you to be verified before you message them, but obviously I’m not.

I’ve been tweaking my profile and pics after reading other posts.

Any help, or advice about getting verified / my profile / my pics would be greatly appreciated

Thanks

Try the chartrooms you on cam and see if someone will verify you. "

I’ve seen the chat rooms, but sorry for naïveté but how does that work?

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By *dontknow OP Man over a year ago

North Devon

"Nice profile and you’re in North Devon too

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I too am a single male in the hope of getting lucky at least once.

I've only been around six weeks myself, and I've been doing some experimenting to see what works and what doesn't.

I mean, I've taken some nudes of myself in the hope that'll work, it didn't, I've switched to a face pic, which I really didn't want to do, but I trust the people here, and if someone calls me out in public, I'll just remind them that they're on Fabswingers too.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Just a quick question, are you a single parent or a married one, your profile doesn't make it clear. Look out for local socials. They are good for networking.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan over a year ago

Coventry

I haven't seen that many that require you to have a veri. Clearly my first met didn't, as the same for the rest of us. So just hang in there, it can take some time. Veris are not that important, lots of us don't give/receive veris every time anyway. It may help in general if you get into the wider physical scene like going to a social (if you have the time).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just ask a potential meet for a coffee to break the ice.. get verified whether you then play or not.

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By *dontknow OP Man over a year ago

North Devon

"Just a quick question, are you a single parent or a married one, your profile doesn't make it clear. Look out for local socials. They are good for networking. "

I’m still officially married, but we separated 6 months ago. I have the kids for half the week.

I wasn’t sure if a quick way of making that clear without going into masses of detail?????

Not quite sure where to look for / find local socials????

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By *dontknow OP Man over a year ago

North Devon

"Just ask a potential meet for a coffee to break the ice.. get verified whether you then play or not. "

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just ask a potential meet for a coffee to break the ice.. get verified whether you then play or not.

Thanks

Even better if you're both new so you can verify each other!

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By *dontknow OP Man over a year ago

North Devon

"Just ask a potential meet for a coffee to break the ice.. get verified whether you then play or not.

Thanks

Even better if you're both new so you can verify each other! "

Thanks for this

How important is veri’s to you when you’re looking?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hello just read your profile,are you married or in a relationship , single etc ? it says you have children and don't accommodate for that reason which is good but you left out your status unless I'm mistaken as being told your married in a relationship last minute could put a dampener on things moving forward.

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By *dontknow OP Man over a year ago

North Devon

"Hello just read your profile,are you married or in a relationship , single etc ? it says you have children and don't accommodate for that reason which is good but you left out your status unless I'm mistaken as being told your married in a relationship last minute could put a dampener on things moving forward."

Thanks for the feedback!

I’m still officially married, but we separated 6 months ago. I have the kids for half the week.

I wasn’t sure if a quick way of making that clear without going into masses of detail?????

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By *dontknow OP Man over a year ago

North Devon

Bump

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just ask a potential meet for a coffee to break the ice.. get verified whether you then play or not.

Thanks

Even better if you're both new so you can verify each other!

Thanks for this

How important is veri’s to you when you’re looking?"

To me fairly.. but if I'm interested in getting to know someone I'll meet them for a coffee and verify them myself.

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By *dontknow OP Man over a year ago

North Devon

"Just ask a potential meet for a coffee to break the ice.. get verified whether you then play or not.

Thanks

Even better if you're both new so you can verify each other!

Thanks for this

How important is veri’s to you when you’re looking?

To me fairly.. but if I'm interested in getting to know someone I'll meet them for a coffee and verify them myself. "

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well I think your profile is well written, but as we all know, it is very difficult for single guys to get a break on here. But as suggested above, find a social/club, that is the quickest way to get a verification and good luck"

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