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Chatting on phone b4 a meet
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is it normal for the females to chat b4 a meet. U r genuine if u have veris to say u have met people so y do some females want to chat on phone even tho u r veried.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't mind speaking on the phone and have done a few times. We have a separate top up sim for it just in case something went wrong so we wouldn't have to change our numbers.
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By *aznlouCouple
over a year ago
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We never do phone chats before, it’s probably why we always meet at club first & our friends have our number. We did once give our number out to one couple & it ended up being in the blokes hand (luckily we gave out the mr’s number ha ha) |
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We never do
I have anxiety so hate speaking on the phone at the best of times.
Also doesn't proove someone will turn up,however I understand why some do,especially with couples ,to make sure there is a lady ...
However if someome is verified ,thats enough for us.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seriously.. what is this ‘anxiety’ bullshit?
You’re planning to fuck a complete stranger. How can someone be scared of 2 mins chat on the phone with them first?"
I would totally agree with that if someone won't talk on the phone how do you know they will actually turn up in person. I always chat on the phone first you get a good feel for someone by chatting. |
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"Is it normal for the females to chat b4 a meet. U r genuine if u have veris to say u have met people so y do some females want to chat on phone even tho u r veried.
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BTW, your rules are just that OP. It’s entirely up to you regarding the pre meet phone chat thing. |
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By *sRedbbwWoman
over a year ago
Amwythig |
I get anxiety on the phone too, haven't always had it either - it is a nasty side effect to a difficult period of grief.
Can't say I'm particularly willing to give out my number to someone I might not even get on with in person so it's messages and a quick social for me - never had a problem yet!  |
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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago
portsmouth |
"Because we've been caught with a couples profile that's been verified and turned out that the female wasn't playing any more and was just the guy keeping it running. "
This is quite common and we have found it to be the case on a number of occasion.It seems to be happening a lot more now. Or maybe we are just unlucky?
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We're all different - i chat on this phone before a meet as it allows me to get a feel for someone, in a way that ping pong messaging does not. I trust my sensitivity to a person real-time, to determine how compatible we are too and how much I find them attractive as a person.
You can also fine tune the details of a meet very easily - perhaps deciding to postpone or cancel ever meeting. I rely on prior verifications solely to indicate that someone may have some reliability - not that our current needs match. |
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Love a quick cam chat - gets me super excited as well as calming the nerves somewhat! I know they are real, I know they can string a sentence together and I get to hear their accent and voice which for me can be a big turn on...x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's one of those things some people do due to timewasters people ask for all sorts of proof, nothing really proves they're real as most things can be faked. But if you want the meet you have to respect others wishes.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We never do. Feels a bit awkward and we always reckon it’s more likely to stop a future meet than to encourage it.
We do respect that some people feel it’s necessary but if it’s a dealbreaker then we don’t meet them.
Socials are much better to judge compatibility in our opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't speak to anyone on the phone prior to meeting them, feels a bit awkward to me but I can understand why some do."
Yeah can agree, you'd hope people are genuine, and get that from chat if you chat to them. |
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"Seriously.. what is this ‘anxiety’ bullshit?
You’re planning to fuck a complete stranger. How can someone be scared of 2 mins chat on the phone with them first?"
I prefer face to face social,find it easier
Then see how that goes
We all do things our own way |
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"I wouldn't speak to anyone on the phone prior to meeting them, feels a bit awkward to me but I can understand why some do.
I agree,I have done in the past but someone's dodgy accent put me off."
You’re right.. they probably have a different one when they’re not on the phone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always thought that's what a social was for?
I have exchanged numbers, but then usually for texting in case of alterations from either party and no internet.
I've yet to insist on chatting first, although I could understand why couples looking at other couples would. |
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"Is it normal for the females to chat b4 a meet. U r genuine if u have veris to say u have met people so y do some females want to chat on phone even tho u r veried.
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Yes it's essential, especially when arranging to meet a couple. We like to make sure they're a genuine couple and not some sad lonely male with a multiple personality disorder. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it normal for the females to chat b4 a meet. U r genuine if u have veris to say u have met people so y do some females want to chat on phone even tho u r veried.
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Being verified doesn’t mean you’re genuine and I either speak on phone or cam before a potential meet. It’s easy and just reassures everyone involved!
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By *J647Couple
over a year ago
Daventry |
"Seriously.. what is this ‘anxiety’ bullshit?
You’re planning to fuck a complete stranger. How can someone be scared of 2 mins chat on the phone with them first?"
I can quite understand anxiety on phones,we don't talk chat on phone ,some people do have phobias with phones so not bullshit, |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
chelmsford |
We think its important when speaking to a couple, we have had a couple of occasions when Mrs obviously didn't exist, so saved us a journey. You can get some idea of how you will get on, when you speak on the phone |
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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago
portsmouth |
"Nope. I don’t give my number out. "
We would never ask a lady to send her number.We have a play phone so would send her our number and she could withhold hers when she contact us.This way both parties are safe.
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
chelmsford |
"Nope. I don’t give my number out. We would never ask a lady to send her number.We have a play phone so would send her our number and she could withhold hers when she contact us.This way both parties are safe. "
Yes we use a play phone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you don’t want to give out number you can use Skype for a face chat, there’s plenty of options x "
You can use Skype for a normal chat too without the cam thing on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you don’t want to give out number you can use Skype for a face chat, there’s plenty of options x
You can use Skype for a normal chat too without the cam thing on. "
Yeah  no need to exchange numbers and most can download the skype app onto their mobile no laptop or pc needed |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I never said i had anxiety. I was asking a question. As a couple want me to ring the woman as they say its normal thingvto do. I have been swinging for over 3 years and never had to ring anybody b4.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never said i had anxiety. I was asking a question. As a couple want me to ring the woman as they say its normal thingvto do. I have been swinging for over 3 years and never had to ring anybody b4.
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Its probably because they’ve had a few men pretending to be couples, this has started to become more common recently and people are doing more checks to make sure their time isn’t going to be wasted x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am always surprised people set off to meet someone without talking to them voice to voice I am even more shocked people invite others around without speaking. If someone won't chat for 30 mins then they are best avoided. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it normal for the females to chat b4 a meet. U r genuine if u have veris to say u have met people so y do some females want to chat on phone even tho u r veried.
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I like to chat on phone before I meet its a good way to get a feel for personality |
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We used to do this early on now we only speak on phone in advance when requested- typically by the lady of the other couple. We now rely on fact we are well verified and tend to meet couples who are also. We never use Kik as we had some negative experiences when we started out. We are happy on WhatsApp - if we are giving out our home address we don’t mind giving out personal numbers.
Things tend to ebb and flow but recently we have mainly been meeting couples who we have meet before and feel compatible with. Though the pack always gets shuffled! |
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