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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I know what type of site this is and why the majority of people are on here. I also know some need discretion and dont want the whole world knowing about this side.
But are socials a dead thing especially before a first meet? At times you would think I was talking about the plague when I ask about a social to see if we get on and for safety reasons. I know this is not facebook but still or is it just me? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know what type of site this is and why the majority of people are on here. I also know some need discretion and dont want the whole world knowing about this side.
But are socials a dead thing especially before a first meet? At times you would think I was talking about the plague when I ask about a social to see if we get on and for safety reasons. I know this is not facebook but still or is it just me?"
Definitely agree with a social first, no exceptions.
If the attraction isn’t there on all sides we don’t feel obliged to play in a social meet only. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I know what type of site this is and why the majority of people are on here. I also know some need discretion and dont want the whole world knowing about this side.
But are socials a dead thing especially before a first meet? At times you would think I was talking about the plague when I ask about a social to see if we get on and for safety reasons. I know this is not facebook but still or is it just me?
Definitely agree with a social first, no exceptions.
If the attraction isn’t there on all sides we don’t feel obliged to play in a social meet only."
Agreed the social side of swinging is a big part for a lot of us. |
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I think people who won't do a social 1st either have something to hide ie a partner or just want a quick shag ,no effort made.
We avoid them and only meet likeminded people who enjoy conversation and a friendship too.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know what type of site this is and why the majority of people are on here. I also know some need discretion and dont want the whole world knowing about this side.
But are socials a dead thing especially before a first meet? At times you would think I was talking about the plague when I ask about a social to see if we get on and for safety reasons. I know this is not facebook but still or is it just me?"
Not for me they are not sometimes you come across someone and think a social is best first and if they reuse its an easy goodbye from me. |
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I always prefer a social, I need to know the attraction is there and that I actually get on with somebody. If those two things arent there, I would rather go without sex and wait until I fond somebody I click with 
I have had more socials than sex meets for this reason  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always prefer a social, I need to know the attraction is there and that I actually get on with somebody. If those two things arent there, I would rather go without sex and wait until I fond somebody I click with
I have had more socials than sex meets for this reason "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I mention some fantasies on profile but do not expect them from every or any meet but gives an idea what I may seek. Don't want to mislead people
They don't seem to be the issue as people are often happy to meet and engage them but not a social before. Most seem after a quick meet and go. |
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I'm a definite fan of a social first, if anyone refused I wouldn't meet them. I want to see they are who they've presented themselves as and that there's a spark. Also good to meet publicly first to get a feel for them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I first started..there was no internet, no socials..it was a case of word of mouth ..sneaky ads in the local paper. You just got on with it and took your chance..it all seems a lot more complicated now and even harder than it did with no internet and the like, because of all the barriers folk have up now .. people did have less hang ups too..I never did not have sex, even if they were not my type..I was not after love but an orgasm |
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"I always prefer a social, I need to know the attraction is there and that I actually get on with somebody. If those two things arent there, I would rather go without sex and wait until I fond somebody I click with
I have had more socials than sex meets for this reason
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Same for me |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"We always meet socially first regardless of who we meet. Have to see if we all have a connection and chemistry with each other.  "
This and how do you discuss boundaries and needs if there is no social upfront.
The internet isn’t a good place to judge incongruous. |
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"I know what type of site this is and why the majority of people are on here. I also know some need discretion and dont want the whole world knowing about this side.
But are socials a dead thing especially before a first meet? At times you would think I was talking about the plague when I ask about a social to see if we get on and for safety reasons. I know this is not facebook but still or is it just me?"
In our eight years on and off fab , we’ve never had a social . But then we are a couple so we have each other’s back if things go tits up . As a single we can understand wanting one in a public place for safety reasons . |
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"When I first started..there was no internet, no socials..it was a case of word of mouth ..sneaky ads in the local paper. You just got on with it and took your chance..it all seems a lot more complicated now and even harder than it did with no internet and the like, because of all the barriers folk have up now .. people did have less hang ups too..I never did not have sex, even if they were not my type..I was not after love but an orgasm"
Couldn't agree more, we are perfectly happy with each other and the vanilla friends we have so see no point in a social meet (interview) we know what we want and that is why we will only meet at clubs so if the meet goes nowhere we can still have fun together. |
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I think people go to socials they choose/want to go to.
If they see people they dislike or have problems with attending said socials, Then it can alienate them.
It is quite ironic that alot of people mention nothing but discretion.
However they will gladly attend a busy venue where someone can just shout of their business
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"I think people go to socials they choose/want to go to.
If they see people they dislike or have problems with attending said socials, Then it can alienate them.
It is quite ironic that alot of people mention nothing but discretion.
However they will gladly attend a busy venue where someone can just shout of their business
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Excactly no different to attending a club, accept at a club you meet real swingers. |
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"I think people go to socials they choose/want to go to.
If they see people they dislike or have problems with attending said socials, Then it can alienate them.
It is quite ironic that alot of people mention nothing but discretion.
However they will gladly attend a busy venue where someone can just shout of their business
Excactly no different to attending a club, accept at a club you meet real swingers."
How exactly is a public bar that caters to the general public the same as a swingers club?
A social held in a city centre bar is full of regular people.
Imagine their suprise if some bute decided to scream about the group sat next to them being swingers etc. |
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"I think people go to socials they choose/want to go to.
If they see people they dislike or have problems with attending said socials, Then it can alienate them.
It is quite ironic that alot of people mention nothing but discretion.
However they will gladly attend a busy venue where someone can just shout of their business
Excactly no different to attending a club, accept at a club you meet real swingers.
How exactly is a public bar that caters to the general public the same as a swingers club?
A social held in a city centre bar is full of regular people.
Imagine their suprise if some bute decided to scream about the group sat next to them being swingers etc."
We were talking about organised social events not interviews in pubs! |
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I think socials are widely used on Fab.
We generally meet at clubs but do meet from Fab and always have a social first.
We like meeting people, so we even have socials with no expectation of sex at all at times
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"I think people go to socials they choose/want to go to.
If they see people they dislike or have problems with attending said socials, Then it can alienate them.
It is quite ironic that alot of people mention nothing but discretion.
However they will gladly attend a busy venue where someone can just shout of their business
Excactly no different to attending a club, accept at a club you meet real swingers.
How exactly is a public bar that caters to the general public the same as a swingers club?
A social held in a city centre bar is full of regular people.
Imagine their suprise if some bute decided to scream about the group sat next to them being swingers etc.
We were talking about organised social events not interviews in pubs!"
Yes so was i....look at liverpool social, manchester social
They must have been massive group interviews then!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Socials can mean different things to different people
On another site I help arrange group socials for people to meet and make like minded friends
I don't do socials at swinging clubs as at the moment that is not my scene
What I was more on about one to one social over a drink or coffee to see if get on and on the same hymn sheet
I have had meets that ended very quickly in the past due to different ideas or expectations, despite detailed chats. To me a social could avoid that |
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"I think people go to socials they choose/want to go to.
If they see people they dislike or have problems with attending said socials, Then it can alienate them.
It is quite ironic that alot of people mention nothing but discretion.
However they will gladly attend a busy venue where someone can just shout of their business
Excactly no different to attending a club, accept at a club you meet real swingers.
How exactly is a public bar that caters to the general public the same as a swingers club?
A social held in a city centre bar is full of regular people.
Imagine their suprise if some bute decided to scream about the group sat next to them being swingers etc.
We were talking about organised social events not interviews in pubs!
Yes so was i....look at liverpool social, manchester social
They must have been massive group interviews then!
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When have you ever been to a supposed swingers social where entry to the venue is not invitation only? |
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"I think people go to socials they choose/want to go to.
If they see people they dislike or have problems with attending said socials, Then it can alienate them.
It is quite ironic that alot of people mention nothing but discretion.
However they will gladly attend a busy venue where someone can just shout of their business
Excactly no different to attending a club, accept at a club you meet real swingers.
How exactly is a public bar that caters to the general public the same as a swingers club?
A social held in a city centre bar is full of regular people.
Imagine their suprise if some bute decided to scream about the group sat next to them being swingers etc.
We were talking about organised social events not interviews in pubs!
Yes so was i....look at liverpool social, manchester social
They must have been massive group interviews then!
When have you ever been to a supposed swingers social where entry to the venue is not invitation only?"
In my first year i went to multiple socials?
Liverpool chester and fetish group socials.
None of these have been in a venue that is invite only?
That might be because people don't want to hire out busy city centre clubs to meet other swingers at their cost?
So please continue to be arrogant in the way you question people about their experiences |
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"I always prefer a social, I need to know the attraction is there and that I actually get on with somebody. If those two things arent there, I would rather go without sex and wait until I fond somebody I click with
I have had more socials than sex meets for this reason
Snap "
Ditto! |
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"I think people go to socials they choose/want to go to.
If they see people they dislike or have problems with attending said socials, Then it can alienate them.
It is quite ironic that alot of people mention nothing but discretion.
However they will gladly attend a busy venue where someone can just shout of their business
Excactly no different to attending a club, accept at a club you meet real swingers.
How exactly is a public bar that caters to the general public the same as a swingers club?
A social held in a city centre bar is full of regular people.
Imagine their suprise if some bute decided to scream about the group sat next to them being swingers etc.
We were talking about organised social events not interviews in pubs!
Yes so was i....look at liverpool social, manchester social
They must have been massive group interviews then!
When have you ever been to a supposed swingers social where entry to the venue is not invitation only?
In my first year i went to multiple socials?
Liverpool chester and fetish group socials.
None of these have been in a venue that is invite only?
That might be because people don't want to hire out busy city centre clubs to meet other swingers at their cost?
So please continue to be arrogant in the way you question people about their experiences "
Lol nowhere near being arrogant, but if I was to be I would suggest if you can't afford to hire or pay an entry fee for the said social it pretty much explains why you attend them! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When I first started..there was no internet, no socials..it was a case of word of mouth ..sneaky ads in the local paper. You just got on with it and took your chance..it all seems a lot more complicated now and even harder than it did with no internet and the like, because of all the barriers folk have up now .. people did have less hang ups too..I never did not have sex, even if they were not my type..I was not after love but an orgasm
Couldn't agree more, we are perfectly happy with each other and the vanilla friends we have so see no point in a social meet (interview) we know what we want and that is why we will only meet at clubs so if the meet goes nowhere we can still have fun together."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Always a social.
I'd never meet anyone, no matter how long I'd chatted to them before with the expectation of anything other than a chat, drink & see if there was a spark - on both sides
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This. Always |
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I've tried to arrange little evening get togethers for a dozen or so at mine, just a social thing over dinner or drinks .. sort of a get to know people but I've found people somewhat apathetic in the main ...
on a personal note I do prefer to meet someone on a social basis first |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Always a social.
I'd never meet anyone, no matter how long I'd chatted to them before with the expectation of anything other than a chat, drink & see if there was a spark - on both sides
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Spot on! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know what type of site this is and why the majority of people are on here. I also know some need discretion and dont want the whole world knowing about this side.
But are socials a dead thing especially before a first meet? At times you would think I was talking about the plague when I ask about a social to see if we get on and for safety reasons. I know this is not facebook but still or is it just me?"
Not at all...see social post in swingers chat. Its a must for us. Nightmare meeting someone to play having not met them before socially. Do e once and never agaim |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Judging by the complete lack of response to our recent social requests, we’d say yes.....very dead  "
Are people blind as well as mad. Very surprised at your lack of response. You both would be welcome to join our lunch time social in London on 2nd Nov. We have 4 joining us so far... |
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Like most have already said, always a social first as we want everyone to click before any naughtiness.
We are looking for a meet Friday and although we are asking for a social first, we would be happy to play same evening.
Personally don't think they are dead, just think that there are more time wasters on here than genuine swingers.
We had a meet set with a chap, then this morning his profile has completed vanished! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Like most have already said, always a social first as we want everyone to click before any naughtiness.
We are looking for a meet Friday and although we are asking for a social first, we would be happy to play same evening.
Personally don't think they are dead, just think that there are more time wasters on here than genuine swingers.
We had a meet set with a chap, then this morning his profile has completed vanished! "
very nice profile and see we share some interests. Hope you continue to enjoy fabbing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Judging by the complete lack of response to our recent social requests, we’d say yes.....very dead "
Come north then and meet some older more chilled easy going docial people.  |
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"I have socials all the time. Some progress, some don't. It's all good .
Same as this! At worst it's a waste of half an hour, at best - well I don't need to say anything else. "
Exactly! I'd rather lose half an hour on a social if it doesn't work out, than waste an entire evening rolling the dice in a club |
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"I always prefer a social, I need to know the attraction is there and that I actually get on with somebody. If those two things arent there, I would rather go without sex and wait until I fond somebody I click with
I have had more socials than sex meets for this reason "
This right here. I've more of a need to be seduced by someone's personality than a photo and a few messages on Fab before I find them attractive enough.
I've always met alone first as being happy with the potential other man is something I have to really want to play with before A gets to meet him! On a safety front, if it's a one-to-one social there are people around and it's less awkward to make the decision to leave rather than do something you may regret. I saw a brilliant scheme in pubs, I think in St Neots, where if you were on a date (which is kind of what I view a social to be anyway!) and felt unsafe or similar you could go to the bar and ask for Abigail  as code for 'help me'.
I'm not against people not having socials, horses for courses. Our horse just happens to be a very sociable one 
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